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Life Coach - Answered on Mar 19, 2025

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 19, 2025Hindi
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I have 4+ years of experience in IT as a automation enginner and currently I am studying Mtech as integrated program along with my work. But it seems like the pressure on completion of lab, assignments, quiz, midsem and main sem is becoming a burden along with my current work life. Now I regret taking the decision of being a part of Integrated learning. Also I have signed an agreement that if I quit midway I have to pay 2.4lac. Currently I am in 1st semester and it is really a tough journey ahead. What should you think I do. Day by day I am losing motivation. Should I continue this journey or should I focus more on my work. Please help.

Ans: It sounds like you’re in a challenging phase, feeling stretched between your job and the demands of your M.Tech program. The pressure of assignments, labs, quizzes, and exams is making you question whether this was the right decision, and the financial penalty of quitting adds another layer of stress. But before making a decision, let’s take a step back and reflect.
What was your initial motivation for enrolling in this program? Was it career growth, a passion for learning, or future stability? Do those reasons still matter to you, or has your perspective changed? Sometimes, when we’re overwhelmed, we forget why we started. Reconnecting with that purpose can help clarify whether the struggle is worth it. Another important question is: What exactly is overwhelming you? Is it a lack of time, the workload, or the fear of burnout? If better systems were in place—like structured time blocks, prioritization, or external support - would it still feel unmanageable? It’s also important to define what success looks like for you. If you push through, where do you see yourself in two years? If you quit, what’s the alternative, and are you comfortable with the financial and career implications? Finally, have you explored all possible support systems - mentors, colleagues, or even university resources - to lighten the load?
Decisions like this aren’t just about choosing between two options; they’re about understanding what truly matters to you and what sacrifices you’re willing to make. Rather than focusing on whether you should continue or quit, ask yourself: What would make this journey easier? What changes, however small, could help you regain control? You don’t have to find all the answers today, but you do need to start asking the right questions.

Wishing you success,
Aamish Dhingra
ICF-PCC Certified Life Coach
Co-Founder, Cocoweave Coaching International, Delhi

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– Sister’s marriage is a short-term goal of around 2 years
– Your own marriage is a medium-term goal of around 4 years
– Retirement is a long-term goal of 15 years or more
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– Monthly investment capacity is Rs 5,000 for long-term retirement
– You are comfortable with gradual increase every year

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– Equity exposure should be limited because market ups and downs can hurt the goal
– Focus should be on stability and liquidity
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– Start moving money to safer options as the goal date comes closer

» Right asset approach for medium-term goal (4 years)
– This goal allows some equity exposure but not aggressive risk
– Balanced approach works better than full equity
– Equity portion should reduce as you reach the 4th year
– Gradual shift from equity-oriented funds to safer funds is important
– This protects the money when the goal is near

» Why index funds are not suitable for your goals
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– There is no fund manager decision to control risk during bad times
– In short and medium-term goals, market falls can delay marriages or force loans
– Actively managed funds try to control downside risk
– Fund managers can move between sectors and stocks based on market conditions
– This flexibility helps in protecting capital and improving consistency

» Long-term retirement planning approach (15 years or more)
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– Actively managed equity funds suit this horizon well
– Consistent investing and annual step-up will build strong wealth over time
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– Stick to quality funds with stable management

» Why regular mutual funds through a Certified Financial Planner help
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– Selling after one year is more tax efficient for long-term goals
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