Should a 65 plus ( widower ) person go for a new relataionship

Ans: I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your wife. It's understandable that you're feeling lonely right now. It's important to take some time to grieve and process your emotions before making any major decisions.

If you're considering a live-in relationship or second marriage, it's important to take things slow and approach the situation with an open mind. Make sure that you communicate your intentions clearly with any potential partners and be honest about your feelings and expectations. You don't want to rush into anything and risk getting hurt.

It's also important to consider the impact that this decision may have on your relationships with your daughters. You may want to have an open and honest conversation with them about your plans and how they feel about it.

Remember, the decision to enter into a live-in relationship or second marriage is a personal one, and you should do what feels right for you. Take the time to explore your options and make sure that you're making a decision that will bring you happiness and fulfillment.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You seem to have a good set-up for yourself. The question is: Why would you want to stir things up, move away from what feels comfortable at your age?
Especially when you know that your expenses have been covered by your children, would you be willing to give up a roof over your head, leave your family and move in with her?
She does mention that she will take care of you; my suggestion is...go n experience it for a few weeks for yourself. At 77, there are a few things that you may find difficult to adjust to and you really don't need to mend backwards to adjust. At the same time, it maybe a welcome change for you to have a companion.
Talk to your children; they may resist this at first and reprimand you for having such thoughts but at the end of the day, it's your life...You can tell them that you will try the arrangement for a few weeks and then come to a decision...that will also give the lady an idea whether she is able to take on your responsibility as well. Talking about things and experiencing them are two different things. Just that, you must look ta your comfort and stability in this phase of your life before making any decisions.

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Yes, nothing says that a person cannot or should not re-marry at 42!

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Separation at any age is a very strained and emotionally draining activity. When you are younger, there is a lot of stakes on the ground which includes taking into consideration compatibility issues and then scope for considering separation for the sake of each others' sanity and for the sake of the children as well...
When you are older, usually these differences pale into the background and a general level of acceptance sets in with each partner either understanding the other or doing their own set of things without much involvement from the other. This seems wise at this age as there is a partner around you and loneliness is kept at bay and even if the two of you don't see eye to eye, at least there is another person in the house with you. Now, you may argue on this and say that it's better off without the other person as you and she have nothing in common. But you are right in thinking about whether it's necessary to go through this at your age.
You might want to think about the 'what' after that and how things will be different and if you and your wife are ready to take on a challenge like this.

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Ans: Dear Raj,
Do you have an open marriage? Is your wife aware of your wishes and supports them? If that's the case, you have your own arrangement and I don't see how what you do is anyone else's business. But if that's not the case and you are planning on doing all of this behind your partner's back, and you are asking for some kind of reassurance from me that it is okay to cheat, I can't give you any.
Hope this helps.