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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 06, 2023Hindi
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Dear Anu I am a 46 year old man .. married for last 16 years... My wife is well educated but a house wife by choice.. I lost my father when i was 18 and had struggled a lot to gain a great life in terms of money, name in my field and satisfaction at work. At home front we live a nuclear family... me, my wife and my 12 year daughter. But after my marriage in 2006 for next 6/7 years we were in joint family. my daughter was born in 2010.. In joint family me, my younger brother his wife and my mother were members... during these years, my wife never got along with my mother, brother and his wife... and also had fights [severe kind] where she accused them for petty reason...she demanded separate house within 3 month of marriage.. but since I was not financially settled so I promised her we will buy own home in course of time... but over these 6&7 years her behavior started really erratic.. she stopped talking to everyone, and keep fighting with all my family. also the house with joint family owned my me and younger brother... she demanded i should sell the house and get my share to buy own house. which i refused as my brother and his family with my mother were also staying there... and while buying it my mother had helped us financially, without having her name as owner. over the period things became really bitter... we also had fights where out of anger I happened to slap her.. but as promised I bought another house [with lot of efforts since i m self employee] within 5/6 years and we shifted to another city around our previous house. but after shifting she had the same temperament. She never got along with me.. Over an argument she would stop talking to me, and when confronted she would mention about my share in old house which i left... she was not happy seeing my brother living in that house with his family and my mother... i told her as promised we bought this house and I haven't withdrew my share in that house.. may be over the year i will take my share as per market value.. but at this point we don't need to do it.. since it will involve a lot of turbulence for my brother, his family and my mother as they were settled there. so I strongly told her she should not think about as she have her house and focus on it. Over these time, we had a very cute daughter... growing.. her schooling started.. i got busy with my work... and my wife by choice chose to be house wife... taking care of house... but she was hell bent on the house issue over selling it and taking my share.. and due to that we had several fights... which became my life miserable. her point was why pay EMI when you can get share and pay off the loans for new house. in these 8/9 years she became bitter person... no ties with my relatives /cousins, no friends, never got along with neighbors... and opposite to that i have very cordial relation with her family, cousins, my family and have great social circle. when my daughter was 10 year old, i was already settled with good career and financial status... i had cleared all the home loan for our new home... i did everything all out to make her happier but her wish to sell that house where my brother with his wife and my mother i didn't take share or sell it.. and she keeps nagging me with that and her temperament getting worst... now she started accusing me for having an affair and threatening me that she will complain police if i argue with her. unfortunately my daughter had to see this... but my daughter is very sorted, focused and a good kid. In last 2 years i managed to buy another house, which is bigger, where we shifted 1.5 years back, she wanted to do a puja and refused to invite anyone from my family.. also bought one more house as investment.. and a farm too as second home... Im very happy and satisfied with my career and other aspects of life... but the bitterness of wife kept on increasing... sometimes i felt she wanted me to fail and she could just take the pleasure of making me feel how she was right.. which never happened.. Now she is completely out of touch with my family... her anger triggers when i speak to my brother , my mom, Now over these years my brother also managed to earn some money and he paid me an amount as part of my share for the house he is living.. which we mutually agreed among us... and i withdrew my name from that property... i informed this to my wife.. first she didnt believe.. and then she was not interested in it.. so basically over these years i managed to fulfil everything what i promised also took my share from the joint house even i was not very happy with that situation. but all these incidences.. my wife became a difficult person to deal with... be it talking a simple conversation or smallest issue.. we don't have any physical relation .... we sleep in different bedrooms.. my wife also became too possessive and control freak with my daughter.. my daughter is 12 now and she retaliate with it.. so even they keep fighting now... me and my daughter have a great bonding... over these period i started feeling that i married a wrong person.. sometimes i think of divorce but i m worried about my daughter.. and also lot other things as im 45 already.. i wont say that i have never done any mistake while these 16 years but i never chose to disconnect with my wife... i worked really hard to earn money to build a good fortune for my wife and daughter... but looks like she doesn't care... and she takes me completely for granted... she thinks i wont leave her and will be stuck around.. i also advised to visit a therapist or counselor... or join a meditation or do anything she likes to do... be it creative or extra curricular.. but she just ignores it... i am into creative field and this domestic chaos sometimes really bothers me. it never effected my work yet but i m worried it might just. Let me know your opinion... if there is something i can do more to help this mess with my wife.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Clearly your wife has a streak of wanting people to want her, literally where it comes off as her being possessive of them (I gather this from what you have shared). I only have a one-sided view and don't know fully well why your wife chooses to be possessive.
She does not want to share you or what you earn with your family; it only suggests that she is worried about losing both. It may seem like they are unfounded fears but they exist in real for her.
Obviously your pleas to see a counselor will better her life and it is easier to stay where she is as nothing needs to change. It seems relatively clear that she fears LOSING!
How this got there or did it become even more evident because of the tussles between your family and her; no one knows. You would not completely know what transpired between your wife and your family; but something has triggered within her to hold on to her beliefs.
Anyway, it is difficult to be where you are; but the only way out is to have a person that is neutral to handle this. It could be a mutual friend, a senior member of her side of the family, a person that she idolizes...anyone who can in a very unbiased manner approach the situation and bring out the fears.
In the meantime, you can spend more time with your daughter and give her a sense of protection and care and at the same time ensuring that she empathizes with her mother. Matters like these can go sour overnight and YES, you have held on so long, give it some more time but do facilitate the neutral person to do an Intervention ASAP.

All the best!

