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Sid Question by Sid on May 01, 2023Hindi
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I was in a relationship for 3 months but the girl never reciprocated in the same way as i did.There was no initiative from her side but when I used to ask her why is this happening only i m trying to build but you aren't, she used to say that i was unable to see anything she is doing for me.To be very honest and being impartial if i was at level 10 she was at 1.One day on this very topic some arguments happened and she walked away.After that no message no call and she used to tell me that she loved me but she never ever tried to reach out to me.Now its been one month.I literally am feeling really gloomy.Now she is putting status and showing that to me that i was not ready to build with her i uttered wrong words to her.But honestly i am telling you that I loved her very much and tried all the ways to build with her but she never reciprocated.I still miss her a lot but she seems to moved on so easily that's hurting me too much simultaneously she is putting these statuses too What to do?

Ans: Dear Sid,

If you, even for one moment, felt that you have been putting more work into the relationship than your partner, there must have been reason to believe so. Do not doubt your concerns just because your ex tried to pin the blame on you by minimizing your worries. It's a clear sign of gaslighting. As for the statuses, some people take pleasure in making others feel unnecessarily guilty, even if the fault lies on their part. My advice would be to not pay attention to any of it. If necessary, delete her contact; a clean break might help you move on. Don't do it to show her that you have moved on, but try to move on in reality. You deserve more than half-hearted efforts.

Best Wishes!

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Dear MP,

It might be a message from her to you to move on.

It could be because of her losing trust on you. Lockdown has changed the way that we think, feel and act and most of us have had a major overhaul in our lives.

You might have to win her trust back rather than just thinking that you love her and that she must understand this.

Maybe she is still hurt which means you need to go that extra mile to rebuild your relationship.

But if she has moved on and wishes that you move on as well, kindly respect this and move on.

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Dear MP,

It might be a message from her to you to move on.

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But if she has moved on and wishes that you move on as well, kindly respect this and move on.

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Ans: Dear anonymous,
I understand how hurtful it must have been. I am sorry you were made to feel this way. No one deserves it, and least of all, you, who has been there for her at all times. I can’t tell if you were only temporary comfort for her, but I can tell that her behavior was not normal for someone in love. I would suggest waiting a little longer and if she still does not contact you, text her and let her know that you want to have a clear discussion with her about your future. If she still ignores the topic, you can directly ask her about her intentions. A direct approach is what’s needed right now. Let her know that you will not be dragged without purpose. See where things go from there. No one should be kept on the hook like this. You deserve better treatment.
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