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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 14, 2024Hindi
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Hi dear Anu Krishna Madam, I am a regular reader of your suggestions and answers on the questions of relationships since long. You are doing a great work to solve the complications of people's life. I have a long story actually, thanks to you in advance for your patience in reading this. I am male 36 YO, married and having a 4 YO daughter. Mandatory to mention here that I have mother who is dependent on me financially as my father passed away years ago. My relationship with my not been since starting as we got married in 2015. She is having serious anger issues and starts fighting on even little things. She is not very inclined to my mother and my younger sister who got married in 2018 and staying in UK with her husband. My wife is always complaining for one thing or the other. I am working for Central Government and earning well but she is never satisfied and keeps on complaining that my brother in law (sister's husband) is better husband or sometimes compare with other men. I always to fulfil all the requirements financially as well as taking care of baby, helping in household chores but she is never a happy woman. I send my mother and amount of Rs 10000 per month as no one is there to take care of her, mother stays at our hometown and I along with my wife and daughter stays at my work place city. I had to finance the marriage of my younger sister also as my father passed away when the both of us siblings were of age 7 and 3, this was told before my marriage to the family of wife as well as her that this will be required to be managed by me financially. But she complains of this also that I have spent this much money on my sister and mother. I am earning from a young age of 18 years but I don't find any peace at home. I am working like a machine, earning and then she is saying bad things to me all the time. She shouts loudly when fighting so that neighbours also listen and I find it very shameful. Her behaviour towards our daughter also changes frequently and she treats her according to her mood. My mother is not staying with us as when she stayed here for 6-8 months due to her health related issues, she started fighting with my mother also and created huge scenes every now and then. My wife's only attachment is with her own family, her mother, father, unmarried elder sister and unmarried elder brother. Her both the siblings couldn't find suitable matches for themselves, this is also creating a stress for my wife and she in the end throws her frustration on me. She and my self have both tried to commit suicide 2-3 times in the fight on different occasions. Last year she met a younger boy of age 26-27 and they both got attracted to each other. I was along with her and I noticed them smiling at each other at a function. I asked my wife and said to her that if you want to you can ask and talk to that boy. Means I told her to have an open marriage, in the hope that this will atleast make her realise that my husband is happy in my happiness. They both started talking and even met on 3-4 occasions and 2-3 of them secret meetings at our home (only i knew that I didn't pointed out) with physical intimacy. Now due to some unknown reason both my wife and that boy are not talking to each other. Her behaviour had been very rude since that boy came to her life and she never realised that my husband is not pointing out this infidelity also. Now, when that boy is also not there, her disrespect towards me is increasing day by day. She starts fighting even at streets and shouting loudly. I have also given a thought for legal separation but due to my daughter I am not going ahead. I am in a very complex situation and don't understand what to do. How i can make her understand that relationship runs on two people. Please guide me further. One more thing to mention here she is not interested to go for councelling or anything like that. Thanks in advance. Regards.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your wife is perhaps one of those people who choose to see what's not happening rather than what good is actually happening. It's just a habit that can destroy their peace of mind and of those around them.
You are caught around her drama where she tries to find her happiness all around her when she can perfectly find it within the marriage. So, if there's something small that upsets her at home or does not go according to the way she thinks it should, instead of talking about it to you, she is someone who will find a way out outside and in things that can instantly make her feel better. That 27-year-old has ended up becoming some sort of a distraction and by you allowing it to go further whatever happens or doesn't will be blamed on you.
She's acting like a child in need of attention, incapable of addressing her own emotions, distracting herself with a new toy and then crying out creating drama around it all and oh, blaming you when things go wrong.
Got the picture, here? So, the way out is to actually take her to a professional who can guide her to regulate her thoughts an =d actually infuse her back into a family system. It's possible that her maternal home did not provide a great example in this regard...you might know better...
You can try and get through to her by requesting her to step in for your child's sake else the marriage can deteriorate further...So, give it a try.