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Too much of a mess, yeah?
Why they hid certain facts and what impact that has had on your marriage is something that you are experiencing. Relationships are built on trust and honesty leads to that trust. You possibly feel being misled multiple times over and it will indeed affect the mind state of your children.
Good that you have woken up to this NOW.
Are you sure that you want to end this marriage? Or is there a possibility of saving it?
If you want to end it through a legal recourse, find an able lawyer who specializes in divorce cases. She/he will advise you on annulment or mutual consent divorce or filing for one. These options come to a better choice when you seek an expert in legal matters.
In the meantime, keep your mind in a place where it is calm. Too much of muddle and constant over processing will make you have bitter thoughts and keep you engaged in stress building situations.
Accept what's happening (difficult, I know)...but doing this will enable you to take the right decision not only for your life but also for your children. Also, I suggest spend a lot of time with the children and teach them not to take sides of any parent.
Whatever you decide is going to impact them and they must be prepared anyway. So, talk to them like they are grown ups and let them grow into it supporting you both rather than be caught in the cross fire.
I am sure if you have had the courage to understand what has been happening to you, you can surely take additional steps to safeguard your mind space and do what's right for the children as well.
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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 29, 2023Hindi
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Hi Ma'am, I am 36 years old and got married in the year 2014. I wanted to be in a joint family but my wife does not like it from the starting days itself. My parents used to stay with me periodically but not continuously. We have 2 boy children now. During my 1st boy child naming ceremony, my wife's family created issues and threatened me and my mother with bad words and forced for a separate family which i never agreed. After that issue, my wife never returned to my matrimonial home. After lot of efforts from my relatives, we joined back again. But the personal vengeance of my wife on my parents still continued. She used to misbehave with them some times like not listening to my mother's words and she never used to help my mother on all the house hold activities. My mother used to take care of all the household works. In the mean time we are blessed with 2nd boy. She stayed in my house during her second pregnancy, her preganancy well assisted by my mother and me both financially and emotionally. But i used to tell my wife to do very small houshold activities to make her physically well fit for her normal delivery but she took that suggession in a wring way and considered it as a torcher. During her ninth month of her pregnancy she went to her parents house to write a competitive exam but never returned back instead she continued to stay there and returning back to my home. So it has been more than two years now that she left me. During this time, i visited for her birthday, her father died, me and my parents visited his funeral, i visited my sons birthday. So i almost did all my efforts to bring back her to my home but she refused all my chances. So I filed a divorce case since i dont have any hope in my marriage life anymore. But i wanted to live with her since we have two children. Any suggestions/advices please.
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Open Communication: Effective and empathetic communication is crucial. Encourage both you and your wife to express your feelings and concerns in a safe and non-confrontational manner. A counselor can help facilitate these discussions and ensure that both parties have a chance to be heard.
Professional Counseling: Seeking the help of a qualified marriage counselor or therapist is highly recommended. A counselor can provide a neutral perspective, offer strategies for conflict resolution, and help you both explore the underlying issues in your relationship.
Child-Centered Approach: As you have children, it's vital to prioritize their well-being. Regardless of the outcome, work together on a co-parenting plan that focuses on their emotional and psychological needs. A counselor can assist in creating a plan that ensures your children's stability and happiness.
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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 07, 2024Hindi
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Hello, I am 31 years old.. married for one and a half year, it was an arranged marriage, when my father came he was well and clear that my daughter studies or works for long hours she don’t like household chores but she earns well so can pay for help.. that time my mother in law was all happy and said I will help her, she’ll be like my child and all that... my husband also used to assure me that you will be treated really well, if you are working no body gonna point out, we are very modern. My mother in law is very modern she used to wear jeans and shorts and her Devrani lived in ghunghat... My mother in law hates everyone in her family, devarani, jethani, nanad, her own late mother in law father in law, her own mother, father, brothers, sisters, their spouses, their children... everyone. Yet my husband doesn’t understand she is doing wrong, I come from a big family... people fight and next day come back together... here it’s very very hard to survive in this negativity. Once I went home, because here I wasn’t getting enough time to study due to household chores... then behind me she created scenes telling .. your wife has disrespected me, didn’t eat anything for 15-20 days then my husband got angry on me... we fought and he blocked me, no contact between us for months. My parents came once to talk but she was too loud and insulting that they got sure we are NOT sending back our daughter to such house. Then our relatives interfered, sat together and found out there was no major problem everybody laughed.. saying we are not able to find any issue, but my mother in law still kept on complaining for continuously 4 hours... she was all negative.. I can back home, I know all I have to do is ignore her rest everything is okay to live by.. But I have lost trust on my husband,I know if he left me once, he can leave me again....living here is very difficult with all the hate, nobody comes to house for dinners.. it’s alone and hateful. I don’t say anything because that will only elevate the problem. It’s hell living here.. they all sit together and talk and when I go everyone shuts.. although I don’t care what that are talking about, I don’t give a rat’s ass even if they’re bitching about me. It’s just all negative and I wanna run away from here.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
What is your question for me here?
I have got the point that there is a lot of hate and negativity at your in-laws place and that it is far different from how you were raised. Also, that your husband blindly sides with his mother bothers you. But I will try and put things in perspective and make suggestions here.

Now, understand that certain families are the way that they are and unfortunately you have come into a place where people are isolated from one another and talk behind each other's backs.
Are you in a position to change all of this especially when you have realized that your husband isn't someone who is on your side?
So, when you can't change something, the only way to get through all of this peacefully is to accept it. But, that is the things that you are struggling with already and yes, it is understandable from your point of view.
Have an honest conversation with your husband; I am sure he is interested in making his marriage work too. That's the first step to actually make him aware that all this is affecting you.
Let's say, he is not bothered by it all and continues to go about all of this without realizing that he has a wife and he is also responsible towards the marriage, try and suggest getting to a professional (But do realize that the professional will not be able to change the way your husband's home functions). This is only getting the bond between you and your husband stronger so that you can be on the same side weathering the environment around you.
Now, if he refuses this intervention...then the onus is on you...what and how you see your life is totally a choice that you must make.

