Hi Anu, How are you? Hope you are doing well. So my situation is: I'm 23 years old. Due to my extremely toxic past experiences in relationships, I chose to be single to bring a balance in my life. I have been single for almost a year now. But last month I was on a sabbatical. I had travelling plans but I had to cancel everything due to the rise in the covid19 pandemic.
I joined a dating app (I swore that I would never use a dating app. But then this year I wanted to do something that I would never consider doing. So I decided to join a dating app just to see what goes in there). I wasn't looking for any relationship or anything like that. I was mostly fine with my single life (except the physical intimacy part of course). Then I got matches with guys. But I had no interest in any of them. I chatted with a couple of them but got bored within minutes. I matched with a guy and started talking to him. He seemed nice from the start. I could connect with him very easily. We were on an equal intellectual level. But that was just day 1. From day2, he was not really into the conversation. He was only answering my questions, not really asking anything. But while talking, he clearly told me that he wasn't into relationships or dating currently as he broke up 1 year ago and needed time to clear his mind space.
I didn't really care about all this stuff since I wasn't looking for anything at all. But his prosaic interview type answers were very irritating and I had to get back to my work too. So I deleted my profile without apprising him anything and by that time we already connected on IG. But after that conversation, he was kind of all over my mind. It was really difficult for me to focus on my work for the next 2-3 days. So I thought if I text with him for 2-3 days, I would be fine probably. But when I texted him on IG, he wasn't surprised that I’d deleted my profile on that dating app without even telling him anything. Moreover, he was texting in a very formal manner. After a while, he stopped replying. I didn't text after that. I was done with him.
Since that day, my mind has been craving for his attention. I know that he isn't the guy I should spend my time with no matter how good I found him initially. But my focus and concentration is really getting affected by his thoughts. On VDay I thought maybe he was going to ask me out(because last month he made it conspicuous that he was going to meet me on V -day). But he is a ghost now. Please tell me how do I erase his thoughts from my mind totally so that I can focus on my work as I have piles of work to get done.

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Ans: You have been thoughtful with your investments and savings. At this stage, clarity and right structuring are more important than increasing the number of investments.

Let us now look at your situation from a full 360-degree view and build a practical plan.

? Age, Income and Goals

– You are 46 now with 13 years left to retirement.
– Your in-hand salary is Rs 85,000 per month.
– You also receive Rs 10,000 monthly rent from your flat.
– So, your total regular cash inflow is Rs 95,000.
– Your daughter is 13 years old. Education and marriage are big upcoming expenses.
– Retirement planning is also a priority from now.

Time is limited, so every rupee must work smartly.

? Ongoing Financial Commitments

– You invest Rs 9,000 in PF (mandatory deduction).
– You invest Rs 12,500 in PPF and same in Sukanya Samriddhi.
– Your monthly EMI for home loan is Rs 22,000.
– You invest Rs 8,000 in SIPs.
– You pay Rs 26,000 per year as premium for family floater.
– You have an RD of Rs 4,000 monthly.

This shows a very good savings culture. But allocations need refinement.

? Existing Assets Summary

– PPF, PF, Sukanya total is around Rs 11 lakh.
– SBI Life (market-linked) value is Rs 13.5 lakh, maturing in 2027.
– You also own a house and earn Rs 10,000 rent from it.
– These are strong financial pillars to build upon.

You are not starting from scratch, which is a great position to be in.

? Loan Situation

– Outstanding loan is Rs 7 lakh on your home.
– EMI is Rs 22,000 per month.
– You have 13 years to close the loan before retirement.
– Ideally, loans should be cleared before retirement.

Let us see how to manage this smoothly.

? Cash Flow Evaluation

– Monthly inflow: Rs 85,000 salary + Rs 10,000 rent = Rs 95,000.
– Expenses + SIP + EMI + savings = around Rs 75,000–80,000 monthly.
– You may be left with Rs 15,000–20,000 buffer.

This buffer must be managed with purpose and not by chance.

? SBI Life Policy Assessment

– This is a market-linked insurance policy.
– Value now is Rs 13.5 lakh. Maturity is in 2027.
– These insurance cum investment plans often give lower returns.
– Better to surrender it after 2027 maturity.
– Reinvest the entire maturity amount into mutual funds.
– Do not renew or reinvest in another ULIP.

ULIPs are expensive and do not provide long-term value. Shift to mutual funds.

? Home Loan Repayment Planning

– Do not pre-close home loan in a hurry now.
– Keep regular EMI going from your salary.
– Instead, focus your extra savings to grow wealth.
– In 2027, when SBI Life matures, use Rs 2 lakh from it.
– Use that to make a part-payment of the home loan.
– This will reduce EMI burden in later years.

Target complete closure of loan by 2034 latest. Do not keep till retirement.

