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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 01, 2024Hindi
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I am 45 years old female, single child, I fell in love wid a guy during college, he is short tempered other than that when hez ok he used to care me so so so much. We got married when i was jobless and when he just started a business. The business isnt going tht well and after having two kids i started realising he is not at all ready to take any responsibilities, always he is lazy once he reach home and i am working and i am the one who has to do evry work along with work. When we fight he doesnt do any physical Abuse but mentallyy he abuses me so much that i feel myself useless. My parents too started saying that they never saw us happily instead we are always fighting and we are never at peace. I really was never able to understand him. I feel he has too much ego and wanna win every fight. He too says the same about me, but i am the one who goes and solves most of our fights by begging him badly. I decided to divorce him frm last one year but never had the guts tu say it to him openly. Was very afraid. Recently i met a guy, he have been noticing me for so long, we became friends first, very quickly he became my best friend, i have never in my life been able to read someones mind so well, so i am Able to take care of him so well, similarly never in my life i was respected so much for everything i do, or never was i cared so much. My own husband doesnt know what all i like, but this bestie knows. Slowly slowly we fell in love. I have confirmed my thought about divorce, and my Husband instead of even clutching on to me He is saying you just go i dont wanna beg you to stay for me. I dont wanna beg to a girl like you. He is very kind and soft outside only inside my house to me he is very very arrogant and fighting. Once i make this divorce decision public everyone will blame me, everyone will point out me as culprit, but i dont wanna continue anymore, i am done with this. What shall i do now ??

Ans: It seems like you’ve reached a point where you’re ready to prioritize yourself, which is a powerful realization. Divorce is a big step, and the fear of judgment from others is understandable, but your well-being and peace of mind should come first. In situations like this, people often rush to judge, especially if they don’t see the full picture, but those who care about you will come to understand and support your decision over time.

The love and respect you’ve found with your friend have likely shown you what’s been missing in your marriage: appreciation, understanding, and care. This relationship seems to have opened your eyes to what you deserve and given you the strength to take action. Still, take things slowly to make sure your next steps are about building the future you want rather than escaping the past.

If you haven’t already, consider speaking with a counselor or therapist who can provide you with support and guidance through this transition. They can help you work through any lingering guilt or fear and navigate the practical and emotional complexities of divorce. Having a supportive, nonjudgmental space to process everything will make a difference as you take steps toward a healthier and happier life.

Ultimately, if your heart is set on ending this marriage, trust that decision and give yourself permission to move forward. It will be hard at first, but taking this step toward self-respect and peace is worth it, even if others don’t immediately understand. You deserve a life filled with love, respect, and joy—don’t let fear of judgment hold you back from finding it.

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Hi Anu, I am 36 year old woman. I am married for 9 years with two kids. My marriage was never a happy one. We had lots of arguments and fights even before marriage. I broke my engagement but later he convinced me that he will always keep me happy but it turned out to be an abusive marriage. He started beating me every now and then after my son was born. I also filed police complaint thrice. After which he improved a lot may be because of fear and shame. Meanwhile I also cracked government exam and got a very good job. Things were okay but after my daughter's birth last year his behaviour changed. He is not interested in physical relationship any more. He says that after our daughter's birth he's started to respect women. I tried to talk to him many times but all in vain. I don't know what to do now. I don't want to leave him for the sake of children.Now I want to live my life happily with my children and let him do whatever he wants. I don't know if I am right or wrong.He takes money from me whenever required but never spends money on my personal needs. Sometimes I feel he is with me only for money and doesn't love me. I am confused. Help.PS: He is taking good care of children and household.
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Dear SS,

It is hard to walk out of an abusive relationship and when children are involved, you want to stretch it on longer.

But have you considered how this has already affected their minds?

Children from violent and abusive backgrounds do not grow up steady and face a lot of challenges later in life.

Now, coming back to you…Hasn’t it hurt your ego and pulled down your self-esteem? I am sure it already has hurt you beyond and more.

Usually, I never ever tell people what to do, but make my suggestions and share perspectives so that the mind has clarity to decide what’s best for them in their context.

But here, I am telling you this and listen hard…Physical abuse is a NO NO.

If what you say that his behaviour has changed, then I believe that he isn’t physically abusive anymore.

I do understand you are giving him the long rope for the sake of the children, but when the parents are unhappy, what environment will the children grow in?

Ask your family to step in as you are going to need their care and support hereon.

Take one day at a time and evaluate on a daily basis what his presence in your life is doing to you.

Is it draining you and keeping you on the edge or is it getting better with him improving?

