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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 22, 2024Hindi
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I am 52 year old female. I am a divorcee. I got married second time and it was the worst nightmare I went through. He was a hard core narcissist. I somehow stayed back for 4 years. Dont know why i kept on going back to him. It was a hard realization for me. He did everything possible to torture me and my daughter. Abuse, insults, gaslighting, manipulation, whatever one cannot imagine was done. I just hanged on coz i had nowhere to go at this age. This was an added advantage to him. He spoilt all my relationships at my back. I was completely choked living with him. But somehow I finally made some courage and left him forever not disclosing my details to anyone. I remained very isolated and moved to another city. I just ignored everything after that and blocked all his contacts. The main thing here is, it has been 4 years i came out of that relationship, got a divorce again which was very painful for me. But the thing is he has been sending messages for the last 4 years, all abusive language used. I am just ignoring things. Also i dont want to go to police or court coz I have had enough of all that throughout my life. Each time i block and ignore he uses a different number to message. Dont these people get tired doing all such things to another person. What kind of mentality is this. Because of all this I have kept myself isolated and dont mingle much with others. I lost everything Because of that man. Somehow got a job and surviving. I want to know what kind of people are these and what do they achieve doing all this. 4 years after leaving him i still keep getting messages though I maintained my privacy now.

Ans: For them, it’s about maintaining a sense of control, even if it means doing so through intimidation or manipulation. Abusive individuals with narcissistic traits are driven by an intense need for dominance, often unable to let go of those they once controlled. To them, harassment is a way of asserting that dominance, especially if they sense their target has gained any form of freedom or independence.

These behaviors stem from a place of deep insecurity masked by aggression, control, and a lack of empathy for the emotional and physical well-being of others. In their minds, harassment or abuse keeps the connection alive, no matter how destructive. Narcissistic individuals might not necessarily get tired of inflicting harm because, in a twisted way, it fulfills their need to feel powerful and in control. This behavior often extends over years for some abusers who refuse to let go.

Your resilience is remarkable, and choosing to move away and keep your details private was a courageous and necessary step for reclaiming your life. If you continue to receive these harassing messages, one option is to consider a digital harassment tracking tool, which could at least help you identify patterns or, if needed later, evidence if you ever decide to take a legal step. Some victims of abuse find that a written log of such instances can help them feel in control and serve as a reminder of their strength in managing each encounter without being drawn back in.

Building a support system slowly with people you trust or finding support groups for abuse survivors can provide comfort and encouragement, as isolation can be an unfortunate side effect of abuse. Re-engaging with supportive friends, therapy, or online communities for people recovering from narcissistic abuse could gently help you rediscover a world of safe and caring connections.

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Hi Anu, I would like to be anonymous.I got cheated by my boyfriend in my 20s and was in depression. My parents thought that it would be nice if I get married to someone who is elder to me and we'll settled.They got me a match who is 13 years elder than me. Joint family, one sister separated with her kid in the same house, one unmarried.I said yes but had the intuition that something is wrong. No one trusted me and I got married to the man. From Day 1, we were fighting. I tried to take help from my parents to get separated after a year but they didn't help me due to societal pressure. After my son born, he paid no attention towards my son and me for 7 months. But this time he told that he was busy at work. I returned to my in-laws.He tried to control everything –my friends, he restricted my social media accounts and also kept a screenshot of my conversation with my ex-boyfriend, threatening me to reveal it to my mom and dad. He also had the habit of not talking for 2-3 months in the same house. He did it for almost 10 years and pressurised me to have a second child. During my pregnancy, he yelled at me calling me mad and fought with me. He called my father and told him I am mad and sent me to my mom and dad again for delivery.Keeping my elder son for reference he tells to come back again. He doesn't provide any financial support and is threatening again with screenshots.He often checks my mobile without my permission affecting my BP. I don't know why? I lost my sleep at night for several months by now. I am not able to concentrate on anything. Negative thoughts occupy my mind. I have a kid of 1.5 years with me.Please help. I am mentally devastated. Thank you.
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Dear K,

What advice will you give a close friend if she came to you with the same problem that you have stated? Will you ask her to reconcile or keep her sanity intact?

Controlling the spouse is a classic way of coping for insecurity related issues within a relationship.

Being years older to you and having a young wife possibly might have given him goosebumps of you being attractive to people your age.

