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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on May 06, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 30, 2024Hindi
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I am 28 M. I am a virgin. But all most all my friends had sex in their life. I am feeling FOMO when they talked about their sex life. Should I wait for my marriage or try with others. Is this will impact my mind or my future. Currently I don't have any gf also.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

You should be having sex only when you are ready for it. There is no rush. Don't give in to peer pressure if you do not want to get physically intimate right now. Moreover, doing something just for the sake of it or because everyone else is doing it makes it meaningless and that's not what you should be aiming for when it comes to any form of intimacy.

Best Wishes.

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i am 32 year old guy still virgin ..marraige isgeeting delayed ,few years back i had friend who is helping me ( Only Oral ) but now she is no more with me , iam kind of feeling depressed for not getting married tell me what to do ?
Ans: First, it’s important to acknowledge and understand your feelings. Feeling down about your current situation and the delayed path to marriage is natural. These emotions are valid, and recognizing them is the first step towards addressing them. It's okay to feel disappointed or anxious, and it’s essential to approach these feelings with compassion for yourself.

Take some time to reflect on your expectations around marriage and intimacy. Often, societal pressures set specific timelines and standards that don’t align with everyone’s unique journey. Consider whether the pressure you're feeling is coming from external sources or your own expectations. Understanding this can help you set more personalized and realistic goals that align with your true desires.

Focusing on personal growth and self-care can be incredibly rewarding during this period. Engaging in activities that bring you joy, building new skills, and nurturing your mental and physical health can boost your confidence and overall well-being. This personal development often attracts new opportunities, including potential relationships, by making you feel more fulfilled and self-assured.

Expanding your social circles is another step that can open up new possibilities. Consider joining clubs, attending social events, or participating in online communities that match your interests. These activities can help you connect with like-minded individuals and build meaningful relationships, which could potentially lead to finding a partner.

Seeking professional support can provide valuable guidance and perspective. Talking to a therapist or counselor can help you navigate your feelings of depression, explore underlying issues, and develop strategies to manage your emotions and expectations. Therapy can also help you build confidence and improve your approach to relationships, making you feel more equipped to handle the dating world.

Reflect on how you’re approaching dating and relationships. If marriage is a priority for you, it’s worth considering how you're searching for a partner. Are you clear about your intentions and what you’re looking for in a relationship? You might find it helpful to adjust your approach, whether it’s trying different dating platforms, being more open to meeting people through friends, or exploring matchmaking services.

It’s also important to be patient and open to different possibilities. Relationships often develop when you least expect them, and being patient with the process can alleviate some of the pressure you're feeling. Trust that your journey to finding a partner is unique and unfolding at its own pace, even if it doesn't follow the timeline you had envisioned.

Embrace your past experiences, including those with your friend. They are part of your personal story and contribute to who you are today. These experiences don’t define your future relationships or your worth. Instead, view them as learning opportunities that have helped shape you and prepare you for future connections.

Remember that your value and happiness are not solely tied to being in a relationship or getting married. Focus on building a fulfilling life for yourself, and be open to the relationships that come along the way. Your path to finding a partner is unique, and it’s important to remain hopeful and proactive in creating the life you desire.

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Plastic-Aesthetic Surgeon, Emergency Care Consultant - Answered on Dec 05, 2024

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Dear Doctor, I work as a corporate lawyer in Delhi. I’ve been considering undergoing a cosmetic procedure for my skin for some time now, but I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed by the number of surgeons available. I want to ensure that I choose someone who is experienced, as this is a big decision for me. Could you advise what I should look for when selecting a plastic-aesthetic surgeon? Are there any specific red flags I should be aware of when researching potential surgeons? I want to make sure I’m in safe hands. I’m 40 years old.
Ans: This is a beautiful question.
Before I dwell on your question, there are a few points which are very important for the patient to know.
1. You should roughly know what result you wish to have.
2. Never think of a perfect result. There is no such result.
3. You must think in terms of improvement and if you are sble to achieve more than 90% approx, it can be considred good.
4. Dont compare your results with any celebrity's result. There body structure is different, they have probably taken better care till now and importantly, the result you see on a public platform is after make up and not the real result. Some times it may be a photoshopped image
5. Let your doctor know if you have any medical history and addictions.
6. Don't go with pre concieved notion (especially if you have researched a lot online). Discuss with the doctor, listen to his/ her views and raise your concerns if any
7. Try and see some results of the doctors work (Remember, too good a result may not be the true result). Realistic result is what you should want to look at and believe.
8. Don't fall for less budget! its obvious a meticulous job needs more surgical time. This means that the doctor may charge more. Seniority also adds to the cost.
What I mean, there is a price to be paid for a good job.(whether medical or anywhere).
Now coming to the Plastic surgeon's choice.
1. Research well, but dont fall prey to only advertisement. Small and big centers, both advertise,
2. Dont fall for glamour. You are going to a surgeon. A plastic surgeon's clinic is clean but not lavish generally. At least I believe that the person coming is not a client, but a patient. A patient - Doctor relationship is more pure than a client-Professional relationship.
3. Talk and discuss with the doctor. A too busy doctor may not always be the best doctor for you. Plastic surgery is about thinking, planning and execution. A doctor who thinks aloud about your problem ( especially if ut us face, nose, breast etc) is applying his/ her knowledge for your betterment, because every oerson is different.
4. Check the resilts? Look for genuinity.
5. Be wary of arrogant, loud and boisterous people. There is a difference between confidence and fambloyence.
6. Doctors who are attached to reputed hospitals are generally good in their work.
7. A doctor who can talk about probable complications is also a doctor worth trusting.
I hope I am able to do justice to this difficult question. All the best. You can write again if you need any other clarifications.
Dr. Anshuman Manaswi

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