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 14, 2024Hindi
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Hi dear Anu Krishna Madam, I am a regular reader of your suggestions and answers on the questions of relationships since long. You are doing a great work to solve the complications of people's life. I have a long story actually, thanks to you in advance for your patience in reading this. I am male 36 YO, married and having a 4 YO daughter. Mandatory to mention here that I have mother who is dependent on me financially as my father passed away years ago. My relationship with my not been since starting as we got married in 2015. She is having serious anger issues and starts fighting on even little things. She is not very inclined to my mother and my younger sister who got married in 2018 and staying in UK with her husband. My wife is always complaining for one thing or the other. I am working for Central Government and earning well but she is never satisfied and keeps on complaining that my brother in law (sister's husband) is better husband or sometimes compare with other men. I always to fulfil all the requirements financially as well as taking care of baby, helping in household chores but she is never a happy woman. I send my mother and amount of Rs 10000 per month as no one is there to take care of her, mother stays at our hometown and I along with my wife and daughter stays at my work place city. I had to finance the marriage of my younger sister also as my father passed away when the both of us siblings were of age 7 and 3, this was told before my marriage to the family of wife as well as her that this will be required to be managed by me financially. But she complains of this also that I have spent this much money on my sister and mother. I am earning from a young age of 18 years but I don't find any peace at home. I am working like a machine, earning and then she is saying bad things to me all the time. She shouts loudly when fighting so that neighbours also listen and I find it very shameful. Her behaviour towards our daughter also changes frequently and she treats her according to her mood. My mother is not staying with us as when she stayed here for 6-8 months due to her health related issues, she started fighting with my mother also and created huge scenes every now and then. My wife's only attachment is with her own family, her mother, father, unmarried elder sister and unmarried elder brother. Her both the siblings couldn't find suitable matches for themselves, this is also creating a stress for my wife and she in the end throws her frustration on me. She and my self have both tried to commit suicide 2-3 times in the fight on different occasions. Last year she met a younger boy of age 26-27 and they both got attracted to each other. I was along with her and I noticed them smiling at each other at a function. I asked my wife and said to her that if you want to you can ask and talk to that boy. Means I told her to have an open marriage, in the hope that this will atleast make her realise that my husband is happy in my happiness. They both started talking and even met on 3-4 occasions and 2-3 of them secret meetings at our home (only i knew that I didn't pointed out) with physical intimacy. Now due to some unknown reason both my wife and that boy are not talking to each other. Her behaviour had been very rude since that boy came to her life and she never realised that my husband is not pointing out this infidelity also. Now, when that boy is also not there, her disrespect towards me is increasing day by day. She starts fighting even at streets and shouting loudly. I have also given a thought for legal separation but due to my daughter I am not going ahead. I am in a very complex situation and don't understand what to do. How i can make her understand that relationship runs on two people. Please guide me further. One more thing to mention here she is not interested to go for councelling or anything like that. Thanks in advance. Regards.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your wife is perhaps one of those people who choose to see what's not happening rather than what good is actually happening. It's just a habit that can destroy their peace of mind and of those around them.
You are caught around her drama where she tries to find her happiness all around her when she can perfectly find it within the marriage. So, if there's something small that upsets her at home or does not go according to the way she thinks it should, instead of talking about it to you, she is someone who will find a way out outside and in things that can instantly make her feel better. That 27-year-old has ended up becoming some sort of a distraction and by you allowing it to go further whatever happens or doesn't will be blamed on you.
She's acting like a child in need of attention, incapable of addressing her own emotions, distracting herself with a new toy and then crying out creating drama around it all and oh, blaming you when things go wrong.
Got the picture, here? So, the way out is to actually take her to a professional who can guide her to regulate her thoughts an =d actually infuse her back into a family system. It's possible that her maternal home did not provide a great example in this regard...you might know better...
You can try and get through to her by requesting her to step in for your child's sake else the marriage can deteriorate further...So, give it a try.

All the best!
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I am 41 years old and started from this year and sip 40k monthly. My portfolio is HDFC NIFTY 50 ICICI NIFTY NEXT 50 PARAG PARIKH FLEXI WHITEOAK MIDCAP suggest my portfolio is for wealth creation for next 18years?
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Starting now is far better than waiting longer.
Your monthly commitment of Rs.40,000 shows discipline.
This habit is the real foundation of wealth.
Hope is clearly present with your time horizon.

» Age and Investment Horizon Perspective
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– This is still a strong growth window.
– Equity works well over long horizons.
– Time can absorb market volatility.
– Discipline will decide final outcomes.

» Wealth Creation Goal Assessment
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– Focus on process, not predictions.
– Stay invested during bad phases.
– Bad phases create future gains.
– Discipline creates opportunity.
– Opportunity rewards patience.

» Final Insights
– Starting at 41 is still powerful.
– Rs.40,000 SIP is a strong base.
– Portfolio intent is positive.
– Index exposure needs reduction.
– Active management suits your goal better.
– Balance will improve behaviour and outcomes.
– With refinement, wealth creation is achievable.
– Stay disciplined and review annually.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 14, 2025Hindi
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Hi, i am 49 and no savings due to parents health. Want to retire at 60, please advise how i can create retirement corpous
Ans: Your honesty and responsibility deserve appreciation.
Supporting parents during illness shows strong values.
Starting late does not mean failure.
It only means strategy must be sharper.
Hope is very much alive here.

