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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 04, 2024Hindi
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Dear Anu, How can I tell if someone genuinely cares for me or if they’re just being manipulative? In the past, I found myself in a relationship where I was taken advantage of for my kindness. It still haunts me how I couldn’t see through it earlier. I think I am unable to spot red flags in a relationship. What should I do to protect myself from being emotionally hurt again?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Well, for starters...when you have just started dating or seeing someone, there's no need to show them your vulnerabilities or what pushes your emotional buttons. This is where people who have an intention to manipulate or cheat work on and succeed.
Till you feel trust for the person, draw a boundary around yourself and start sharing intimate details only when you feel you can trust them.
Now, is it possible for for them to still manipulate? Oh yes! But you will have become smarter to not let it get to you. So, you can't avoid people by categorizing the nice ones from the not so nice ones, but you can certainly learn the art of managing people around you.

All the best!
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Let's address the most important thing first, does she really love you? I am not sure about that. It's neither a solid yes or a solid no. But therein lies the challenge. If there is confusion, there is concern. Moreover, the habit of drawing comparisons with other people and how they treat their partners is an indication of a toxic relationship. I would urge you to rethink this relationship.

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Thakur College of Engineering and Technology, Kandivali East (Vile Parle West) – strong IT labs and 85–88% placements via TCS, Infosys, L&T.

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Thadomal Shahani Engineering College, Bandra (West) – MHT-CET closing rank ~40,000 for IT; 75–80% placements.

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Vidyalankar Institute of Technology, Wadala (East) – OBC cutoffs ~11,600 rank for CSE, with 70–75% placements.

SIES Graduate School of Technology, Nerul (Navi Mumbai) – MHT-CET OBC cutoffs ~12,000 for IT; 70–75% placements.

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Don Bosco Institute of Technology, Kurla (West) – CSE closing rank ~15,000; 68–72% placements.

Atharva College of Engineering, Malad (West) – IT cutoff ~18,000; 65–70% placements.

Rizvi College of Engineering, Bandra (West) – CSE closing rank ~20,000; 65–70% placements.

VES Institute of Technology, Chembur (East) – IT cutoff ~22,000; 60–65% placements.

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Hi sir ,my son got 103k rank in kcet and belongs to sc category which midteir colleges can he get in banglore.
Ans: With a KCET rank of 103000 in the SC category, your son has excellent prospects for admission to several reputable mid-tier engineering colleges in Bangalore. The SC category reservation provides 15% seat allocation, significantly improving admission chances compared to general category students. Multiple colleges in Bangalore accept ranks around 103000, offering strong academic programs and industry connections.

S K S J T Institute of Engineering, Bangalore (Rajajinagar) consistently admits SC category students with ranks near 103463 for Civil Engineering, maintaining 70-75% placement rates over the past three years. Dr. Ambedkar Institute of Technology, Bangalore (Nagawara) accepts Civil Engineering students with ranks between 105923-109783, featuring modern laboratories and achieving 70-75% placement statistics. Bangalore Institute of Technology, Bangalore (V.V. Pura) admits Mechanical Engineering students around rank 100693, with established industry partnerships and 70-75% placement success. Sir M.Visveswaraya Institute of Technology, Bangalore (Hunasemaranahalli) offers both Civil Engineering (rank 103712) and Mechanical Engineering (rank 104328) with similar placement outcomes. Cambridge Institute of Technology, Bangalore (Hesaraghatta) accepts Civil Engineering candidates within 100000-120000 ranks and Mechanical Engineering within 105000-125000 ranks, maintaining 70-75% placement rates. SJB Institute of Technology, Bangalore (Kengeri) provides Civil Engineering admission for ranks 105000-125000 and Mechanical Engineering for 110000-130000, with consistent 70-75% placement records. East West Institute of Technology, Bangalore (Yelahanka) admits Civil Engineering students within 110000-130000 ranks, achieving 68-72% placement rates. Global Academy of Technology, Bangalore (Rajarajeshwari Nagar) offers Civil Engineering for ranks 100000-120000, maintaining 70-75% placement success. M V J College of Engineering, Bangalore (Channasandra) accepts Civil Engineering students around rank 164212, with placement rates ranging 70-80%. New Horizon College of Engineering, Bangalore (Marathahalli) provides multiple engineering disciplines with placement rates exceeding 70% for students with similar rank profiles.

Recommendation: Prioritize S K S J T Institute of Engineering, Dr. Ambedkar Institute of Technology, and Bangalore Institute of Technology for guaranteed admission with strong placement records, leveraging SC category benefits to secure quality engineering education in Bangalore's established mid-tier institutions. All the BEST for Admission & a Prosperous Future!

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