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Asked by Anonymous - Aug 25, 2023Hindi
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Hi Mam, I am a 30 year old woman, married since 11 years. My husband is 36 years years old and have a normal intellectual relationship. The problem is since the past 2 years, we have had a very poor physical relationship. we have intercourse once in a month or 2 months (we indulge in foreplay weekly though) since my husband has been facing medical issues relating to the same and somewhat refrains visiting a doctor. He has even confessed to self consummate occasionally. We do not have a child and since many years we have been trying naturally and medically, but results have not come favorable. We have noticed that recently that our interests in each other has begun fading. My husband really loves me and takes care of me at the same time, I love him too, but things have not been very good of late. We both are very eager to start a family as well and plan to go for another medical attempt soon. Can you guide us how to get back to the healthy relationship we had?

Ans: I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a challenging time in your relationship. It's important to address both the physical and emotional aspects of your relationship to work towards a healthier and happier dynamic. Here are some steps you can consider:

Open Communication: Sit down with your husband and have an open and honest conversation about your feelings and concerns. Share your thoughts about the changes in your physical relationship, the impact it's having on your emotional connection, and your mutual desire to start a family.
Seek Professional Help: Since your husband is experiencing medical issues related to your physical relationship, it's crucial for him to consult a doctor. Encourage him to see a medical professional who specializes in sexual health. It's common for people to feel uncomfortable discussing such matters, but a doctor's guidance can help identify the underlying issues and recommend appropriate treatment.
Counseling or Therapy: Consider seeking couples therapy or counseling to address the emotional aspects of your relationship. A therapist can help both of you communicate more effectively, understand each other's needs, and work through any emotional barriers that might be affecting your intimacy.
Quality Time: Spend quality time together outside of your physical relationship. Engage in activities you both enjoy, communicate openly, and strengthen your emotional bond. This can help rekindle the connection you had before.
Support Each Other: Going through medical challenges and fertility issues can be emotionally draining. Support each other during this time by being patient, understanding, and showing empathy. Remember that you're a team, facing these challenges together.
Intimacy Beyond Sex: Explore ways to maintain intimacy that don't necessarily involve intercourse. Engage in activities that foster emotional closeness, like cuddling, holding hands, or having deep conversations.
Manage Stress: Fertility struggles and relationship issues can lead to increased stress. Find healthy ways to manage stress, such as exercise, meditation, or engaging in hobbies you enjoy.
Set Realistic Expectations: While it's natural to want to conceive and start a family, try not to let this desire put excessive pressure on your relationship. Setting realistic expectations and timelines can help alleviate some of the stress.
Rediscover Each Other: Take time to learn about each other anew. People change over time, so invest effort into discovering your partner's evolving interests, dreams, and aspirations.
Stay Positive: It's important to maintain a positive outlook. Focusing on the strengths of your relationship and the progress you make, both emotionally and physically, can make a significant difference.
Remember that relationships go through ups and downs, and it's not uncommon to face challenges. With open communication, patience, and a willingness to work together, you can navigate these difficulties and work towards reestablishing a healthy and fulfilling relationship. If needed, consider reaching out to professionals, such as therapists or doctors, to provide specialized guidance.

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Hi Anu,I am a regular rediff news reader.I went through some of you post and I felt I can surely request you to help me in my situation.We are married since February 2017. We had a pretty good life in terms of physical and emotional as well.In Dec 2018 we had a child but after that there is a change in my wife's sexual behaviour.She is willing to have sex; we do get involved as well also. We become passionate in kissing and all but unfortunately she doesn't get wet.It's very difficult for me to keep my focus and I lose my erection.Just want to ask you is this because of change in hormonal issue due to birth of child or is this something we need to seek a professional to help us.She is really loving, caring and even she is disappointed with this.We even had a conversation over this. I asked her if she is no more interested in sex or if she doesn't find (me) attractive. Her answer was 'nothing like that'. She is very happy with me as a husband.
Ans: Dear A, being a mother is a big blessing for a woman.

She transitions into a beautiful phase of her life. But with this comes the responsibility of caring for a new-born or in your case a toddle round the clock.

She hardly has the time to focus on being a wife with the constant feeding and changing of nappies.