» Life Stage and Reality Check
– You are 49 years old now.
– Retirement goal age is 60 years.
– You have around eleven earning years.
– This phase needs focused action.
– There is no room for delay.
– Still, meaningful wealth can be built.

» Emotional and Financial Context
– Medical responsibilities drained earlier savings.
– This situation was unavoidable.
– You prioritised family over money.
– That choice reflects character.
– Now it is time to prioritise yourself.
– Both can coexist with planning.

» Retirement Expectation Assessment
– Retirement does not mean stopping life.
– It means income replacement is needed.
– Expenses will continue after retirement.
– Medical costs may rise further.
– Inflation will reduce money value.
– Planning must consider all these.

» Understanding Retirement Corpus
– Retirement corpus is a safety net.
– It supports regular monthly expenses.
– It supports medical and emergencies.
– It protects dignity and independence.
– It reduces dependency on children.
– This goal deserves seriousness.

» Income and Expense Mapping
– First, assess current monthly income.
– Next, track unavoidable monthly expenses.
– Identify possible savings amount.
– Even small savings matter now.
– Consistency matters more than size.
– Savings must be non-negotiable.

» Emergency Fund Priority
– Emergency fund is the foundation.
– It avoids future disruptions.
– Medical shocks can repeat.
– At least six months expenses needed.
– Keep it liquid and safe.
– Do not invest emergency money.

» Insurance and Protection Review
– Health insurance is critical now.
– Coverage should be adequate.
– Family floater may be cost-effective.
– Top-up cover should be considered.
– Term insurance is also important.
– Protection supports investment success.

» Late Start Investment Reality
– Late start increases pressure.
– Risk-taking must be controlled.
– Aggressive mistakes can hurt badly.
– Balanced growth is more suitable.
– Discipline replaces lost time.
– Patience is still required.

» Equity Role in Your Plan
– Equity is essential for growth.
– Without equity, corpus will struggle.
– However, allocation must be sensible.
– Extreme volatility should be avoided.
– Behaviour control is crucial.
– Equity must be managed actively.

» Why Actively Managed Funds Matter
– Actively managed funds adjust with markets.
– Fund managers reduce risk during stress.
– They increase defensive exposure when needed.
– They avoid overvalued sectors.
– This protects downside better.
– Behavioural comfort improves significantly.

» Why Index Funds Are Not Suitable Here
– Index funds fully follow market cycles.
– They fall equally during corrections.
– There is no downside protection.
– No valuation-based decision exists.
– Emotional pressure becomes very high.
– Late starters cannot afford panic exits.

» Asset Allocation Balance
– Equity drives growth over years.
– Debt provides stability and predictability.
– Hybrid strategies combine both.
– Balance reduces regret and anxiety.
– Allocation must be reviewed annually.
– Avoid frequent tinkering.

» Monthly Investment Discipline
– Start monthly investing immediately.
– Automate the process.
– Treat it like a bill.
– Increase amount with income hikes.
– Avoid stopping during market falls.
– Continuity is the real power.

» Annual Bonus or Windfall Usage
– Any bonus should not be spent fully.
– Allocate part towards retirement.
– Lump sums must be invested carefully.
– Prefer staggered deployment.
– Avoid emotional timing decisions.
– Discipline beats timing.

» Debt Instruments Role
– Debt stabilises the portfolio.
– It reduces volatility impact.
– It provides liquidity when needed.
– It supports rebalancing during crashes.
– Debt returns are modest.
– But stability is priceless.

» Tax Awareness and Planning
– Tax efficiency improves net returns.
– Equity gains attract capital gains tax.
– Long-term equity gains above Rs.1.25 lakh are taxable.
– Short-term equity gains attract higher tax.
– Debt taxation depends on slab.
– Tax should not dominate decisions.

» Retirement Lifestyle Planning
– Retirement lifestyle must be realistic.
– Expenses may reduce in some areas.
– Medical costs may increase.
– Travel plans should be budgeted.
– Avoid overestimating future income.
– Conservative assumptions are safer.

» Post-Retirement Income Strategy
– Retirement needs regular cash flow.
– Corpus should generate income.
– Capital preservation becomes important.
– Volatility tolerance reduces after retirement.
– Gradual de-risking is needed.
– Planning must start before retirement.

» Children and Family Expectations
– Avoid assuming children will support.
– Self-reliance brings confidence.
– Financial independence improves relationships.
– Do not burden next generation.
– This mindset improves discipline.
– Retirement planning is self-respect.

» Behavioural Discipline Importance
– Markets will test patience.
– Corrections will occur repeatedly.
– Fear causes wrong exits.
– Wrong exits destroy plans.
– Structure should protect emotions.
– Active management helps behaviour.

» Monitoring and Review Process
– Review once every year.
– Check asset allocation drift.
– Rebalance if required.
– Avoid reacting to news.
– Avoid checking daily values.
– Focus on long-term direction.

» Increasing Income Possibilities
– Explore skill upgrades if possible.
– Side income can accelerate savings.
– Consultancy or freelancing may help.
– Extra income should be invested.
– Lifestyle inflation should be avoided.
– Every extra rupee matters.

» Mental Shift Required
– Stop regretting lost years.
– Focus on next eleven years.
– Action matters more than regret.
– Discipline beats perfect planning.
– Small steps create momentum.
– Momentum creates confidence.

» Retirement Age Flexibility
– Keep slight flexibility if possible.
– Even one extra working year helps.
– It reduces pressure significantly.
– It increases corpus and confidence.
– Do not rigidly fix age.
– Flexibility is strength.

