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Din Question by Din on Dec 31, 2023Hindi
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I am 43 years male. Got married at the age of 38. My marriage last hardly 2 years. From 3-4 years we love separately. She always use to fight for small small reasons. Some time without reasons. Always check use to check my mobile and doubt on me. I cougt her chatting with some stranger. After asking telling her that person is her well wisher.. i doubt on her. She alway hide many things. Never openup and ahare anything. She used to lie with me. I caught her many times about this. I asking her for divorce but she is not ready for.. she still wants to stay with me.. but i don't like her now...pls guide.

Ans: It takes two people to stay in a marriage. If you want out, she cannot stop you. File for divorce if you want to — you don’t need her permission to do so.
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If i filed for Divorce from my side, do i need to pay alimony. If yes, how can i proceesed for. What prcess u suggest me to follow or take care any point for smoother transition

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I am 33 year old and my wife is 2 year elder than me, we married in 2014 and we have a son who is 5 year old. But i noticed from last 6 years she didn't interested in me. I tried a lot to make her smile many times i do what she want, even if i do something i want she never be so happy. I done a conversation with her a lot about that but she said she is not fit, she always think about her anxiety and cervical issue. We hardly do sex sometimes maybe once in a month, she never ask me to do, she try to hide her feelings her lot i ask many times to be open. She just show anger on me many times on small topics, even she picks issues and those are very small. I ask already do you like to take divorce then tell me, but she didn't replied and angry again. She just give a excuse that i am not well having cervical pain, even we go to many doctors. Many times she is watching reels and Kdramas she keep ignoring me. What should i do ? Sometimes i think i should find someone outside for my happy life ? Because like that i kill my feelings and myself i think that because this is not compromise for family as i think ?
Ans: It is sad to hear that you are experiencing this in your marriage. It's important to understand that a lack of interest or intimacy in a marriage can have many different causes, including physical and emotional issues. It's also important to remember that communication is key in any relationship, and it sounds like you have tried to have conversations with your wife about your concerns.

However, it's also important to recognize that if you are feeling unfulfilled and unhappy in your marriage, seeking intimacy outside of the marriage is not a solution. Infidelity can cause irreparable damage to a relationship and can also be emotionally devastating for all parties involved.

Instead, I would encourage you to continue to communicate with your wife about your concerns and explore different ways to address the issues that you are experiencing. This may involve seeking counseling or therapy together, or it may involve taking steps to address any physical or emotional issues that are impacting your wife's interest in intimacy.

Ultimately, the decision to end a marriage is a deeply personal one that should be made after careful consideration and with the guidance of a professional counselor or therapist. If you feel like your needs are not being met in your marriage and you are considering divorce, I would encourage you to seek the support and guidance of a qualified professional to help you navigate this difficult process.

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 15, 2023Hindi
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Hello, I have been married from 15 yrs. I have a 9 yrs old son with me. In oct 21 my wife (age 38) started making REELS on insta of the facial acting. She got involved and told me that she is just doing for followers and like. People used to comment good and bad which i didnt like. She was trying to make young guy friends. In april 2022 she had an affair with a 22-year-old boy who was not even financial stable. I could she changes in her every day. In June 2022 I caught her and she confess that she did affair and also done physical relationship. I had unconditionally loved her all these years and didn’t wanted to let her go. Also, didn’t wanted to hurt my son by taking a divorce. That guy refused to keep my son and their relation broke, but my wife still loved him and missed him. Few months she was in depression and I took her upmost care and swallowed what she did. I just told her that please come back to our life as you were before but she was not getting back. There used to be few quarrels, she was just staying alone within herself and I never felt that love which she used to give me. Later in feb23 there was a marriage at her family and I agree to go with her so she may get that feel during our times and she promised me to enjoy the marriage and make love with me. But she was happy with her relative and didn’t even bother to make that love and affection with me. from that time, I used to get angry and fight with her. I went into depression. In May 2023 she was getting worst and one day fight increased and I asked her to leave my house which I wasn’t intentionally wanted to. She left and went missing 24 yrs and then called from her mom mobile who was in her village, since she didn’t come back home and from last two month, she has been asking me money for herself and says it’s her rights. She doesn’t bother for my son and just show that she loves him. She works and stay with woman from 6 months and I’m looking after my son all alone. I told her u can work but just come home and make things better for my son. Her conditions is to give money security (money) then only she will return. All my family says she is just behind money and doesn’t care what I and my son is going through. She is not guilt for what she did. 15 yrs of marriage has been ruin and now she has no shame at all. She talks rudely if i dont send her money and now I refused sending her. Please advice what do I do now.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You seem to have done a lot to try and get her back. What can you do if she doesn't want to acknowledge your efforts or appreciate what family life is! One would imagine that a child in the equation may bring about a change in heart but that doesn't seem to be the case here at this moment.
Your family members are right in their mind about the way that see your wife as they have been observing how this has impacted you and your son.
Either you wait for her to come to her senses OR simply learn to live life without her. If the outside world of social media is what seems to satisfy her, no matter what you do, she will be dissatisfied and unhappy. This only means that she has to learn and appreciate what she has with you and your son.
It is also possible that she has been disinterested in the marriage for a while now and has been seeking approval and validation from people on social media. Even if this is the case, being angry with you is understandable BUT what about her own child? What makes her not want to deal with that reality? If you need an answer to this, simply WAIT and WATCH without begging her to come back...That will give you an idea as to where her mind is and then decide on the future course...

