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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Mar 13, 2023

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Ajay Question by Ajay on Mar 11, 2023Hindi
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I am a 40 year old unmarried male from a big metropolitan city. I am unable to find suitable Alliance to get married. I stay with my parents. I guess none of girls today are willing to stay with in-laws. Also, i cannot leave my parents alone as they are old without retirement benefits and completely dependent on me. Due to this i have become a topic of discussion/joke among colleagues in office as well as friends. This is killing me slowly day by day. I have become depressed no self esteem and goal in life. Need some advice on how survive.

Ans: Dear Ajay,
I appreciate that you care for your parents and are truly willing to be there for them. But, if it has begun to affect the course of your life, you must ask yourself: What can I do where I can care for my parents and also make a life for myself?
Most often we get stuck in a problem, thinking that there are no solutions. There are no solutions because we fail to ask ourselves the right questions which enable us to look for solutions.
You do not have to sacrifice your life to care for your parents and at the same time, you are right that in this day and age, not every woman wants to live in a joint family system.
Know this as a fact and now ACT.
1. What is it that I want at age 40 in my personal life beyond caring for my parents?
2. What can I do to make that happen? Have I tried every trick in the book to accomplish that?
3. What will stop me from building my personal life?

Answer these in all honesty and tell yourself: Anything is possible as long as I put my mind to it!
Also take solace in the fact that your parents also want to see you happy. Who knows; if you sat them down and actually told them of your dilemma, they might be able to support you as well...

All the best and do what's right for you!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Aug 18, 2023

Asked by Anonymous - Aug 14, 2023Hindi
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Dear Mam, Kindly note that i am a 39 yrs old guy who is not married yet. The reason behind me not getting married are basically coz i m unable to get a match at my age and none of proposals that i have seen so far, none of dem have turn positive. Now i feel like even though i want to get married, i ll end up alone in life coz at 39 i feel i will not get any match. I am very scared to living the rest of life alone.So mam i want you to help me out ways to live life alone. How to cope up with peers, relatives and colleagues pressure to get married?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Let's address your concerns:
1. "I want to get married or I'll end up alone.": This is not a reason to get married and you know that. Get married to build a team, a family together where you help each other grow. Incidentally, you also have a companion and lonely days instead become days filled with happy cheer and sometimes challenges as well. So, change your mindset while looking for prospects for marriage so that when you are in conversation with someone who is a match, you don't come across needy but instead focus on how the two of you grow together.
Your fear is right now pulling you into marriage rather than for more positive reasons.

2. Pressure from relatives and peers: Is it their life that you are leading? NO! Then stop focusing on what they tell you and focus on how you can make the best use of matrimonial sites or dating apps (if you choose that). Also, request your friends to set you up with someone that they might know since they know you well.

You can also join groups and communities online (beware of scams and scamsters here) where you might find like-minded people to meet and interact with. Being part of some hobby class or adventure camps may also allow for similar meeting points where you can hit it off with people who hold similar interests as yours.

Lastly, don't give up...when the time is right, it is...So, don't lose hope BUT certainly lose your current fearful mindset and embrace a mindset that is joyful and cheerful and selfless.

All the best!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 06, 2024

Asked by Anonymous - Jun 04, 2024Hindi
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Hi Anu... Am 39 and single woman with no income. Not working. Dependent on family. Did my MBA . I don't know what's happening in my life. Donno what to decide and how. Where to start. When to start. What to start. Should I 1st start earning or get married. I lost all my life bcz of my negligence and family issues. Never had a happy n peaceful day in my life. Something or other will be in family n life. Am not strong enough to take bold decisions. And lead my life independently. I want my family to be happy. My mom and dad's is love marriage but they didn't have a best life so even we children never had happy moments. But mentally very much attached to family. Can't live without them. What should I do? Am interested in marriage but alliance have huge demands and now am aged. People think am not good looking so I didn't get any proposal. I don't believe in love eventually I never supported love marriage of my friends and cousins. Ofcourse they are having best life. Now I feel alone.. I want to earn my bread. I want a family. I want to be married and enjoy family life too... Please help...
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Life and it's highs and lows are what makes us, breaks us and then makes us back again.
It is okay to be confused BUT it is not okay to wander about without making a decision which only leads to believe that life is hard.
What are the things that you have been wandering about?
- Marriage or being in a relationship
- Becoming financially independent
- Putting your degree to good use
- Stepping beyond home and family to create a life

Now, you have begun to think of it and maybe it frustrates you that it's too late. But better now than never...
Push your boundaries and first do something that can give you a WIN. That will boost you to take on challenges in every area of your life that you have possibly been avoiding.
No life or nothing is created or built without challenges.

The key question for you is: Have I been avoiding failure which is the reason for me to wander and not make a few decisions that would have helped me?
Start somewhere and a WIN in an area that you have control over, is what I suggest you start at...

