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Mahendra Question by Mahendra on Feb 23, 2023Hindi
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Hi I am 41 years old and divorced twice. I have married second time due to family pressure and emotionally, but the same has not been succeed because I was in love with my first spouse and our daughter. I have completed all legal formalities for the same and there is not any legal binding with anyone. I have one daughter who is 15 years old with my first spouse. After long time I realised that I am in love with my first spouse and my daughter. I never seen to my first spouse after divorce since 2009. But I used to go and meet my Daughter on her Birthday to wish with the permission of inlaws. They respect my Father and Sister. I got divorced from my first spouse due to my mistakes which have done unknowingly in 2008. I have written letter to my first spouse and my daughter to ask for sincere apology.Also they knows about my second marriage and divorce also. I am staying alone and my question is whether we will succeed if my first spouse will agree to reunite again with my daughter. Also need some tips to stay happily with them. My desire will fulfill if we reunite again. Need your advice . Thanks

Ans: Dear Mahendra,
It is unfortunate that you had to go over marriage twice to understand what could have been avoided.
Now, whether your wife from the first marriage also shares the same feelings of love and affection towards you cannot be assumed. She might have moved on in her mind and heart, so to build up a fairy tale life with her and your daughter may cause you pain.
Maybe instead of building stories, why not have a frank discussion with them (your daughter is old enough to be a part of this). Kindly keep an open mind as they may not be willing to reunite. If they are also willing to, then take things slow...Don't suggest them moving in with you and try and create the same environment like the way it used to be when you were married.
Time changes a lot of things and this must be handled with a lot of care and caution. Your ex-wife, will also be very watchful about all the things that have hurt her previously. So, be very patient with her.

But if the answer is a firm NO from them, kindly respect it and let it be...2009 is a long time ago and much would have changed in them and you; cherish what you have with them...focus on building a good relationship with your daughter. After all, you can't assume that one letter of apology will change their hearts.

Bring up the topic with your ex-wife, but be prepared for an answer either way.

Best wishes!

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I'M 40 years old man, i have had troubled childhood. I faced abuse from my elder brother who later on developed mental health issues whiich broughg lot of stress to the family. I worked very hard to achieve reasonable professional success but my personal life has been very difficult. I got married with lot of difficulty despite being well placed professionally and decent looks. It was an arranged marriage but things went bad after a year. I caught my wife having an affair with her ex but i fogave her for the sake of myndaugher who was just 1 year old then. She keept on having flings with gym instructor and later on her colleagues which i dont have any proof of. She would humilate me in front of my maid driver and other people. But i wanted ti save my marriage for the sake of my daughter who was only 4-5 years old then. Finally she started asking me for divorce after every trivial fights. Fed up i finally agreed and we separated in 2021 November. During that time i came in contact with my school friend. She proposed to me during our school days but due to stress at home and other issues i said no but i always liked her. When we started talking around December 2021 and we realized we still love each other after 20 years. But problem was though i was divorced she was still married and she is from a different religion. She is trying hard to get separated from her husband but her family being very conservative is not allowing her to do so. I'm stuck with her emotionally. Now my ex-wife has started approaching me for reconciliation. Im totally confused now what should i do? Should i wait for my friend knowing that chances are very slim that her family would leave her. Or should i patch up with my exwife for the sake of my daughter. I dont feel any emotional connection with my exwife now as she was never nice to me. But my parents are telling me to go for patch up. They are nkt aware about my school friend and i doubt they would approve her due to religious beliefs. Pls guide me I'm totally confused. Thanks A confused Homo Sapiens
Ans: Dear Pratik,
At this point in time, choose neither. You need space to clear your head first.
Too many emotional situations to jump into one more...Give yourself time to figure out what is that you want out of life?
Do you want to get into another commitment in a short gap? It could be an attraction on a rebound as well; so take time to figure these things out well before you decide to patch up or wait for your friend.
You deserve this time off, to make sure that you not only heal from the marriage but also put things in perspective.
So no need to bring on a new confusion for the time being till you get strong enough in the mind to decide the next course of your life. Making a choice right now means you will be bringing in more confusions of either of the two women into your life as well. So, PAUSE and take this time...

