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Tapash Question by Tapash on Jun 22, 2023Hindi
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Hii sir/mam, i have been suffering Anxiety problem. If some one said something i used to over thinking. Please help me how to cure my problem.

Ans: Dear Tapash,
Overthinking happens when you try and control the result of anything/situation. These can be from a past event or a future happening both of which are not in your control.

The simple ways to move away from overthinking are:
1. Be in the NOW; start by paying attention to what you do...even if you are brushing your teeth, observe how you are doing it, how you drink of a cup of tea/coffee, how you travel to work
2. Focus on your breath; simply observe how your breath falls and rises
3. Spend time at parks and green places; you will find yourself calming down
4. Journal; every night before you sleep, write about your day - all good and not so good
5. Express gratitude; simply being thankful can change the patterns of thinking and help you calm down

Do this everyday for a month to notice a change that you will be happy about.
If you still find that things can better, seek professional help someone who has dealt with anxiety cases. But. the one month remedy does work wonders and continue even after that month to sustain the changes...

All the best!

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Dear Anu, I am an overthinker and an extremely anxious person. In fact I am so fearful of taking the next step in my life or my career that sometimes I get headaches, and feel restless in bed simply wondering if my action or decision will backfire. Is this normal? Or is it something I should be worried about? Can it be treated? What can I do to improve? Can you please help?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I will address this question in 3 parts
Part I
What causes overthinking?
- Any unpleasant event from the past or any expectation of an unpleasant event in the future happening causes anxiety/panic.
- To recover from the past experience or prevent a future occurrence goes into a mode of self-preservation whereby your thoughts LOOP one into another: If this happens, then that can happen and if that happened, what more can happen!
This is OVERTHINKING....predicating without adequate proof and projecting one situation into another.
This is our of your control OR locus of control...
Still why do you do it?
Because you want to move away from the pain a past event caused or a future event might cause. Who wants pain, right?

Part II
How much do I believe Overthinking?
NEVER!
Of course, the past event might recur, but you also know how to deal with it because you have already experienced it.
Of course, a future event might happen, but isn't it better to live in peace for NOW and actually think: I will cross the bridge when it comes
So doubt your thoughts that cause you to overthink

Part III
What can I do to change this habit?
Since you are aware as to the harm it causes you like headaches and restlessness, you know that this has to stop.
So, try this:
1. When you start to LOOP, doubt your thoughts and ask: Is this really true?
2. Journal about certain unpleasant experiences from the past
3. Remind yourself that you know what to do in any situation
4. Break into a dance or go for a run as this helps displace the feelings from your body
5. Surround yourself with people that are happy and positive
6. Leave the past behind and Let the future happen when it must
7. Practise breathing exercise that help you calm

Lastly and most importantly, tell yourself: I am more powerful than my fears and I have the means to work on them.

All the best!

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I am 32 years suffering from Anxiety problems from many months, so I need suggestions on how can I overcome
Ans: While I can't offer specific medical advice, I can share some general suggestions that may help you manage your anxiety. It's important to remember that these are just starting points, and seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor is crucial for addressing anxiety effectively.

Understanding Your Anxiety:

Identifying triggers: What situations or thoughts typically trigger your anxiety? Recognizing these triggers can help you anticipate them and prepare coping mechanisms.
Exploring the root cause: Talking to a therapist can help you explore potential underlying factors contributing to your anxiety, such as past experiences or unhealthy thought patterns.
Self-Management Techniques:

Relaxation techniques: Practices like deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, and meditation can help calm your mind and body during anxious moments.
Mindfulness: Mindfulness exercises that focus on present-moment awareness can help you manage racing thoughts and worries.
Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can provide a healthy outlet for emotional processing and identify patterns in your anxiety.
Healthy lifestyle: Engaging in regular exercise, getting enough sleep, and eating a balanced diet can significantly improve your mood and overall well-being.
Seeking Support:

Therapy: Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a highly effective treatment for anxiety disorders. A therapist can guide you through CBT techniques to challenge negative thought patterns and develop coping skills.
Support groups: Connecting with others who understand what you're going through can offer valuable support and encouragement.

