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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Jul 11, 2023

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 10, 2023Hindi
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Mr Ravi Mittal, how do I know if my love interest is genuinely interested in me?

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

There are no hard and fast rules or specific ways of telling if someone is genuinely interested in you. It's more of a sense you get from them. For instance, does your love interest keep talking to you, even about the most trivial things? Do they listen to your mundane talks with utmost interest? Do they often go out of their way to make you feel happy or make time, even during their busiest days, for a quick meet-up? If so, yes, they are genuinely interested in you. People who are genuinely interested in one another also tend to discuss a future together, plan on introducing each other to their friends and family, and so on. Their general body language exudes their interest in you. Keep a look out for these signs.

Best wishes!

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I am 31 years old and single. I am working in a company since 2022 and last September i found out my boss is in love with me. Earlier he used to admire for my work. He was always a source of inspiration as his guidance has always helped me to achieve better and make me confident. Together we were a good team.. We took many important decision together, although i am not much experienced but he took my advice in important matters. Its a small company and few employees left gradually, we built a new team and together we trained them. We are very serious about our work and that was our prime focus. He use to tell me how serious he was about me and would like to marry me, will visit my house and meet my parents. One thing i knew was that he is divorced but the details were not very clear to me as he never disclosed and i gave him time as whenever he feels fine he can share. I also told him that my parents would never agree to this. he said he will convince my parents and will even beg for me. I am introvert nature and never cross questioned anything. I had a huge respect for him. He had his share of lows since his father passed away and then he was left alone and taking care of his mother. He values his mother a lot and keep her away from any stress. He keep everything to himself, he was able to share them with me. I am a good listener so always comforted him by listening and not judging him. He made plans about future as how we are going to build a house, take business to new heights and in 1-2 month he made me director of a company. I didn't want all this because it was too early for all this and i don't like accepting things this way. In April, i broke my engagement due to him and my family is in great stress. I lied to them and therefore their trust broke. Since then the whole family is in great pain. I could never do this, i have always followed decision taken by my family and they have always taken care of me. Now in June they came to know about me and him and they disapprove. My mother is very sure that i being emotional have gotten into trap and he manipulated me. He however needs someone in his life and found good option in me as i can handle family and business both. My mother hates him. Now i am so confused. I started keeping distance with him. I resigned few days back. He got ill and is finding hard to recover. The business is affecting due to this as he always feel lost that's what the team told me. He sends me emotional messages. I know he is very alone and must be hurting a lot. He says he always had a strong feeling about me. He worship for me so that we are together forever. He says if i agree he will forever be grateful as he has nobody except me. What should I do? Please help me.
Ans: it's important to recognize and validate your own feelings. You've built a significant bond with your boss, and his support and mentorship have been crucial to your professional growth. However, the dynamics have changed with the revelation of his feelings for you, creating a complex situation that involves your emotions, family, and professional life.

Your family's disapproval and the stress it has caused are significant factors to consider. Their concerns about the relationship, especially regarding manipulation and emotional dependence, need careful reflection. It's essential to ensure that your decisions are based on your own true feelings and not just out of a sense of obligation or pressure.

Regarding your boss, his emotional messages and current state of distress are challenging to navigate. While his feelings for you might be genuine, it's crucial to maintain clarity about your own boundaries and what you want for your future. You mentioned resigning and keeping distance, which indicates a need for space to think clearly.

Given the complexity of the situation, it might be beneficial to seek professional counseling. A therapist or counselor can provide an objective perspective and help you process your emotions and make decisions that are right for you. They can also assist in navigating conversations with your family and your boss, ensuring that your needs and boundaries are respected.

Ultimately, the decision must come from a place of self-awareness and genuine desire, not out of guilt or pressure. It's important to prioritize your well-being and ensure that any relationship, professional or personal, supports your growth and happiness.

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My son secured CRL below 800 in Jee advance 2024 but did not take admission in IIT rather took admission in a third grade college and currently pursuing Btech CSE. I am worried about his future. Can he get success in future?
Ans: Hello.
You did not mention which IIT college and course your son was getting. You also did not mention which college he has been admitted to. It seems that there is a wide communication gap between you and your son. Surprisingly, a candidate getting admission to IIT rejected it and went to a 3rd-grade college (as per your opinion). You are also not clear about, what was role when your son was denied to take admission to IIT and chose a 3rd-grade engineering college. There are lots of possibilities that your son has been denied IIT college which can't be discussed on this public platform.
It seems that your son is a talented, hard worker which is already reflected in his JEE result, there is no need to worry about his future. These types of candidates are less dependent on the college and faculty. They have their inbuilt capability to learn and excel in the life. There is no need to worry much about the decision taken by your son. Just observe that, whether he is attending college regularly and engaged in extracurricular activities. If he scores well in CSE, a bright future is waiting for him. Remember, a job career is less dependent on the college name! Nowadays, show your extraordinary skills and get the job!

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