Added to that is she’s working, then there’s additional office work besides also taking care of the household chores.

Also, a woman goes through a lot of changes in her body after the delivery and for a few women sex is off the cards for a while after that.

This could be because some women feel that their body is not what their husbands will love anymore and also her focus has shifted on to her baby who needs her love, care and support 24/7.

There is a bond between the mother and the child that at times can irk a few husbands who can translate that as feeling ignored and angry.

This is the time the new father can also spring into action and come together for his lady and his child.

Support your wife unconditionally and love her without any expectations in return

Offer to care for the baby so that she can take some time-off to rejuvenate herself

Encourage her to indulge in a hobby that she might have stopped because of the baby; this will help her be in a happy space

Compliment her and engage in a little off-the-bedroom intimacy like hugging, kissing and holding hands

Watch movies together and do a couple of things that bonded you as a couple before the baby arrived

Smile at her warmly and reassure her that no matter what nothing has changed and that she is still the woman that you loved and married

Does this work? Yes, it does…Love and reassurance can cause a lot of calmness in her and arouse her better in bed.

And if there’s something still amiss, then maybe you could talk to a gynecologist who can guide both of you on the next steps and rule out any medical challenges. All is well.

Simply be in Love. Wishing you and your family a beautiful life!

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Hi Anu, plz helpI am 42 years old and married since 9 years. We (husband and I) are childless. It's nine years since our marriage but we have not been intimate for even 90 times. My husband has no interest in sex. He had shown interest only in first week of marriage after that He never initiate. I understand his nature and always try to initiate but he always gives cold shoulder, he never reciprocates warmly, never holds me tightly or kisses willing. I always have to force' him or ask him to kiss or hug me. And this turns my mood off. This way we seldom have sex. I eagerly want it at least once a month and have told him, forced him several times but all in vain. I get frustrated. I feel restless. I can't share this with anyone. Whenever I try to get close, he ignores. Both of us respect and love each other. We don’t have extra marital affair. He cares for me too. I feel like running away from this situation but I love him and don’t want to leave him alone. Please respond.
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Dear Anonymous,

When there is a challenge with physical intimacy, it could be a physiological or a psychological problem. Either case, it needs some treatment.

But the worse could be conditioning about sex from childhood.

We all carry our maps when it comes to sex and beliefs around it. Along comes so many people and media and more who draw on these maps and we are left at the mercy of things that don’t belong to us.

Since he cares for you as you mentioned it, can you request him to sit down with you for an honest conversation where you can express all of this to him.

Who knows he might be willing to understand, and things can flow from there on.

Be kind instead of accusatory in your tone during the conversation. This will help ease him as well. But of course, if he resists the request, you might suggest that he see a professional.

It might again be met with some resistance but well, you need to try every trick in the book to meet an outcome.

Also, be aware that physical intimacy happens when the closeness develops outside the bedroom. So, spend a lot of time together, laugh a lot.

Praise his efforts in the marriage and appreciate the qualities in him.

Most often men who avoid sex simply suffer from low self-esteem and self-worth. So, play along and mean every compliment from the heart.

Best wishes to you!

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 15, 2023Hindi
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Hi Anu !! I am 53 year & my wife is 52 years. She underwent a surgery in 2021 for removal of a simple ovarian cyst and was back to normal routine after few months. However, we are not able to have sexual intercourse since then due to it being extremely painful for her. She has also lost all interest in sex & we try it occasionally only upon my insistence. Prior to her surgery, we had a rocking sex life but now it has come to an abrupt end & it feels very depressing at times, particularly for me. Life seems lack-lusture now. Is it normal or we need to have some medical or psychological intervention. My wife says we are now anyway too old to expect frequent sexual encounters as before. She had her menopause about 3 years back. Pls help, I am confused, just like teenagers are when they are at the doorsteps of adulthood.
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Two things strike me as I read what you have shared.
1. The effects of the surgery and medications that are possibly not making intercourse a pleasure
2. The effects of menopause which she possibly is undergoing that can temporarily deter the body from being active for any form of sexual intimacy

