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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 18, 2024Hindi
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Hi Anu I am a 36 year old IT pro with a beautiful family (wife and 2 kids) 1 year back, i had a coworker (shes married but widowed with 1 kid) with whom i had to work on a project..we shared a good friendship and unfortunately on one occasion, under the influence of alcohol, i went overboard and had a deep sexual chat with her..it was mutual and the next day i really felt bad and apologized to her.she also said it was ok.. After that i avoided her but she kept on giving singals to continue the relationship, i sternly avoided her and pleaded with her in message and call to leave me..during the time of sexual chat, i never knew she was a widow else i wud not have done that..shes now harassing me and stalking me on social media..i really feel bad for what i did to her and am over ridden with guilt..she says lets be friends as she has no one to turn on to.. but i pretend to be as she still has that chat messages and if she raises an ombuds i will be out of the job..but worse of all, i do not want this to destroy my family life. I love my wife and kids and she wont take this easily if i disclose this to her .pls suggest a way out of this..i am really desperate..it was jus a chat and i am a train wreck now..

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
This is a bit messy...It could land you into a lot of trouble and obviously you didn't know that when you were chatting with her, right?
Avoiding her hasn't worked and the best thing possibly now would be to just be polite yet firm where she feels that she is not being snubbed. Also consider taking your wife into confidence as this will eliminate the chance of ruining your peace at home. Come clean and confess to your wife and request her to support you; of course she might give you a earful, listen to all of it.
You have a price to pay for the fun that you had that one time; so take it in your stride and tread carefully...be kind to the woman and be honest with your wife. You can only pray that this can keep you out of trouble.
And the next time you drink, kindly keep your phone away...

All the best!
Asked on - Apr 24, 2024 | Answered on Apr 24, 2024
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Hi Anu, Thanks for your response. Two things here..first I can't tell my wife now as she had lost her mom 5 months back and she's in a recent quarrel with her dad and brother on their family dispute...so breaking this news now will break her mentally..also, I have got a better offer from another company and I am not sure how this woman will take it....as of now she communicates thru office chat and the moment if she knows I got another offer, I am not sure how she will react..I really want to avoid her and I really feel sorry for kindling her feelings without realizing the repercussions...just one chat is running my life and now she's citing all the previous conversations between us and saying all those were used by me to butter her up. Those were not intimate conversations they were just casual conversations which now she feels I was trying to butter her up.. fearing her, I cannot risk my career.. pls suggest..I am.sorry for bothering you..
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Thank you for acknowledging.
The only way to counter the co-worker is to share this secret with your wife. That will give you a fair level playing field with her. This is the only thing that she can use against you so this is the best way to disarm her and then you hope that all will be well.
But if you don't want to, there isn't much that you can do...this co-worker can use the chats to her advantage...
By not taking one way or the other, you seem to be hoping for some sort of a miracle to get you out of this hot pot. But hey, every action has a consequence, right? So, knowing what the consequence is now, do your best to control the damage and hope.

All the best!

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Hi Anu,Hope you are well. I have recently started reading your column and I like the way you give suggestions and help people to overcome whatever issues they are going through in this beautiful journey called life.There is something that I would like to tell you and would need your suggestion and advise.There is a lady whom I know for over 4 decades living close to my house. Her father and my father are colleagues and used to work together and they are best friends. She knows me right from a very early age and she is quite elder to me by 8 or 10 years perhaps.Recently I happened to send her some MMS porn clips which I got from a group. I thought she will shout at me and block me...but she didn't do that. I still send her sometimes when I get such clips. Recently she said that this is not real. I don't know what she means by that. During my adult years when I was 21-22 years old I used to fantasise having a physical relationship with her. I had my own reasons because of the way she used to behave with me when I’d go to her house. But I never tried initiating it maybe because of lack of confidence or fear of getting scolded by her. Her kids are studying in America (masters level) and United Kingdom (graduation level).Few months ago I lied to her that there is a lady near my office who is the divorcee and is trying to get close to me physically and she is inviting me to her house a couple of times. The reason I told her this lie was to know how she will react... The moment I told her this she told me don't go to such people, just avoid her and tell her that you are in a relationship with me. I even told her that the lady who is the divorcee is asking me if I am having a physical relationship with her whom I know since childhood days. She just laughed and said your divorcee friend is mad...She even said that the divorcee friend (whom I created out of my imagination) is stuck because of my childhood friend.Whenever I ask my childhood friend to meet up she always tells me that she is busy and that she does not like anyone coming to her house because her husband might not like it.Anu what do you think? Is my childhood friend whom I know for 4 decades interested in having a sexual relationship with me but is not initiating it thinking that it will affect our married lives. Women will not do anything that will disturb their life security system. She is very rich because her husband is a corporate employee holding a leadership position and well paid around a crore per year. Will she allow me if I initiate sex with her?Please understand that I don't know how to initiate that as she doesn't want me to visit her in her house. She doesn't go out much but rather spends time home and goes out with her husband for Sunday church mass sometimes or goes to the nearby chapel for praying. I am happily married for the last 12 years.Last week also I sent her an MMS and she replied with an emoji (a grinning face with star eyes). What does this mean?Is she really wanting to have sex with me but waiting for me to initiate or she is doing time pass with me? I am willing to get physical with her.Please advise me... Thanks for reading this till the end.
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Dear SS,