This will clearly indicate what you need to be doing as the next step.

Just remember to value yourself every moment and make yourself your own priority first.

All the best!

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Hi Anu,I m 32 yr old girl and been married in arrange marriage with a guy he is also 32 it's been one year.He is very harsh to talk to and I get usually very hurt because of his words. I always feel like walking out of this marriage for peace. He is very unromantic and ungrateful. On top of this our views on marriage, togetherness and sex are very different. I never had sex with him till now. And I don't feel like having sex with him. There are many fights between us. The way his mother and father talk I feel stuck in my life.There is no progress in career because constantly we are under tensions. My past relationships were very nice and sweet so I always happened to compare him with my ex in my mind. I don't know what happens to me. When he comes close to me I stop talking breaths. We just cuddle each other and hug but other things like kiss and sex I don't feel to have. Please guide me as soon as possible.
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Dear RJ,

Is there any reason for not wanting to be sexually intimate?

Most often this is linked to some emotional distress or filters in the mind that you are unaware of and which could be interfering in the two of you coming closer together.

A good round of talks with your partner can help you express your exact feelings to him.

What is bothering you, what you feel you don’t receive from him, why is it that you are unable to reciprocate…these are a few things that you can discuss with him.

Also, spending quality time together can ease and spruce up things a bit.

Most often, we love throwing our feelings under the rug pretending that they will go away; but they don’t, they come back to haunt you at times that you least expect them to.

So, when you feel stuck, think of what you can do to get un-stuck? What are all things that you can think, feel and do to free yourself so that you not only feel good, but you also start to focus on things that matter; like for example your career.

Comparing one human to the another and expecting them to change and be someone else; could this be one of the reasons for you to not want the sexual intimacy?

Sex is one of the dimensions in a marriage and it can bring the couple closer.

So rather than thinking of what is going wrong, focus on how you can make things work and enable your partner to join this journey of bringing back finer and joyful moments in a marriage.

Be happy!

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I want to keep it anonymous.I am a 30 years old independent woman married for 5 months only.My husband and I were in same college but were not friends.He had been approaching me for getting married since 2017, but every time I had rejected his proposal, later in February, 2021 I talked to him openly and mentioned my inability to conceive if we get married.To which his response was that he really liked me and is ready to accept me with my inability.I made our families met and we got engaged.During the one year of courtship period, initial 4-5 months were peaceful, but he and I were missing a bond, yet we thought may be with time we will find it.After the initial phase as we started meeting for family functions.He started finding flaws in me. Things like, I stare at other men when I go out, I don’t give him priority, why do I talk to any male friend beyond necessity, why do I praise my senior at office parties etc.He started controlling me in these areas and used to get angry if I talk to my siblings late night.I started feeling trapped and suffocated, and always under the fear that any of my action could make my husband angry.In that anger he seemed like a very different person, someone aggressive.We started fighting, arguing over petty things.He wanted me to change but I was reluctant as those were very normal things for me and I started telling him that this relationship is not working.We are two persons with different mindset and ideologies and since we are unable to reach to a solution over any issue, let’s call it off.I tried to call this wedding off for like 6 times, but he never agreed to this stating that he loves me and he will change his attitude and will not stop me from doing anything.Whenever I tried to break up with him he'd start crying, stating things like you are my only happiness in life, and I would die without you and all.I involved my family into the matter and shared things with them.They used to call my husband to make him understand my expectations from him.In front of them my husband used to admit that he would change his behaviour.He used to stay calm for 5-6 days and then continue with the same attitude.Basically, it was an on and off behaviour from his side and because of that my behaviour was also affected.I was trying to see his positive side as he had accepted me with my inability, so he must be a good person.Somehow, after so many issues, we got married.After marriage, we went for honeymoon, but he showed a different attitude.He started insulting me that I stare at other people, including the waiter.He would fight with me aggressively, and when I cry he'd calm me down stating that this fight is my fault; had I not done this he would not have fought; had I obeyed him he would not have gotten angry. Then he used to make love to me.For 4 days this happened continuously.On the 4th day I told him I cannot stand him and bear his mind numbing torture.If he sees so many flaws in my character we must part our ways, and there is not point of staying together.He agreed but later he started apologising, asking for another chance to this marriage. I agreed.But his behaviour didn’t improve much. We used to live with his parents, he started taking active participation in local politics which used to keep him busy.He started controlling me indirectly for visiting my moms and relatives.He'd taunt me for not sharing my salary with his parents.Later I found out his work is not running smooth and he is not making enough.The issue of staring at men and shaking hands with men while greeting congratulations, was also an issue to him.He'd remain normal as long as I did things as per his wish.If I said or did anything opposite, he'd get aggressive and disrespectful towards me.Love was nowhere around. He never said I am a good looking woman. My husband rarely complimented me though I get many whenever I go out.He seemed not to be bothered about me except for the time I do something he doesn’t like.My mom also supported him. His behaviour started taking a toll on my mental condition and I started feeling uncomfortable around him.I stopped being physical as I was feeling emotionally detached.The fights had broken me, my bare minimum expectations were not fulfilled.My husband also broke relations with my family and was disrespectful to them.Initially he had promised that I will be free to visit my mom whenever I want and he will not seek my salary ever or doubt my character, but nothing turned to be true.After 4 months of torture, I came to my mom's place and told my husband that I cannot live with him.I actually feel much better without him. 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Dear MK,