So, isn't it fair to actually focus on her as she is dealing with two major challenges at this point in time? I do understand that as a man, the way the body works is not at the same pace as it is for a woman. That's how there is a mismatch during key phases of life; childbirth, menopause, illness...
For a woman, her body will cooperate for any form of intimacy only if she 'feels' it from within...with pain and physiological changes during menopause due to hormonal his and lows, it is a challenge.
Work together as a couple on this; understand what is going on with her and what she 'feels'

Address the 'feeling' part and you will get answers to what's going on with her mind and body. Is consulting an option? Yes, it is but after you have tried working together on this. Sometimes, it is good to rule out any medical issues that is causing her to still have pain or a fear due to that pain can be eliminated by working with a mental health professional. Also a Mind Expert, will be able to work on her beliefs on intimacy, sex etc after a certain age...
One can be sexually active as long as they wish to, but it need not be cut short due to health issues or belief issues. Be compassionate as you speak with her and I am sure, things will get better...

All the best!

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Hi, I am 42 and my wife is 36. Been married for close to 9 years. Had our first princess in 2015 & second princess in 2019. Before having the second one, my wife had a very good sex drive both mentally & physically. We were having intercourse for at least 3 times a week. But over a period of course 3 years into post our second child being born, my wife has lost interest. Sex has been like may be once in 30 to 45 days. I am not forcing her but rather trying my best to have those Intimate moments like hugging tightly, kissing her, do a little bit of smooching, try to touch and kiss on sensitive areas like belly, feet, ear......parallel I am taking time to appreciate how caring she has been in respect to taking care of the family, complimenting her how beautiful she looks inside and outside, how much she is glowing, sometimes I take efforts to cook for her giving time offs and also I look after the kids, press her legs etc. but nothing is working and this desperacy is killing me inside so much that sometimes I have been getting false & weird thoughts in my mind to have an affair or go to a call girl. Need your advise on this....
Ans: Dear Chandra,
I am glad that you are putting in all efforts in a non-sexual manner which is what most people miss out on.
But since it isn't working, I think it could be just caring for two young children. It can sap a woman's/primary caregiver's energy to a point that intimacy is the last think on her mind.
You children are at an age where they are dependent on parents and also are full on energy with high demands. This could be the reason as well.
I would also suggest that with growing demands from the children in terms of time and attention, what might be overlooked is your wife has some vitamin deficiency which can lead to lethargy, lack of interest and more. My suggestion would be to visit a doctor who will write down specific tests that may get to the root of the problem.
Till then, be the supportive husband that you have been AND a call girl is a momentary rush of adrenaline; so be wise...

All the best!

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HI,Iam 51 year old MALE, want to invest in some financial instruments, for next 10 years...to build up a good corpus...may salary is about a lakh...can invest upto 40 k..pls suggest
Ans: At 51, you're in an ideal position to plan for the next decade of your financial journey. With a steady salary of Rs 1 lakh and the ability to invest Rs 40,000 per month, your focus is likely on building a secure retirement corpus while balancing some level of growth.

Let’s explore options that suit your investment horizon, risk tolerance, and desire for a good corpus in 10 years.

Balanced Approach Between Safety and Growth
Since you're looking to invest for the next 10 years, it's important to create a diversified portfolio. You should aim for both growth and stability. With a mix of equity, debt, and other instruments, you can grow your wealth steadily while reducing risks.

Systematic Investment Plan (SIP) in Mutual Funds
SIPs are a great way to grow your wealth systematically. By investing a fixed amount monthly, you benefit from rupee cost averaging, which helps you ride market volatility.

Growth potential: SIPs offer you exposure to equity, which generally gives better returns than fixed income instruments over the long term.

Moderate risk: Since you have 10 years, you can consider a blend of equity and debt mutual funds. Actively managed funds can outperform index funds, especially when guided by a Certified Financial Planner.

Monthly investment: Out of the Rs 40,000 you can invest monthly, allocating around Rs 25,000-30,000 in equity mutual funds can provide growth.

Debt Mutual Funds for Stability
Alongside equity, it’s important to have stability in your portfolio. Debt mutual funds offer lower risk but still provide better returns than traditional bank deposits. They are ideal for your lower risk tolerance and shorter investment horizon.