Whatever the reason, being passive aggressive and registering his insecurity through not talking for months, stalking you, monitoring your social media accounts, threatening to blackmail you with screenshots from your previous affairs; does it all sound like he is a person who you want to spend your life with?

If you still feel there is small chance and you want to, seek the help of a professional who can work with him and then the two of you to create an element of trust that is absolutely missing.

Any relationship that lacks trust, just crumbles as the foundation is weak and every little act that questions the other person’s integrity drives a further wedge.

You have a child that is dependent on you; be strong and whichever way that you choose, drive it…Inaction is what is causing you health issues, so do something NOW.

All the best and Be Strong.

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Dear Love Guru, First of all, I want to stay pretty anonymous. Secondly, it feels weird to discuss it with an unknown individual and never did I in my wildest dream thought that I would be seeking an advice. However, here I am...  The story starts when I met this individual in the UAE who is originally from UP, Saharanpur. This guy initially tried to get closer to me as much as he could and once he succeeded by becoming my close one, we just hit off pretty well. It went to point of engagement Roka. I wasn't there in India for Roka. It happened with him, his family and my parents. Everything was dreamy and nice until he started changing his behaviour towards my parents and then me, he was abusing me with money. He put me into credit card debts. I was feeling horrible. I started to revoke his access to my card, my everything, and I decided to call it a quit. In return when he understood that I am going to dump him he played his cards. As he couldn't find any cheating in my case when I was with him he decided to dig my past and started torturing me. He created a story to humiliate me at the work place and in front of people. He turned the tables by stating that I'm not dumping him rather he is. It was so heartbreaking for me. I left my job I left my life in the UAE all coz of this guy. And now after 2 months he is keeping an eye on me through to social media. Also he is trying to contact me by asking how I am. I don't understand what he wants and I am unable to recover.  Seeking your help.  Thanks. 
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Cut. Him. Off. Completely.

Block him on social media and on your cellphone. And your parents’ cellphones and their social media as well.

The guy is a con and you know it.

You should not have let his stupid rumours cost you your job and your life abroad. The truth of a situation always lets itself be known sooner or later and sometimes you have to brave it out.

I’m sorry to hear what you’ve been through, but you should freeze him out completely.

If you need to talk to someone about this at length, counselling may help.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 10, 2024Hindi
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Hi mam, I was in a relationship with a guy for 3 months he was uneducated but I’m a S.E. Initially everything was fine but later he started like u should not talk with other boys you should not go there you should not wear this kind of dress, I’m your husband so you should listen to me whatever I say u should do that like he started. Then he started mentally abused with so many bad words nd he slapped me twice. So I decided I don’t want to be in this relationship so I said him. Then he kept some fellows to follow me to check wat I’m doing where I’m going to get all these details. And then he said I will show both of our to your family, I will kill you like this he started. Now it is almost 2 year I’m leading my life but sometimes he will call me he will threaten me I don’t know what to do how to overcome this I can’t tell to my family I’m depressed can u please tell me what I have to do
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Are you married? Because he said that he is your husband...I am confused...

Anyway, NO, he has no business controlling you this way...Emotional and Physical Abuse is a strict NO NO...
Tell your family and do that NOW!!!!!!!
This man seems to be acting in a violent manner and your safety should be more of a concern...it was 2 slaps, then after that? When you did not protest for that, he simply has got the message that violence is okay with you...
No, it's not okay, right? And that's why you wrote on this platform...

Do the right thing for yourself...Protect yourself from this person first! Threats of killing you did not set off alarm bells? Why are you still letting him off so easy? This is NOT love...he is just a familiar person to you.
Familiarity does not mean Safety!!!!!! (Read this again)...

Involve your family and let him know that you are not alone; he will stop his threats knowing that you will respond to the rubbish he is subjecting you to! Speak with your family...

All the best!
Dear Anonymous,
No, Age is not so important in a marriage; but if it isn't, then why did you hide the fact of your real age? You have givem it that importance enough to hide it, yeah?
And any relationship based on lies or a hidden fact can cause damages...
The only way that I can see is work with the Counselor and appeal to your husband as well. Tell him that your child needs the love of both parents. Hear what he has to say...and yes, he is bound to bring up the age factor over and over again...it is something that he feels cheated with...so, respect it...Like I said, Apologize like you really mean it...

And oh, why are you so bothered about how he will treat other women in his life? Just focus on your life and your marriage...