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 19, 2023Hindi
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Madam, I am 61 years old , retired from Govt service an year ago. I have a problem in my family. Though my wife is a post graduate, she refused to take up any Job and wants all others including her in laws to give her money eternally. Misbehaved with my parents & sent them out of our house for their supposed conservative style and refused to allow my sisters family on a visit and quarreled with me on this ground time & again. She quarrels with me on silly issues loudly infront of kids. She reflects her mother`s attitude in dealing with my parents & relatives. Later She re-started her love affair with her ex lover . Fed up with quarrels at home and keep her away from unwarranted affairs, I decided to go abroad and took her also with me with our 2 daughters. There again, she started another illicit affair with my classmate cum colleague (whom i knew for 2 decades and i treated like a brother and was already married with kids). After 18 months of secret affair , behind me, they finally disclosed and wanted to elope leaving their families behind. Stunned by their ghastly betrayal , I sent my family back to India and also reported the matter to boss, who repatriated that Traitor back. I had to forgive my wife for sake of my Daughters who were aged 12 yrs and 9 yrs then. I am unable to come to terms with their ghastly actions though 2 decades have since passed. We sleep in separate rooms and I have no physical relation with her, ever since as our marriage is over for all purposes. I believe that mutual Trust & respect are the foundations of any marriage. Both are lost in our case. Now my daughters aged 31, 29 are Post graduates but are sitting idle at home wasting time in TV and refuse to do any job as their mother keeps telling them why should women work ?. They refuse to receive any external counselling nor willing to get married nor take up a job nor pursue any studies. They are financially dependent on me. I am now retired and live on Govt Pension. They refuse to understand the reality around them. They have no friend either in Relatives or in their college circles. What to do with their Intransigence? .
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
At 61, you look back and reflect; what choices have you made that has led you to be where you are right now?
Have those choices robbed you of your peace of mind and a better life?
If Yes, it still isn't late to rework and revisit those choices and make better ones.

But for that, this obsession with their ghastly affair must end. The more you are focused on the past, it becomes difficult to create anything beautiful for today and tomorrow. Yes, you felt hurt and were in pain, but to continue to feel the pain is a choice and that is only going to make you more bitter. Consider what is happening with your marriage; you might have to accept that this is the way it will be. If you are not happy with this, then think of what you want to do about it.

It's a good thing that you have begun to focus on your children. They seem to be in need of focus and direction. Since they are adults, it's time you gave them an ultimatum to find a job and move out of home. It sounds cruel, but at times, as a parent you need to do the right thing for your children. So, act NOW and without hesitation.
As for you, as you decide what you want to do with your marriage, involve yourself in social circles and hobbies, travel etc. It will give you a distraction and also a way to calm your mind to take decisions.

All the best!