Safety focus: Debt funds invest in government bonds and high-quality corporate debt, providing capital protection.

Tax efficiency: Debt mutual funds are more tax-efficient than fixed deposits if held for more than 3 years due to indexation benefits.

Monthly allocation: You could consider investing Rs 10,000-15,000 into debt mutual funds for a more balanced portfolio.

Public Provident Fund (PPF)
PPF remains a safe, tax-free, long-term investment option. Given your 10-year time horizon, it aligns well with your financial goals.

Risk-free returns: PPF offers a guaranteed return, and the interest earned is exempt from tax.

Fixed lock-in: Since PPF has a 15-year lock-in period, it is not very liquid, but it's perfect for creating long-term financial discipline.

Allocation: Consider contributing a portion, say Rs 5,000 monthly, to PPF to diversify your portfolio into risk-free instruments.

Gold Investments
You already hold Rs 1 crore in gold, but it’s important to remember that gold is more of a wealth-preserving asset than a growth generator.

Portfolio diversification: Avoid over-investing in gold, as it typically provides low returns over time compared to equity or debt.

Better alternatives: Instead of physical gold, you could invest in Sovereign Gold Bonds (SGBs) for better returns and tax-free redemption after 8 years.

Insurance and Protection
At 51, it's important to ensure your family is financially protected in case of any unforeseen events. Check your life insurance policies and make sure you have enough coverage.

Term insurance: If you don’t already have term insurance, consider getting a policy to secure your family.

Health insurance: Adequate health insurance is critical at this stage. Ensure you have a good family floater plan that covers all medical emergencies.

Avoid Over-reliance on Traditional Investments
It's important to avoid over-investing in traditional instruments like fixed deposits or endowment plans, which provide low returns.

Inflation impact: These instruments often fail to outpace inflation, reducing the value of your wealth over time.

Alternative options: Instead, focus on higher-return options like mutual funds, PPF, and SGBs, which offer a better balance of growth and security.

Tax Planning
Tax-efficient investing is essential to help you maximise returns. Here are a few strategies:

ELSS Mutual Funds: Equity Linked Savings Schemes (ELSS) not only offer good returns but also help in tax-saving under Section 80C.

Long-term capital gains: By holding equity investments for more than a year, you can benefit from lower long-term capital gains tax rates.

Debt funds for tax-saving: Debt mutual funds, if held for more than 3 years, are taxed at a lower rate due to indexation benefits, making them more attractive than fixed deposits.

Emergency Fund
Even though you are focusing on building a corpus for the next 10 years, it's important to maintain an emergency fund. This fund should cover 6-12 months of your monthly expenses, ensuring you are prepared for unexpected events.

Liquidity: Keep this fund in highly liquid instruments like bank savings accounts, short-term debt funds, or liquid funds.

Amount allocation: Set aside around Rs 3-4 lakhs for this purpose to stay financially secure.

Avoid Index Funds
You might come across recommendations for index funds. While these are passively managed and track market indices, they may not be ideal for you.

Underperformance: Actively managed funds often outperform index funds, especially in the Indian market.

Expert guidance: A Certified Financial Planner (CFP) can help you choose better-performing actively managed funds, ensuring your investments are in good hands.

Final Insights
You are at a great stage in your financial journey. By investing Rs 40,000 monthly in a mix of equity, debt, and safe instruments, you can build a strong corpus over the next 10 years. Ensure you are well-protected with adequate insurance and focus on tax-efficient investments to maximise returns.

Keep an eye on your long-term goals and revisit your portfolio regularly with the help of a Certified Financial Planner to ensure you stay on track.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

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Hi, Thank you for your continue guidance. I wish to create corpus of 1 crore after 12 years from now. How much I have to invest in SIP monthly. If I have to put money in bulk how much I have to put considering appreciation of 15-18%. Please guide.
Ans: To create a corpus of Rs 1 crore in 12 years, let’s focus on more realistic expectations based on market returns. While you mentioned 15-18%, it's important to note that these returns are not consistently sustainable. A return of 12% is a more reliable assumption for long-term planning.