All the best!
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I’m 42, working in the IT sector with an annual salary of ₹30 lakhs. My spouse also works, earning ₹15 lakhs a year, and we have two young children in primary school. We bought a house five years ago with a ₹90 lakh mortgage, and our EMI is ₹75,000 per month. We’ve been investing ₹30,000 monthly in mutual fund SIPs across large-cap, mid-cap, and ELSS funds. Additionally, I contribute ₹1.5 lakh annually to my PPF and have ₹10 lakhs in a fixed deposit. My goal is to retire by 55, but I’m unsure whether I should divert extra funds to prepay the home loan or continue aggressive investments to build a larger retirement corpus. I’m concerned about being asset-rich but cash-poor. What’s the best strategy to ensure financial freedom while managing debt?
Ans: You are in a strong financial position with a high dual income, ongoing investments, and a clear retirement goal at 55. The key challenge is balancing home loan repayment vs aggressive investments to ensure liquidity and long-term wealth growth. Here’s a structured approach:
1. Key Financial Priorities
• Retiring by 55 while maintaining financial security
• Managing the Rs 90 lakh home loan efficiently without being cash-strapped
• Ensuring liquidity for short-term needs
• Building a strong retirement corpus to sustain post-retirement expenses
2. Home Loan vs Investing -- What’s Optimal?
Your home loan EMI is Rs 75,000 per month, which is 30% of your combined take-home salary. This is manageable, but since your goal is early retirement, reducing debt before 55 is important.
• Option 1: Prepay the Home Loan Aggressively
o Prepaying reduces interest costs and provides peace of mind
o Assuming an 8% loan interest rate, prepaying Rs 10 lakh reduces the EMI burden or tenure significantly
o However, as per the old tax regime home loan interest provides a tax benefit under Section 24(b) (Rs 2 lakh deduction on interest)
• Option 2: Continue Investing Aggressively
o Historical equity returns (~12-15% in long-term equity funds) outpace home loan rates (~8%)
o Investing extra funds in mutual funds, especially in mid-cap and flexi-cap funds, could yield higher wealth
o Liquidity remains strong, unlike in home prepayments where money gets locked into an illiquid asset
Balanced Approach:
• Prepay a portion (Rs 10-15 lakh over the next 2-3 years) while ensuring you keep liquidity
• Continue investing Rs 30,000 SIPs but consider increasing it as your salary grows
• Avoid paying off the loan entirely too quickly, as investments can grow at a higher rate than your loan interest
3. Optimised Investment Plan
To retire by 55, you need a corpus that generates Rs 1.5-2 lakh per month post-retirement. Assuming you need Rs 4-5 crore by 55, here’s a plan:
• Equity SIPs: Increase to Rs 50,000/month gradually over the next 2-3 years
o Large-cap index funds (Nifty 50, Sensex): Rs 15,000
o Mid-cap funds: Rs 15,000
o Flexi-cap funds: Rs 10,000
o ELSS (for tax saving): Rs 10,000
• PPF: Continue investing Rs 1.5 lakh annually for risk-free, tax-free returns
• Fixed Deposit: Keep Rs 10 lakh as emergency corpus (or move some to liquid/debt funds for better returns)
4. Debt-Free by 55 Strategy
• Make lump sum prepayments of Rs 5-7 lakh every 2-3 years while maintaining cash flow
• Target closing the loan by 50 instead of aggressively paying it off now
• Ensure Rs 1.5-2 crore in investments by 50, so your retirement fund remains intact
5. Action Plan
• Increase SIPs from Rs 30,000 to Rs 50,000 per month gradually
• Prepay Rs 5-7 lakh every 2-3 years to reduce loan burden without sacrificing liquidity
• Keep Rs 10 lakh in fixed deposits or move to liquid funds for emergencies
• Maximise tax benefits through PPF, ELSS, and home loan deductions
This balanced strategy ensures wealth growth, manageable debt, and liquidity, helping you retire comfortably at 55 without being asset-rich but cash-poor.

