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Rankanidhi Question by Rankanidhi on May 28, 2023Hindi
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I am 71 male. About 40 years back when I was not in a permanent job, my boss tried to exploit and black mail me. Had he succeeded, I would have no choice but to commit suicide. Fortunately I survived and prospered in my career. My family life is also happy and my two sons are well placed. However I am unable to forget his treachery. I am always thinking of this incident. Is this a sign that I am having mental disorder for which I need treatment?

Ans: Dear Rankanidhi,
So, are you looking for revenge so that you feel satisfied?
Is it too hard to look at all the good things you have and the love that you are surrounded with?

Yet you choose to talk and live that one incident so much that it is forcing you to overlook even the best things in life. Yes, you are choosing it and you are choosing it for a reason.
Instead, can you dull it out and come into the bright phase that you are in? Cherish all that has happened and live every moment with your friends and family.

Life is how we choose it and we live that reality every moment...So, you don't have a mental disorder, it's just that that one instance (treachery, as you call it), is being allowed by you to have great prominence in your mind and what you allow in your mind will grow.

When the garbage can is overflowing at home, what do you do? Do you throw more and keep it around? Do exactly the same with that 'treachery' episode what you would do with an overflowing garbage can at home.

All the best!

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Dear ma'am, I am going through a tough mental state right now. I do not know what state is this. It may be fear, lack of confidence or anything else. On 25th November 2019 I underwent surgery for anal fissure and piles. It took a long time to heal as I was suffering from constipation even after surgery. Every morning i would have a trauma like situation before going to bathroom. My stool would be hard enough to pass with blood both before and after surgery. I generally get nervous after seeing blood. In the meantime surgery has been healed. Even today I have constipation. I suffered from rhinitis like situation after surgery by consuming fruits and curd to make stool soft. feel difficulty in breathing With these medical conditions I developed a mental condition at which i always feel sick myself. No mood or energy to do anything. Fearing for life. When I wake up in midnight it gets very tough again to sleep. I sweat a lot. There is so much negative thought in my mind at night. I feel heavy in my head. I fear every sound I hear which disturbs and terrifies me. I consulted a psychiatrist 7 days ago; he told me that it is fear and lack of confidence. He has given me medicines to overcome fear. Kindly suggest ma'am at which state I am and help me. I am actually obsessed with my health and my life. Every moment I feel I would die. Nervousness grips me. I have lost weight of around 18 kg post surgery.
Ans: Dear BS, I can only imagine what you are going through and I truly hope that you feel better soon.

Fear is what can increase your physical symptoms and you will feel ill. Which is what is happening to you!

All the sounds and thoughts are a result of overworking the mind with your health and fearing the worst.

But do ask yourself: What if I have actually recovered? 

It will be good to know when this problem exactly began; what triggered it. If there is an event or a situation that caused it, then you know you might have to work on that.

Sometimes, fear makes children’s stool hard too and as doctors treat constipation, it is also necessary not to keep being fearful of it.

I know the surgery might have made it worse in the mind which is why I suggest start waking up every morning by believing that your surgery has worked and that you are fully recovered.

The simple belief instilled in your mind can work wonders by positively influencing your body to support your whole health. Also, calm the mind with meditation and exercises to keep the body supple and healthy.

To keep the stools soft, eat a lot of food that high roughage content. Slowly, you will see your mood and energy come back and feel a lot better.

All in all, believe that you are healing. Wishing you a wonderful health.

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 07, 2023Hindi
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i am going through lot of depression and anxiety. It has made me violent. i feel like killing my father . he has done 2nd marriage and has kept no assets/property for me. I am worried someday i will take law in my hand and will be behind bars or may get injured in the fight. I am 41. From last 13 years staying away from family and living on my own. Presently my health is also not well, going through lot of mental and physical illness.after thinking about the future, I think I will be on streets in future and the reason is my *b**as**rd father. Please advise how do i control my anger and depression.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Focus on what you can control and manage and in your case, it's your anger.
It is destroying you and eating away your peace of mind.

Can you change the way your father is?
Is he going to transfer his property to you?
Why should he transfer what he has earned to you?
Are you not capable of standing on your feet?
What will you get by taking law in your own hands other than have a case against your name?
What is all this anger costing you healthwise?

You know the answer to each, but this anger and disappointment within is forcing you to blame your father (even if he solely to blame), but when you can;t do anything to change, that's the time to accept, else it has begun to destroy you.

