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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Nov 12, 2020

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Hi Anu,

I am 50, male, working in PSU and hail from a village background.

My children are grown up now without having affection with their village roots.

For me, it is disappointing as I do not feel connected to the city I am living in.

Also, I do not find motivation to settle in the polluted city.

Despite all odds, I still have longing for my village but have strong fear that I will be alone at the fag end of life.

Even my wife do not support my idea to go back and live at a place where there is not medical facility.

I ponder this issue again and again and fill with dissatisfaction by the very purpose of moving ahead in the life.

Ans: Dear PK, As hard as it may seem, children may not have the same level of fondness that you might have for your roots.

When we grow up in a place, you have associated memories there and people who were with you and that makes you feel nice about the place.

This may not be true for everyone especially children who have no associations to entice them into. It may be the same for your wife as well.

When they actually present an argument as to why they are not comfortable living in the village, do hear them out instead of feeling sad/disappointed.

When your wife expresses that she does not want to settle in a place where there are no medical facilities, isn’t she actually concerned for the both of your futures?

Is it perhaps time for you to think if you are allowing emotions to cloud a logical decision?

Settling down in a village especially after being in a city for a long time can be a very tough call to make; few have done it knowing that they may not have 24 hours of power or water supply or sanitation facilities, let alone, medical facilities.

Not everyone can and wants to.

What you perhaps crave for is peace and calmness of the village. Recreate it within your own home and surroundings.

Visit parks/nature area more often, meditate and visit your village as and when you can.

Ultimately, the decision of settling down in the future is a big one and it must be a joint decision from you and your wife.

Also, do consider the possibilities of the inability of children or relatives in visiting you due to the distance and their priorities. Be happy and decide to be happy where you are right now!

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Workplace Expert - Answered on Mar 04, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Mar 04, 2024Hindi
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Hi Krishna I have worked as a software engineer for last 20 years and I am exhausted and feel like quitting the software industry. Even though work is manageable, due to my experience the expectation from Leadership is high, and delivery expectations also is too much. Workplace is toxic, and too much of politics. I am an introvert and feel like doing remote jobs for lesser pay or rather quit completely and continue with my spiritual journey since I have seen lot of pain and suffering with respect to my health, marriage etc etc. I am also drawn towards spiritual life because leading a materialistic life seems meaningless. I am 45 today, I have no more interest in material life but due to obligations towards family and 1 child, I am working for money and I also need money for medical expenses because I underwent through a major health crisis 10 years back where I lost organ for surgery, this has created major imbalance in hormones leading to depression, anxiety and unable to face everyday challenges. This is also the reason due to which I cannot continue working. I have some 50k monthly as passive income and only 1 child. With some ppf, pf amount. Would this be enough for me to continue on spiritual journey and exit material and hectic IT life due to health issues and no peace in what I am doing ? Can you suggest how I can get some remote jobs that I can do if in case I need money. I am a BTech MBA graduate and managed to survive in this pressure hectic IT life for 20 years and feel like giving up everyday. I sometimes feel it was better off to lead a life without this education, engineering because all we need is 2 pair of clothes, shelter and 2 times food and for that we need to struggle so much in a city when compared to a village life. Please guide me not just from your perspective but step into my situation and understand and share your thoughts, or have you seen anyone like me and how have they managed to lead life after quitting and leading a monastic life
Ans: Dear

At the outset let me express my gratitude to you for putting up your question. It's indeed very profound.

First and foremost, your personal health is of foremost importance. Nothing should come in between that.

Secondly, money is essential but it's like the fuel not the engine.

Thirdly, work we must because it makes us fulfilled but we should not let work define our identity.

Fourthly, family commitment is our responsibility never run away from that.

Finally, spiritual journey or pursuing hobbies should not be taken up because we feel frustrated with some other things in life. They should be an end in itself.

I can feel what you are going through because many are in a similar situation like you but they don't have clarity or courage to accept that. So cheers to you for being aware of your situation and accepting it.

Here are few thoughts that I would share, however please take them as pointers and not as an advise, because we all have our own emotional disposition. That's why I believe an advise that may work for one person will not work for another because we all have our own emotional state and that defines the way we feel after taking certain decisions.