? Emergency Fund Requirement

– You must keep at least Rs 2 lakh in liquid form.
– This is not for investment. It is for protection.
– Use part of your RD and savings account for this.
– Stop RD if needed, and create emergency fund instead.

Without this, any sudden expense will force you into loans again.

? Child Education and Marriage Planning

– Your daughter is 13 now. Graduation in 5 years.
– Post-graduation and marriage will follow after that.
– Your Sukanya account and PPF help with this.
– But that alone is not enough. Add a goal-based SIP.
– Use regular plans of actively managed mutual funds.
– Avoid direct funds. Avoid index funds.

Regular plan SIPs with Certified Financial Planner help in review and changes.

? Why Avoid Index Funds and Direct Funds

– Index funds cannot manage downside risk.
– They fall when market falls. No protection strategy.
– They follow the index blindly without human guidance.
– Direct mutual funds look cheaper but offer no support.
– You won’t get regular review, asset allocation help or correction.
– Without expert guidance, direct funds underperform in long term.

A Certified Financial Planner with MFD support brings strategy and safety together.

? SIP Strategy Going Forward

– You already invest Rs 8,000 in SIPs.
– Continue this. Do not stop unless emergency arises.
– After 2027, increase this to Rs 12,000 or more.
– Use part of SBI Life maturity to start extra SIP.
– Use mutual funds that match your time horizon and goals.
– One SIP for daughter, one for retirement.

All new investments should be with specific targets in mind.

? Retirement Planning from Age 46

– You have 13 years left till retirement.
– PF and PPF will help, but are not enough.
– Inflation will reduce value of PPF corpus.
– Mutual funds offer better post-tax returns.
– Regular investing over next 13 years is critical.
– Increase SIP as your salary grows.

You must target financial independence before retirement. Not just pension dependency.

? Health Insurance and Risk Cover Review

– You have a family floater. That’s good.
– Check sum insured is at least Rs 10 lakh.
– Top it up if needed. Health costs rise each year.
– Also ensure you have term life insurance.
– Amount should be minimum 10 times your salary.
– Do not mix investment with insurance.

Protection planning is as important as wealth planning.

? Real Estate Holding – Just Maintain It

– You get Rs 10,000 rent monthly from your flat.
– That is good passive income. Do not sell this property.
– But avoid buying any more real estate.
– Maintenance, taxes and liquidity make real estate less attractive.
– Better to invest in mutual funds for flexibility and return.

More assets do not mean more wealth if they are not liquid.

? Income Use Plan from Now to Retirement

– 2024–2027: Focus on loan EMI, SIP and emergency fund.
– 2027: Use part of SBI Life maturity for loan part-payment.
– Rest of the money to be invested in SIP.
– 2027–2034: Increase SIP for retirement and daughter’s future.
– 2034: Plan to fully close home loan.
– 2035–2039: Save maximum possible in SIPs.

Clear path like this gives financial control and peace.

? Asset Diversification

– Avoid locking more in PPF or RD now.
– Keep PPF running, but don't increase contribution.
– Stop RD and move that money to SIP after emergency fund is ready.
– Avoid gold, crypto, or other complex assets.
– Just focus on simple, quality mutual fund SIPs in regular plan.

Simple, consistent approach wins over long term.

? Finally

– You are in a strong position due to early planning.
– But some parts need correction and better allocation.
– Use next 3 years to organise your finances more efficiently.
– Don't rush to pre-close loan unless there’s surplus.
– Reinvest the SBI Life maturity wisely.
– Avoid index funds, direct funds and real estate.
– Stick to regular plan mutual funds with guidance.
– Focus on specific goals – child education, marriage and your retirement.

Clear direction now will ensure peace later. You are very much on track.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

Ans: Let’s carefully understand your financial position and work step-by-step to improve it. The current situation seems tight, but with the right planning, things can be managed well.

? Current Financial Snapshot

– Home purchased for Rs 25 lakh with your entire savings and mutual funds.
– No home loan, which is a good point. Property is fully owned.
– In-hand monthly salary is Rs 60,000.
– Existing debts include:

Rs 2 lakh personal loan

Rs 2.25 lakh gold loan

Rs 4.5 lakh borrowed from relatives
– You mentioned that you are struggling to save or track money.

This is a very common challenge in the early years of home ownership. Let’s take one step at a time.

? Cash Flow Stress Analysis

– Your monthly income is not matching with outflow due to EMI and regular expenses.
– Personal loan and gold loan EMIs may be high due to short repayment terms.
– You also have a moral obligation to return the amount to your relatives in 1 year.
– Your current cash outflows may be above 70% of your income.

This gap creates financial stress. We need to balance it.

? Immediate Focus: Create a Monthly Budget

– Write down every expense, even the smallest one.
– Break expenses into 3 parts: Must-Have, Flexible, and Avoidable.
– Must-Have: Rent (if any), groceries, child school fees, transport.
– Flexible: DTH, OTT, eating outside, non-essential shopping.
– Avoidable: Unused subscriptions, unplanned EMI purchases, gadgets.
– First target is to reduce the flexible and avoidable categories.