SIP Calculation (12% Return)
To accumulate Rs 1 crore in 12 years via a Systematic Investment Plan (SIP), here’s what you need:

SIP at 12% return: You will need to invest approximately Rs 43,000 per month for 12 years.
This assumes a 12% annual rate of return compounded monthly.
Lump Sum Calculation (12% Return)
For a lump sum investment, if you want to achieve Rs 1 crore in 12 years, the amount required is:

Lump sum at 12% return: You will need to invest approximately Rs 35 lakhs today.
This also assumes a 12% annual rate of return.
Why 12% is Realistic
While it’s tempting to expect higher returns of 15-18%, they come with higher volatility and risk. Historical returns in equity markets tend to average around 10-12% over the long term, which provides a balance between risk and return.

Key Takeaways
SIP at 12% return: Invest Rs 43,000 monthly for 12 years to reach Rs 1 crore.
Lump sum at 12% return: Invest Rs 35 lakhs today to reach Rs 1 crore after 12 years.
Final Insights
Focusing on a 12% return for your SIP or lump sum investment is more realistic for long-term wealth creation. It balances the potential for growth with a sustainable level of risk. Both approaches—SIP and lump sum—have their advantages, and you can choose based on your cash flow and risk tolerance.




Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

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Namaskar. Sir I am 36 year old having two daughters 9years and 5 years old, i have near about 1 cr as gold, 3 lac in share market, 5 lac in mutual funds and 3 lac in EPF. working in private company salary is 50000 rs per month. now my question is that i want early retirement in age of 50 and want to do a world tour, how i can plan all this. I have no need of any loan in future also. thanks in advance
Ans: At 36 years old, you have set a clear goal of early retirement at 50 and a desire to travel the world. This is a great plan and can be achievable with the right financial strategy. You already have some solid assets:

Rs 1 crore in gold
Rs 3 lakhs in the share market
Rs 5 lakhs in mutual funds
Rs 3 lakhs in EPF
You also have a monthly salary of Rs 50,000 from your private job and no loans to worry about. Having a financial goal is the first step, but the challenge is ensuring that your investments grow steadily to meet your retirement and lifestyle aspirations.

Let’s look at a comprehensive approach to achieve this.

Define Your Financial Goals
You mentioned two key goals:

Early Retirement at 50: This means you have around 14 years to build your corpus. After retirement, you need to ensure that you generate enough income to cover your living expenses.

World Tour: This is a great ambition, but it requires careful planning. World travel costs can vary greatly, so having an estimate in mind will be important.

Now, considering your current savings and earnings, you will need a larger corpus for both retirement and travel. This means that your savings and investments must grow faster than inflation and be sufficient for both goals.

Building a Retirement Corpus
To retire at 50 and sustain your lifestyle, you’ll need a corpus that can generate enough passive income. Here’s how you can plan:

Invest More Aggressively: Currently, you have Rs 3 lakhs in the share market and Rs 5 lakhs in mutual funds. With your goal of early retirement, it would be beneficial to increase your investment in equity mutual funds. Equity has the potential to provide higher long-term returns compared to traditional options.

EPF Contributions: You have Rs 3 lakhs in EPF, which is a good base for retirement. EPF offers stable returns, but it may not grow fast enough to match your early retirement plan. Consider increasing contributions if possible, but don’t rely solely on it for long-term growth.

Gold Holdings: You have Rs 1 crore in gold, which is substantial. While gold is a good asset, it doesn’t generate income and can be volatile. You might want to consider reducing your gold holding over time and reallocating that into more income-generating investments, such as mutual funds or fixed-income instruments. This can provide you with both growth and security.

Increase SIP Investments: Start or increase your systematic investment plan (SIP) in equity mutual funds. SIPs in equity funds over a long period can help in building wealth. Actively managed funds, as opposed to index funds, can provide better growth with professional fund managers making the decisions.

Managing Risks in Investment
You have expressed concerns about market-linked investments like stocks and mutual funds. These concerns are valid, but they can be managed with proper diversification and long-term focus.

Stock Market: While you only have Rs 3 lakhs in the stock market, consider increasing this exposure but with diversification. A well-diversified portfolio can reduce risk while allowing for potential growth. Avoiding high-risk, speculative stocks is key; focus on blue-chip stocks or large-cap companies with strong fundamentals.