Thank you for the kind acknowledgement on my columns. Much appreciated.

Why exactly is it important for you to pursue a new relationship?

As for your childhood friend, do know that being much older than you are, phases of life and its experiences are different for her than they are for you.

So, her wanting a relationship -- physical or otherwise -- maybe out of her want or lack of something in her life.

Shall we focus on you for the moment? Again, what is this interest in pursuing a relationship with her or alternatively wanting to know that if she wants one, so you can initiate it?

Where are you in terms of your ‘happily married’ life?

How does your wife feel about you being so interested in another woman besides her? Or does she not have a whiff of it as yet?

Why are you sending your childhood friend porn clips? What are you seeking from her? Or are you looking for a casual fling?

Not to sound like I am judging you here, there might be a possibility of exploring something new and different which I do see in many couples that I work with.

It could be because of the missing spark or the predictability within the marriage.

What if you spiced things up within the marriage?

Will you still feel the need to seek the company of another woman on chat or in any physical or emotional manner?

What I can suggest is: pour your energies in your marriage and it is possible that you begin to de-focus from your childhood friend and have a more meaningful connection with her.

Also, I fail to understand why she is so against you mentioning other women.

Whatever funny games that you both have been playing is rather childish testing each other and get a kick out of it.

Time to grow up and focus on your core relationships and nourish it to feel more full and content from within.

Good luck!

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Hi, I am 45 years old man married with two kids. I got into relationship with a married colleague 5 years back. She got divorced. I am not sure if our relationship was the reason for the divorce. I wanted to divorce my wife and get married to my colleague. But then during pandemic I and my colleague were physically separated. Not sure if the separation helped her realise our relationship was not going anywhere or it was not right. She called and told me that I scarred her life and didn’t want to keep in touch with me. Since then I am not in touch with her. I made attempts to but she blocked me totally. She’s in the same town but I never made an attempt to forcefully meet her. She didn’t marry again so far and don’t what’s happening in her life. But I feel guilty did I spoil her life? I really love her but if I really did why did I not know where this all will end up. I don’t think I was the reason for her break up because she developed friendship with me when her marriage was not going well. I don’t know if it was error of judgment, feel so guilty about the whole situation. Since I have been in relationship with her, never had a sexual relationship with my wife and even I don’t. Don’t know if it’s my failed or failing marriage is whole reason for this . I feel terribly guilty for my ex colleague’s situation. It’s eating me up. I question my own character, am I a sexual predator? I lose my sleep about this and not able come to terms. Need your advice, do I need a see a therapist and what kind?
Ans: Dear Rajesh,
You have the choice of playing the 'victim' or move on with life accepting things for the way they are!
Why you stepped out of marriage or why your married colleague entered into a relationship with you or why she walked out of it or why she blames you.
These WHYs will only keep making you go in circles. You need answers to these only if the two of you are still going to be involved. When that chapter of your life is over, why mull over it? This is playing the 'victim', feeling sorry for yourself and feeling guilty and trying to go back in time and thinking of what you could have done to have a different outcome. As long as these WHYs help you move on, it's fine, but if it's only going to mess with your mind and send you on a wild goose chase, kindly STOP! Sexual predator as you call yourself is just a label you choose to carry after the accusation made by your colleague after she called the relationship off. So, she takes the call and then blames you and then you decide to carry the guilt for what two consenting adults decided when they were in a relationship. Quit this mindset and seriously MOVE ON!