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Hi Anu , This Raaj here this side, I have seen your views on the relationship here on this site . so for that I need your help and your valuable expertise . About myself I am 42 yrs self employed businessman ,I got married in march 2010, it was a arrange marriage . from the day 1 there is a problem and it increases day after day. From the that wedlock I had baby girl . from 2012 situation got worsened matrimonial cases started it continued for next 4-5 yrs . after long battle I got divorced in 2016-17. This divorce cost me a lot , bcoz of that I lost my friends , social stigma, financial lost ( hefty alimony)and lot other problem which are associated with this . Now the main problem comes here , as after my divorce I was not ready to get re marry again but my parents are pressuring mr to get settle again ASAP. After long persuation I said ok …. I started searching my own and parents also started there own . In last 4 yrs I have seen lot of prospects ……..( kissi ko main nahi pasand , kissi ko mera kamm nahi pasand , kissi ko mere parents ke sath rehna nahi pasand …….. kissio ko meri income se problem hai,……………toa kuch mujhe nahi jachi.)there is lot of pressure on me that I should be perfect now after my divorce . after all this I had few good prospects ………….1. she was good but she wasnot happy with my income , she said no to me initially but continued talking and we are still in touch as she moved to Australia in APR 2019.As now we r really very good friends now ,Jab main usme interested tha toa usne na boll diya ………but jab usne dubarra reconsider karke propose kiya toa maine na boll diya. Than in 2020 COVID hits which upsets everybody’s life .360degree . In NOV 2020 I met 1 girl on one of the matrimonial sites ….we shared our details stated talking to each other , she liked me but didn’t responded her positively but continued our talks………in march2021 pata nahi kaise aur kyu …..maine use propose kiya…… maine use milne uske passd gaya ……….we talked …..shared our thoughts ….spend good time ……..but raat ko ghar vapis aa ke maine use NO kar diya . REASON is not known ya kahu toa main darr gaya tha .because of this she also got upst and that makes her depressed. For next 10 days I was so depressed I didn’t had my proper meal ……nothing all. I was in guilt ,that make me depressed for really long . I was only thinking about her only all the time nothing else, On 2nd JULY 21 ko maine pher user message kiya ………. After 2-3 days after my sorry and all that we started talking again. Everything stated good again .now in last week of july 2021 my father got severe heart attack ……and he had a surgery . Now they are pressuring me again that I should get settle soon ……..all my family members and sister and all. Maine Phir usko marriage ke liye tyar kiya aur phir batt ko STOP kar diya . and this tym mujhe gharwalo se aur sab se bahut anbun ho gayi. Ab mujhe samaj aa rahi ki main kya karu . main shaddi to karna chata hoon par kissi pe trust nahi kar pa raha hoon . mere ghar valo ka mujh pe bahut pressure hai . there are some other problem which I would like to disscuss in future . pls help me what should I do , I m feeling helpless . Thanks Raaj
Ans: Dear Raaj,
What is it that you want?
You seem to ready to get into a relationship because your family thinks so, your father had a heart attack and then they pressure you to find a girl to marry.
So, what is it that you want and want to do?
And the possible reason for not striking a chord with the women that you were interacting with. When you have decided what you want, it will show up in your body language, facial gestures and within the conversation. You are possibly still healing from your divorce and are not ready to get into another marriage. So, don't. First, sort your mind out and then think of another relationship.
So kindly, start to think for yourself ignoring what your family tells you. Yes, you need to do that. Family pressure is no reason to get married; of course they mean well and care for you. But, what you want is what matters here.
So, if you want to stop feeling helpless, take charge of your life and do what you think is right for you. Heal from your divorce and think about what you need in another relationship and in your partner. When you ready, then it's time. So, no more helplessness, only strength.

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Hello Anu Ji, Thanks for giving Your valuable time and Precious advice & feedback on my Question. I have no words to express my feeling that after so long somebody tried to understand me & my POV and above all helping in raising my moral & recognizing my ability in this messy and confusing state of mind. In your response you ask me to introspect few questions and tell u honestly I did that in alone . In those answer few were as clear as Crystal. But few of them confused me. I will be mentioning what u asked me to asked myself ……and what I have answer for that Questions. 1. - how will I keep my relationship with my daughter after my marriage? Answer :As in my divorce settlement she will be staying with her mother and since Nov2016 I have not seen her and not knowing nothing about her But praying to the almighty for the wellbeing for here all the time. 2. - am I carrying any fear/anger from the previous marriage? Answer: Yes, it is. There is lot anger, frustration which I have buried in the grave yard of my Heart . but the soul is still alive. its really very easy in words to say “MOVE ON”, try to forget the past , Forgive the person …. Let the karma do its course. It’s not easy ,when a person’s life has change 360degree.Madam ,since 2010 to 2017, I had face so much , u can’t imagine and I wouldn’t be able to describe. Those 8 yrs. are hell for me and for my parents. U know the saddest Part of this separation is who suffer the most after me is my Daughter . She & myself is and will be missing each other as Father &Daughter. After my divorce in 2017 , I have moved on so long in my life but there is something which dragging me back. 3. am I completely ready to commit to a marriage? Answer : this is the question which is annoying me, I’m not able figure it out . About my commitment , yes I am very much clear about this , I was, am & will be committed , to my relationship. But I have Trust issue’s. Right now I can say this only . Getting Married is just settling down in life is the core issue presently in my life ,not pleasing someone. I am not in that state of mind to please anybody as I am already seeking help to be Happy and in the search of the happiness which I lost .U know Time is great healer…….. & heal the biggest of the biggest wounds………but in the end leave with scar on ur mind for rest of the life . In the end , I would say I have a lot to share , lot to discuss , but there are some constraints. Hoping that ……I may have able to give You my POV to understand my current state of mind . Thanks R@@J
Ans: Dear Raaj,
Thank you for reaching out again.
You seem to have done your bit to reflect deeper which is amazing. Yet, with my experience of working with people on relationships, I can tell you one thing...
Never get into a relationship till you find the heart to trust again as trust is the only thing that will keep any relationship strong and that will happen only after the ANGER eases into something more useful. Is this possible, YES! Kindly seek the help of a professional who will help with this inner work on releasing anger and building trust. This person will be able to fathom your POV and guide you aptly.
Remember, the next person who you are seeking to engage with, will expect a person who trusts and loves; so, that's why heal from one before you get into another relationship. I am sure you understand this well.