Kindly work with an expert who can help you channel your anger into something more productive and in the meantime, focus on a lot of physical activities that help displace anger. Also spend time in Nature that helps you calm the mind. And yes, seek professional help NOW!
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Hi I am very troubled with negative thoughts for quite sometime. Thoughts about putting someone down or any activity not going to go right or imaginary argumentative conversations leading to me showing down the other person keeps preoccupying my mind. Basically I am trying to show down the other person or situation and trying to win my hand or situation. It keeps me occupied majority of the time even when I am driving, taking a walk or running, eating, during meditation as well. For real events like if I have to go buy something, I imaging the seller cheating me, giving me faulty product or not charging me more etc., while in reality it may not happen and I will take a sigh of relief. I was not like this. I was a very happy, positive & optimistic as a child, throughout school, college, at work and used to be an inspiration to many. I think my ruminations have slowly commenced as I grew in age and slowly the positivity has lead to negativity & anger. I am in fifties now. I have been trying to practice Vipassana meditation, trying to get back to exercise but it is not helping. This has increase multifold as in my daily interactions, I always find people/friends poking fun of me and trying to put me down and I fight back even though knowing that it will be of no use. I am nice to my friends and people around me but they are not the same to me. Due to this I am beginning to reduce my interactions and get away from the abuse. Though I feel that I still look at everything in a positive light but the negative ruminations due to the everyday insults / slights have begun to bother me a lot and not able to have positive thoughts. Interaction with family is also suffering. Once upon a time I had many friends who I could talk to freely without prejudice but now I don't as most of them are not nice anymore even when I am very nice, positive & encouraging with them. I hope, I made some sense. Seeking help and guidance.
Ans: Dear Buddhu,
There's obviously something that has triggered you to think and act differently and that is not known here.
The best way I can suggest is: To start journaling. To write down the days events can help you decipher what's happening and what have been your reactions to events during the day. It will give you an idea on what to change.
Find and ways and means of replacing all the negative thoughts and actions during the day with something more useful. Soon, you will be in a place where journaling not only becomes a habit but also it will in a way guide you into meaningful ways during instances for the following days.
So, make that Journal your Guide.

All the best!
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Dear Sir, At present, I have Rs. 75,00,000/- in SB account. Can I earn Rs. 60,000/- per month through SWP, if I invest this amount in mutual funds.
Ans: You want to generate Rs. 60,000 per month from Rs. 75 lakh. This means you need Rs. 7.2 lakh per year.

The biggest challenge is ensuring the corpus lasts long. If the withdrawals exceed the growth rate, the money will deplete faster.

A well-planned Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) must balance growth, risk, and longevity.

Key Factors to Consider Before Investing

Inflation Impact

Expenses will rise over time.
A higher withdrawal rate today can lead to shortfall later.
Your plan should account for increasing withdrawals in the future.
Investment Risk

Mutual funds carry market risk.
Equity funds may give higher returns but fluctuate.
Debt funds are stable but may not beat inflation.
A mix of both is better.
Tax Efficiency

SWP from equity funds after one year has lower tax impact.
LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
Debt fund SWP is taxed as per your income slab.
Tax-efficient withdrawals increase corpus sustainability.
Longevity of Corpus

If your investments grow at 10% and you withdraw at 9%, funds may last long.
If growth is 8% but withdrawals are 12%, corpus may deplete soon.
A sustainable withdrawal rate is key.
Can Rs. 75 Lakh Sustain Rs. 60,000 Monthly?

If Growth is Low (6-8%)

The corpus may last for 12-15 years.
This may not be enough for long-term needs.
If Growth is Moderate (10-12%)

The corpus may last over 20 years.
A balanced approach is needed.
If Growth is High (Above 12%)

Higher returns can extend corpus life.
But market fluctuations will impact withdrawals.
Better Approach to Ensure Sustainability

Start with a Lower SWP Initially

Instead of Rs. 60,000, start with Rs. 45,000-50,000.
This gives the corpus time to grow.
Rebalance Annually

Review fund performance.
Adjust withdrawals based on market conditions.
Mix of Equity and Debt

Keep 60% in equity for growth.
Keep 40% in debt for stability.
Keep a Buffer in Liquid Funds

Maintain 6-12 months of expenses in liquid funds.
This helps avoid withdrawing in a market downturn.
Tax-Efficient Withdrawals

Use long-term capital gains benefits.
Avoid unnecessary tax outflow.
Alternative Strategies for Income Stability

Dividend Option in Mutual Funds

Some funds provide regular dividends.
But dividends depend on market performance.
Part-time or Passive Income Sources

Rental income, freelancing, or part-time work can reduce withdrawal pressure.
This helps corpus last longer.
Final Insights