Can you instead focus on where your life is now and what you can do to make it better?
Indulge in a new hobby and make a few new friends and be with your family that loves you. Spend time with your children who will fill your life with a lot of happiness.
Soon, when you are ready, things might open up for a new relationship then.
So release the OLD and welcome the NEW.

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Hi. I am Sumeet I am happily married. And love my wife and our two kids.I had a female friend in our engineering college I had crush on her and I have said her this. She is happily married and I am very happy for her. I was in touch with her but now some how our companies in which we work have joint ventures and we both are working on same project. Initially she was nice to me but one day, we had phot session and I decide to click one with her and I simply par her shoulder back and kept for photo click but she got too angry and I apologised to her for whole day. But then she did not talk properly henceforth. I felt I am molester and I visit psychiatrist they asked me to forget that incident and move. Now she does not talk with me nicely.i don't know what should I do.
Ans: It's understandable that this situation with your former college friend is causing you stress and confusion. However, it's important to acknowledge that touching someone without their consent, even if unintentional, is never acceptable. Even though you meant no harm, it's crucial to respect your friend's boundaries and understand her reaction.

Here are some suggestions for navigating this situation:

1. Respect your friend's boundaries: While your intentions might have been innocent, it's clear your friend felt uncomfortable with the physical contact. Respecting her boundaries and apologizing sincerely are crucial steps. It might be helpful to have a brief, direct conversation where you reiterate your apology and emphasize that you understand and respect her discomfort.

2. Maintain professionalism: Given that you're working on the same project, maintain a professional and respectful distance. Avoid initiating personal conversations or any physical contact. Focus on work-related communication and interactions.

3. Reflect on your actions: Consider seeking professional guidance from a therapist to explore your thought patterns and behaviors concerning personal boundaries. This can help you develop healthier ways to interact with others and avoid similar situations in the future.

4. Forgive yourself: Remember that while it's important to acknowledge and learn from your actions, dwelling on guilt won't be productive. Forgive yourself for the unintentional mistake and focus on moving forward with respect and understanding.

5. Focus on your marriage: Remember that you have a loving wife and family. Reinvest your energy into strengthening your relationships with them and prioritize their well-being.

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I have corpus of 60 lkh ( from several MF / ULIP etc) ... can you please guide me how to invest in SWP to get regular monthly income of Rs.60000/- from Jan 2025 My prsent age is 52.. Or you may suggest me what is good for me .. Please.
Ans: creating a stable and secure monthly income plan is achievable with the right investment strategy. A Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) can help ensure consistent income without eroding your capital too quickly. Here’s a comprehensive, 360-degree approach tailored to your needs.

Step 1: Establishing Clear Monthly Income Goals
Target Monthly Income:

Your goal is to achieve Rs 60,000 per month starting January 2025.
This translates to an annual requirement of Rs 7.2 lakh.
Inflation Consideration:

Since you’re only 52, consider a small annual increase to combat inflation.
Keeping up with inflation will ensure purchasing power in the long term.
Step 2: Setting Up a Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP)
An SWP in mutual funds can provide regular monthly income while preserving the principal amount as much as possible.

Choosing the Right Funds:

Balanced Advantage Funds: These funds adjust equity and debt exposure based on market conditions, balancing returns with risk.
Hybrid Funds: They provide a blend of stability and growth by investing in both equity and debt.
Avoiding Index Funds and Direct Funds:

Index funds lack active management, which limits flexibility in volatile markets.
Direct funds lack professional guidance, which can make it difficult to meet long-term goals effectively.
Opting for regular funds through a Certified Financial Planner ensures proper management.
Tax Efficiency:

Equity mutual funds have tax benefits if held for the long term.
Under the latest tax rules, long-term capital gains (LTCG) above Rs 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.
Short-term gains (STCG) are taxed at 20%, making long-term holding more beneficial.
Step 3: Portfolio Allocation for Monthly Income Stability
Equity Allocation:

Allocating around 40-50% to equity-oriented funds can provide long-term growth.
Equity offers potential for higher returns, which helps in beating inflation.
Debt Allocation:

The remaining 50-60% can be invested in debt mutual funds, which provide stability and predictable returns.
Debt funds will reduce risk and make monthly income more predictable.
Reinvesting Dividends:

Choose growth options within funds for better compounding.
An SWP can draw monthly amounts, making reinvestment of dividends unnecessary.
Adjusting for Market Conditions:

Your Certified Financial Planner can help adjust allocation based on market conditions.
This flexibility in allocation is especially valuable during volatile periods.
Step 4: Structured Monthly Income through SWP
Setting Up the SWP:

Begin withdrawals from January 2025 as per your need of Rs 60,000 per month.
Withdrawals can be set at a fixed date each month for consistency.
Protecting Capital:

With careful management, the SWP will sustain monthly income without depleting capital too quickly.
Regular reviews by your Certified Financial Planner will optimise your withdrawal rate to maintain capital longevity.
Step 5: Emergency Fund Allocation
Importance of Liquidity:

It’s vital to keep an emergency fund for unexpected expenses, separate from your investment corpus.
A sum equivalent to 6-12 months of expenses should be set aside in liquid funds or a high-yield savings account.
Avoiding Disruption in SWP:

By keeping an emergency fund, you avoid dipping into your SWP or investment corpus during unexpected times.
Step 6: Monitoring and Rebalancing the Portfolio
Periodic Portfolio Reviews:

Regular monitoring helps ensure the SWP is meeting your monthly income goals.
Market conditions and personal financial needs may shift over time, requiring adjustments.
Rebalancing Asset Allocation:

Rebalancing the equity and debt portions periodically helps maintain the ideal risk-return balance.
Your Certified Financial Planner can assist in rebalancing to preserve capital and income stability.
Step 7: Avoiding Common Pitfalls
Avoid High-Risk Investments:

Avoid aggressive equity investments, which could lead to losses.
Stick to a balanced portfolio that aligns with your risk tolerance.
Not Over-Estimating Withdrawal Rates:

Withdrawing too high an amount each month can deplete capital quickly.
A Certified Financial Planner can calculate a safe withdrawal rate to sustain income long term.
Avoid Direct Investments:

Direct investments lack the guidance and expertise needed for steady income.
Opt for regular funds managed by a Certified Financial Planner for a structured approach.
Step 8: Health and Life Insurance Considerations
Health Insurance Coverage:

As you approach retirement, health insurance becomes essential to cover medical expenses.
Ensure you have a comprehensive plan that meets healthcare needs without impacting your SWP.
Reviewing Life Insurance:

If you hold ULIPs or LIC investment-cum-insurance policies, consider surrendering them for better investment options.
The saved premiums can be reinvested in mutual funds to further support your SWP income.
Step 9: Future Planning Beyond SWP
Retirement Planning:

As you age, inflation will affect purchasing power. Ensure periodic reviews and adjustments to your SWP.
Discuss with your Certified Financial Planner ways to adjust income as expenses increase.
Consider Your Long-Term Needs:

Factor in potential future expenses such as medical costs or travel.
A well-planned SWP will allow flexibility for additional withdrawals if needed.
Final Insights
With a well-planned SWP, you can enjoy a steady income of Rs 60,000 per month without depleting your capital too soon. By choosing the right funds, balancing equity and debt, and consulting a Certified Financial Planner, you’ll achieve consistent income with minimal risk. Periodic reviews and adjustments will ensure your investments stay aligned with your needs, providing peace of mind in retirement.

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K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
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Hello Sir, I am Sam, I made a payment for my sbi credit card dues on 31.10.2024 but some festival session I missed out then today 04.11.2024 paid the outstanding what are the my interst and penalty my outstanding charges is rs.48000/-.
Ans: Mr. Sam. I appreciate that you took action to pay your outstanding credit card dues. Let’s address your concern step-by-step and analyse the potential penalties and interest charges you might face for the delayed payment.

Understanding Credit Card Late Payment Charges
Since your credit card due date was on 31.10.2024, and you made the payment on 04.11.2024, there is a delay of 4 days.