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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 07, 2023Hindi
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Hi. I am 41 year male married since last 15 years. I have a 8 year old daughter. My relationship with my wife isn't great as far as I am concerned. She was busy with her job and raising our daughter and while doing so could not focus much on our relationship. Our physical interaction almost stopped after our child birth and since last 5 years we never had intercourse. I engaged myself in casual relationship with few colleagues of mine and life was going on like that. But in 2021 , I engaged myself with another female colleague of mine and with her , I feel like what I have never ever felt with any other woman. I can't let her go. I long to meet her. I feel sad when she is away. And it's been 3 years. She loves me very much and I love her too. My wife got a wind of it and now she is trying hard to make up for the lost time and efforts. My wife loves me too. I don't want to separate from her because though she wasn't a great partner but she did manage our house and daughter diligently. Moreover, I don't want my daughter suffer too. She deserves both her parents. So, I discussed this with my wife and told her that , I believe we can't be a great couple but we can at least be good parents. Allow me to spend some time with my female colleague and let's continue as we have been doing since last decade. But she is not accepting this. And I can't let my colleague go. I do love her. She also loves me and is not inclined towards settling with me as she is married too and has 2 kids. Kindly suggest what to do.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
There is some sort of trend of stepping out of marriage when physical needs are not met within the marriage. It's the easiest way out!
Why is it so hard to figure out what is happening when one of the partners in the marriage is not interested in intimacy?
Why doesn't the other partner try to understand, accept and work with the partner who is struggling through something?
And this goes for the husband and wife and partners within a relationship.

It isn't something written in stone that sex 'MUST' be a part of marriage BUT it certainly is a pillar to creating a stronger relationship. So, why assume and go searching for it? Then you will have all reasons to justify why you did it and how your partner is responsible for it.
Now, you are in a soup with two women vying for your time and attention. And with children involved, things only get complicated. Yes, your wife feels that it his her right to be in your life and your question is: where was she all these years? My question is: why did you stop trying all these years to put things together?

My suggestion: As much as you want to be in the other lady's life, she is clear that she does not want to settle with you. You are also clear that you don't want to separate from your wife but you want her to accept the other lady. Doesn't it seem highly impractical to you?

Before you end up hurting someone or yourself, do what's right for everyone and especially the children. They don't deserve a set of parents that is confused. Good people who come into our lives can end up becoming good friends as well.

All the best!

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I am 84 year old senior citizen. I withdrew two fixed deposit prematurely. Bank levied penal charges on premature withdrawal. Can I claim penal interest as deduction while filling ITR returns. Pl guide
Ans: No, unfortunately, you cannot claim the penalty levied on premature withdrawal of your fixed deposits (FDs) as a deduction while filing your Income Tax Return (ITR).