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 07, 2025Hindi
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Sir I am 60 and I plan to retire in six months after a 35-year career in the public sector. I’ll receive a monthly pension of ₹50,000, but I also have a corpus of ₹1.2 crore from my provident fund, gratuity, and fixed deposits. I’ve historically preferred conservative investments and currently hold ₹40 lakhs in FDs, ₹20 lakhs in senior citizen savings schemes (SCSS), and ₹10 lakhs in tax-free bonds. I’m concerned about inflation eroding my returns over time. My spouse and I have monthly expenses of ₹40,000, but we want to ensure our savings last 25+ years while offering some growth. Should I explore balanced mutual funds, annuities, or SWPs from debt funds to balance safety and growth? What percentage of my corpus should remain in fixed income?
Ans: You have built a solid retirement corpus and a stable pension income, but considering inflation and longevity, it’s wise to balance safety with moderate growth. Here’s a structured approach:
1. Core Strategy: Balancing Stability & Growth
Your primary goals are:
• Capital Preservation
• Inflation Protection
• Regular Income
Since you have Rs 50,000 in pension and Rs 40,000 in monthly expenses, your pension alone covers your basic needs. Your investments should focus on sustaining wealth and managing inflation.
2. Portfolio Allocation (Safety vs. Growth)
Given your risk-averse nature, a 70:30 allocation between fixed income and equity could work well:
• 70% in Fixed Income (Rs 84 lakh) for Stability
o Fixed Deposits (FDs) → Rs 30 lakh (existing Rs 40 lakh can be reduced to 30 for liquidity)
o Senior Citizen Savings Scheme (SCSS) → Rs 20 lakh (already invested, good for 5 years at 8.2% interest)
o Tax-Free Bonds → Rs 10 lakh (keep as is, safe & predictable)
o Debt Mutual Funds (SWP) → Rs 24 lakh
? Invest Rs 24 lakh in a corporate bond or dynamic bond fund
? Start Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) of Rs 15,000–Rs 20,000 monthly (to fight inflation)
• 30% in Growth Assets (Rs 36 lakh) for Inflation Hedge
o Balanced Advantage Funds (Rs 12 lakh): These funds dynamically manage equity and debt, reducing risk.
o Large-Cap or Index Funds (Rs 12 lakh): Nifty 50 or Sensex funds for steady, long-term growth.
o Dividend-Yield Mutual Funds (Rs 6 lakh): Provide stable returns.
o Gold (Rs 6 lakh): Can be in sovereign gold bonds (SGBs) or gold ETFs for inflation protection.
3. Income Strategy: SWP + Interest
Your monthly pension of Rs 50,000 is enough for now, but you may need extra income later. Use:
• SCSS interest (Rs 16,000/month) + Tax-Free Bond Interest (~Rs 3,000/month)
• SWP from debt mutual funds (Rs 15,000/month from Rs 24 lakh in debt funds)
• FD interest (if needed, Rs 30 lakh in FDs can provide Rs 12,000–Rs 15,000/month)
This way, your pension covers essentials, and investments handle inflation without eroding principal.
4. Should You Consider Annuities?
• Annuities (like LIC Jeevan Akshay VII or HDFC Life Immediate Annuity) provide lifelong income but lock in money permanently.
• Since you already have a pension, you don’t need an annuity right now. But if you want to secure future cash flow, consider putting Rs 10-Rs 15 lakh in an annuity after age 70.
5. Action Plan for the Next 6 Months
• Restructure FDs: Keep Rs 30 lakh instead of Rs 40 lakh for better liquidity.
• Invest Rs 24 lakh in Debt Funds for SWP: Choose corporate bond or dynamic bond funds.
• Allocate Rs 36 lakh in Balanced/Equity Funds: Focus on inflation protection.
• Continue SCSS & Bonds: Good for stable income.
• Review Annuitization at 70: Not needed now, but worth considering later.