This is a classic case of crying out, blaming the spouse for the crying and sending her on a guilt trip, promising to do better, not following through and when she walks out, crying out again.

It's cyclical and traps you within in the loop.

He really needs to work out his stuff with a professional, else this is going to be something that you have to deal with repeatedly.

To not be able to take responsibility for his actions, shifting blame onto you, acting insecure and preventing you from leading your life the way that you are used to -- like talking to your family and friends -- are all red flags.

Step up, take charge and suggest that he goes to a professional if he wants the marriage to work.

If he doesn’t and continues the same way, you know what you must do to secure yourself and your life.

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    I am married women (38 yrs, having 2 kids) living in an abusive relationship for 11 yrs now. My husband is alcoholic and don’t work from past few years and gets violent and abusive many times and my kids suffers also. I am a sole earner now and manages all alone with very less paying Job but my husband harasses me by saying that I am having affairs with each male in my office just because I share everything. There is no emotional bond, no communication, just blames, abuses and violence, once its reached the police also but I refuse to take it further. From past many years he is just sleeping at home and drinking and nothing else. But, few months back I got attached to my collegue and he is also in similar relationship and it’s a pure and organic bond. I don’t doubt his intentions also as he is caring and understanding personality and he says once he is divorced he want to be with me. I can feel pure vibes and his genuineness so trusts him as he is always pushes me to grow in terms of Jobs, health, kids, family. Slowly but surely, I am getting attached to this person but he very politely tells me to have patience and maintain dignity. He is not the one who will take advantage of me which I believe strongly but at the same time I also know he needs to settle his divorce also and I can’t be dependent on this. I don’t know which way to go but definitely I wish to wait but at the same time I am unable to stay within my current relationship, which was in fact a love marriage but I never knew that he drinks so much and life will turn into hell. My kids also have to face this trauma and I really wants to get out of this relations. Please guide me.
    Ans: Dear Anonymous,
    You have described to me a person who does not make any attempt to change and yet you say you want to wait.
    May I ask: What is it that you are waiting for? (This you haven't shared)
    If the waiting is for him to change, then there are certain things that you must do so that it happens.
    My suggestion is:
    When anything or anyone has to rob you off your mental peace and this has begun to affect the children, consider your options soon before it is too late. No point regretting anything later!

    Ask yourself:
    What makes me still stay in the marriage?
    What will happen if I choose to separate and move on?
    How is this impacting my children and what have I done so far to keep them safe?
    Will my earnings be enough to take care of my children?

    Do this reality check to help you take a decision one way or the other. And do what's right by you and the children.

    All the best!

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    Ans: You have explained your income, goals, current assets, and future plans with great clarity. Your early planning spirit is strong. This gives a very good base. You can reach a peaceful retirement with smart steps in the next few years.

    » Your Current Position

    You are 40 years old. You plan to retire in 3 to 5 years. You earn Rs 2.3 lakh per month. Your wife also works but will stop working soon. You have one daughter aged 10. Your current monthly cost is around Rs 1.1 lakh. This cost will reduce after retirement because you will shift to your parental flat.

    Your investment base is already good. You have saved in bonds, stocks, mutual funds, PPF, FD, and SIP. Your wife also has her own savings and rental income from a flat. All these create a good starting point.

    This early base helps you plan stronger. It also gives room for more shaping. You are on the right road.

    » Your Family Goals

    You need Rs 75 lakh for your daughter’s higher education and marriage.

    You want Rs 75,000 per month for family living after retirement.

    You want to retire in 3 to 5 years.

    You will shift to your parental flat after retirement.

    You will have rental income of Rs 10,000 from your wife’s flat.

    These goals are clear. They give direction. They allow a strong plan.

