Met a guy I like, but he's reserved. How do I ask for a second meeting without sounding desperate?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

It is difficult to tell what is going on in someone's mind and it is better not to assume. The best thing to do here would be to ask him directly. You are both adults. There is no harm in asking him if he likes you or if he sees any future with you. It would help you avoid misinterpretation and waste your time.

Best Wishes.

Ans: 1) Identify your instincts - what you read means the person meets your must-haves and nothing more
2) It is ok you contacting him - ask him directly if he is meeting others and if he and his family wishes to engage with you and your family, given this came from your family - if he does not respond ignore and block him after a few weeks and if he says a no block him asap
3) Having said this he accepted your Linkedin but he may have no clue who you are and how you know him - so you may be overthinking
4) Dont waste time obsessing about someone you do not know at all except on paper.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your concerns are totally valid; marriage is a serious decision and rushing into it isn't exactly ideal. I understand that you are an introvert and it is difficult for you to ask questions, but this person will be your partner for the rest of your life hopefully; I think you should put in the effort to get to know each other. Take baby steps- tell your parents that before agreeing to marry him, you would like to speak to him, ideally, over the phone first. This way, you can be a little more relaxed- start with a simple conversation and slowly move into more serious questions over the days. You can make him feel comfortable by first sharing your perspective- for instance, family planning, career, your likes and dislikes, your take on feminism, preferences, etc. You will be creating a safe space for him to open up about his thoughts and beliefs. Finally, plan to meet him face to face, where both of you will have a better scope of an open conversation. Once things are cleared up, you can say yes and have your peace of mind.

Do not worry about asking direct questions. It’s within your right to do so, as long as the questions are reasonable and respectful.

Best Wishes.