You must review this every 15 days. It will give clear spending awareness.

? Debt Prioritisation Strategy

– Start with the costliest loan: usually personal loans and gold loans.
– Try to close the personal loan first. Interest is normally very high.
– Next focus on gold loan, since delay may lead to loss of gold asset.
– Relative loan is at zero or low interest, repay slowly.
– Talk to relatives honestly and request 6 more months for comfort.

It’s okay to request this. Most families do understand.

? Use a Debt Avalanche Method (Without Calculation)

– Pay minimum EMI on all loans.
– Use any surplus to close highest-interest loan first.
– Then move to next high-interest loan.
– Do not try to repay all equally. That will not reduce total interest much.

Focused repayment brings mental peace.

? Emergency Fund Creation

– Right now, you don’t have any savings left.
– Without an emergency fund, any small expense will push you to borrow again.
– Start building a fund of at least Rs 30,000 to Rs 50,000 in a savings account.
– Set small goals like saving Rs 2,000 a month.
– Emergency fund is not for investments. It is for protection.

This step avoids future personal loan traps.

? Investments Can Wait – But Not Planning

– Do not start any SIP or investment now. Focus only on debt clearing and emergency fund.
– But track your expenses and income as if you are planning for a SIP.
– This mental discipline will help when you are actually ready to invest.
– Planning must begin today, investing can wait 6–9 months.

Clarity in numbers always comes before wealth creation.

? Role of Mutual Funds Later

– Once debts are cleared and emergency fund is ready, only then start investing.
– Go for actively managed mutual funds through Certified Financial Planner and MFD.
– Regular plans allow you to get guided review and handholding.
– Avoid direct plans unless you are trained in market analysis.
– Regular plans offer rebalancing, portfolio review and behavioural support.

Guided approach helps in emotional control during market changes.

? Why Not Index Funds

– Index funds may seem cheaper, but carry hidden risks.
– They cannot protect you during market crash.
– They blindly follow the index without risk filters.
– No scope for active management or downside protection.
– Actively managed funds give better returns in uncertain markets.

Safety with growth is key for salaried individuals like you.

? Income Expansion Attempts

– If possible, take small freelance work in weekends or evenings.
– Tutoring, online assistance, delivery work, or any skill-based work helps.
– Even Rs 3,000 extra income can fast-track loan closure.
– Don’t ignore small side income. Every rupee counts in debt management.

This step adds strength to your plan.

? Lifestyle Adjustments – Temporarily

– Pause all unnecessary spending like dining out, movies, and clothing for now.
– Stick to basic lifestyle until all high-interest debts are cleared.
– Use old phone, avoid gadgets, reuse clothes and accessories.
– Don’t feel bad. This phase is temporary and purposeful.

Short-term sacrifice brings long-term peace.

? Avoid These Mistakes

– Do not take another loan to repay existing loans.
– Don’t swipe credit cards for regular expenses.
– Avoid BNPL or EMI traps on online shopping.
– Don’t invest in gold or crypto now.
– Avoid insurance policies that combine investment and life cover.

Focus only on liquidity and debt reduction now.

? Family Support and Communication

– Speak with your spouse or parents honestly about current situation.
– Assign small responsibility to each family member.
– Even saving Rs 200 in electricity or food matters.
– Emotional support from family boosts financial discipline.

Unity brings faster solutions.

? Future Planning – Once Stable

– After debt closure, build 3 months' salary as emergency corpus.
– Then, set financial goals like retirement, children education, and vacations.
– Start SIP in 2-3 mutual funds under regular plan with guidance.
– Choose goals-based investing, not trend-based investing.
– Review goals every 6 months with a Certified Financial Planner.

Future planning needs structure, not trial and error.

? Insurance Check

– Ensure you have term life cover equal to at least 10x of your annual income.
– If you have ULIPs or traditional endowment plans, review them with a CFP.
– Surrender if needed and shift to mutual funds for long-term wealth.
– For health, minimum Rs 5 lakh cover is needed for family.

Insurance is protection, not investment.

? Mental Framing for Money Success

– Stop comparing lifestyle with others.
– Avoid social media-based spending urges.
– Be content and frugal for next 1–2 years.
– Celebrate small financial wins – like repaying one EMI early.
– Keep reminding yourself – this is a phase, not forever.

Discipline is more powerful than any investment plan.

? Finally

– You have already done one good thing – bought a house without a home loan.
– This is your foundation. Now your job is to build peace and liquidity.
– Cut expenses, increase income, repay loans smartly.
– Say no to lifestyle pressure and wrong investment traps.
– Once you are stable, mutual fund investment under regular plan will guide your growth.

Keep moving step by step. You are already on the path.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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