    » Your Present Investments

    Your investments include:

    Rs 50 lakh in REC bonds maturing in 2029.

    Rs 42 lakh in stocks.

    Rs 17 lakh in mutual funds.

    Rs 16 lakh in fixed deposits.

    Rs 15 lakh in PPF.

    Rs 1.3 lakh as monthly SIP.

    Your wife holds:

    Rs 30 lakh corpus.

    A flat worth Rs 40 lakh with rent of Rs 10,000 each month.

    Your combined net worth is healthy. This gives good power to build your retirement fund in the coming years.

    » Understanding Your Expense Need After Retirement

    You expect Rs 75,000 per month after retirement. This includes all basic needs. You will not have rent. That reduces cost. This assumption looks fair today.

    Your cost will rise with inflation. So you must plan for rising needs. A strong retirement corpus must support rising cost for 40 to 45 years because you are retiring early.

    An early retirement needs a large buffer. So you need safety along with growth. Your plan must include growth assets and safety assets.

    » How Much Monthly Income You Will Need Later

    Rs 75,000 per month is Rs 9 lakh per year. In future years, this cost can rise. If we assume steady rise, your future cost will be much higher.

    So the retirement corpus must be designed to:

    Give monthly income.

    Beat inflation.

    Support you for 40 to 45 years.

    Protect your family even in market down cycles.

    Allow flexibility if your needs change.

    A strong retirement fund must support both safety and long-term growth.

    » How Much Corpus You Should Target

    A safe target is a large and flexible corpus that can support long years without running out of money. For early retirement, the usual thumb rule suggests a very high number. This is because you need income for many decades.

    You need a corpus big enough to produce rising income. You also need a cushion for unexpected health costs, lifestyle shocks, and inflation changes.

    Your target retirement corpus should be in a strong range. For your needs of Rs 75,000 per month and for goals like daughter’s education and marriage, you should aim for a combined retirement readiness corpus in the higher bracket.

    A safe range for your family would be a very large number crossing multiple crores. This large range gives you:

    Income safety.

    Inflation protection.

    Peace during market cycles.

    Comfort in long life.

    Room for daughter’s future.

    Strong backup for health.

    You are already on the way due to your existing assets. You will reach close to this range with systematic building over the next 3 to 5 years.

    » Why You Need This Larger Corpus

    You will retire early. That means more years of living from your corpus. Your corpus must not fall early. It must grow even after retirement. It must give monthly income and long-term family protection.

    This is only possible when the corpus is strong and well-structured. A weak corpus creates stress. A strong corpus creates freedom.

    Also, your daughter’s future cost must be kept aside. This must be parked in a separate fund. This must not touch your retirement money.

    A strong corpus makes these two worlds separate and safe.

    » Your Existing Assets and Their Strength

    You already have good diversification:

    Bonds give safety.

    Stocks give growth.

    Mutual funds give managed growth.

    FD gives stability.

    PPF gives tax-free long-term savings.

    This blend is already a good start. But you need to make the blend more structured for early retirement.

    Your Rs 1.3 lakh monthly SIP is also strong. It builds your future fast. You should continue.

    Your wife’s rental income is small but steady. This adds strength.

    Your combined financial base can reach your retirement target if you refine your allocation now.

    » Your Daughter’s Future Fund Need

    You need Rs 75 lakh for your daughter’s education and marriage. You should keep this goal separate from your retirement goal.

    Your current SIP and future allocations should create a dedicated fund for this goal. A long-term fund can grow well when managed actively.

    Do not mix this fund with your retirement needs. Mixing leads to shortage in old age. Always keep this corpus ring-fenced.

    » A Strong Asset Mix For Your Retirement Path

    A balanced mix is needed. You need growth assets to beat inflation. You also need stable assets for income.

    You must avoid index funds because they do not give flexibility. Index funds follow a fixed index. They cannot make active changes in different markets. They cannot move to better stocks when markets change. They force you to stay in weak sectors for long. They also do not help you in down cycles because they cannot protect you by shifting to safer options. This can hurt retirement planning.

    Actively managed funds are better because:

    They give active asset selection.

    They give scope for better returns.

    They give flexibility to change sectors.

    They give downside management.

    They give access to a skilled fund manager.

    They support long-term planning more safely.

    Direct plans also carry risk. Direct plans do not give guidance. They do not give behavioural support. They do not give market timing help. They do not give portfolio shaping. They leave all the judgement to you. One mistake can cost years of wealth.