All the best!
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Asked on - Oct 18, 2024 | Answered on Oct 18, 2024
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Thanks Anu Ma'am for you valueable response and suggestion. I will again give it a try to take her to professional who can councel her and guide for infusion into a family system. Yes, her maternal home don't provide a great smooth family relationships as her mother always complains about her Late mother in law and husband (my father in law). She always says that my father in law has given all his 15 years earned money from a govt job to his mother (my wife's Daadi). The same pattern of complaining is being followed here also about my mother, though I spend a little portion of (10%) of my income on my mother's care. But still I also listens this type of taunts. The other things you had said that with that 27 year old guy whatever happened will be blamed on me, yes, this has already happened she is saying that she met that guy only after my insistence but the truth is they both were getting attracted and smiling at each other before my go ahead. I definitely want to stay in this marriage for my daughter's sake and will give it a try as per your suggestion. Thank you once again.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Thank you for your reply. I can only wish you the best in your efforts of making a humble appeal with your wife to bring the marriage back together.

All the best!
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She does not want to share you or what you earn with your family; it only suggests that she is worried about losing both. It may seem like they are unfounded fears but they exist in real for her.
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Hi Anu, I am married for 3 years and having 1 year baby boy. My marriage was fixed at matrimony site. After registration my wife used to tell me that she will spent most of her time at her home with her father and mother which is only 5 km within my home. After marriage she used to stay at her father's house almost 9 months in a year and only 2-3 months intermittent break she used to visit my house. She used to made me buy expensive washing machine and other house hold items inspite of having one already there, keep Cooking maid etc. When most of the time she is not staying with me I feel these are all my money wastage. Now she is forcing me to keep all time maid. My salary is only 50k , how can I manage all these expenses and her demand and even after meeting all these she is not staying with me and used to spent all the time at her father's flat. When I say to stay with me she used to give lot of excuses, She and both her parents had visited multiple times in my house before marriage and well aware that my kitchen setup is at first floor and not on second floor and other house hold arrangement. She used to take my baby boy with her for long period of time like 5-6 months and then come for 2-3 weeks and then again went away. We feel we are going distant apart and thinking to drag her and family in Magistrate court to seek right to conjugal life and her directly in court whether she would like to stay with me in my house or at father's place. Needless to say I used to bear all her expenses even she is staying at her father's house and I am staying alone and leading batchelor life. Please suggest.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Clearly your wife and her parents have not understood that marriage means staying together under the same roof as a couple and going through the highs and lows that come along the way.
If your wife intends to come to live in your home like it's a PG, then ask her to bear half the cost of all that is being bought. Maybe then that will drive sense inside of her.
On the other hand, what is the reason that she is so unwilling to stay longer periods with you? Have you tried to ask her this? I can only suggest:
- ask a two elder family members from both sides to step in and intervene
- go for couples therapy which will help both of you focus on the marriage as husband and wife

This can be a start point and then you can evaluate based on how things turn out...

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JSPM Rajarshi Shahu COE Pune – Computer Engineering;
Sinhgad Institute of Technology Pune – Computer Engineering;
VIIT Pune (CSE/IT cutoff ~93) – Information Technology, Computer Engineering.