Most credit card companies, including SBI, charge a late payment fee if payments are not made on or before the due date. Additionally, interest charges are applied on the outstanding amount.

The fees and interest can add up quickly, especially if the outstanding amount is significant, like your balance of Rs 48,000.

Let’s break down the potential charges you could face and how they are typically calculated.

Late Payment Fee
Credit card companies usually charge a fixed late payment fee based on the outstanding balance.

For an outstanding balance like yours (Rs 48,000), the late payment fee can range between Rs 750 to Rs 1,300.

The fee depends on the bank's specific policies, so you may want to check your credit card terms or contact customer service for the exact amount.

Interest Charges on Outstanding Dues
Credit card interest rates can be quite high, typically ranging from 3% to 4% per month, which translates to an annual rate of 36% to 48%.

Since you missed the due date, the interest will be charged on the full amount of Rs 48,000 from the billing date, not just the delayed period.

Additionally, interest will also be charged on any new purchases made until the payment is fully cleared. This is known as the revolving credit interest.

Potential GST Charges
In addition to late payment fees and interest, GST (Goods and Services Tax) of 18% is applied on both the late fee and the interest charges.

This means that your overall charges will increase slightly due to this additional tax.

Summary of Expected Charges
Late Payment Fee: Approximately Rs 750 to Rs 1,300 based on your outstanding balance.

Interest Charges: Calculated on the outstanding amount of Rs 48,000 at a rate of 3% to 4% per month.

GST: An additional 18% on the total of late fee and interest.

Immediate Actions to Minimise Future Charges
Pay Off Dues Quickly: If possible, try to pay off any remaining balance immediately to stop further interest accumulation.

Contact the Bank: It may be worth calling the SBI customer service and explaining your situation. Sometimes, banks waive late fees for customers with a good payment history.

Set Up Auto-Debit Facility: To avoid missing payments in the future, set up an auto-debit from your bank account for at least the minimum due amount.

Monitor Your Statements: Regularly check your credit card statements to avoid any surprise charges. It’s crucial to stay on top of payments, especially during festive or busy periods.

Long-Term Strategies to Avoid Debt Trap
Credit cards are convenient but can lead to debt if not managed carefully. Here are some suggestions:

Clear Dues in Full: Always aim to clear the total due amount by the due date. Paying only the minimum due will result in accumulating interest on the remaining balance.

Avoid Making New Purchases on Credit: Until you clear your dues, try to avoid using your credit card for new purchases to prevent additional interest.

Emergency Fund: If possible, build a small emergency fund to handle unexpected expenses. This way, you won't have to rely on credit cards.

Use Debit Cards for Everyday Expenses: To reduce your dependency on credit, use a debit card for regular purchases. This will help you manage your expenses better.

Some Final Insights
Credit card debt can quickly spiral out of control if not managed properly. The key is to act promptly and clear your dues to avoid paying hefty fees.

Late fees, interest, and GST charges can add up, making it essential to pay attention to due dates. Even a few days' delay can be costly.

By taking proactive measures and maintaining discipline in payments, you can avoid future charges and keep your finances in good health.

If you are struggling with managing debt or financial planning, consider consulting a Certified Financial Planner to guide you towards better financial management.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
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Hi Sir, need a plan for next 5years from you to invest 50lakhs and monthly 50k.. which will give me more returns than FD.. most preferred is sharemarket mutual funds and shares .. please give me guidance
Ans: Investing Rs. 50 lakhs upfront and an additional Rs. 50,000 monthly shows your commitment to growing wealth. Your preference for share market mutual funds and stocks is a smart approach, given the goal to outperform fixed deposits (FD). Here’s a detailed strategy designed to offer you higher returns over the next five years.

1. Key Considerations for a 5-Year Investment Horizon
Since you’re targeting a 5-year period, we’ll focus on growth assets that balance risk and reward. This includes equities and mutual funds while maintaining diversification to reduce volatility.

Balancing Growth and Stability: For higher returns than FDs, equity investments are ideal. We will, however, balance these with some debt allocation to manage risk.

Using Mutual Funds Over Stocks Alone: Mutual funds offer professional management and diversification, which can be beneficial over stocks for a short 5-year window.