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I'm 24 yr old and I think I'm suffering from anxiety due to my overthinking nature related to career and my current situationship with a guy. Whenever I'm thinking about these two I feel shortage of breathing and empty stomach also cried a lot , find myself unable to sleep at night. I also have a short tempered nature easily got irritated and started shouting over people. I really want peace of my mind because it's slowly killing me from inside . I want to overcome .
Ans: Dear 24 yr old, beautiful soul, I am happy you are looking for peace. Let me tell you, peace and happiness should be the only targets in life, everything else is just riff raff. Take care that you value your inner peace more than anything else in your life...anything , everything and anyone coming in your way just needs to be cut out, don't give space to things/people who rob you of your inner peace. Till you overcome your anxiety, just avoid all that takes away your peace, avoid them physically first and then stop giving them space in your head.
Try deep breathing exercises, living in the moment, yoga, meditation....life is full of challenges, you cannot not face them, these will help you to face them with courage and clarity of thought.
Let me simplify... living in the moment right away... whatever you are doing.....let's say you are eating.. be fully present with it, involve all your senses, look at the food, smell the aroma, feel the food in your mouth, chew it and enjoy every morsel...this is being fully present in the moment. being in sync with what your body is doing and getting your mind to focus on the action completely. This is ZEN...just be fully present in every action of yours and see how powerful you become...
Let's deal with lack of sleep too...drink chamomile tea before going to bed, practice guided yoga-nidra before sleeping.
It's a vicious cycle you have got into...lack of sleep, this will lead to clouded mind, groggy mind, irritability, lack of appetite, anger, overthinking, no control over your mind and body... finally leading to anxiety.
Let's nip all this in the bud...
KEEP LIFE SIMPLE...I am just listing out your ""to do list.. without analysing it... pls just follow these for next 21 days, let's make all this into a habit for you..
1. SLEEP EARLY AND PEACEFULLY, AVOID SOCIAL MEDIA FOR ATLEAST 1 HR BFR SLEEPING
2.EAT ATLEAST 2 HOURS BEFORE GOING TO BED
3 GET 8-9 HRS OF SLEEP
4.EXPOSING YOURSELF TO THE SUN, WITHIN 15 MINUTES OF WAKING UP. SPEND TIME WITH NATURE, it is therapeutic
5. 20 MINS OF EXERCISE
6.GOOD HEALTHY BREAKFAST
7. CONSCIOUSLY EAT WELL THROUGHOUT THE DAY
8. STEER YOUR MIND TOWARDS POSITIVE THOUGHTS, BE CONCIOUS OF YOUR THOUGHTS AND BREATH
9.WHENEVER YOU FEEL ANSCIOUS, GET AWAY, EXCUSE YOURSELF ,CLOSE YOUR EYES FOR 10 MINS AND FOCUS ON YOUR
BREATHING..
10. VALUE YOUR INNER PEACE... AVOID EVERYTHING THAT DISTURBS YOU, TILL YOU ARE STRONG ENOUGH TO SAY " NO" TO PEOPLE, SITUATIONSHIP AND ALL THE STUFF THAT CAUSES ANXIETY.

All the ACTIONS listed are doable, just DO IT and transform your life.

If you are someone who reads then, read "Practicing the power of NOW" and " STOP overthinking". Both books offer practical solutions to being in the present and ways to stop overthinking.

Looking forward to seeing you as a powerful being... fully in control of your INNER PEACE.. All the best!!

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I have a 6 year fixed deposit which will pay at maturity in Sep-2027. My question is on when to pay tax for this deposit. Should it be paid every year based on interest accrued every year OR only once, at the time of actual interest credit into the account?
Ans: Understanding Taxation on Fixed Deposit Interest

– Interest on fixed deposits is taxable under “Income from Other Sources.”
– Tax is not based on when interest is received.
– It is based on when the interest accrues.
– This is true even if the FD pays only at maturity.

? When Does Interest Accrue?

– Interest accrues every financial year, not just on maturity.
– Banks calculate interest every quarter or half-year.
– Even for reinvestment FDs, interest is earned yearly.
– The entire interest is paid at maturity, but accrues yearly.

? Taxation is Based on Accrual Method

– As per Income Tax Act, interest must be declared yearly.
– This is known as “accrual basis of taxation.”
– Ignoring this may result in tax demand and penalty later.

? Common Misunderstanding About Tax on FDs

– Many believe tax is due only when FD matures.
– This is incorrect under the Income Tax rules.
– This assumption may cause large tax outflow in maturity year.
– Also, it may attract interest and penalty from IT department.

? Your Obligation Each Year

– Every year you must estimate interest accrued.
– Add it to your total income while filing ITR.
– Pay tax as per your income slab on that amount.
– This is applicable even if the interest is not paid out.