All the best!

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 30, 2023Hindi
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Hi, I am married from last 15 year, having a daughter , my realtion with my wife is very bad, she is like this since start of marriage, our is arrange marriage. She didn't want any kind of responsibility, she always want to go out and if possible do shopping, if I asked not to over spend she thinks not sure what and create scene. She fight with everyone even in office or with her parents, she blames other for all this, never ever think she can be wrong, she is having a feeling if you correct her , she not going to like it, she will say no need to teach me , I know. She even not hving very good relationship with my daughter, she is in class 10th and staying in baording. I am hving 2 flat just like jodi flat adjacant to each other, i am staying in one and she is in another , she hardly let me hv sex, but she talks or chat with stranger whole night, i try to question her but she started fighting, she didn't listen and do what ever she want, if u question she will fight, i really don't know how to handle this situation, I am feeling trapped and she is accusing me for all the mess. We had fight lots of time , we abused each other during fight a lot , but the problem still persist nothing changed in 15 years recently after fight i stop talking with her . Not sure how I should move forward , i talked with my daughter and she also suggesting me leave her for some time she will realize , should i go for divorce or how to move forward.
Ans: I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult time in your marriage.
It's important to remember that ultimately, the decision to stay in or leave a relationship is up to the individual. Here are some things you can do to help you move forward:

1. Seek professional help: Consider seeing a therapist or counselor who can help you work through your feelings and provide guidance on how to move forward.

2. Take care of yourself: Make sure you're taking care of your own physical and emotional needs. This can include getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, and engaging in activities that you enjoy.

3. Set boundaries: If your wife's behavior is causing you distress, it's important to set boundaries. This can include setting limits on spending, or establishing rules around communication.

4. Consider couples therapy: If you're both willing, couples therapy can be a helpful way to work through issues in your marriage and improve communication.

5. Think about your options: If you're considering divorce, it's important to think carefully about your options. Consider speaking with a lawyer who can provide guidance on the legal aspects of divorce.

Remember, every situation is unique, and there's no one-size-fits-all solution. Take the time to consider your options and make the decision that's best for you and your family.

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I am working in a central psu and my wife works for state govt and both are 48 yrs. We are married for 20 yrs and have 2 sons (20 &16). She is never expressive nor vocal, because of this our marital relationship have not seen even a single day of happiness. Her parents never ever made her realised that problem can be from her side too nor asked me even a single time whats is bothering me. She is over ambitious in her job and neglects everything in the personal life. This negligence started from the day 1 of the married life. She never try to understand the problem and reasons behind and just ignore and move ahead. This makes life miserable and likewise 20 yrs passed.. Its like when sons are moving out of home, I feel very much alone and sometimes feels to runaway from life...She dont show any emotions, giving the reasons that its her nature...She says loves me, but whats that love which is not felt by me for a single day...I wanted a wife not a nurse.. What to do....I lost my hope of life.
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I am currently 18 year. Currently i have a income of 60k per month for only 2 years and i have loan for 60 thousand also i have to do college for 4 years which cost me 4.5 lakh. Please suggest me where should i diversify the rest of amount for financial freedom
Ans: It's impressive to see you thinking about financial planning at such a young age! Let's craft a strategy to make the most of your income and set you on the path to financial freedom.