» Family Communication
– Discuss retirement goals with family.
– Align expectations early.
– Transparency reduces stress.
– Family support improves discipline.
– Shared goals feel lighter.
– Communication is underrated asset.

» Health and Wellness Focus
– Health directly impacts finances.
– Preventive care reduces expenses.
– Fitness supports longer earning ability.
– Stress management improves decisions.
– Health is real wealth.
– Do not ignore this area.

» Finally
– Your situation is challenging but manageable.
– Starting now is still meaningful.
– Discipline can compensate lost time.
– Active management suits your stage better.
– Protection and balance are essential.
– Retirement at 60 is possible with focus.
– Consistency will change your story.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Ramalingam Kalirajan  |10885 Answers  |Ask -

Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Dec 15, 2025

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Hi I am 31 year old working for an US based MNC getting 96k monthly in-hand with 1.3lacks variable pay once a year and 11k monthly deposit in PF account ( employee and employer contribution). Below are my current outstanding loans Home loan - 27.8 lacks principal with 27k monthly EMi and 161 months tenure left. PF balance -6 lacks PPF- 2 lacks Saving account -1 lack Monthly Expenses excluding EMi House hold expenses -15 k Personal expenses - 10-20 k I am married and have a 1 child (5yr) , I have company sponsored medical policy for 8 lack each member. I am planning to pay off my home loan in next 4 years by paying 40k extra every 2 months and 1 lack lumpsum payment once in a year. My question is by doing this I will left with very little amount in my savings account for any future emergency but I will still have my PF balance cover any future emergency. The only advantage is I will be loan free before I turn 35. Am I making right decision about my finances????
Ans: Your clarity, discipline, and detailed thinking deserve appreciation.
At 31, you are already thinking long term.
That itself puts you ahead of many peers.
Your responsibility towards family is visible.
Your intent to be debt free is admirable.
Hope and scope are clearly present.

» Life Stage and Financial Maturity
– You are 31 years old.
– You have long earning years ahead.
– Career stability seems reasonable now.
– Income visibility is fairly good.
– Family responsibilities are increasing gradually.
– This stage needs balance, not extremes.

» Income Structure Assessment
– Monthly in-hand income is Rs.96,000.
– Annual variable pay is Rs.1.3 lakh.
– PF contribution is Rs.11,000 monthly.
– This shows strong forced savings.
– Income diversification is moderate.
– Cash flow planning becomes important.

» Expense Pattern Review
– Household expenses are around Rs.15,000.
– Personal expenses range between Rs.10,000 to Rs.20,000.
– EMIs consume Rs.27,000 monthly.
– Total monthly outflow is manageable.
– There is room for structured planning.
– Lifestyle inflation seems controlled currently.

» Family Responsibility Context
– You are married.
– You have a five-year-old child.
– Education costs will rise steadily.
– Health expenses may increase later.
– Family goals need early planning.
– This requires liquidity and flexibility.

» Existing Asset Snapshot
– PF balance is around Rs.6 lakh.
– PPF balance is around Rs.2 lakh.
– Savings account holds around Rs.1 lakh.
– These assets provide some cushion.
– However, liquidity varies across assets.
– Not all assets are emergency-friendly.

» Home Loan Overview
– Outstanding principal is around Rs.27.8 lakh.
– EMI is Rs.27,000 monthly.
– Remaining tenure is 161 months.
– Interest cost is significant over time.
– Emotional burden of debt exists.
– Early closure feels attractive psychologically.

» Your Prepayment Strategy
– You plan Rs.40,000 extra every two months.
– You plan Rs.1 lakh lump sum annually.
– Goal is loan closure in four years.
– This is an aggressive plan.
– It needs careful evaluation.
– Aggression must not create vulnerability.

» Psychological Benefit of Debt Freedom
– Being loan free by 35 feels powerful.
– Mental peace improves significantly.
– Cash flow becomes flexible.
– Risk appetite may increase later.
– Confidence rises post loan closure.
– These benefits are real and valuable.

» Opportunity Cost Consideration
– Money used for prepayment has alternatives.
– Long-term investments could compound.
– Home loan interest is relatively moderate.
– Equity growth potential is higher long term.
– Time is strongly on your side.
– Balance is more important than speed.

» Emergency Fund Reality
– Current savings are only Rs.1 lakh.
– This is not sufficient for emergencies.
– Family size increases emergency needs.
– Job risks always exist.
– Medical surprises can still occur.
– Emergency fund must be non-negotiable.

» Misconception About PF as Emergency Fund
– PF is meant for long-term retirement.
– PF withdrawals have procedural delays.
– PF access is not instant.
– PF should not replace emergency fund.
– Using PF breaks retirement discipline.
– This assumption needs correction.

» Liquidity Versus Safety Balance
– Emergency funds need instant access.
– They should be stress-free.
– Market-linked assets are unsuitable here.
– PF is semi-liquid, not liquid.
– Liquidity protects dignity during crises.
– Safety without liquidity is incomplete.

» Risk of Over-Aggressive Prepayment
– Draining savings increases vulnerability.
– One emergency can force borrowing again.
– Borrowing later may cost more.
– Emotional stress can increase.
– Financial flexibility reduces.
– Risk management weakens.

» Health Insurance Review
– Company medical cover is Rs.8 lakh per member.
– This is helpful now.
– Job-linked insurance is not permanent.
– Coverage may stop with job loss.
– Top-up coverage should be explored.
– Health planning must be independent.

» Child Future Planning Angle
– Child education costs will rise sharply.
– Early planning reduces pressure later.
– Time advantage is huge here.
– Small amounts now grow meaningfully.
– This goal needs separate allocation.
– Loan prepayment should not delay this.