Focus on Actively Managed Funds: Actively managed funds can outperform the market over a medium-term horizon, as managers adjust holdings based on market conditions. This can be especially useful in a 5-year window.

2. Investment Allocation Strategy
Lump Sum Investment (Rs. 50 Lakhs)
For the Rs. 50 lakhs lump sum, we’ll use a diversified portfolio across different types of mutual funds and assets. This portfolio will be structured to balance both high growth and moderate risk.

Equity Mutual Funds: Allocate a substantial portion to actively managed equity funds. These funds are designed to capture market growth and are managed by experts to optimize returns.

Large Cap Funds: Large-cap funds are stable, as they invest in established companies. They provide resilience against market volatility, making them ideal for a 5-year period.

Flexi Cap Funds: Flexi cap funds allow the fund manager to switch between large, mid, and small caps. This flexibility can be beneficial, especially in fluctuating markets.

Mid Cap Funds: Mid-cap funds can add growth potential, as they invest in emerging companies. However, they carry higher risk, so we’ll limit exposure.

Avoid Index Funds: While index funds have lower fees, they lack active management. In a volatile market, they may not adjust in time to protect gains. Actively managed funds, on the other hand, allow for flexible adjustments to capture opportunities and avoid downturns.

Balanced Funds: Consider investing in hybrid funds or balanced advantage funds. These funds balance equity with debt exposure, adjusting allocations based on market conditions. This can provide stability and help reduce overall portfolio risk.

Debt Funds: A small portion in debt funds will add a layer of safety. Debt funds are less volatile and can cushion your portfolio during market downturns.

Monthly SIP (Rs. 50,000)
For your monthly SIP of Rs. 50,000, we’ll follow a systematic investment approach in mutual funds. This allows you to benefit from rupee cost averaging, minimizing the impact of market volatility.

Large Cap SIP: Allocate a portion to large-cap funds to build a stable core for the SIP portfolio. Large-cap funds provide steady growth and resilience.

Mid and Small Cap SIP: Allocating to mid and small-cap funds in SIP format allows you to buy more units when prices are low. These segments may experience volatility, but SIPs can mitigate some risk over the long term.

Avoid Direct Funds: Direct funds might save you on expense ratios, but they lack the guidance of a Certified Financial Planner (CFP). Regular funds through a CFP ensure that your portfolio is closely monitored, with adjustments made when necessary. This approach can help maximize returns and minimize risk, especially in changing markets.

3. Tax Considerations for Mutual Funds
To maximize post-tax returns, understanding tax implications on mutual fund gains is essential.

Equity Mutual Funds: For equity mutual funds, long-term capital gains (LTCG) above Rs. 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%. Short-term gains (STCG) are taxed at 20%.

Debt Funds: Gains from debt funds are taxed according to your income slab, regardless of holding period. A CFP can help you strategize to minimize this tax burden.

Efficient Rebalancing: A CFP can guide on tax-efficient rebalancing strategies, helping you achieve goals while keeping tax liabilities manageable.

4. Portfolio Rebalancing and Review
To keep your portfolio aligned with market conditions and goals, regular reviews are vital. Reviewing every six months or annually ensures underperforming funds are replaced.

Regular Monitoring: A CFP will review your portfolio’s performance and suggest changes as needed. This ensures you capture growth and protect gains effectively.

Adjusting for Market Trends: Market conditions can vary, so adjusting allocations based on prevailing trends can maximize returns. A CFP can make these adjustments without deviating from your long-term goals.

5. Benefits of Working with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP)
By investing through a CFP, you benefit from professional guidance, customized strategies, and ongoing support.

Expert Portfolio Management: A CFP can craft a portfolio tailored to your risk tolerance and goals, enhancing your chance of achieving optimal returns.

Strategic Adjustments: A CFP provides active fund management, timely reviews, and tax-efficient rebalancing. This ensures you maximize returns over your investment horizon.

Emphasis on Goal-Driven Investing: A CFP will ensure your investments are aligned with your specific needs, such as higher returns than FDs, by carefully selecting and monitoring funds.

Final Insights
With a strategic mix of equity, balanced, and debt funds, you can build a high-performing portfolio for the next five years. SIPs, combined with a well-diversified lump sum investment, can help you achieve steady growth and minimize risks.