Given your monthly income of 60,000 rupees and a loan of 60,000 rupees, it's essential to prioritize debt repayment to avoid unnecessary interest costs. Allocate a portion of your income towards clearing the loan as soon as possible.

For your college expenses totaling 4.5 lakhs over four years, consider setting up a separate savings account or investment vehicle specifically for this purpose. Since your college tenure is relatively short-term, opt for low-risk options like fixed deposits or debt mutual funds to ensure the safety of your principal amount.

Now, for the remainder of your income, it's crucial to focus on building a strong financial foundation for the future. Consider diversifying your investments across different asset classes to mitigate risk and maximize returns over the long term.

Since you have a relatively short investment horizon of two years for your income, opt for safer options like fixed deposits, recurring deposits, or short-term debt mutual funds. These investments offer stability and liquidity, making them suitable for achieving your financial goals within the specified timeframe.

As you progress in your career and your income grows, consider gradually shifting towards more aggressive investment options like equity mutual funds or stocks to build wealth over the long term. However, ensure you have a solid understanding of these investment vehicles and seek guidance from a Certified Financial Planner before venturing into them.

Remember, the key to financial freedom lies in disciplined saving, prudent investing, and continuous learning. Start early, stay focused on your goals, and you'll pave the way for a secure and prosperous future.

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Hello Madam, please review & advise on my mutual fund portfolio. SIP of 5000 each in UTI Nifty 50 index fund, Parag Parikh flexicap, Quant flexi cap & 3000 each in ICICI Midcap 150 index fund & Kotak large 7 midcap fund. All Started since 4 months, current age 42 & can do SIP for 2-3 years & plan to keep the accumulated amount as it is for next 5 years. I have some investments in equity shares(25%), SGB(25%) & FD's(50%) as well. Expecting to retire in next 6-7 years. Thanks
Ans: It's great to see you diversifying your investments through mutual funds. Let's review your portfolio and provide some guidance.

Starting with your SIPs, investing 5000 each in UTI Nifty 50 index fund, Parag Parikh flexicap, and Quant flexi cap offers a balanced approach across different market segments. These funds provide exposure to large-cap, flexi-cap, and multi-cap segments, respectively, allowing for diversification and potential growth opportunities.

Adding 3000 each in ICICI Midcap 150 index fund and Kotak large & midcap fund introduces exposure to mid-cap stocks, which have the potential for higher growth but also come with increased risk. Given your investment horizon of 2-3 years for SIPs and plans to keep the accumulated amount for the next 5 years, it's essential to monitor these funds closely, considering the market conditions and fund performance.

It's commendable that you have investments in equity shares, Sovereign Gold Bonds (SGBs), and fixed deposits (FDs) as well. This diversification helps spread risk and aligns with your retirement goals.

Considering your current age of 42 and the plan to retire in the next 6-7 years, it's crucial to regularly review and rebalance your portfolio to ensure it remains aligned with your financial objectives and risk tolerance.

As you approach retirement, consider gradually shifting your portfolio towards more conservative investments to protect your capital and generate stable income streams.

Overall, your mutual fund portfolio seems well-diversified, considering your investment horizon and retirement goals. However, it's advisable to periodically reassess your portfolio and make adjustments as needed based on changing market conditions and personal circumstances.

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 24, 2024Hindi
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Dear sir, I am 56 years old with monthly expenses of 50000 rs with no loan pending. I have total family corpus including fd,mf and shares as 3 cr I want to leave my job with current CTC of 30 lacs. I will spend 40 lacs on my daughter's marriage. I will get small pension of 10000 rs Can I leave my job and do social work which I really enjoy
Ans: It's wonderful to hear that you're considering pursuing your passion for social work! Let's assess your financial situation to see if it supports your decision.

With a monthly expense of 50,000 rupees and no pending loans, you seem to have a manageable lifestyle. Your family corpus of 3 crores, including fixed deposits, mutual funds, and shares, provides a strong financial foundation.

Considering your daughter's upcoming marriage, allocating 40 lakhs from your corpus for the wedding is a thoughtful gesture. However, it's essential to ensure that this withdrawal doesn't significantly impact your long-term financial security.