1. Slow down...you may want to ask your company to make you contractual with reduced responsibility and pay or you can take up contractual assignment with some other companies. In today's cost cutting environment companies would prefer that.

2. Talk to your spouse about your current state, let me tell you our spouse has a better feel of what we should and should not do. Moment you talk to your better half world of options will open. But more than that you will realise that you have someone in life who cares for your well being...that feeling is what we all need...someone caring for us.

3. Give up the notion of self identification through work. After salary that's the biggest drug that keeps us going in a job. We can't see ourselves outside of work as if we are born to work.

Lastly pray to God seeking guidance and clarity, trust me prayer is very powerful because it makes us calm and it's the calm mind that gives clarity.

Wishing you the very best. Trust me you will be alright soon.

With Love
Krishna

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Ramalingam

Ramalingam Kalirajan  |10872 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jun 06, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - May 31, 2024Hindi
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Hi, I am 50 year old married having a daughter studying in 9th standard, wife is house wife. I stay with my parents. They have separate home also, pension and medical facility also and not dependent on me either financially or for medical needs. I have a 2 bhk home and no loan on it. Education and marriage expenses for daughter is already arranged. I have a corpus of 2.4 Crores. Medical facility will be provided by the company life long without any cap. I do not have pension facility. My 2 bhk will fetch 30K per month if rented out. Can I quit my job, move to a tier 2 city , take a home on rent and retire with this corpus leading life with degraded mode. Please advise.
Ans: Evaluating Early Retirement in a Tier 2 City

Congratulations on your financial discipline and foresight in securing your family's future. You have a substantial corpus of Rs 2.4 crores, no loans, and a well-planned approach for your daughter's education and marriage. With your 2 BHK home generating rental income of Rs 30,000 per month and lifelong medical coverage from your company, you are in a strong position. Now, let's analyze the feasibility and implications of retiring early, moving to a tier 2 city, and living comfortably within your means.

Understanding Your Current Financial Position

You have accumulated a significant corpus of Rs 2.4 crores. This is a strong foundation for early retirement. Let’s break down your financial assets and income sources:

Corpus: Rs 2.4 crores
Rental Income from 2 BHK: Rs 30,000 per month (Rs 3.6 lakhs per year)
Lifelong Medical Coverage: No cap
Monthly and Annual Expenses Assessment

Before making a decision, it’s crucial to estimate your expected monthly and annual expenses in a tier 2 city. Consider the following categories:

Housing Rent: Depending on the city, rental expenses might vary. Assume Rs 15,000 per month for a comfortable home.
Utilities and Maintenance: Electricity, water, internet, and other utilities. Estimate Rs 5,000 per month.
Groceries and Household Expenses: Basic living expenses for a family of three. Estimate Rs 20,000 per month.
Transportation: Public transportation or fuel costs for a personal vehicle. Estimate Rs 5,000 per month.
Healthcare and Insurance: Although your medical is covered, allocate Rs 2,000 per month for any unforeseen expenses.
Lifestyle and Leisure: Dining out, entertainment, and hobbies. Estimate Rs 5,000 per month.
Miscellaneous: Unplanned expenses. Estimate Rs 3,000 per month.
Total Monthly Expenses: Rs 55,000

Annualizing these costs:

Total Annual Expenses: Rs 6.6 lakhs

Income vs. Expenses

Your rental income of Rs 3.6 lakhs per year covers a significant portion of your annual expenses. The remaining Rs 3 lakhs can be drawn from your corpus.

Sustainable Withdrawal Rate

A safe withdrawal rate for retirees is typically 4% of the corpus per year. Let’s calculate:

4% of Rs 2.4 crores: Rs 9.6 lakhs per year
Your annual expenses of Rs 6.6 lakhs fall well within this limit, allowing for sustainable withdrawals without depleting your corpus rapidly.

Investment Strategy for Corpus

To ensure your corpus lasts through your retirement, it’s important to invest wisely. Consider a mix of the following:

Equity Mutual Funds: For long-term growth.
Debt Mutual Funds: For stability and regular income.
Fixed Deposits: For safety and assured returns.
Assuming a Conservative Return

Assume a conservative annual return of 7% on your investments. This is achievable with a balanced portfolio of equities and fixed-income instruments.

