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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 16, 2025
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Hi i am 48 old woman my husband works overseas in Dubai, i am fit and good looking and men always try to approach me but i pay no attention. In my workplace a young intern 18 years joined our office. I was assignes to guide and mentor him and he started spending time together. Now the boy says he loves me and he wants to take me for a movie date. I also seem to like him a lot but denied showing him i like him. Last week it was his birthday and he asked me to go for coffee i agreed during which he said he really loves me and kissed me also although i dont admit i also started liking him. my husband is overseas and i miss physical satisfaction. Now the boy asked if we can go to mussorie over the weekend, shall i go what if my husband finds out please advice i dont want to hurt my husband but also like my young office colleague also shall spending 2-3 days togther wrong ???

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Guys that age are still confused handling emotions and it does take a while for them to understand the difference between lust and love.The boy maybe infatuated with you and you don't want him dealing with his 'mommy' issues. You cannot take care of him like he would want a mother to and you end up parenting him. Even if you wish to argue this and call it love, how are you going to be able to manage your husband and your family.

It is understandable that you have your 'needs' BUT surely you can come up with other ways of handling it, right? Take charge of this being the older and wiser person and stop this before it becomes a challenge. The boy has a life ahead of him to explore lust, love, responsibility etc...let him do that on his own time and pace...

Talk to your husband and tell him about how lonely you have begun to feel without his presence and how much you miss sex. The two of you surely can figure something out, yeah?

All the best!
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