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Mahbub Question by Mahbub on Sep 23, 2023Hindi
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I am 32 years suffering from Anxiety problems from many months, so I need suggestions on how can I overcome

Ans: While I can't offer specific medical advice, I can share some general suggestions that may help you manage your anxiety. It's important to remember that these are just starting points, and seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor is crucial for addressing anxiety effectively.

Understanding Your Anxiety:

Identifying triggers: What situations or thoughts typically trigger your anxiety? Recognizing these triggers can help you anticipate them and prepare coping mechanisms.
Exploring the root cause: Talking to a therapist can help you explore potential underlying factors contributing to your anxiety, such as past experiences or unhealthy thought patterns.
Self-Management Techniques:

Relaxation techniques: Practices like deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, and meditation can help calm your mind and body during anxious moments.
Mindfulness: Mindfulness exercises that focus on present-moment awareness can help you manage racing thoughts and worries.
Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can provide a healthy outlet for emotional processing and identify patterns in your anxiety.
Healthy lifestyle: Engaging in regular exercise, getting enough sleep, and eating a balanced diet can significantly improve your mood and overall well-being.
Seeking Support:

Therapy: Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a highly effective treatment for anxiety disorders. A therapist can guide you through CBT techniques to challenge negative thought patterns and develop coping skills.
Support groups: Connecting with others who understand what you're going through can offer valuable support and encouragement.

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I'm 24 yr old and I think I'm suffering from anxiety due to my overthinking nature related to career and my current situationship with a guy. Whenever I'm thinking about these two I feel shortage of breathing and empty stomach also cried a lot , find myself unable to sleep at night. I also have a short tempered nature easily got irritated and started shouting over people. I really want peace of my mind because it's slowly killing me from inside . I want to overcome .
Ans: Dear 24 yr old, beautiful soul, I am happy you are looking for peace. Let me tell you, peace and happiness should be the only targets in life, everything else is just riff raff. Take care that you value your inner peace more than anything else in your life...anything , everything and anyone coming in your way just needs to be cut out, don't give space to things/people who rob you of your inner peace. Till you overcome your anxiety, just avoid all that takes away your peace, avoid them physically first and then stop giving them space in your head.
Try deep breathing exercises, living in the moment, yoga, meditation....life is full of challenges, you cannot not face them, these will help you to face them with courage and clarity of thought.
Let me simplify... living in the moment right away... whatever you are doing.....let's say you are eating.. be fully present with it, involve all your senses, look at the food, smell the aroma, feel the food in your mouth, chew it and enjoy every morsel...this is being fully present in the moment. being in sync with what your body is doing and getting your mind to focus on the action completely. This is ZEN...just be fully present in every action of yours and see how powerful you become...
Let's deal with lack of sleep too...drink chamomile tea before going to bed, practice guided yoga-nidra before sleeping.
It's a vicious cycle you have got into...lack of sleep, this will lead to clouded mind, groggy mind, irritability, lack of appetite, anger, overthinking, no control over your mind and body... finally leading to anxiety.
Let's nip all this in the bud...
KEEP LIFE SIMPLE...I am just listing out your ""to do list.. without analysing it... pls just follow these for next 21 days, let's make all this into a habit for you..
1. SLEEP EARLY AND PEACEFULLY, AVOID SOCIAL MEDIA FOR ATLEAST 1 HR BFR SLEEPING
2.EAT ATLEAST 2 HOURS BEFORE GOING TO BED
3 GET 8-9 HRS OF SLEEP
4.EXPOSING YOURSELF TO THE SUN, WITHIN 15 MINUTES OF WAKING UP. SPEND TIME WITH NATURE, it is therapeutic
5. 20 MINS OF EXERCISE
6.GOOD HEALTHY BREAKFAST
7. CONSCIOUSLY EAT WELL THROUGHOUT THE DAY
8. STEER YOUR MIND TOWARDS POSITIVE THOUGHTS, BE CONCIOUS OF YOUR THOUGHTS AND BREATH
9.WHENEVER YOU FEEL ANSCIOUS, GET AWAY, EXCUSE YOURSELF ,CLOSE YOUR EYES FOR 10 MINS AND FOCUS ON YOUR
BREATHING..
10. VALUE YOUR INNER PEACE... AVOID EVERYTHING THAT DISTURBS YOU, TILL YOU ARE STRONG ENOUGH TO SAY " NO" TO PEOPLE, SITUATIONSHIP AND ALL THE STUFF THAT CAUSES ANXIETY.

All the ACTIONS listed are doable, just DO IT and transform your life.

If you are someone who reads then, read "Practicing the power of NOW" and " STOP overthinking". Both books offer practical solutions to being in the present and ways to stop overthinking.

Looking forward to seeing you as a powerful being... fully in control of your INNER PEACE.. All the best!!

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I got B.Tech Agricultural Engineering at SRM Valliammai (3rd round, cutoff 113, FG category) through TNEA counselling. But I’m already studying B.Sc Computer Science at a Govt. Arts & Science College (fees only ₹6k for 3 years + free bus). My interest is in Computers/IT, not agriculture. Family has financial struggles (debts, father disabled) so cost matters a lot. Should I continue in Govt. B.Sc CS (low cost, right interest) or switch to SRM Valliammai (prestige, but expensive & not my field)?
Ans: Considering your genuine interest in Computer Science and the financial constraints faced by your family, continuing the B.Sc. Computer Science at the government arts and science college is a practical and sensible choice. Government colleges offer significant cost advantages with minimal fees and added benefits such as free transportation, which align well with your economic situation. Pursuing a field you are passionate about, like IT and computers, enhances your academic engagement and career enthusiasm, directly impacting future job satisfaction and growth. Conversely, SRM Valliammai, despite being reputed, presents a costly investment in Agricultural Engineering, a subject outside your interest, which may affect motivation and career trajectory. The expensive fees could also impose an unnecessary financial burden on your family. Additionally, the IT sector remains one of the fastest-growing with diverse job roles and lucrative prospects, making a Computer Science degree more aligned with current and future market demands. Your continued education in a low-cost, interest-aligned stream is likely to yield better academic results, job readiness, and financial stability. Prioritizing your passion and affordability will set a foundation for long-term success without exacerbating your family’s financial challenges.

Recommendation: Persist with B.Sc. Computer Science at the government college, where low fees, passion-driven study, and future IT opportunities outweigh the costly, less preferred Agricultural Engineering at SRM Valliammai. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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