Final recommendation: Prioritise COEP Pune Robotics & Automation-AI for its premier labs and 95–98% placements, then VJTI Mumbai CSE/IT for top metropolitan exposure, followed by DJSCE Mumbai AI & DS for cutting-edge curricula. Next, consider PCCOE Pune CSE and MITAOE Pune CE for proven infrastructure and consistent 90%+ placements, ensuring well-rounded career prospects in software, AI, and core electronics. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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My son has got CS & IT Cyber security in Symbiosis Skills and Professional University ,Pune at the same time CS in Fr Conceicao Rodrigues College, Mimbai. Which ond should he choose.
Ans: John Sir, Symbiosis Skills and Professional University (SSPU) Pune’s B.Tech in CS & IT (Cyber Security) is a UGC-recognised, NIRF-ranked #1 Skill University with NAAC accreditation, delivering industry-aligned curriculum through its School of CSIT with specialized labs in cryptography, intrusion detection, digital forensics and blockchain, and three mandatory internships. PhD-qualified faculty co-design courses with cyber-security experts, and 90% placement consistency over the past three years reflects strong recruiter engagement in local startups and multinationals. Fr. Conceicao Rodrigues College of Engineering (FCRCE) Mumbai, a NAAC A++ and NBA-accredited deemed university, offers CSE through a UGC-affiliated autonomous campus with modern computing, networking and software development labs, led by research-active faculty, and achieved a 70% placement rate in 2024 with top recruiters like TCS, Amazon and IBM.

Final recommendation:
Weighing higher placement consistency, skill?focused pedagogy, multiple internships and specialized cybersecurity infrastructure, recommendation is to choose SSPU Pune CS & IT (Cyber Security). For a broader computing foundation with established campus culture and strong core-CSE exposure, FCRCE Mumbai CSE remains a reliable alternative. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Hi sir @Nayagam P P Which one should I take Nit Agartala EIE/ECE/EE NIT Jalandhar Chemical Or IIIT KOTA ECE??
Ans: NIT Agartala’s Electronics & Instrumentation Engineering (EIE) program is NBA-accredited with NAAC A grade, offering advanced sensor-instrumentation, signal-processing, and robotics labs under PhD-qualified faculty; it achieved a 93.85% placement rate in 2024. Its ECE branch reports 82.3% placements over 2023–25 with specialized communication and VLSI facilities and a 95.3% overall B.Tech placement consistency. NIT Jalandhar’s Chemical Engineering, ranked #58 in NIRF 2024 and NBA-accredited since 1987, operates state-of-the-art mass-transfer, reaction-engineering, and process-control labs, boasts a research-active faculty of 23, and records a near-100% placement rate over three years. IIIT Kota’s ECE, established in 2013 under a PPP model, features wireless-communication, embedded-systems, and FPGA labs with guest faculty from IIT/MNIT; it recorded a 75.93% placement rate in 2024, supported by public-private internship pipelines.

For the highest consistency in core instrumentation and electronics roles, choose NIT Agartala EIE. If you prefer deep process-engineering expertise with near-perfect placements, opt for NIT Jalandhar Chemical. IIIT Kota ECE presents a balanced electronics-computing curriculum with strong industry collaborations and growing placement momentum. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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Sir My daughter is getting CSE in LNMIT and Electrical in Punjab Engineering College. Which one is better. Please guide.
Ans: Mohinder Sir, The LNM Institute of Information Technology’s B.Tech CSE program is AICTE-approved, NAAC-accredited (CGPA 3.03) and NBA-accredited, delivered by predominantly PhD-qualified faculty across advanced AI/ML, cybersecurity and data-science labs, and achieved 93.9% and 98.7% branch placements over 2022–24 with a median package of ?12 LPA. Punjab Engineering College, Chandigarh, a NAAC A+–accredited deemed university established in 1921, offers B.Tech Electrical Engineering taught by research-active PhD faculty in power-electronics, control-systems, renewable energy and robotics labs, supported by dedicated MoUs (e.g., POWERGRID) and internship pipelines; its EE branch recorded 80%, 71% and 70% placement rates from 2021–24, with 86 offers to 123 eligible students in 2023–24. Both institutes maintain comprehensive career cells and industry tie-ups, but LNMIIT’s computing infrastructure and placement consistency outpace PEC’s core-engineering focus.

Final recommendation: For broader software and emerging technology roles with higher placement consistency and specialized computing labs, prioritize LNMIIT CSE. If your daughter’s passion lies in core electrical systems, power electronics and control engineering within a heritage campus and you accept slightly lower placement rates, opt for PEC Chandigarh Electrical Engineering. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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