Anu Krishna |1323 Answers |Ask -Follow
Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 12, 2020
I am 50, male, working in PSU and hail from a village background.
My children are grown up now without having affection with their village roots.
For me, it is disappointing as I do not feel connected to the city I am living in.
Also, I do not find motivation to settle in the polluted city.
Despite all odds, I still have longing for my village but have strong fear that I will be alone at the fag end of life.
Even my wife do not support my idea to go back and live at a place where there is not medical facility.
I ponder this issue again and again and fill with dissatisfaction by the very purpose of moving ahead in the life.
When we grow up in a place, you have associated memories there and people who were with you and that makes you feel nice about the place.
This may not be true for everyone especially children who have no associations to entice them into. It may be the same for your wife as well.
When they actually present an argument as to why they are not comfortable living in the village, do hear them out instead of feeling sad/disappointed.
When your wife expresses that she does not want to settle in a place where there are no medical facilities, isn’t she actually concerned for the both of your futures?
Is it perhaps time for you to think if you are allowing emotions to cloud a logical decision?
Settling down in a village especially after being in a city for a long time can be a very tough call to make; few have done it knowing that they may not have 24 hours of power or water supply or sanitation facilities, let alone, medical facilities.
Not everyone can and wants to.
What you perhaps crave for is peace and calmness of the village. Recreate it within your own home and surroundings.
Visit parks/nature area more often, meditate and visit your village as and when you can.
Ultimately, the decision of settling down in the future is a big one and it must be a joint decision from you and your wife.
Also, do consider the possibilities of the inability of children or relatives in visiting you due to the distance and their priorities. Be happy and decide to be happy where you are right now!
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