» Retirement Perspective
– PF and PPF support retirement.
– Retirement planning should start early.
– Delaying investments increases future burden.
– Home loan closure alone is insufficient.
– Wealth creation needs parallel effort.
– Debt freedom is not wealth creation.

» Asset Allocation View
– Debt assets already exist through PF and PPF.
– Home loan is also a debt exposure.
– Equity allocation is currently missing.
– Growth assets are essential now.
– Time horizon favours growth.
– Balance is currently tilted towards safety.

» Why Equity Cannot Be Ignored
– Inflation erodes savings silently.
– Fixed returns struggle to beat inflation.
– Equity helps long-term purchasing power.
– Starting early reduces risk.
– Waiting reduces compounding benefit.
– Growth needs patience and discipline.

» Behavioural Aspect of Loans
– Emotional dislike of loans is common.
– Fear of debt drives aggressive decisions.
– Not all debt is bad.
– Long-term low-cost debt can coexist with investments.
– Emotional comfort must align with financial logic.
– Extremes often harm outcomes.

» Balanced Approach Recommendation
– Partial prepayment is sensible.
– Full liquidity sacrifice is risky.
– Emergency fund must come first.
– Investments must start alongside prepayment.
– Goals must run in parallel.
– Balance builds resilience.

» Suggested Priority Order
– Build emergency fund first.
– Maintain minimum cash buffer always.
– Continue regular EMI without stress.
– Use surplus for selective prepayment.
– Start long-term investments early.
– Review annually and adjust.

» Emergency Fund Target Thought
– Aim for at least six months expenses.
– Include EMI in calculation.
– This fund must be untouched.
– Keep it separate from investments.
– This creates confidence.
– Confidence improves decision quality.

» Cash Flow Management
– Annual variable pay can support goals.
– Part can build emergency fund.
– Part can support prepayment.
– Part can start investments.
– Avoid spending full variable pay.
– Windfalls should strengthen balance sheet.

» Tax Efficiency Awareness
– Home loan interest has tax benefits.
– PF and PPF offer tax efficiency.
– Equity gains have capital gains tax.
– Long-term equity gains above Rs.1.25 lakh are taxable.
– Short-term equity gains attract higher tax.
– Tax should support, not dictate, strategy.

» Time Value of Money Insight
– Money today is more valuable.
– Early investing multiplies outcomes.
– Delaying investments increases pressure later.
– Four years is precious time.
– Using it only for loan closure is costly.
– Parallel growth is wiser.

» Career Risk and Income Stability
– US-based MNCs offer good pay.
– They also face global uncertainties.
– Job continuity cannot be assumed.
– Liquidity protects during transitions.
– Debt-free status without cash can still hurt.
– Cash flow safety matters more.

» Mental Peace Versus Financial Strength
– Debt freedom brings mental peace.
– Financial flexibility brings real strength.
– Both are important.
– One should not destroy the other.
– Balanced planning gives lasting peace.
– Extremes give temporary comfort.

» Long-Term Wealth Vision
– Wealth is not only absence of debt.
– Wealth is presence of assets.
– Assets generate choices.
– Choices give freedom.
– Freedom supports family goals.
– This vision must guide actions.

» Review of Your Current Plan
– Your intent is positive.
– Discipline is clearly strong.
– Aggression level needs moderation.
– Emergency planning is currently weak.
– Growth planning is currently missing.
– Small corrections can improve outcomes.

» Corrected Direction Suggestion
– Do not empty savings completely.
– Maintain strong emergency buffer.
– Continue some prepayment, not extreme.
– Start structured long-term investments.
– Review yearly as income grows.
– Adjust prepayment pace gradually.

» Behavioural Discipline Reminder
– Markets will fluctuate.
– Loans feel safer to close.
– Investments need patience.
– Avoid reacting emotionally.
– Stick to process.
– Process creates results.

» Finally
– Your thinking shows maturity beyond age.
– Being loan free early is attractive.
– But liquidity is non-negotiable.
– PF cannot replace emergency fund.
– Balanced prepayment is the right approach.
– Parallel investing is essential now.
– With small changes, your plan strengthens greatly.
– You are moving in the right direction overall.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Dec 15, 2025

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Hello and namaskar.. I am 36 years old. Need your guidance in the following funds- (a) parag parekh flexi cap - 7500/- per month (B) GROWW nifty midcap 150 index fund -2500/- per month (C) mirae asset ELLS tax saver -5000/- (D) pGIM india mid cap opp. Fund -5000/- (E) quant small cap fund-4000/- (F) ICICI prudential equity and debt fund - 3000 (G) HDFC FLEXI CAP FUND - 4000 (H) Uti nifty 50 index fund - 5000 Additionally I want to invest 1lakh annually. Tell me where to invest this additional amount. These funds are ok or I should exit from any fund. I want to get 2 crore till the end of 2035. Am I going on the right track.
Ans: You are doing many things right at a young age.
Your discipline and clarity deserve appreciation.
Starting early gives you a strong advantage.
Your intent to review shows maturity and responsibility.

» Age and Time Advantage
– You are 36 years old.
– You have around ten years till 2035.
– This is a solid wealth building phase.
– Time is your biggest ally now.
– Compounding works best during this stage.
– Consistency matters more than perfection.

» Goal Clarity and Expectation Review
– Your target is Rs.2 crore by 2035.
– The goal is ambitious but not unrealistic.
– It needs focus and proper portfolio structure.
– The journey must stay smooth and disciplined.
– Returns cannot be chased blindly.
– Risk control is equally important.

» Current Monthly Investment Behaviour
– Your monthly SIP total is meaningful.
– You are investing across market segments.
– Diversification intent is clearly visible.
– However, overlaps are also visible.
– Too many similar funds reduce efficiency.
– Portfolio simplicity improves outcomes.