Mutual Funds: Investing through mutual funds rather than directly in stocks can also help. Opting for regular mutual funds with the help of a certified financial planner (CFP) ensures that an expert manages your money. Active fund management allows the flexibility to adapt to market changes and potentially achieve better returns.

Tax-Efficient Investment Strategies
One of the key aspects of planning for retirement and travel is minimising tax liability. Here are some strategies you could consider:

Equity-Linked Savings Scheme (ELSS): ELSS investments are tax-saving mutual funds that can help you save on taxes while growing your wealth. The returns from these funds are subject to long-term capital gains (LTCG) tax, which is generally lower than other forms of taxation.

Tax-Efficient Mutual Funds: You can also consider investing in other tax-efficient funds, which allow you to grow your money while reducing the tax burden.

Maximising EPF and PPF: Since you already contribute to EPF, consider starting a Public Provident Fund (PPF) if you haven’t yet. PPF offers tax-free returns and is a long-term savings option, ideal for retirement planning.

Health and Life Insurance: Ensure that you have adequate health and life insurance. These will protect you and your family and offer tax benefits under sections 80C and 80D of the Income Tax Act. The premium paid for health insurance and life insurance qualifies for tax deductions.

Allocating Funds for Your World Tour
While planning for retirement, you’ll also need to set aside a specific fund for your world tour. Here's how you can do this:

Goal-Based Investment: Set a target amount you need for your world tour. For instance, if you plan to take this trip right after your retirement at 50, you’ll need to ensure this amount is separate from your retirement corpus.

Dedicated SIP for Travel: You can create a separate SIP in a balanced mutual fund, which offers stability and growth, to save for this goal. This will allow your travel fund to grow without affecting your retirement savings.

Short-Term Fixed Income Instruments: If you’re looking for a relatively safer option, consider investing in short-term debt funds or fixed-income instruments closer to the time of your world tour. These can provide liquidity and safety for your travel fund.

Estate Planning and Children's Future
With two daughters, planning for their future education and possibly marriage expenses is essential. Here’s how you can ensure this:

Sukanya Samriddhi Yojana (SSY): If you haven’t yet, you could consider investing in SSY for your daughters. This is a government-backed scheme that offers attractive returns and tax benefits. It’s specifically designed to cater to the education and marriage needs of girls.

Children’s Education Fund: You should also start a dedicated education fund for your daughters. Education costs, especially for higher education, are rising, and planning for it early will give you peace of mind.

Nomination and Will: Ensure that you have a proper will in place. This is crucial for ensuring that your wealth is passed on to your loved ones without legal hassles. Include all your major assets such as gold, mutual funds, shares, and other investments in your will.

Managing Gold Holdings Effectively
You hold Rs 1 crore in gold, which is a significant amount. While gold is a hedge against inflation, it doesn’t generate income. Here’s how you can better utilise this asset:

Sovereign Gold Bonds (SGB): Instead of holding physical gold, consider converting some of your gold holdings into SGBs. SGBs provide an interest income along with price appreciation. This way, you’ll continue to benefit from the rise in gold prices while earning a passive income.

Reduce Physical Gold: Consider liquidating a portion of your physical gold to reinvest in higher-yielding assets. The money from this can be used to further invest in equity or mutual funds, thus boosting your retirement corpus.

Contingency Fund and Emergency Planning
While planning for retirement and travel, it’s also important to have an emergency fund. This fund should cover at least 6-12 months of your expenses in case of unforeseen circumstances like job loss or medical emergencies.

Emergency Fund: Since you already have some liquid assets, ensure you keep a portion of your Rs 50,000 salary aside every month for this purpose. Ideally, this should be kept in a liquid fund or savings account for quick access.

Health Insurance: Ensure you have a comprehensive health insurance plan to avoid dipping into your retirement savings during medical emergencies.

Finally
Your financial foundation is strong with gold, mutual funds, shares, and EPF contributions. To retire at 50 and fund a world tour, you need to boost your investments with more strategic and tax-efficient approaches. Focus on building a larger retirement corpus through mutual funds and SIPs. Use your gold more effectively by converting part of it into income-generating assets. Don't forget to plan for your children’s education and secure your family's financial future through proper estate planning.