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 07, 2025Hindi
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Dear experts, I’m 50 now and I want to retire by the age of 60. I have saved ₹70 lakhs in mutual funds (split across equity and hybrid funds), ₹15 lakhs in PPF, and ₹10 lakhs in NPS. While I’m focused on building my retirement corpus, healthcare costs worry me. Both my parents had chronic illnesses that required expensive long-term care, and healthcare inflation is a significant concern. I currently have a ₹10 lakh health insurance policy through my employer, but I’m unsure if this will suffice post-retirement. Should I consider a super top-up plan or invest in health-focused mutual funds? Are there health plans designed specifically for retirees? How can I ensure my retirement savings are protected from unexpected medical expenses?
Ans: You're taking a prudent approach by planning for healthcare costs in retirement. Given your concerns, here’s how you can protect your retirement savings from unexpected medical expenses:
1. Enhance Your Health Insurance Coverage
Since your employer-provided Rs 10 lakh health insurance will likely end when you retire, it's crucial to secure independent coverage. Consider the following:
• Super Top-up Plan: A cost-effective way to increase your coverage. For example, you can take a Rs 25-Rs 50 lakh super top-up plan with a Rs 5-Rs 10 lakh deductible.
• Standalone Family Floater or Individual Health Insurance: Purchase a comprehensive plan for at least Rs 20-Rs 30 lakh.
• Senior Citizen Health Insurance: Some insurers offer specific plans for retirees, but these often come with higher premiums and limitations. It's better to buy a policy before you turn 55.
2. Create a Medical Emergency Fund
Set aside Rs 10-Rs 15 lakh in a liquid or ultra-short-duration mutual fund for unforeseen medical costs not covered by insurance.
3. Invest in a Health-Focused Mutual Fund?
Rather than investing specifically in a health-focused mutual fund (which is sector-specific and volatile), focus on:
• Multi-asset funds or balanced advantage funds that provide stability.
• Senior Citizen Savings Scheme (SCSS) for a secure income stream post-retirement.
• Debt mutual funds or fixed deposits for liquidity.
4. Long-Term Care Planning
• Consider critical illness insurance (covers conditions like cancer, stroke, and heart disease) as a lump sum benefit.
• Evaluate home healthcare plans that cover domiciliary hospitalization and elder care services.
Action Plan for the Next 10 Years
1. Buy a comprehensive health insurance policy (Rs 20-Rs 30 lakh) + a super top-up now.
2. Build a dedicated healthcare fund (Rs 10-Rs 15 lakh in safe instruments).
3. Diversify retirement savings—increase SIPs if possible and allocate some funds to low-risk options like SCSS or debt funds.
4. Consider critical illness insurance before you turn 55.

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Dear Sir, At present, I have Rs. 75,00,000/- in SB account. Can I earn Rs. 60,000/- per month through SWP, if I invest this amount in mutual funds.
Ans: You want to generate Rs. 60,000 per month from Rs. 75 lakh. This means you need Rs. 7.2 lakh per year.

The biggest challenge is ensuring the corpus lasts long. If the withdrawals exceed the growth rate, the money will deplete faster.

A well-planned Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) must balance growth, risk, and longevity.

Key Factors to Consider Before Investing

Inflation Impact

Expenses will rise over time.
A higher withdrawal rate today can lead to shortfall later.
Your plan should account for increasing withdrawals in the future.
Investment Risk

Mutual funds carry market risk.
Equity funds may give higher returns but fluctuate.
Debt funds are stable but may not beat inflation.
A mix of both is better.
Tax Efficiency

SWP from equity funds after one year has lower tax impact.
LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
Debt fund SWP is taxed as per your income slab.
Tax-efficient withdrawals increase corpus sustainability.
Longevity of Corpus

If your investments grow at 10% and you withdraw at 9%, funds may last long.
If growth is 8% but withdrawals are 12%, corpus may deplete soon.
A sustainable withdrawal rate is key.
Can Rs. 75 Lakh Sustain Rs. 60,000 Monthly?

If Growth is Low (6-8%)

The corpus may last for 12-15 years.
This may not be enough for long-term needs.
If Growth is Moderate (10-12%)

The corpus may last over 20 years.
A balanced approach is needed.
If Growth is High (Above 12%)

Higher returns can extend corpus life.
But market fluctuations will impact withdrawals.
Better Approach to Ensure Sustainability

Start with a Lower SWP Initially

Instead of Rs. 60,000, start with Rs. 45,000-50,000.
This gives the corpus time to grow.
Rebalance Annually

Review fund performance.
Adjust withdrawals based on market conditions.
Mix of Equity and Debt

Keep 60% in equity for growth.
Keep 40% in debt for stability.
Keep a Buffer in Liquid Funds

Maintain 6-12 months of expenses in liquid funds.
This helps avoid withdrawing in a market downturn.
Tax-Efficient Withdrawals

Use long-term capital gains benefits.
Avoid unnecessary tax outflow.
Alternative Strategies for Income Stability

Dividend Option in Mutual Funds

Some funds provide regular dividends.
But dividends depend on market performance.
Part-time or Passive Income Sources

Rental income, freelancing, or part-time work can reduce withdrawal pressure.
This helps corpus last longer.
Final Insights

Withdrawing Rs. 60,000 per month is possible but may reduce corpus life.
A balanced strategy is needed to ensure long-term sustainability.
Reducing withdrawal amount initially will help.
Regular reviews and rebalancing are important.
A mix of equity and debt ensures growth and stability.
Keeping a liquidity buffer helps during market corrections.
With the right approach, you can generate monthly income while protecting your capital.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner

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I want to retire this year. I am 41. My current corpus 1.2 crore MF, 30 lakh in PF. We live with parents in our own house in Bangalore valued at Rs 1.5 crore. I have a home loan EMI of 35000 that will end in 2032. Monthly expenses 35-40k. Mu wife takes home tuitions and earns Rs 25,000 per month.
Ans: Retiring at 41 is a bold decision. You have built a decent corpus. But early retirement requires careful planning. Let’s analyse your financial situation and create a sustainable plan.