    Regular plans with guidance from a Certified Financial Planner help you shape decisions. They help you remain disciplined. They help you avoid panic. They help you decide allocation changes at the right time. This saves wealth in long-term.

    » How Your Investment Journey Should Grow in the Next 3–5 Years

    Continue your SIP.

    Increase SIP when your income rises.

    Shift part of your stock holding into planned long-term mutual funds to reduce concentration risk.

    Build a defined daughter’s education fund.

    Keep a part of your REC bond maturity amount for long-term.

    Avoid locking too much into fixed deposits for long periods.

    Build a safety fund for one year of expenses.

    This will create a full structure.

    » Your Rental Income Role

    Your rental income of Rs 10,000 per month is small but steady. Over time it will rise. This income will support your monthly cash flow after retirement.

    You can use this for utilities or health insurance premiums. This gives a cushion.

    » Your Emergency Buffer

    You should keep at least one year of essential cost in a safe place. This can be in a liquid account or short-term fund. This protects you in shocks.

    Since you plan early retirement, a strong buffer is important. It gives peace even in low months.

    » A Structured Retirement Approach

    A complete retirement plan for you should include:

    A clear monthly income plan after retirement.

    A corpus that can grow and protect.

    A rising income system that matches inflation.

    A separate daughter’s future fund.

    A health cover plan for your family.

    A tax-efficient withdrawal plan.

    A market cycle plan to protect you in tough times.

    This holistic approach keeps your family strong for decades.

    » What You Should Build by Retirement Year

    Your aim should be to reach a strong multi-crore range in investments before retirement. You already hold a large amount. You will add more in the next 3 to 5 years through SIP, stock growth, bond maturity, and disciplined saving.

    Once you reach your target range, you can start the shifting process:

    Move a part to stable assets.

    Keep a part in long-term growth assets.

    Create a monthly income strategy.

    Keep a reserve bucket.

    Keep a child future bucket.

    Keep a long-term growth bucket.

    This structure protects you in all market conditions.

    » Final Insights

    Your financial journey is already strong. You have a good income. You have saved well. You have multiple asset types. You have a clear timeline. And you have clear goals. This foundation is solid.

    In the next 3 to 5 years, your focus should be on growing your combined corpus to a strong multi-crore range, keeping a separate fund for your daughter, reducing risk in unplanned assets, and building a stable long-term structure.

    With the present path and a disciplined structure, you can retire peacefully and support your family with confidence for many decades.

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    Ans: 1. Your Current Monthly Numbers

    Salary: Rs 43,000

    Rent: Rs 15,000

    Support to parents: Rs 10,000

    Left with: Rs 18,000 for food, travel, bills, and savings

    You have very little room, but saving is still possible if done smartly.

    2. First Step: Build a Small Emergency Buffer

    You must build Rs 10,000 to Rs 20,000 emergency money.
    This protects you from taking loans for small issues.

    How to build it:

    Save Rs 3,000 to Rs 5,000 every month in a simple bank savings account

    Do this for the next few months

    Don’t touch it unless truly needed

    3. Create a Mini Budget (Very Simple One)

    Try this split from the remaining Rs 18,000:

    Daily living (food + transport): Rs 10,000 – 11,000

    Personal expenses (phone, internet, basics): Rs 3,000 – 4,000

    Savings + investments: Rs 3,000 – 5,000

    If this feels difficult, reduce food/transport costs by small adjustments.

    4. Where to Invest Once You Have Emergency Money

    (For minors: This is general education. For actual investing, get guidance from a trusted adult or family member.)

    After you build emergency money, start small monthly investing.

    You can begin with:

    Rs 1,000 to Rs 2,000 SIP in a simple, diversified equity fund

    Increase the SIP whenever salary increases or expenses reduce

    Avoid complicated products.
    Keep it simple.
    Focus on consistency.

    5. Easy Practical Ways to Increase Saving

    These small moves help a lot:

    Avoid food delivery

    Use public transport as much as possible

    Reduce subscriptions you don’t use

    Fix a daily expense limit

    Keep a separate bank account only for savings

    Even Rs 200 saved daily = Rs 6,000 monthly.

    6. Increase Income Slowly

    Try small income boosters:

    Weekend tutoring

    Freelancing

    Part-time projects

    Selling old gadgets

    Learning new skills for future salary growth

    Even Rs 3,000 extra income changes your savings life.

    7. Build the Habit First

    The amount doesn’t matter in the beginning.
    The habit matters more.

    Even saving Rs 500 every month is better than zero.
    Once salary grows, you will already know how to save.

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    Chief Financial Planner,

    www.holisticinvestment.in

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