? Where to Find Yearly Accrued Interest

– Ask your bank for yearly interest accrual certificate.
– Usually available in April each year.
– This helps in proper tax reporting in your return.

? Tax Deduction at Source (TDS) on FDs

– Banks deduct TDS if interest exceeds Rs. 40,000 per year.
– For senior citizens, this limit is Rs. 50,000.
– TDS is 10%, provided PAN is updated.
– If PAN is missing, TDS can be at 20%.
– TDS is not the final tax liability.
– You still need to calculate your slab tax.
– If you fall in higher tax slab, pay balance tax.
– If your slab is lower, claim refund of excess TDS.

? If You Ignore Annual Reporting

– Tax department can track FD accrual via Form 26AS.
– Interest is also shown in AIS (Annual Information Statement).
– If you don’t report interest, it raises red flags.
– In future scrutiny, you may face tax demand and penalty.

? Tax Planning Suggestions

– Ask bank for Form 16A or interest certificate every year.
– Add accrued interest to your income in your return.
– Pay self-assessment tax if needed before 31st July.
– This avoids last-minute surprise tax burden at maturity.
– Also avoids interest under section 234B and 234C.

? Impact on Overall Financial Planning

– FDs give assured returns but interest is fully taxable.
– This makes post-tax return low for many investors.
– Consider this tax aspect while comparing with other investments.
– For high income earners, debt mutual funds may be better.
– They offer indexation benefit and lower tax impact over time.

? Should You Break FD to Avoid Annual Tax?

– No need to break FD.
– Just declare interest every year properly.
– Even if maturity is far, show yearly interest accrual.
– Maturity proceeds will be tax-free if already declared yearly.

? Tax Filing and Documentation Tips

– Maintain record of FD opening date, amount and maturity date.
– Keep bank’s yearly interest certificate safely.
– While filing ITR, enter interest under “Income from Other Sources.”
– Match with AIS data to avoid mismatch.
– If mismatch found, explain with proof during ITR processing.

? What Happens on Maturity Year?

– In maturity year, you receive full interest and principal.
– But only declare the last year’s interest in ITR.
– Don’t report entire 6 years’ interest again.
– That would mean double taxation.
– Maturity amount already includes taxed portion.

? If You Missed Reporting in Earlier Years

– You can revise past returns for last 2 assessment years.
– File revised returns and pay tax with interest.
– Better to rectify voluntarily than face penalty later.

? Key Tax Rule to Remember

– Interest earned is taxable on accrual basis.
– Even if payment is made on maturity only.
– Pay tax each year, not just in maturity year.

? Ideal Tracking Practice

– Maintain Excel sheet for FD investments.
– Note FD amount, start and end date, and yearly interest.
– Add this value every year while filing your ITR.

? Benefit of Declaring Yearly Interest

– You avoid tax shock in final year.
– You avoid penalty, interest, and notice from IT department.
– You show income transparently.
– This helps in home loan, visa, and other financial proofs.

? Role of a Certified Financial Planner

– A CFP can help optimise tax-efficiency of your investments.
– Can help plan maturity of FD with other cashflows.
– Can suggest better options if tax is reducing returns.
– Regular reviews with a CFP help avoid such confusions.

? Disadvantages of Fixed Deposits

– Returns are low compared to inflation.
– Taxable every year.
– No indexation benefit.
– TDS cuts liquidity.
– Not suitable for long-term wealth creation.

? Alternative Options for Tax Efficiency

– Actively managed debt mutual funds offer better post-tax return.
– They allow better planning for income and withdrawals.
– Short-term and long-term capital gains can be staggered.
– Professional fund manager brings risk control.
– Certified Financial Planner and trusted MFD can help align these.

? Don’t Fall for Index Fund Hype

– Index funds offer low-cost but no flexibility.
– No scope of outperformance during market shifts.
– Poor downside protection in falling markets.
– Better to use actively managed funds guided by experts.
– This helps optimise portfolio across market cycles.

? Disadvantages of Direct Mutual Funds

– Direct plans need your own research and monitoring.
– No access to guidance from a certified mutual fund distributor.
– Most investors lack time or knowledge for this.
– Errors in fund selection or exit timing hurt returns.
– Regular plans via MFD give advice, handholding and long-term value.
– A CFP-aligned MFD ensures aligned goals, reviews and discipline.