» Flexi Cap Exposure Assessment
– You hold more than one flexi category fund.
– Flexi funds already offer wide diversification.
– Multiple flexi funds create duplication.
– Overlapping stocks reduce incremental benefit.
– Monitoring becomes harder over time.
– One well-managed option is usually sufficient.

» Mid Cap Exposure Review
– You hold two mid-oriented strategies.
– Mid caps offer strong growth potential.
– They also carry higher volatility risk.
– Too much mid exposure increases swings.
– Emotional discipline becomes difficult during corrections.
– Allocation must match your risk comfort.

» Small Cap Exposure Evaluation
– You have one small cap allocation.
– Small caps boost long-term return potential.
– They are highly volatile in short periods.
– Allocation size matters more than fund count.
– This portion needs patience and long holding.
– Avoid increasing this exposure aggressively.

» Equity and Debt Hybrid Holding
– You hold one equity and debt option.
– Hybrid funds reduce volatility naturally.
– They bring stability during market stress.
– This helps protect behaviour during corrections.
– Such balance is healthy in portfolios.
– However, allocation proportion needs review.

» ELSS Tax Saving Exposure
– You have one tax-saving equity holding.
– ELSS suits long-term disciplined investors.
– Lock-in supports behavioural discipline.
– However, ELSS is pure equity.
– It should align with overall equity allocation.
– Avoid adding multiple ELSS unnecessarily.

» Index Fund Exposure Assessment
– You hold two index-based options.
– Index funds simply follow the market.
– They cannot protect during market extremes.
– There is no downside risk management.
– They offer no flexibility in allocation.
– You remain fully exposed during corrections.

– Index funds mirror market emotions fully.
– They do not avoid overvalued stocks.
– They do not exit risky sectors early.
– They cannot adapt to economic cycles.
– Volatility impact is fully passed to you.

– Actively managed funds adjust allocations.
– Fund managers reduce risk during excess valuations.
– They increase cash or defensive exposure.
– They aim to protect capital during stress.
– Long-term consistency matters more than cost.

– Behavioural comfort is critical for wealth creation.
– Active strategies support investor discipline better.
– Index exposure should not dominate portfolios.
– Especially for goal-based investing.

» Over-Diversification Concern
– You currently hold eight equity-oriented funds.
– Many belong to similar categories.
– This causes unnecessary overlap.
– Portfolio tracking becomes confusing.
– Rebalancing becomes inefficient.
– Returns may average out lower.

» Need for Portfolio Rationalisation
– Reducing fund count improves clarity.
– Fewer funds improve focus.
– Monitoring becomes simpler.
– Behavioural discipline improves significantly.
– Rebalancing becomes effective.
– Goal alignment becomes clearer.

» Suggested Exit and Retain Strategy
– Retain limited flexi exposure.
– Retain one strong mid-cap exposure.
– Retain controlled small-cap exposure.
– Retain one hybrid allocation.
– Reduce index fund exposure gradually.
– Avoid abrupt exits during market volatility.

» Annual Rs.1 Lakh Investment Guidance
– Annual investments should support long-term goals.
– Lump sum investing needs timing discipline.
– Market valuations must be respected.
– Phased deployment reduces timing risk.
– Annual amount should strengthen core allocation.

– Prefer diversified active equity strategy.
– Focus on long-term wealth creation.
– Avoid thematic or narrow strategies.
– Stability matters more for lump sums.
– This amount should not chase trends.

» Asset Allocation Perspective
– Equity should remain the primary growth driver.
– Debt supports stability and risk control.
– Hybrid strategies offer automatic balancing.
– Allocation must match your emotional comfort.
– Avoid extreme aggressive positioning.

» Risk Management and Behaviour Control
– Market corrections are inevitable.
– Your portfolio must help you stay invested.
– Excess volatility causes panic exits.
– Panic destroys long-term wealth.
– Structure should protect behaviour.

» Taxation Awareness
– Equity gains attract capital gains tax.
– Long-term equity gains above Rs.1.25 lakh are taxable.
– Short-term equity gains attract higher tax.
– Tax should not drive investment decisions.
– Post-tax returns matter more.

» Goal Feasibility Assessment
– Rs.2 crore target needs sustained discipline.
– SIP continuity is critical.
– Annual increments will improve probability.
– Portfolio efficiency improves success chances.
– Behavioural consistency is the key driver.

» Monitoring and Review Discipline
– Annual reviews are sufficient.
– Avoid frequent changes.
– Review allocation, not returns.
– Rebalance when deviations arise.
– Avoid reacting to market noise.

» Emergency and Protection Check
– Ensure adequate emergency reserve exists.
– Six months expenses is ideal.
– Health insurance should be sufficient.
– Term insurance must cover liabilities.
– Investments work best with protection support.

» Lifestyle and Cash Flow Alignment
– Investments must not strain cash flow.
– Lifestyle balance is important.
– Avoid over-commitment to SIPs.
– Flexibility reduces stress.
– Sustainable plans succeed longer.

» Behavioural Insights
– Wealth creation is emotional journey.
– Simplicity supports discipline.
– Over-monitoring creates anxiety.
– Trust the process.
– Stay patient during dull phases.