Your small pension of 10,000 rupees per month adds to your income stream, albeit modestly. While it may not cover all your expenses, it can contribute towards your monthly needs.

Given your financial position and your desire to pursue social work, leaving your job with a current CTC of 30 lakhs is feasible. However, it's essential to have a detailed financial plan in place to ensure you can sustain your lifestyle and continue your social work without financial strain.

Before making the transition, consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner to evaluate your retirement income sources, investment portfolio, and potential income-generating opportunities in social work. They can help you create a comprehensive financial plan that aligns with your goals and aspirations.

Remember, pursuing your passion for social work can be immensely rewarding, both personally and professionally. With careful planning and prudent decision-making, you can embark on this new chapter of your life confidently.

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I am 52 years and currently me and wife earn around a crore per annum. Our PF and NPS savings are currently at around 2 crores. I expect to work for around 4 more years after which both of us want to retire. My monthly expense is currently around 1.5 to 2 lakhs per month and I would like to maintain the same kind of lifestyle. I have a rental income of around 65k per month and have savings & property that can take care of my children's marriages. I have an own house to stay. Over and above this I have around 60 lakhs in stocks/mutual funds and ULIP, 50 lakhs of bank balance and 70 lakhs of loan. Unable to decide what to do with the housing loan and also for pension
Ans: It sounds like you've built a solid financial foundation, and you're in a good position to plan for your retirement. Let's address your concerns about your housing loan and pension.

Regarding your housing loan of 70 lakhs, it's essential to evaluate the interest rate and the impact on your overall financial health. If the interest rate is relatively low, and you have the means to continue servicing the loan comfortably, you might consider keeping it until its term ends. However, if the interest rate is high or if you prefer to reduce debt before retirement, you could explore options like prepaying the loan partially or fully, depending on your financial situation and goals.

As for pension planning, since you're looking to retire in about four years, it's crucial to ensure you have a reliable source of income to sustain your lifestyle post-retirement. With your PF and NPS savings totaling around 2 crores, you already have a significant retirement corpus. Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner to optimize your investment strategy and maximize your retirement income.

Given your rental income, savings, and investments, you're in a good position to maintain your current lifestyle even after retirement. However, it's essential to have a diversified retirement income strategy that includes a mix of annuities, systematic withdrawal plans, and other investment vehicles to ensure financial security in your golden years.

Continuously reassess your financial plan as you approach retirement to make any necessary adjustments based on changing circumstances and goals. With careful planning and prudent decision-making, you can enjoy a comfortable and fulfilling retirement ahead.

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Hi, I earn 1.5 lakh/month. I want to know what all investment should i do in balanced form(PPF, NPS, SIP). I majorly want to know what mutual fund to pick for long term (kind name the fund i should pick). Also I have 15lakh lumpsump in acc, so where should i invest it for better return
Ans: It's great to see you taking a proactive approach to your finances. With your monthly earnings of 1.5 lakh, you're in a good position to build a balanced investment portfolio. Let's explore your options!

Starting with mutual funds for the long term, it's wise to consider actively managed funds recommended by a Certified Financial Planner. These funds offer the potential for higher returns compared to index funds, which may be limited in growth.

For a balanced approach, you could allocate your investments across different types of mutual funds, such as large-cap, mid-cap, and small-cap funds. This diversification helps spread risk while maximizing growth potential.

Now, regarding your lump sum of 15 lakhs, you have several options for investment. You could consider investing in a mix of mutual funds, including equity funds for long-term growth and debt funds for stability. Alternatively, you might explore other investment avenues like Public Provident Fund (PPF) or National Pension System (NPS) for tax benefits and retirement planning.

When choosing mutual funds, look for those with a proven track record of delivering consistent returns over the long term. Consider factors like fund performance, fund manager expertise, and expense ratios before making your decision.

Remember, it's essential to align your investments with your financial goals, risk tolerance, and investment horizon. Regularly review and rebalance your portfolio as needed to ensure it remains on track to meet your objectives.

By investing wisely and staying disciplined, you can work towards building wealth and securing your financial future.

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 25, 2024Hindi
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I am 24 years old and I want to start investing in SIPs. I want to retire by the age of 40. Considering that I had budget of 15k which I can push in every month into SIPs and I can increase the amount by 10% every year, which funds would be appropriate to achieve my goal?
Ans: Starting early and having a clear goal like retiring by the age of 40 is a great ambition! Let's tailor an SIP investment plan to help you achieve this objective.