Annual Return on Rs 2.4 crores at 7%: Rs 16.8 lakhs
Managing Inflation

Inflation erodes the purchasing power of money over time. Assume an average inflation rate of 5% per year. Your investment strategy should aim to beat inflation.

Adjusting for Inflation

To maintain your lifestyle, your corpus and income need to grow at least at the inflation rate. A diversified portfolio can help achieve this.

Lifestyle Considerations in a Tier 2 City

Moving to a tier 2 city can offer a lower cost of living while maintaining a good quality of life. Consider the following aspects:

Housing Costs: Significantly lower than in metropolitan areas.
Community and Lifestyle: Tier 2 cities often have a close-knit community feel, with various amenities.
Healthcare Facilities: While major treatments might require travel to bigger cities, routine healthcare is usually adequate.
Risks and Contingencies

Every plan comes with risks. Consider the following:

Market Volatility: Market fluctuations can affect your investment returns. Diversification helps mitigate this risk.
Health Emergencies: Despite medical coverage, consider a health emergency fund.
Unexpected Expenses: Maintain a contingency fund for unforeseen expenses.
Creating a Financial Plan

A well-structured financial plan will guide you through retirement. Here’s a suggested approach:

1. Emergency Fund:

Set aside 6-12 months of expenses in a liquid fund. This provides a safety net for unexpected situations.

2. Investment Allocation:

60% in Equity Mutual Funds: For long-term growth.
30% in Debt Mutual Funds and Fixed Deposits: For stability and regular income.
10% in Liquid Funds: For emergency and short-term needs.
3. Regular Monitoring and Review:

Regularly review your investments and expenses. Adjust your strategy based on market conditions and personal needs.

4. Health Insurance:

Even with company-provided coverage, consider a personal health insurance policy for additional protection.

Retirement Lifestyle and Goals

Consider your lifestyle and goals during retirement. Think about:

Hobbies and Interests: Pursue activities you enjoy.
Travel Plans: Allocate a budget for travel and experiences.
Volunteer Work: Engage in community service or social work.
Impact on Family

Discuss your plans with your family. Ensure they are comfortable with the move and the lifestyle changes. Your daughter’s education and social life should be considered.

Creating a Legacy

Plan for your daughter’s future and any legacy you wish to leave. Consider estate planning and creating a will.

Conclusion

Retiring early and moving to a tier 2 city is feasible with your current financial situation. Your corpus, combined with rental income, can support a comfortable lifestyle. Carefully planning and investing your corpus, managing expenses, and considering inflation will ensure financial security. Consulting a Certified Financial Planner can further refine your plan and provide personalized advice. Wishing you a fulfilling and financially secure retirement.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

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Ramalingam Kalirajan  |10872 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Dec 06, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Dec 06, 2025Hindi
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Dear Sir/Ma'am, I need some guidance and advice for continuing my mutual fund investments. I am a 36 year old male, married, no kids yet and no debts/liabilities as such. I have couple of savings in PPF, NPS, Emergency funds and long term investing in direct stocks. I recently started below mentioned SIPs for long term to grow wealth. Request you to review the same and let me know if I should continue with the SIPs or need to rationalize. Kindly also advice on how to invest a lumpsum amount of around 6lacs. invesco small cap 2000 motilal oswal midcap 2700 parag parikh flexicap 3000 HDFC flexicap 3100 ICICI prudential largecap 3100 HDFC large and midcap 3100 HDFC gold etf FOF 2000 ICICI Pru equity and debt fund 3000 HDFC balanced advantage fund 3000 nippon india silver etf FOF 2000
Ans: You already built a solid foundation. Many investors delay planning. But you started early at 36. That gives you a strong advantage. You have no liabilities. You have long term thinking. You also have diversified savings like PPF, NPS, Emergency funds and direct stocks. That shows clarity and discipline. This approach builds wealth with less stress over time.

You also started systematic investments in equity funds. That is a positive step. Your selection covers multiple categories like large cap, mid cap, small cap, flexi cap, hybrid and precious metals. So the intent is right. You are trying to create a broad portfolio. That gives balance.