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
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Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 22, 2024Hindi
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My son secured CRL below 800 in Jee advance 2024 but did not take admission in IIT rather took admission in a third grade college and currently pursuing Btech CSE. I am worried about his future. Can he get success in future?
Ans: Hello.
You did not mention which IIT college and course your son was getting. You also did not mention which college he has been admitted to. It seems that there is a wide communication gap between you and your son. Surprisingly, a candidate getting admission to IIT rejected it and went to a 3rd-grade college (as per your opinion). You are also not clear about, what was role when your son was denied to take admission to IIT and chose a 3rd-grade engineering college. There are lots of possibilities that your son has been denied IIT college which can't be discussed on this public platform.
It seems that your son is a talented, hard worker which is already reflected in his JEE result, there is no need to worry about his future. These types of candidates are less dependent on the college and faculty. They have their inbuilt capability to learn and excel in the life. There is no need to worry much about the decision taken by your son. Just observe that, whether he is attending college regularly and engaged in extracurricular activities. If he scores well in CSE, a bright future is waiting for him. Remember, a job career is less dependent on the college name! Nowadays, show your extraordinary skills and get the job!

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Nov 22, 2024

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Sir, I am 55 yrs of age. I want to invest Rs.5000/- pm in Mutual funds for a period of 5 years. Can you suggest me which Mutual funds are best for me to proceed.
Ans: At 55 years, financial planning focuses on achieving a blend of growth, stability, and tax efficiency. A systematic investment of Rs. 5000 per month in mutual funds for five years is a commendable step. This detailed plan outlines an optimal approach tailored to your needs.

Understanding Your Goals
Capital Preservation and Moderate Growth
Your investment horizon of five years suggests a moderate-risk strategy. While growth is important, safeguarding capital is equally critical at this stage in life.

Liquidity and Accessibility
Investments should provide liquidity to meet any unforeseen expenses. Funds with shorter lock-in periods or high liquidity are ideal.

Tax Efficiency
Tax implications can significantly impact net returns. A focus on tax-efficient funds and strategies will maximize your earnings.

Suggested Investment Strategy
A diversified approach ensures a balance between growth and stability. Below is a breakdown of recommended fund types:

1. Actively Managed Equity Funds
These funds can deliver superior returns by leveraging fund managers’ expertise.
They help you capitalize on opportunities that passive index funds miss.
Over five years, these funds can outperform benchmarks significantly.
2. Balanced Advantage Funds
Balanced Advantage Funds manage risk effectively by dynamically adjusting between equity and debt.
They offer stability while ensuring growth through equity exposure.
These are suitable for investors who want moderate risk with decent returns.
3. Debt-Oriented Funds
Debt funds provide stability and are less volatile compared to equity funds.
They ensure a steady income stream with lower risk.
Ideal for a portion of your portfolio to counter equity market fluctuations.
Why Avoid Index Funds?
Index funds track market benchmarks but lack active decision-making.
They do not adapt to changing market dynamics.
Actively managed funds, on the other hand, outperform during volatile periods due to skilled management.
The Pitfalls of Direct Fund Investments
While direct funds seem cost-effective, they require hands-on expertise and time. Investing through a Certified Financial Planner (CFP) offers multiple advantages:

Expert Management: A CFP selects funds that align with your financial goals and risk appetite.
Portfolio Monitoring: They ensure your investments remain on track, adjusting for market changes.
Reduced Stress: You avoid the hassle of analyzing market trends and managing investments independently.
Regular plans through a CFP, combined with professional fund distribution, deliver better returns and convenience.

Allocating Your Rs. 5000 Monthly Investment
Equity Funds: Allocate 40-50% of your monthly investment. Equity funds offer growth and higher returns over five years.
Balanced Funds: Allocate 30-40% for stability. These funds balance growth and protection.
Debt Funds: Invest 10-20% to reduce overall portfolio risk. These funds ensure consistent returns.
By diversifying across these fund types, you minimize risks and maximize returns.

Tax Implications of Mutual Fund Investments
1. Taxation on Equity Funds
Long-term capital gains (LTCG) above Rs. 1.25 lakh are taxed at 12.5%.
Short-term capital gains (STCG) are taxed at 20%.
2. Taxation on Debt Funds
Gains are taxed as per your income tax slab.
Investing for three years or more in debt funds provides indexation benefits.
3. Optimal Tax Strategy
Opt for funds with low turnover to reduce taxable events.
Hold funds for a longer term to benefit from lower tax rates on LTCG.
Key Considerations for Your Investment Journey
Periodic Reviews: Evaluate your portfolio every six months to ensure alignment with your goals.
Avoid Over-Diversification: Limiting your investments to a few funds simplifies tracking and enhances returns.
Reinvestment of Gains: Use returns from mutual funds for reinvestment to maximize compounding benefits.
Benefits of Working with a Certified Financial Planner
A Certified Financial Planner adds immense value to your investment journey. Here's how:

Tailored Investment Plan: They customize fund selection based on your financial goals and risk tolerance.
Expert Portfolio Management: Regular reviews and adjustments enhance your portfolio performance.
Holistic Financial Planning: A CFP aligns your mutual fund investments with other financial goals, such as retirement or child education.
This approach ensures a seamless investment experience with optimal outcomes.

Final Insights
Investing Rs. 5000 monthly in mutual funds over five years can yield significant results with the right approach. By diversifying into equity, balanced, and debt funds, you achieve a balance of growth and stability. Avoid direct and index funds, as they lack the benefits of expert management.

A Certified Financial Planner ensures your investments remain aligned with your goals, maximizing returns while minimizing risks. Regular portfolio reviews and disciplined investing will lead you toward financial success.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP

Chief Financial Planner
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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