With a budget of 15,000 rupees per month for SIPs, you're off to a strong start. By increasing this amount by 10% each year, you're leveraging the power of compounding to maximize your returns over time.

Considering your goal of early retirement, it's important to prioritize funds with a higher growth potential while also managing risk. Since you're not keen on index funds, let's focus on actively managed funds recommended by a Certified Financial Planner.

Look for equity mutual funds with a proven track record of delivering consistent returns over the long term. These funds typically invest in a diversified portfolio of stocks across various sectors, which helps spread risk.

Given your long investment horizon, you can afford to take on a slightly higher level of risk. Consider allocating a significant portion of your SIP investments to mid-cap and small-cap funds, which have the potential to generate higher returns over time.

Additionally, it's essential to maintain a balanced portfolio by including some large-cap funds for stability and downside protection during market downturns.

Regularly review your investment portfolio and make adjustments as needed to stay on track towards your retirement goal. As your income grows over time, consider increasing your SIP contributions to accelerate your wealth accumulation.

Remember, achieving early retirement requires discipline, patience, and a well-thought-out investment strategy. Stay focused on your long-term objectives, and you'll be well on your way to financial independence by the age of 40.

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 25, 2024Hindi
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Sir I am currently a student working as pg resident in government college l. My monthly stipend is 70000 of which I want to use 60000 in investment for upcoming future. I want to continue doing it for 3 years and if I get help from yours kind suggestion I will continue to do so. Humbly request you to guide me sir ????????
Ans: Your proactive approach towards financial planning while still a student is commendable. Let's craft a plan to make the most out of your stipend and set a strong foundation for your future.

With a monthly stipend of 70,000 rupees, allocating 60,000 towards investments is a smart move. Over three years, this disciplined approach can yield significant results.

Since you're still in the early stages of your career, investing in yourself should be a priority. Consider setting aside a portion of your investment for further education or skill development that could enhance your earning potential in the future.

For the remaining portion, explore investment options that offer a balance of growth potential and stability. Since you're not keen on index funds, you could opt for actively managed funds recommended by a Certified Financial Planner. These funds have the potential to generate higher returns over time.

Additionally, consider diversifying your investment portfolio to mitigate risk. Look into options like mutual funds, stocks, or even starting a small SIP (Systematic Investment Plan) in equity or debt instruments.

As you continue your residency and progress in your career, revisit your investment strategy periodically to adjust it according to your changing financial goals and risk appetite.

Remember, consistency is key. Stick to your investment plan diligently, and you'll likely see the benefits over the long term.

Your commitment to financial planning at this stage bodes well for your future financial well-being. Keep up the good work!

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K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 27, 2024Hindi
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Hi, I am 38 and my monthly earning is around 2.5 lakhs. I have a couple of personal loans with emi of 58k, 24k respectively. And my monthly living and essential expenses around 85k. How can I achieve retirement fund of 3.5 crores? Kindly suggest a financial plan to achieve it. FYI, I have 2 school going kids. And I need to plan for their higher education.
Ans: Achieving a retirement fund of 3.5 crores might seem daunting, but with careful planning and discipline, it's definitely feasible. Given your current situation, here's a tailored financial plan to help you reach that goal.

Firstly, let's address your existing loans. It's crucial to prioritize paying off high-interest debt like personal loans to free up more funds for saving and investing. Consider strategizing to clear these debts as soon as possible.

Next, let's focus on your monthly expenses. Your essential expenses seem reasonable, but it's always wise to review and see if there are areas where you can cut back without compromising your family's well-being.

Now, let's talk about investing. With a monthly earning of 2.5 lakhs, you have a good base to start building your retirement corpus. Instead of index funds, which might have limitations, you could consider actively managed funds through a Certified Financial Planner. These funds have the potential to outperform the market and maximize returns for your retirement.

Given that you have two school-going kids, it's essential to plan for their higher education expenses as well. Look into setting up separate investment vehicles for their education fund, such as mutual funds or education savings plans.

Consistency is key. Stick to a disciplined savings and investment strategy each month. As your income grows over time, consider increasing your investment contributions to accelerate your retirement savings.