? Don’t Rely on Endowment or Investment Policies

– If you hold LIC or Postal policies for investment, evaluate ROI.
– Most of them yield low post-tax returns.
– Consider surrender and reinvest into better options via SIPs.
– A Certified Financial Planner can help this switch efficiently.

? Final Insights

– Tax on FD interest must be paid every year, not just at maturity.
– Interest accrues yearly and is taxable even if not received.
– TDS doesn’t mean your full tax is paid.
– Declare interest each year in ITR.
– Collect interest certificate yearly for accurate tax filing.
– For better returns, explore tax-efficient debt mutual funds.
– Avoid direct funds and index funds without advice.
– Get professional support from CFP and trusted MFD.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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I am a Govt. employee, aged 41 years and retiring in the year 2044. My net salary is Rs. 47K per month, after deducting almost 5K in NPS, presently have an amount of approx. 4 lak. in NPS account. I have a LIC plan, depositing 5k per month, maturing in the year 2039, assured wealth return is Rs. 21 Lakh plus additional 10 lakh death benefit. I have only a son, aged 6 years. I have a PPF account adding minimal amount whenever I save, maturing in 2033 and presently have a amount of Rs. 1.7 lakh. Plus, I have a loan of Rs. 10.5K per month, ending in June 2027. My first preferences is to accumulate wealth for my son's education. Second, is to buy a car. And third is to buy a peice of land to build house. My monthly expenses is in between 25K to 30K per month. Please suggest....
Ans: You have already taken thoughtful steps. Your goals are clear and well-prioritised. Now let’s do a complete 360-degree analysis.

Your profile shows that you are sincere and serious. Let us create a clear path forward.

? Income, Salary and Monthly Commitments

– Your net salary is Rs. 47,000 per month.
– NPS contribution of Rs. 5,000 is already deducted from salary.
– Loan EMI is Rs. 10,500 per month till June 2027.
– Monthly living expenses are between Rs. 25,000 and Rs. 30,000.
– LIC premium is Rs. 5,000 monthly.
– You have limited room for investment surplus right now.
– But this will improve after June 2027.

? Analysis of NPS Account

– NPS balance is Rs. 4 lakh as of now.
– You are contributing Rs. 5,000 monthly.
– That will continue till retirement in 2044.
– NPS is a disciplined and tax-efficient tool for retirement.
– Let it grow without any withdrawals.
– Avoid reducing the NPS contribution in future.
– After retirement, only 60% of the corpus will be tax-free.
– Remaining 40% may require annuity or structured withdrawal.
– NPS alone may not be enough for full retirement need.

? LIC Policy Assessment

– You pay Rs. 5,000 monthly till 2039.
– Policy offers Rs. 21 lakh maturity with Rs. 10 lakh death benefit.
– LIC is a mix of insurance and low-return savings.
– Estimated return is likely around 4% to 5% per year.
– You may consider surrendering this plan.
– Reinvest this into long-term mutual funds.
– Mutual funds offer higher returns and better flexibility.
– Insurance should always be separate from investments.
– Use term insurance for risk coverage.
– Use mutual funds for wealth creation.

? Review of PPF Account

– You are contributing a small amount irregularly.
– Current balance is Rs. 1.7 lakh.
– Maturity is due in 2033.
– PPF is safe and tax-free.
– But it offers modest returns of 7–7.5%.
– Use this only as part of your debt portion.
– Avoid treating it as your main growth engine.
– Increase contribution slightly if possible.
– But don’t overdepend on it for goals like education or retirement.

? Current Debt Structure and EMI Analysis

– EMI of Rs. 10,500 will end in June 2027.
– That’s about 25% of your current investable surplus.
– Once cleared, you will have higher monthly savings.
– Do not take another loan immediately after this one ends.
– Use that EMI amount for goal-based SIPs.
– Avoid using loan for buying car or land.
– Try to stay debt-free after 2027.
– That will help you build wealth faster.

? Insurance Planning Review

– LIC is not term insurance.
– You did not mention any pure term plan.
– Please buy one immediately with Rs. 50 lakh to Rs. 1 crore cover.
– It is low-cost and essential to protect your family.
– If anything happens to you, your son’s future is at risk.
– Term insurance is the best way to secure his education and upbringing.
– Review and ensure nominee names are correctly added.