» Finally
– You have started well.
– Your age gives strong advantage.
– Portfolio needs simplification.
– Index exposure should be reduced gradually.
– Active management suits your goal better.
– Annual investments must support core structure.
– Rs.2 crore target is achievable with discipline.
– Stay consistent and avoid frequent changes.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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Career Counsellor - Answered on Dec 14, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Dec 12, 2025Hindi
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Hello, I am currently in Class 12 and preparing for JEE. I have not yet completed even 50% of the syllabus properly, but I aim to score around '110' marks. Could you suggest an effective strategy to achieve this? I know the target is relatively low, but I have category reservation, so it should be sufficient.
Ans: With category reservation (SC/ST/OBC), a score of 110 marks is absolutely achievable and realistic. Based on 2025 data, SC candidates qualified with approximately 60-65 percentile, and ST candidates with 45-55 percentile. Your target requires scoring just 37-40% marks, which is significantly lower than general category standards. This gives you a genuine advantage. Immediate Action Plan (December 2025 - January 2026): 4-5 Weeks. Week 1-2: High-Weightage Chapter Focus. Stop trying to complete the entire syllabus. Instead, focus exclusively on high-scoring chapters that carry maximum weightage: Physics (Modern Physics, Current Electricity, Work-Power-Energy, Rotation, Magnetism), Chemistry (Chemical Bonding, Thermodynamics, Coordination Compounds, Electrochemistry), and Maths (Integration, Differentiation, Vectors, 3D Geometry, Probability). These chapters alone can yield 80-100+ marks if practiced properly. Ignore topics you haven't studied yet. Week 2-3: Previous Year Questions (PYQs). Solve JEE Main PYQs from the last 10 years (2015-2025) for chapters you're studying. PYQs reveal question patterns and difficulty levels. Focus on understanding why answers are correct, not memorizing solutions. Week 3-4: Mock Tests & Error Analysis. Take 2-3 full-length mock tests weekly under timed conditions. This is crucial because mock tests build exam confidence, reveal time management weaknesses, and error analysis prevents repeated mistakes. Maintain an error notebook documenting every mistake—this becomes your revision guide. Week 4-5: Revision & Formula Consolidation. Create concise formula sheets for each subject. Spend 30 minutes daily reviewing formulas and key concepts. Avoid learning new topics entirely at this stage. Study Schedule (Daily): 7-8 Hours. Morning (5:00-7:30 AM): Physics concepts + 30 PYQs. Break (7:30-8:30 AM): Breakfast & rest. Mid-morning (8:30-11:00): Chemistry concepts + 20 PYQs. Lunch (11:00-1:00 PM): Full break. Afternoon (1:00-3:30 PM): Maths concepts + 30 PYQs. Evening (3:30-5:00 PM): Mock test or error review. Night (7:00-9:00 PM): Formula revision & weak area focus. Strategic Approach for 110 Marks: Attempt only confident questions and avoid negative marking by skipping difficult questions. Do easy questions first—in the exam, attempt all basic-level questions before attempting medium or hard ones. Focus on quality over quantity as 30 well-practiced questions beat 100 random questions. Master NCERT concepts as most JEE questions test NCERT concepts applied smartly. April 2026 Session Advantage. If January doesn't deliver desired results, April gives you a second chance with 3+ months to prepare. Use January as a practice attempt to identify weak areas, then focus intensively on those in February-March. Realistic Timeline: January 2026 target is 95-110 marks (achievable with focused 50% syllabus), while April 2026 target is 120-130 marks (with complete syllabus + experience). Your reservation benefit means you need only approximately 90-105 marks to qualify and secure admission to quality engineering colleges. Stop comparing yourself to general category cutoffs. Most Importantly: Consistency beats perfection. Study 6 focused hours daily rather than 12 distracted hours. Your 110-mark target is realistic—execute this plan with discipline. All the BEST for Your JEE 2026!

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Tech Careers and Skill Development Expert - Answered on Dec 13, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Dec 12, 2025
Career
Dear Sir/Madam, I am currently a 1st year UG student studying engineering in Sairam Engineering College, But there the lack of exposure and strict academics feels so rigid and I don't like it that. It's like they don't gaf about skills but just wants us to memorize things and score a good CGPA, the only skill they want is you to memorize things and pass, there's even special class for students who don't perform well in academics and it is compulsory for them to attend or else the student and his/her parents needs to face authorities who lashes out. My question is when did engineering became something that requires good academics instead of actual learning and skill set. In sairam they provides us a coding platform in which we need to gain the required points for each semester which is ridiculous cuz most of the students here just look at the solution to code instead of actual debugging. I am passionate about engineering so I want to learn and experiment things instead of just memorizing, so I actually consider dropping out and I want to give jee a try and maybe viteee , srmjeee But i heard some people say SRM may provide exposure but not that good in placements. I may not be excellent at studies but my marks are decent. So gimme some insights about SRM and recommend me other colleges/universities which are good at exposure
Ans: First — your frustration is valid

What you are experiencing at Sairam is not engineering, it is rote-based credential production.

“When did engineering become memorizing instead of learning?”

Sadly, this shift happened decades ago in most Tier-3 private colleges in India.

About “coding platforms & points” – your observation is sharp

You are absolutely right:

Mandatory coding points → students copy solutions

Copying ≠ learning

Debugging & thinking are missing

This is pseudo-skill education — it looks modern but produces shallow engineers.

The fact that you noticed this in 1st year already puts you ahead of 80% students.

Should you DROP OUT and prepare for JEE / VITEEE / SRMJEEE?

Although VIT/SRM is better than Sairam Engineering College, but you may face the same problem. You will not face this type of problem only in some top IITs, but getting seat in those IITs will be difficult.
Instead of dropping immediately, consider:

???? Strategy:

Stay enrolled (degree security)

Reduce emotional investment in college rules

Use:

GitHub

Open-source projects

Hackathons

Internships (remote)

Hardware / software self-projects

This way:

College = formality

Learning = self-driven

Risk = minimal

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