Here's why:

Income vs. Expense: The penalty on FD withdrawal is considered an expense incurred for breaking the terms of the deposit agreement. It's not directly related to earning income from the FD interest.
Tax Deductions: Income tax deductions are allowed for expenses incurred for generating taxable income. The penalty on FD withdrawal doesn't fall under this category.
Taxation on FD Interest for Senior Citizens:

Even though you cannot deduct the penalty, there might be some relief on the interest income itself:

Section 80TTB: If your total interest income from all FDs and Savings accounts is less than ?50,000 per year, you can claim a deduction under Section 80TTB of the Income Tax Act. This eliminates tax liability on that interest income.
No TDS for Senior Citizens: For senior citizens (above 75 years old), banks don't deduct TDS (Tax Deducted at Source) on FD interest up to ?50,000 per year from a specified bank where you receive your pension.
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Plan for Premature Withdrawals: If you foresee needing the money before the FD matures, consider shorter tenure FDs or opting for partially withdrawable FDs to avoid penalties.
Explore Tax-Saving Options: Look into tax-saving fixed deposits or senior citizen savings schemes (SCSS) that offer better interest rates and may not have high penalties for premature withdrawal.

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Hi Ramalingam, Hope you are doing well. Age 31, IT Professional (8 Years), Married, Nuclear Family, Mid level family business in small town. 1) Currently I am NRI from last 1 year and recently have bought Few mutual funds like UTI large cap Index, Parag Parikh flexi cap, Motilala Oswal Mid Cap, Quant & Nippon small cap funds. All are just started recently with total SIP of 28k monthly. 2) I have been investing in PPF from last 4 years. 3) Minor LIC and Company PF of around 4.5L. 4) No loans, EMI as of now, own family house and agricultural unutilized land. 5) Existing Equity shares of 3L which I bought 5 year earlier. 6) I am not looking for buying flats/apartment as such. The major mistake I feel was I didn't invest till now and had kept money in savings account idle, which I regret to some extent. Queries: 1) As currently I am an NRI, I wanted to know what are the taxation rules on my shares if I buy or sell. Also, I hope there should be no issues as I bought mutual funds being NRI as anyway at point of selling I will be resident indian hopefully. Should I increase the amount of SIP? I am looking for Step up SIP Of 5-10%. Should I go for International fund now? 2) I was thinking to invest in fixed deposits and govt bonds, am I eligible to do this or this will attract me more taxation. For your better understanding, Currently I am in Saudi Arabia. 3) Your suggestions related to investment in Equity, gold, debt are highly appreciated as it will guide me further. 4) What are better things to look out from investment perspective being an NRI 5) Can you please help me plan for an excellent financial stability plan if I want to retire early around 45-48 years that is in next 15 to 18 years from now. Thanks
Ans: I appreciate your detailed overview of your financial situation and your proactive approach to investing. Let's address each of your queries systematically to ensure we cover all aspects comprehensively.

1. Taxation on Shares and Mutual Funds: As an NRI, capital gains tax rules apply to your investments in shares and mutual funds in India. For equity investments held for over one year, long-term capital gains (LTCG) are taxed at 10% without indexation. For mutual funds, equity-oriented funds are treated similarly. However, if you become a resident Indian again, you'll be taxed as per the applicable resident Indian tax laws. Increasing your SIPs by 5-10% annually is a prudent strategy, especially considering your long-term investment horizon and the power of compounding. Regarding international funds, they can provide diversification benefits, especially during periods of rupee depreciation, but ensure you understand the associated risks before investing.

2. Investment in Fixed Deposits and Government Bonds: As an NRI, you are eligible to invest in fixed deposits and government bonds in India. Interest earned on fixed deposits is taxable in India, subject to applicable tax laws. Government bonds also carry tax implications, but specific rules depend on the type of bond and your residential status. Given your current location in Saudi Arabia, consider exploring NRI-specific investment options like NRE or NRO fixed deposits, which offer tax benefits and repatriation flexibility.


3. Investment Strategy: Diversification is key to a well-rounded investment portfolio. Equity investments offer long-term growth potential, while debt instruments like PPF provide stability and tax benefits. Considering your risk appetite and investment goals, continue your SIPs in equity mutual funds, but ensure you have an adequate emergency fund in place. Explore options like international funds for global exposure and consider increasing exposure to debt instruments for capital preservation.