A Certified Financial Planner can help guide your investments and make necessary adjustments, ensuring your portfolio remains aligned with your goals. This personalized approach can provide you with higher returns than FDs while maintaining a balanced risk profile.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

www.holisticinvestment.in
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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 13, 2024Hindi
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Sir i am in 12 lakh rupees debt.I am student .I have no earning sources and no savings also.Im my family there is my mother only.please guide sir.please help sir.
Ans: I appreciate your courage to seek help during these challenging times. As a Certified Financial Planner, I'll provide you with a 360-degree plan to help you overcome your debt. Let's work step-by-step to ease your burden.

Understanding Your Financial Situation
Your current debt of Rs 12 lakh is a significant challenge. However, with the right approach, it is possible to clear it.

Since you are a student with no current earnings, we will need to take a strategic approach to manage and eventually eliminate your debt.

It's crucial to remain calm, take control, and focus on practical solutions. We will also look at how to reduce financial stress on your mother.

Immediate Steps to Reduce Debt Pressure
Prioritise Your Expenses: Identify necessary expenses and cut down on any non-essential spending. Every rupee saved can be directed toward reducing your debt.

Speak to Your Creditors: If you have taken loans from banks or other institutions, consider reaching out to them. Many lenders offer restructuring options for those who are genuinely struggling.

Explore Moratorium Options: Some banks may provide a temporary pause on repayments. If this is available, it can provide short-term relief.

Avoid Taking More Loans: It may seem tempting to take another loan to pay off existing debt, but this can worsen your financial situation.

Seek Family or Community Support: If possible, reach out to extended family members or friends who may be able to support you, even if it's a small amount. This can help reduce the burden temporarily.

Exploring Income Opportunities
Since you are currently a student, let’s explore ways you can earn without impacting your studies.

Freelancing: Look for online freelance work in areas like content writing, graphic design, tutoring, or data entry. These are often flexible and can provide some income.

Part-Time Jobs: Explore part-time jobs in your area, such as teaching, retail work, or any other skill you possess.

Online Teaching: If you have expertise in certain subjects, platforms like Chegg or Byju’s offer tutoring jobs. This can be a good source of income.

Use Your Hobbies: If you have any hobbies like photography, painting, or crafting, consider selling your creations online. Websites like Etsy or social media platforms can help you reach buyers.

These small income streams may not solve your debt immediately, but they can ease some of your financial pressures.

Financial Relief Programs and Scholarships
Government Schemes: Check if there are any government relief schemes available for students or families with financial hardships. These could offer temporary support.

Scholarships and Grants: Since you are a student, explore scholarships, grants, or financial aid programs that may be available. This can help reduce your educational expenses.

NGO Support: Certain non-profit organisations provide assistance to families in debt. Reach out to them for any support.

Protecting Your Mother's Finances
It is essential to protect your mother from taking on more financial burdens. If your family has any LIC policies, ULIPs, or other investment-cum-insurance plans, it might be worth exploring if surrendering these can provide some cash flow.

However, consult with a Certified Financial Planner before surrendering any insurance policies. This will help you understand the financial impact and ensure you do not lose coverage unnecessarily.

Building a Long-Term Strategy
Focus on Education and Skill Development: Your education is your best asset right now. Concentrate on completing your studies and developing skills that can lead to higher-paying job opportunities in the future.

Create a Debt Repayment Plan: Once you have a steady income, create a structured plan to repay your debt. Focus on high-interest debts first.

Emergency Fund: Once you are earning, start building a small emergency fund to handle unforeseen expenses. This will prevent future debt.

Investing for Future: As you stabilise your finances, consider investing through mutual funds to build wealth. But for now, focus on reducing debt.

Some Final Insights
Overcoming debt will take time, effort, and persistence. The journey will not be easy, but it is definitely possible.

Focus on income generation, reducing expenses, and gradually paying off your debt. With determination, you can come out of this difficult phase.

Do not hesitate to reach out for help whenever needed. Financial struggles are tough, but seeking support from community, friends, or professionals can ease the burden.

Remember, every small step you take will contribute to improving your financial health. Stay strong and keep moving forward.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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