Current Financial Position
Mutual Funds: Rs 1.2 crore
Provident Fund: Rs 30 lakh
Total Corpus: Rs 1.5 crore
Home Loan EMI: Rs 35,000 per month (ending in 2032)
Monthly Expenses: Rs 35,000 to Rs 40,000
Wife’s Income: Rs 25,000 per month
House Value: Rs 1.5 crore (not considered for expenses)
You have a strong foundation. But your corpus must last for decades. Let’s optimise your investments for steady income and growth.

Key Challenges in Early Retirement
Long Retirement Period: You need funds for 40+ years.
Inflation Risk: Expenses will rise every year.
Home Loan: EMI will continue for 8 more years.
Market Volatility: Equity investments will fluctuate.
Medical Expenses: Health costs will increase with age.
A structured approach will help you retire securely.

Managing Monthly Expenses
Your expenses: Rs 35,000 to Rs 40,000 per month.
Wife’s tuition income: Rs 25,000 per month.
Shortfall: Rs 10,000 to Rs 15,000 per month.
Your investments must cover this shortfall and future expenses.

Investment Strategy for Sustainable Income
Your portfolio must balance growth and stability.

Equity Mutual Funds (40-50%)

These will provide long-term growth.
Withdraw only when needed.
Keep a mix of large-cap, flexi-cap, and mid-cap funds.
Debt Mutual Funds (30-40%)

These will provide stability and regular income.
Choose short-duration or corporate bond funds.
Withdraw from this segment first before selling equity.
Fixed Deposits & Bonds (10-20%)

Invest in FDs or government bonds for emergencies.
Avoid locking all funds in long-term deposits.
Emergency Fund (Rs 5-7 lakh)

Keep 12-18 months of expenses in a liquid fund.
This ensures you don’t sell investments during market crashes.
This strategy ensures growth, liquidity, and stability.

Handling Your Home Loan
EMI is Rs 35,000 per month till 2032.
Wife’s income covers most of it.
Instead of full prepayment, make partial prepayments.
Use surplus funds or bonuses to reduce interest.
This will free up cash flow for future needs.
Avoid using all your corpus to close the loan. Investments will generate higher returns.

Medical Insurance & Health Planning
Buy a family floater health insurance of Rs 15-20 lakh.
Ensure it includes critical illness coverage.
Consider a super top-up plan for added coverage.
Keep Rs 5 lakh in a separate medical emergency fund.
Medical costs can drain savings. A strong health cover is essential.

Tax Planning for Retired Life
Mutual fund withdrawals attract capital gains tax.
Equity LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
Debt mutual fund withdrawals are taxed as per your income slab.
Use systematic withdrawals to manage tax efficiently.
Utilise tax-free PPF withdrawals after maturity.
A tax-efficient withdrawal strategy will help maximise savings.

Income Generation During Retirement
Systematic Withdrawal Plan (SWP) from Mutual Funds

Set up SWP from debt mutual funds for regular income.
Withdraw from equity only when markets are high.
Part-Time Work Opportunities

Your wife earns Rs 25,000 from tuition.
Consider online consulting or freelance projects.
Even Rs 10,000 extra per month can reduce portfolio withdrawals.
A small active income will make your corpus last longer.

Inflation-Proofing Your Future
Expenses will double in 15-18 years.
Keep 40-50% of your portfolio in equity for long-term growth.
Review your portfolio every year and rebalance.
Adjust withdrawals based on market conditions.
Long-term sustainability is key for early retirees.

Final Insights
Your corpus is decent, but early retirement needs discipline.
Don’t use all savings to close the home loan.
Invest in a balanced mix of equity, debt, and fixed-income assets.
Plan systematic withdrawals to manage cash flow and taxes.
Health insurance and emergency funds are essential.
Keep some part-time income to reduce financial pressure.
Revisit your financial plan every year.
A well-structured plan will help you retire peacefully at 41.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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