Lastly, don't forget about insurance. Ensure you have adequate life and health insurance coverage to protect your family from unforeseen circumstances that could derail your financial plans.

Remember, achieving your retirement goal requires patience and perseverance. Stay focused on your long-term objectives, and you'll steadily progress towards financial security.

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K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
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My pension per month is 1.25 lakhs which is indexed to inflation as per the state government rules through the payment of dearness allowance from time to time. The pension also gets revised upwards every ten years. I donated all my savings, about two crores, to my sons who are well placed in company jobs. Now my saving is meagre, only a few lakhs. I am now 72 years old and live with my wife who is 10 years younger. I am also reasonably healthy. After my death, my wife will get family pension which will be about 70 percent of my pension. I also save 70 per cent of my pension and every few years I donate the saved amount to my sons. I don't have any insurance cover. My question is whether I should go for financial planning?
Ans: Given your current financial situation and lifestyle, it's understandable to contemplate the need for financial planning at your age. While you have a stable pension income and have transferred your savings to your sons, it's essential to consider several factors:
1. Life Expectancy: Although you're reasonably healthy now, it's crucial to plan for unforeseen health expenses and potential long-term care needs as you age.
2. Estate Planning: Ensure your estate planning is in order to facilitate a smooth transfer of assets to your wife and heirs after your passing. This includes creating a will, assigning beneficiaries, and considering the implications of any existing debts or liabilities.
3. Insurance Coverage: While you may not require life insurance at this stage, consider the benefits of health insurance to cover medical expenses. Evaluate your options based on your health condition, affordability, and coverage needs.
4. Legacy Planning: Since you regularly donate a portion of your pension to your sons, consider how you want to leave a legacy for future generations. Explore charitable giving options or setting up trusts to support causes close to your heart.
5. Long-Term Financial Security: Although your pension is indexed to inflation and you have a family pension for your wife, assess whether additional sources of income or investments are necessary to ensure long-term financial security and maintain your desired standard of living.
6. Consult with a Certified Financial Planner: Consider consulting with a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) who can assess your financial situation, goals, and concerns. A CFP can provide personalized recommendations and strategies to optimize your finances, plan for the future, and address any potential gaps in your financial plan.
Financial planning can provide peace of mind and help you navigate the complexities of retirement, estate planning, and legacy considerations. Even with a stable pension income, it's wise to proactively manage your finances to ensure you and your wife have a secure and comfortable retirement.

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 22, 2024Hindi
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I am 50 years old .i want to invest in SIP.In which fund should I invest to take good return like 50 lakh and how much invest
Ans: As a Certified Financial Planner, I commend your decision to invest in SIPs at 50 years old. Investing systematically can help you achieve your financial goals over time. Here's a strategy to aim for a corpus of 50 lakhs:
1. Assess Investment Horizon and Risk Tolerance: Considering your age, investment horizon, and risk tolerance, opt for a balanced approach. Allocate a portion of your investments to equity funds for growth potential and the remainder to debt funds for stability.
2. Diversify Portfolio: Choose a mix of equity and debt mutual funds to diversify your portfolio and manage risk effectively. Select funds with a proven track record of consistent performance and aligned with your investment goals.
3. Calculate SIP Amount: To reach a corpus of 50 lakhs, calculate the SIP amount required based on your expected rate of return and investment horizon. Use an online SIP calculator or consult with a financial advisor for personalized guidance.
4. Consider Asset Allocation: Balance your asset allocation based on your risk appetite. While equity funds offer growth potential, debt funds provide stability. Adjust your allocation based on market conditions and your financial goals.
5. Regular Reviews and Adjustments: Periodically review your SIP investments to ensure they remain aligned with your objectives. Make adjustments as needed based on changes in market conditions, your financial situation, and investment goals.
6. Stay Disciplined: Consistency is key to achieving your investment goals. Commit to investing regularly, regardless of market fluctuations, and avoid making impulsive decisions based on short-term movements.
7. Consult with a Certified Financial Planner: Consider seeking professional advice from a CFP who can provide personalized recommendations based on your financial situation and goals. A CFP can help you create a comprehensive financial plan and navigate the complexities of investing.
By following these steps and staying disciplined, you can work towards building a corpus of 50 lakhs through SIPs while managing risk effectively.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

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