4. Investment Considerations for NRIs: As an NRI, it's essential to stay informed about regulatory changes and tax implications related to your investments in India. Additionally, consider factors like currency risk, repatriation restrictions, and geopolitical developments when making investment decisions. Regularly review your portfolio and consult with a financial advisor to optimize your investment strategy based on changing market dynamics.


5. Early Retirement Planning: Achieving early retirement requires careful financial planning and disciplined saving and investing. Start by setting clear retirement goals, estimating your future expenses, and determining the required corpus. Maximize contributions to tax-efficient retirement accounts like EPF, PPF, and NPS. Consider allocating a portion of your portfolio to growth-oriented assets like equity mutual funds to generate inflation-beating returns over the long term. Regularly reassess your retirement plan and adjust your investment strategy as needed to stay on track towards your retirement goals.

By following a systematic approach to investing, staying informed about regulatory changes, and regularly reviewing your financial plan, you can work towards achieving financial stability and early retirement.

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Hello Sir im turning 36 this Dec...Im not very old in MF investment however looking forward to being consistant...I want to build up a corpas of 50 lakh by age of 40..my invest as per below... Quant/kotak/axis small cap direct growth- 10K each/month(9 month old) parag parikh ELSS tax saver- 2K/month(12 month old) mirae asset ELSS tax saver-2.5K/month(3 year old) quant ELSS tax saver-3K/month(16 month old) Kotak ELSS tax saver-2K/month(16 month old) SBI PSU direct plan-3K/month( 1 month) Aditya birla sunlife PSU equity fund- 5K/month(1 month) need your expertise if I need to change funds...these are combined investment by me & my wife..TAX saver are required to avoid tax liability under 80C..aprat from this Im investing 40K/year in PPF valued 1lakh(3 year old)
Ans: It's great to see your commitment to building your investment portfolio. Let's review your current mutual fund investments and see if any adjustments are needed to align with your goal of accumulating a corpus of ?50 lakhs by the age of 40.
Your current allocation seems well-diversified across various mutual fund categories, including small-cap funds, ELSS tax savers, and sector-specific funds like SBI PSU and Aditya Birla Sunlife PSU equity funds. However, there are a few points to consider:
1. Small-Cap Funds: Investing in small-cap funds can offer high growth potential but comes with increased risk due to market volatility. Since you're relatively new to mutual fund investments, ensure you have a high risk tolerance and a long-term investment horizon for these funds.
2. ELSS Tax Saver Funds: It's wise to continue investing in ELSS funds to avail tax benefits under Section 80C. However, having multiple ELSS funds may lead to duplication of holdings and increase complexity without significantly diversifying your portfolio. Consider consolidating your ELSS investments into one or two funds with a proven track record and consistent performance.
3. Sector-Specific Funds: Funds like SBI PSU and Aditya Birla Sunlife PSU equity focus on specific sectors, which can be volatile and dependent on sectoral performance. While they offer the potential for high returns, they also carry higher risk. Ensure these funds complement your overall portfolio strategy and are not over-concentrated in a single sector.
4. PPF Investment: Investing in PPF is a good strategy for long-term wealth accumulation and tax-saving. However, keep in mind that PPF has a lock-in period of 15 years, so ensure it aligns with your liquidity needs and investment goals.
Considering the above points, here are some suggestions:
• Evaluate the performance of your existing funds and consider consolidating your ELSS investments into one or two funds with strong fundamentals and consistent performance.
• Monitor the performance of small-cap funds closely due to their higher volatility and consider rebalancing your portfolio if needed.
• Review your sector-specific fund investments periodically and ensure they align with your risk tolerance and investment objectives.
Lastly, it's essential to regularly review your investment portfolio and make adjustments as needed to stay on track towards your financial goals.
Best Regards,
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Chief Financial Planner,
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Thank you for vastly explaining my port folio.....have one question regarding ELSS funds...can I stop investing in one fund wait for balance to mature as every SIP has a lock in period!! what happens when we stop SIP in ELSS funds... we couple both are working so I'm intending for high risk/high return for next 2-3 years...I have also start investing in stock(being cautious)
Ans: Absolutely, you can stop investing in one ELSS fund and allow the existing investments to mature. ELSS funds have a lock-in period of three years from the date of each investment, so once the lock-in period is over for each SIP, you have the option to either redeem the units or continue holding them.