Withdrawing Rs. 60,000 per month is possible but may reduce corpus life.
A balanced strategy is needed to ensure long-term sustainability.
Reducing withdrawal amount initially will help.
Regular reviews and rebalancing are important.
A mix of equity and debt ensures growth and stability.
Keeping a liquidity buffer helps during market corrections.
With the right approach, you can generate monthly income while protecting your capital.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

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I want to retire this year. I am 41. My current corpus 1.2 crore MF, 30 lakh in PF. We live with parents in our own house in Bangalore valued at Rs 1.5 crore. I have a home loan EMI of 35000 that will end in 2032. Monthly expenses 35-40k. Mu wife takes home tuitions and earns Rs 25,000 per month.
Ans: Retiring at 41 is a bold decision. You have built a decent corpus. But early retirement requires careful planning. Let’s analyse your financial situation and create a sustainable plan.

Current Financial Position
Mutual Funds: Rs 1.2 crore
Provident Fund: Rs 30 lakh
Total Corpus: Rs 1.5 crore
Home Loan EMI: Rs 35,000 per month (ending in 2032)
Monthly Expenses: Rs 35,000 to Rs 40,000
Wife’s Income: Rs 25,000 per month
House Value: Rs 1.5 crore (not considered for expenses)
You have a strong foundation. But your corpus must last for decades. Let’s optimise your investments for steady income and growth.

Key Challenges in Early Retirement
Long Retirement Period: You need funds for 40+ years.
Inflation Risk: Expenses will rise every year.
Home Loan: EMI will continue for 8 more years.
Market Volatility: Equity investments will fluctuate.
Medical Expenses: Health costs will increase with age.
A structured approach will help you retire securely.

Managing Monthly Expenses
Your expenses: Rs 35,000 to Rs 40,000 per month.
Wife’s tuition income: Rs 25,000 per month.
Shortfall: Rs 10,000 to Rs 15,000 per month.
Your investments must cover this shortfall and future expenses.

Investment Strategy for Sustainable Income
Your portfolio must balance growth and stability.

Equity Mutual Funds (40-50%)

These will provide long-term growth.
Withdraw only when needed.
Keep a mix of large-cap, flexi-cap, and mid-cap funds.
Debt Mutual Funds (30-40%)

These will provide stability and regular income.
Choose short-duration or corporate bond funds.
Withdraw from this segment first before selling equity.
Fixed Deposits & Bonds (10-20%)

Invest in FDs or government bonds for emergencies.
Avoid locking all funds in long-term deposits.
Emergency Fund (Rs 5-7 lakh)

Keep 12-18 months of expenses in a liquid fund.
This ensures you don’t sell investments during market crashes.
This strategy ensures growth, liquidity, and stability.

Handling Your Home Loan
EMI is Rs 35,000 per month till 2032.
Wife’s income covers most of it.
Instead of full prepayment, make partial prepayments.
Use surplus funds or bonuses to reduce interest.
This will free up cash flow for future needs.
Avoid using all your corpus to close the loan. Investments will generate higher returns.

Medical Insurance & Health Planning
Buy a family floater health insurance of Rs 15-20 lakh.
Ensure it includes critical illness coverage.
Consider a super top-up plan for added coverage.
Keep Rs 5 lakh in a separate medical emergency fund.
Medical costs can drain savings. A strong health cover is essential.

Tax Planning for Retired Life
Mutual fund withdrawals attract capital gains tax.
Equity LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
Debt mutual fund withdrawals are taxed as per your income slab.
Use systematic withdrawals to manage tax efficiently.
Utilise tax-free PPF withdrawals after maturity.
A tax-efficient withdrawal strategy will help maximise savings.

Income Generation During Retirement
Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) from Mutual Funds

Set up SWP from debt mutual funds for regular income.
Withdraw from equity only when markets are high.
Part-Time Work Opportunities

Your wife earns Rs 25,000 from tuition.
Consider online consulting or freelance projects.
Even Rs 10,000 extra per month can reduce portfolio withdrawals.
A small active income will make your corpus last longer.

Inflation-Proofing Your Future
Expenses will double in 15-18 years.
Keep 40-50% of your portfolio in equity for long-term growth.
Review your portfolio every year and rebalance.
Adjust withdrawals based on market conditions.
Long-term sustainability is key for early retirees.

Final Insights
Your corpus is decent, but early retirement needs discipline.
Don’t use all savings to close the home loan.
Invest in a balanced mix of equity, debt, and fixed-income assets.
Plan systematic withdrawals to manage cash flow and taxes.
Health insurance and emergency funds are essential.
Keep some part-time income to reduce financial pressure.
Revisit your financial plan every year.
A well-structured plan will help you retire peacefully at 41.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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