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I am 41 years old , my wife is 36 years old and we are happily married. I am an early riser and love sleeping early/ waking up early. However my wife loves sleeping late/ waking up late. Due to this we do have constant fights/arguments. Even from a health point of view it is advisable to sleep early but my wife constantly mentions that for 30 years + she has been following this routine and it is difficult to change. Please advise what can be done. We have no other issues related to marriage.

Ans: Dear G,
Each person has a rhythm that their body follows; so in my experience, it's perfectly fine for either of the spouses not to both be early risers or late sleepers...
I guess keeping this in mind, you both must address real issues at hand rather than try to change each other after all these years.
What issue crops out of her sleeping late and what issue crops out of you sleeping early? Address this instead of finding ways of changing her sleeping schedule to suit yours. I am sure you wouldn't want to change your sleep routine to sitting up late, would you?
Yes, early bed, early to rise....but lately sleep experts are beginning to study that sleep cycles vary from person to person. She may want to try a new sleep cycle but it will take time and she may not want it; respect it!
Work around it, especially if your marriage is thick and fine. This is just a small issue in a beautiful marriage that you already are in!
Best wishes!

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Hi Anu, I am 45 year old and married from last 16 years and having 15 year old daughter . My Wife and I didn't have a good relation, We fight a lot, not sure what ever I speak she didn't like it and some how converted into argument , My wife is 10 year younger to me , I used to have good sex life at-least few year back, but relation was not good that time too, some how she is either having feeling of superiority or not sure what , She always blames me or my daughter if any things happen, she didn't ready to accept that she can be wrong . Previously even we used to have fight but overall things was fine , she used to generally fight but some how we do makeup after fight , now situation is out of control, she didn't accept her mistake and try to blame me for all the problem , she do over spend and if I try to control she start fighting, I think she just fight for what ever things she need for her selves , but always criticized / blame other , She pick up fight very easily with any one , She even fight a lot with our daughter . Even daughter some time suggest to go separate road than only she will understand , I try to go for concealing but no help , there also when used to discuss problem she hardly listen , even Councilor told her she must develop habit to listen others but nothing improve, I am not sure how to tackle this , She always sleep alone and if any disturbance she create ruckus , she want the things her own way if not than she can't tolerate . I am not sure but I need help here and problem after covid is more now , I try to manage these things previously but looks I don't have patience to handle this any more, I didn't like people blaming for no reason, it looks some time after doing so much for family I am nothing for my family and it is hurting me more. I will not say that I didn't fight , I do and mainly when I feel broken I shout on her and some time asked her to live the house , This may be as she always says she is looking for some one once she find she will leave the house , She always give threat and always say she didn't love me , She didn't find me attractive enough . She try to create environment where I should feel that I am not important person as well as social , I can write 10 more page around this but wanted to have some solution , not sure what could be best here . I wrote previously too but have not got any response yet.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I suggest that the two of you go and see a marriage therapist. This is not simply the job of a counselor; there is clearly a breakdown in the way your marriage is functioning...it needs both of you to build the marriage back again and the therapist will be able to see and review both sides and suggest/guide you two correctly.

10 or 20 pages are not going to help; what will help is that both of you sit down and think of why you are married and what you can do to rebuild it. Blaming her or yourself isn't anyway going to help...Rather than listing down each others' faults, try to work at this.

All the best!

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Hi everyone, I'm Prem, a 21-year-old pursuing higher education abroad, planning to settle in India in 7-8 years. My goal is to beat the inflation & to accumulate at least 2 crore rupees over the next 15 or 20 years through monthly SIPs of 6,000 rupees for the initial 2 years, increasing to 8,000 rupees thereafter. I have a moderate-to-high risk tolerance(60/40 60-safe;40-risky) and am comfortable with market volatility. I'm seeking advice on a diversified investment strategy to achieve my goal, including fund recommendations and tax-efficient approaches. Any specific tips on maximizing returns and minimizing risk would be greatly appreciated.
Ans: It is inspiring to see a young investor like you with clear financial goals. Planning for Rs. 2 crore in 15-20 years through disciplined SIPs is achievable with the right approach. Here’s a detailed, 360-degree plan to align with your goals and risk profile.

Set a Strong Foundation
Goal Clarity: Your goal is to accumulate Rs. 2 crore. This is a long-term goal. The timeline allows you to leverage equity's compounding potential.

Investment Tenure: A 15-20 year horizon suits your moderate-to-high risk tolerance. This provides time to recover from market corrections.

Risk Tolerance: A 60/40 risk allocation (safe/risky) is balanced. It provides growth while limiting downside risks.

SIP Strategy
Start Gradually: Begin with Rs. 6,000 monthly for the first two years. Increase to Rs. 8,000 thereafter. Periodic increases (step-up SIPs) every year or two will help.

Allocation Split: Invest 60% in equity funds for growth and 40% in debt funds for stability. This aligns with your risk profile.

Equity Fund Allocation
Large and Mid-Cap Funds: These funds offer a blend of stability and growth. They are suitable for moderate risk-takers.

Flexi-Cap Funds: They provide diversified exposure across market caps, reducing concentration risk.

Small-Cap Funds: Allocate a smaller portion here. Small caps have higher growth potential but also higher volatility.

Debt Fund Allocation
Hybrid Funds: These funds maintain a balance between equity and debt. They are less volatile and provide steady returns.

Short-Duration Funds: Suitable for stable returns in volatile markets. These can be part of your low-risk portfolio.

Tax-Efficient Investments
Equity Funds: Hold for over one year to qualify for long-term capital gains (LTCG) tax benefits. LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh annually is taxed at 12.5%.