When you stop SIPs in ELSS funds, the existing investments continue to grow, and you retain ownership of the units. However, keep in mind that stopping SIPs doesn't impact the lock-in period of the existing investments. Each SIP installment will have its own lock-in period of three years from its investment date.

If you're looking for high-risk, high-return investments for the next 2-3 years, it's essential to assess your risk tolerance and investment horizon carefully. ELSS funds, especially those investing in small-cap or mid-cap stocks, can be volatile in the short term but may offer higher returns over the long term.

Additionally, investing in individual stocks requires thorough research and a good understanding of the stock market. It's wise to approach stock investing cautiously, especially if you're relatively new to it. Diversification and thorough research are key to managing risk in stock investments.

Overall, it's great that you and your spouse are both working towards your financial goals and are open to taking calculated risks for potentially higher returns. Remember to regularly review your investment portfolio, stay informed about market developments, and adjust your strategy as needed to stay on track towards your goals.

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Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

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I have booked a residential flat with a developer who shall be developing a scheme comprising of 6 flats, 3 of which shall be retained by the land owners and 3 shall be sold by the developer to buyers like me. The developer has entered into an agreement for redevelopment with the land owners and he shall be receiving sale price of the flat from 3 persons purchasing the flats, I am one of them as stated earlier. The redevelopment agreement between the land owner and the developer is only for constructing the structure. The Sale-Deed shall be executed between the Vendor -that is the original land owners and the Purchasers like me. The developer shall be the Confirming Party, confirming the receipt of the entier payment, against the purchase of the flat, delivery of possession to the purchasers like me. Therefore the sale deed shall be between the purchaser and the land owners. The developer has rendered the services to be taxed under the GST Act to the land owners. The Land owners may recover the GST paid/charged/recovered by the developer, from the 3 purchasers. My queries are: 1. What is the rate at which on the services of development/construction rendered on the piece of land are taxable under the GST Act? 2. If I presume, it is at 5%, in that case am I not required to pay 1/6th of the GST paid by the land lord and nothing more than this? 3. Can developer demand the GST on the entire cost of the flat including the cost of the undivided share of land falling to my share? The land, under the Sale-Deed is sold/transferred by the Land lord and not by the developer, under what authority he can demand 5% GST on the cost of the land? 4. Are we not buying a ready to move or a ready made flat although we have to pay on the basis of the stage wise completion of the building structure and therefore only 1% GST? Please guide.
Ans: You're right to be questioning the GST implications in this situation. Here's a breakdown of your queries:

GST Rate on Development Services: The GST rate for construction services on an immovable property (land + building) is generally 5%. However, there's an exception for affordable housing projects, where the rate is 1%.

Sharing of GST by Landowners and Purchasers: Since the sale deed is directly between you (purchaser) and the landowner (vendor), you are not obligated to pay 1/6th of the GST paid by the landowner to the developer. You'll only pay GST on the value mentioned in your sale deed.

GST on Land Cost: The developer cannot demand GST on the entire cost of the flat, including the undivided land share. GST applies to the value of services rendered (construction) and not the land itself.

GST on Ready-to-Move Flats: The GST rate of 1% for ready-to-move flats only applies to completed projects where the occupancy certificate has been issued. In your case, it's an under-construction project, so the 5% rate applies.

Here's how the GST should ideally work in your scenario:

The developer pays GST to the government on his service charges for constructing the flats (5% of his construction cost).
The landowner pays stamp duty and registration charges on the land value mentioned in your sale deed.
You, the purchaser, pay GST to the developer on the value mentioned in your sale deed (excluding land cost) at the rate of 5% (assuming it's not an affordable housing project).
Recommendations:

Ask the developer to provide a breakup of the total cost, clearly mentioning the land cost and construction service charges.
Pay GST only on the construction service charges mentioned in your sale deed.
If the developer insists on including GST on the land cost, consult a tax advisor to understand your rights and explore further options.
Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in

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