? Goal 1: Your Son’s Education Planning

– Your son is 6 years old now.
– Engineering or medical education costs can be high.
– It may require Rs. 25–30 lakh or more in total.
– You have 10–12 years to plan this goal.
– Start a separate SIP dedicated only for this purpose.
– Choose diversified mutual funds with active management.
– Avoid direct or index funds.
– Direct funds lack expert guidance and periodic review.
– Index funds only copy market and offer no protection.
– Instead, regular mutual funds through a Certified Financial Planner are better.
– You will get yearly reviews and strategy adjustments.
– Increase SIP once your loan EMI ends in 2027.
– If possible, start with Rs. 3,000–5,000 monthly from now.
– Even this small start will grow with time.

? Goal 2: Buying a Car

– A car is a depreciating asset.
– It should never be bought with long-term loans.
– Try to buy a car with savings only.
– Delay the purchase till after 2027.
– You can set up a 3-year recurring deposit or short-term SIP.
– Use balanced or hybrid mutual funds for this goal.
– Do not disturb your son’s education corpus for car buying.
– Keep car budget simple and realistic.
– Avoid costly models with high EMI burden.
– Remember, a car is a comfort, not a goal.

? Goal 3: Buying a Piece of Land

– Real estate for living is a lifestyle choice.
– But do not treat it as an investment.
– Real estate lacks liquidity and transparency.
– Also, it brings added costs like stamp duty and maintenance.
– If you must buy land, do it only after key goals are covered.
– Never delay your child’s education or retirement for this.
– Avoid taking a big home loan again.
– If you still wish to buy land, start a separate SIP now.
– Use equity mutual funds with 8+ years horizon.
– Do not compromise your other long-term financial goals for land.

? Emergency Fund Planning

– You didn’t mention any emergency corpus.
– This is very important for salaried families.
– You need at least Rs. 1.5–2 lakh in liquid funds.
– Build this over the next 6–8 months.
– Use liquid or ultra-short mutual funds for this.
– Don’t keep money idle in savings bank account.
– This money is for medical, job loss, or family emergencies.

? Long-Term Retirement Strategy

– You retire in 2044, which gives 19 years.
– NPS will continue to grow till then.
– But NPS alone is not enough.
– Start a separate retirement-focused SIP now.
– Choose long-term equity mutual funds with active fund managers.
– Direct or index funds don’t give such customisation.
– Regular mutual funds via CFP-led guidance bring structure.
– Post 2027, increase retirement SIPs aggressively.
– Build two retirement sources – NPS and mutual funds.
– This dual structure gives tax and liquidity balance.
– Avoid any plans that mix insurance with retirement.

? Suggested Cash Flow Plan From Now

– Monthly net income is Rs. 47,000.
– EMI is Rs. 10,500 till 2027.
– LIC premium is Rs. 5,000.
– Expenses are Rs. 30,000 at max.
– That leaves very limited room today.
– Still, try SIP of Rs. 2,000–3,000 for your son’s goal.
– Also set aside Rs. 1,000 in liquid fund as emergency base.
– After EMI ends in 2027, divert that full amount to SIPs.
– Split that into retirement, car, and home planning SIPs.
– Don’t increase lifestyle expenses after loan closure.
– Instead, increase savings commitment.

? Maintain Financial Discipline

– Avoid borrowing for car, travel, or celebrations.
– Track all your expenses monthly using an app or diary.
– Update nominee details in all your accounts.
– Review all your investments every 6 months.
– Set financial reminders for SIP dates and insurance renewals.
– Don’t stop SIPs even if market goes down.
– Stay invested for long-term compounding.

? Benefits of Active Mutual Funds Over Index and Direct Funds

– Index funds copy market and offer no active strategy.
– They can fall badly when markets crash.
– They don’t help in risk reduction.
– Direct mutual funds are also risky for non-experts.
– They give no guidance, no regular review, and no help during crisis.
– Regular mutual funds through a Certified Financial Planner are better.
– You get yearly check-ups, goal mapping, and corrections.
– A planner keeps your emotions under control.
– That helps build long-term wealth safely.

? Finally

– You have good habits and clear goals.
– But some product choices need correction.
– Surrender the LIC and replace it with term insurance.
– Build your son’s education fund with SIP.
– Create a car fund only with savings.
– Don’t rush into land purchase.
– Build emergency fund and retirement fund gradually.
– After 2027, your cash flow will improve.
– Use that to increase SIPs and reach your goals easily.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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