» Your Portfolio Composition Understanding
Your current SIP list includes:

Small cap

Mid cap

Flexi cap

Large cap

Large and mid cap

Hybrid category

Gold and Silver FoF

Equity and Debt allocation fund

Dynamic hybrid fund

This shows you are trying to cover many segments. But too many categories can create overlap. When there is overlap, you get confusion during review. It also makes portfolio discipline difficult. You may think you are diversified. But the holdings inside may repeat. That reduces efficiency.

Your portfolio now looks like:

Equity dominant

Hybrid for stability

Metals for hedge

So the broad direction is fine. But simplifying helps in long-term habit building.

» Fund Category Duplication
You hold:

Two flexi cap funds

One large and mid cap fund

One pure large cap fund

One mid cap fund

One small cap fund

Flexi cap funds already invest across large, mid, small. Then large and mid also overlaps. So the large cap exposure gets repeated. That may not add extra benefit. But it increases monitoring complexity.

So I suggest rationalising. Keep one fund per category in core. Keep satellite space for only high conviction.

» Core and Satellite Strategy
A structured portfolio follows core and satellite method.

Core portfolio should be:

Simple

Long term

Stable

Satellite portfolio can be:

High growth

Concentrated

Based on your thinking level, you can structure like this:

Core funds:

One large cap

One flexi cap

One hybrid equity and debt fund

One balanced advantage type fund

Satellite funds:

One mid cap

One small cap

One metal allocation if needed

This division gives clarity. You can continue SIPs with review every year. No need to stop and restart often. That reduces behavioural mistakes.

» Your Current SIP List Review with Suggested Streamlining

You can consider continuing:

One flexi cap

One large cap

One mid cap

One small cap

One balanced advantage

One equity and debt hybrid

You may reconsider keeping both flexi caps and both gold silver funds. One of each category is enough. Because too many funds do not increase returns. It complicates tracking.

Precious metal funds should not be more than 5 to 7 percent in your portfolio. This is because metals are hedge assets. They do not create compounding like equity. They act as protection during cycles. So keep them small.

» How to Use the Rs 6 Lakh Lump Sum
You asked about lump sum investing. This is important. Lump sum should not go fully into equity at one time. Markets move in cycles. So use a staggered method. You can invest the lump sum through STP (Systematic Transfer Plan). You can keep the amount in a liquid fund and set STP toward your chosen growth funds over 6 to 12 months.

This reduces timing risk. It also creates discipline. So your Rs 6 lakh can be deployed gradually. You may use 50% towards core equity funds and 30% toward satellite growth category. The remaining 20% can go into hybrid category. This gives balance and comfort.

» Regular Funds Over Direct Funds
One important point many investors miss. Direct funds look cheaper. But they demand deep knowledge, discipline, and behaviour control. Most investors lose more through emotional selling and wrong timing than they save on expense ratio.

With regular funds through a Mutual Fund Distributor with Certified Financial Planner qualification, you get guidance, structure and correction. The advisory discipline protects you during market extremes. That is more valuable than a small saving in expense ratio.

A personalised planner also tracks portfolio drift, rebalancing need and category shifts. So regular fund investing gives long-term benefit and behaviour coaching.

» Actively Managed Funds over Index or ETF
Some investors choose index funds or ETF thinking they are simple and cheap. But they ignore drawbacks.

Index funds or ETF will not avoid weak companies in the index. They will invest whether the company grows or struggles. There is no fund manager decision making. So when markets are at peak, index funds continue aggressive exposure. In downturns also they fall fully. There is no cushion.

Actively managed funds work with research teams. They can avoid bad sectors. They can shift allocation based on market and economy. Over long term, this gives better alpha and stability. So continuing with actively managed funds creates better wealth compounding.

» SIP Continuation Strategy
Once the rationalisation is done, continue SIPs every month without interruption. Pause and restart behaviour damages compounding power. SIP works best when you go through all market cycles. You benefit more during corrections because cost averaging works.

So continue SIP amount. You can also review SIP increase every year based on income. Increasing SIP by 10 to 15 percent every year helps you reach large corpus faster.

