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Dating, Relationships Expert - Answered on Sep 19, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 05, 2024Hindi

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I am a 27 year old unemployed female from kerala.My parents are actively looking for a groom.I am dating a schoolmate of mine for about one and half month.He has a job which he would like to upgrade.Even though it's been only a short time,we have realized that we are ideal partners.We have a very good understanding.he is a very hardworking person.He has set some goals in his life.He wants to.marry me after achieving those goals.The very first problem is he is 5 months younger than me.I was born in April 1997,and he was born in September 1997.How will i convince my parents about this age gap.He is from my same district and he lives nearby..The second problem is how can I convince parents for a late marriage.they want me to settle down as early as possible.but i too need to find a job.And he also said he has to achieve his goals to make our life more comfortable.he has a decent job now although.He is a very good person.I am scared of this age gap mostly.I don't know how to.convince our parents

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand your dilemma but your partner is not wrong. Career is important and having a secure career will help you pitch the relationship to your family. In fact, I would suggest you do the same. You can use that as an excuse to delay your marriage as well. In today's day and age, it's important to have financial independence before getting married. Make your parents understand that and cite it as a reason why you are not ready to be married off yet. But apart from a solid reason, it is also the truth. Coming to the age gap, as long as it doesn't bother the two of you, that age gap is nothing to be concerned with; once you both have a great career, your parents will get convinced on their own. Work for that.

Best Wishes.

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