A well-balanced investment plan, along with disciplined savings, will help you retire early and achieve your dreams.

Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 19, 2024Hindi
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I am 45, I have 3 factories assets leased at 9.30 lacs, 13.80 lacs, 8.5 lacs , i have 3 offices out of which 2 are leased at 40K and 45K per month. The locations of assets are good and market distress value of built up factories is 23 cr , 36 cr , 23 cr. The offices value are 1.5 cr each of 3 offices out of which 2 are leased. I have buffer of around 5 cr in FD's and around 11.58 lacs is the LIC Insurance premium i pay per annum. I have been paying since last 9 years and shall have to pay for another 8 years and Policies get matured 3 and 5 years after payment ends. I have 2 daughters and a wife & mother. I need to retire by 50. My income source right now is 20 lacs per Annum from a new business i have started 2 years back with an investment of 1.5 cr. Prior to this i had a manufacturing unit in DEBT which I sold during Covid to remain liability free... Please suggest me how can i reduce my taxes and increase further my passive income and asset base. The land and new properties have become expensive now and i want to invest in some where different where TAX liability is lower and returns are better. I am not exposed to SHARES , STOCKS , MUTUAL fund and have my reservations as they are market linked and how can i trust my investment on some unknown fund managers. My house i own values around 16.5 cr.
Ans: Assessing Your Current Financial Situation

You have built a strong foundation with a solid asset base, consistent passive income streams, and a clear goal to retire by 50. The leased factories and offices are providing a stable income. Additionally, you have a healthy buffer of Rs 5 crore in FDs and a well-structured LIC policy. Your family is your priority, and you are looking to reduce tax liability while increasing passive income.

At 45, you have a few critical years before retirement. This gives you enough time to optimize your financial portfolio and ensure your goals are met with minimal tax burdens. Let’s break down how you can move forward.

Passive Income: Key to Financial Independence
Your current real estate portfolio provides a dependable source of passive income. With the following income breakdown:

Factories leased at Rs 9.30 lakh, Rs 13.80 lakh, and Rs 8.5 lakh annually.
Offices leased at Rs 40,000 and Rs 45,000 monthly.
Your total passive income from these assets comes close to Rs 32 lakh annually. With the land and property market now expensive, your focus should be on diversifying income streams beyond real estate.

Steps to Increase Passive Income

Invest in Debt Instruments: Given your reservations about market-linked instruments like shares and mutual funds, consider debt instruments. Options like Government Bonds, Corporate Bonds, and Debt Mutual Funds can offer steady returns with lower market volatility. These also have tax-efficient structures if held for the long term (3+ years), benefiting from long-term capital gains tax with indexation benefits.

Diversify with International Investments: You could explore international bonds or debt-based mutual funds focused on developed economies. These offer diversification beyond India and can help protect your investments from domestic economic fluctuations.

Sovereign Gold Bonds (SGBs): Since land is expensive, another safe, government-backed option is SGBs. They provide interest along with capital appreciation based on the price of gold. Interest income is taxable, but any capital gains on maturity are tax-free.

Rental Yield Real Estate Investment Trusts (REITs): Though you're cautious about real estate, REITs allow you to invest in a basket of real estate assets. They provide regular dividend income, which is rental yield. You won’t need to worry about maintenance or managing properties. REITs offer steady income and tax-efficient capital appreciation.

Tax Efficiency Strategies
Tax planning is a crucial part of any financial strategy. Given your asset base, current income, and goal to retire in five years, reducing your tax liability is essential. Here are a few steps that can help you achieve that:

Reduce Tax Burden on Real Estate Income

Ownership Structure: If any of your properties are solely in your name, consider transferring them to family members in lower tax brackets (e.g., your wife or mother). This reduces your tax burden as rental income gets distributed.

Invest Through HUF: If you don’t already have one, forming a Hindu Undivided Family (HUF) can help. Income earned through HUF gets taxed separately from personal income, reducing your overall tax burden.

Depreciation Deductions: Claiming depreciation on your factories and offices can significantly reduce taxable income. This applies even though they’re leased out. Have your accountant review your depreciation claims to ensure you’re taking full advantage.