» Asset Allocation Based Approach
One key point in wealth creation is having the right asset mix. Equity gives growth. Hybrid gives balance. Metals give hedge. Debt gives safety. Your asset allocation should stay aligned to your risk profile and time horizon.

Since you are young and have long term horizon, higher equity allocation is fine. But as time moves, rebalancing is important. Rebalancing protects gains and restores allocation.

So review your asset allocation every year or during major life events like child birth, home buying or retirement planning.

» Behaviour Management
Many portfolios fail not due to bad funds. They fail due to bad decisions. Selling during correction. Stopping SIP when market falls. Chasing past return performance. These mistakes reduce wealth.

Your discipline so far is good. Continue to stay patient during volatility. Equity rewards patience and time.

» Financial Goals Clarity
Since you have no children now, you can decide your long-term goals. Typical goals may include:

Retirement

Future child education

Dream lifestyle purchase

Health care reserves

When goals are clear, investment purpose becomes stronger. So you can map each fund category to goal horizon. Short-term goals should not use equity. Long-term goals should use equity with hybrid support.

» Role of Review and Monitoring
Review once in a year is enough. Frequent review can create anxiety. Annual review helps check:

Fund performance

Expense drift

Category relevance

Allocation balance

Then adjust only if needed. This progress helps you stay confident and aligned.

» Taxation Awareness
Equity mutual funds taxation rules are:

Short term (below one year holding) taxable at 20 percent

Long term (above one year holding) gains above Rs 1.25 lakh taxable at 12.5 percent

Debt mutual funds are taxed as per your income slab.

So always hold equity funds for long term. That reduces tax impact and gives better growth.

» SIP Increase Plan
You can create a simple plan to increase SIP over time. For example:

Increase SIP at every salary increment

Increase SIP during bonus time

Use rewards or extra income for investing

This habit accelerates wealth. So by the time you reach 45 to 50 years, your investments could reach a strong level.

» Insurance and Protection
Before investing large, ensure you have term insurance and health insurance. If not already done, it is important. Insurance protects wealth. Without insurance, even a small medical event can impact investment plan. So review this part also. Since you are married, cover both.

» Wealth Behaviour Mindset
You are already disciplined. Just keep these simple principles:

Invest without stopping

Review once a year

Avoid funds overlap

Follow asset allocation

Avoid reacting to media noise

This helps you reach long term milestones.

» Finally
You are on the right track. Only fine tuning and simplification is needed. Your discipline is visible. Your portfolio will grow well with structure, patience and periodic review. Use the Rs 6 lakh with STP approach. And continue SIP with rationalised categories.

With time and consistency, wealth creation becomes effortless and peaceful. You just need to stay committed and avoid overthinking during market movements.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Dr Dipankar Dutta  |1837 Answers  |Ask -

Tech Careers and Skill Development Expert - Answered on Dec 05, 2025

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Dear Sir, I did my BTech from a normal engineering college not very famous. The teaching was not great and hence i did not study well. I tried my best to learn coding including all the technologies like html,css,javascript,react js,dba,php because i wanted to be a web developer But nothing seem to enter my head except html and css. I don't understand a language which has more complexities. Is it because of my lack of experience or not devoting enough time. I am not sure. I did many courses online and tried to do diplomas also abroad which i passed somehow. I recently joined android development course because i like apps but the teaching was so fast that i could not memorize anything. There was no time to even take notes down. During the course i did assignments and understood the code because i have to pass but after the course is over i tend to forget everything. I attempted a lot of interviews. Some of them i even got but could not perform well so they let me go. Now due to the AI booming and job markets in a bad shape i am re-thinking whether to keep studying or whether its just time waste. Since 3 years i am doing labour type of jobs which does not yield anything to me for survival and to pay my expenses. I have the quest to learn everything but as soon as i sit in front of the computer i listen to music or read something else. What should i do to stay more focused? What should i do to make myself believe confident. Is there still scope of IT in todays world? Kindly advise.
Ans: Your story does not show failure.
It shows persistence, effort, and desire to improve.

Most people give up.
You didn’t.
That means you will succeed — but with the right method, not the old one.

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