Debt Funds: Gains are taxed as per your income slab. Holding for over three years qualifies for indexation benefits.

Recommendations for Maximizing Returns
Step-Up SIPs: Increase your SIPs by 10% yearly. This small increment can significantly impact your corpus.

Diversification: Diversify across sectors, fund houses, and geographies. Avoid over-concentration in one segment.

Rebalancing: Review your portfolio every year. Shift funds to maintain the 60/40 equity-to-debt ratio.

Risk Management
Emergency Fund: Maintain six months’ expenses in a liquid fund. This ensures your SIPs continue during emergencies.

Term Insurance: Get a term plan covering 10-15 times your annual expenses. This protects your dependents financially.

Health Insurance: Opt for comprehensive health insurance to avoid draining your investments for medical needs.

The Disadvantage of Index Funds
Index funds often mimic market indices. However, actively managed funds offer better potential returns. Experienced fund managers can identify high-growth opportunities and avoid underperforming stocks.

Benefits of Investing through a Certified Financial Planner
Personalised Advice: Regular plans through a CFP offer tailored strategies. Direct funds lack professional guidance.

Portfolio Monitoring: CFPs monitor performance and suggest timely adjustments. Direct investors may miss this.

Holistic Planning: CFPs integrate your investments with your overall financial goals. This ensures alignment with life stages.

Tips for Achieving Rs. 2 Crore
Stay Invested: Avoid redeeming funds prematurely. Long-term discipline builds wealth.

Avoid Timing the Market: Focus on consistent investments instead of predicting highs and lows.

Leverage Compounding: The earlier you invest, the greater the compounding benefits.

Finally
Achieving Rs. 2 crore in 15-20 years is realistic. Stick to your SIPs, review your plan, and stay disciplined. Your vision, combined with a strategic approach, will help you beat inflation and achieve financial independence.

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 28, 2024Hindi
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Hello sir, we are a 42 years old couple with 2 kids( 12 and 10 years old)with in hand salary of 6.5L in hand post tax. We have current savings of 1.2 Cr in equity, 55L in debt, 20L in gold, 25L in NPS and 2.5 cr in real estate (which we don't consider as liquid). Our primary target is around 5cr corpus for retirement around 60 years of age, 4cr for kids higher education,1cr for marriage and a house after 15years approx. Currently we are able to invest 2L/ month in MF, 30k/month in debt and 1 L/month in NPS. We have an EMI of 1L/ month for 6 years for the loan of a commercial property which is not giving any rent at present.We have sufficient health and life insurance.Till now our goals seemed reachable but now we are having thoughts of sending both kids to boarding which will cost us around 1L monthly for around 6 years with 6 %inflation extra each year costing us around 80-85L extra. Can we afford this extra expense without compromising our other goals.Kindly advice.
Ans: Your financial position is strong with diverse investments.

You have Rs 1.2 crore in equity, Rs 55 lakh in debt, Rs 20 lakh in gold, Rs 25 lakh in NPS, and Rs 2.5 crore in real estate.

A monthly savings capacity of Rs 3.3 lakh is impressive, even with a Rs 1 lakh EMI.

Adequate health and life insurance adds financial security.

Evaluation of Goals
Retirement Corpus

Your target of Rs 5 crore by 60 years seems achievable with current savings.
Continuing with Rs 2 lakh monthly in mutual funds (MFs) and Rs 1 lakh in NPS will help.
Children’s Higher Education

Rs 4 crore for higher education can be managed.
Your equity exposure supports long-term growth.
Marriage Expenses

A target of Rs 1 crore for marriages is realistic.
Investments in debt and gold provide stability for such goals.
Buying a House

A house after 15 years will need detailed planning.
A mix of equity and debt over time can address this goal.
Impact of Boarding School Expense
Boarding will cost Rs 80-85 lakh over six years, considering 6% inflation.
This is a significant expense during a critical saving period.
Possible Adjustments
Reassess Short-Term Investments

Reduce monthly MF investment by Rs 1 lakh temporarily.
Divert this amount for boarding expenses.
Prioritise Debt Investments

Continue Rs 30,000 monthly in debt funds.
Use this allocation later for school-related costs.
Revisit Commercial Property

Check potential for renting out the property.
Even a partial rental can ease the EMI burden.
Utilise Surplus Assets

Gold can be partially liquidated in emergencies.
Avoid selling equity to preserve long-term growth.
Insights on Mutual Funds and NPS
Actively managed mutual funds outperform index funds in Indian markets.

Professional fund management adapts to market changes effectively.

NPS is tax-efficient for retirement planning.

Continue the Rs 1 lakh monthly contribution to maximise benefits.

Tax Implications
Be mindful of new taxation rules on MFs.
LTCG on equity above Rs 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
Debt fund gains are taxed as per your income slab.
Strategic Plan
Allocate Rs 1 lakh monthly from MF contributions for school fees.
Invest Rs 1 lakh in equity MFs and Rs 30,000 in debt MFs monthly.
Retain the NPS contribution of Rs 1 lakh per month.
Alternative Options
Evaluate less expensive boarding schools without compromising quality.
Explore scholarships or partial funding options.
Avoid real estate investments for liquidity concerns.
Emergency Fund Planning
Ensure six months’ expenses as an emergency fund.
Keep this amount in liquid or debt funds for easy access.
Final Insights
You can afford the boarding school expense with minor adjustments.
Maintain focus on long-term goals with disciplined investments.
Revisit your plan every two years to ensure alignment.
Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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