Focus on Tax-Free Investments

Tax-Free Bonds: You can invest in tax-free bonds issued by government-backed entities. The interest earned on these bonds is entirely exempt from tax. Though they offer lower returns (5-6%), they are a good addition to your portfolio for stable, tax-efficient returns.

PPF and VPF: If you haven't maxed out your Public Provident Fund (PPF), it offers tax-free returns, and the interest earned is exempt from income tax. Additionally, consider contributing to a Voluntary Provident Fund (VPF) if available, as it also enjoys tax benefits.

Optimize Your Insurance Policies

You’re currently paying Rs 11.58 lakh annually in LIC premiums. Since these are investment-linked insurance policies, they tend to offer lower returns than other investment options. You may want to reconsider whether you need such a high premium commitment for another eight years.

Steps to Consider with LIC Policies

Review the projected returns upon policy maturity. Compare them with other safe investment options.

Surrender Partially: If the policies are not yielding a high return, you may consider surrendering part of them and reinvesting the surrendered value into better-performing instruments like debt mutual funds or tax-efficient bonds.

Retain Policies Near Maturity: Policies maturing within 3-5 years can be retained, as surrendering close to maturity may not be financially viable.

Build Your Retirement Corpus
Your goal of retiring at 50 is feasible, but your retirement corpus needs careful planning. At retirement, you would want a mix of stable income and wealth preservation to last for the next 30-40 years.

Steps to Build Your Retirement Corpus

Systematic Withdrawal Plans (SWPs): Once you retire, you can shift a part of your fixed deposits and FDs to debt mutual funds. Through an SWP, you can withdraw a fixed sum every month. SWPs in debt funds are tax-efficient since the withdrawals are treated as capital gains, and only a small portion of the withdrawal is taxed.

Avoid Direct Stock Exposure: Since you are risk-averse towards stocks and market-linked investments, avoid direct exposure to equity markets. However, you can consider hybrid funds that invest a portion in equity and debt. This way, you get a balanced return without the full exposure of equity risk.

Annuity as an Option: Once you reach the age of 50, explore annuities that provide a fixed monthly income. These are a secure, low-risk way of ensuring a steady income for your retirement.

Managing Business and Reducing Taxes
You’ve recently started a new business with an annual income of Rs 20 lakh. You should take full advantage of the available tax deductions for business expenses.

Tax-Reduction Strategies for Your Business

Claim All Deductions: Ensure that you claim deductions on all legitimate business expenses, including salaries, rent, utilities, and other operational costs. This reduces your taxable profit.

Depreciation on Assets: If your business involves equipment or machinery, ensure that you are claiming depreciation on these assets to reduce your tax liability.

Opt for Presumptive Taxation: If your business income is below Rs 2 crore, you may qualify for the presumptive taxation scheme. This scheme allows you to declare profits at a fixed percentage of your turnover, which simplifies tax filing and reduces scrutiny.

Estate Planning and Legacy for Daughters
Since you have two daughters and significant assets, estate planning should be a priority. You want to ensure a smooth transfer of wealth, reduce inheritance taxes, and avoid any disputes.

Steps for Efficient Estate Planning

Create a Will: Ensure that you have a clear, legally-binding will in place. This prevents any legal disputes and ensures that your assets are distributed according to your wishes.

Set up Trusts: Consider setting up a family trust. Trusts can help reduce estate taxes and ensure that your daughters inherit your wealth in a structured manner. They also protect the inheritance from creditors.

Plan for Property Transfer: Real estate can be tricky when it comes to inheritance due to capital gains tax. Discuss with a legal expert on how best to structure the transfer of property to your daughters to minimize tax implications.

Finally
You are in an excellent position, with a strong asset base and stable income streams. With some careful tax planning, reallocation of insurance premiums, and a focus on diversification, you can achieve financial freedom by the age of 50.

While your reservations about market-linked investments are valid, not all investment opportunities carry high risk. You can balance your portfolio with safer instruments like debt funds, government bonds, and REITs.

By following a diversified approach, you will be able to reduce tax liability, increase passive income, and secure your family’s future. Consider working with a Certified Financial Planner to ensure all elements of your plan are optimized and aligned with your goals.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in

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