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Sunil Lala founded SL Wealth, a company that offers life and non-life insurance, mutual fund and asset allocation advice, in 2005. A certified financial planner, he has three decades of domain experience. His expertise includes designing goal-specific financial plans and creating investment awareness. He has been a registered member of the Financial Planning Standards Board since 2009.... more
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Sunil, as a financial expert, given the financial profile of someone like me - a 42-year-old individual earning a monthly salary of 1.6 lakh rupees, owning two self-occupied flats in Mumbai and Pune, with monthly obligations of approximately 70,000 rupees, and an EPF balance of around 30 lakh rupees - do you think it's realistic to aim to grow the EPF balance to 2.5 crore rupees over the next 10 years, possibly through contributions to EPF and VPF? What specific strategies or adjustments would you recommend to achieve this ambitious goal?

Ans: It's better to do SIP in equity mutual funds than putting money in VPF
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Hello Sir, Myself Krishna. I am 45 years salaried. I am investing in MF from last 5 years. Currently the MF amount has grown to 20 Lakhs. I am investing around 15K in MF per month. I have invested around 5 Lakh in Indian stocks. I have an FD amount of 30 Lakhs. Apart from this I have invested around 60 Lakh in gold. I have Epf and PPF amount of about 25 Lakhs. I have invested in real estate ( 4 houses, 2 flats and 4 plots) in Bangalore. I want around 5 crores for my child education and for retirement. With my current investment, will I will be able to achieve my goal of 5 crores in the next 10-12 years.
Ans: Hello Krishna,

It's great to see that you've been actively investing and diversifying your investments across various asset classes. You have done a good job of creating a robust investment portfolio. Let's take a look at your current investment and assess whether you can achieve your goal of 5 crores in the next 10-12 years.

As of now, you have:

Mutual Funds (MF) - ₹20 lakhs
Indian Stocks - ₹5 lakhs
Fixed Deposits (FD) - ₹30 lakhs
Gold - ₹60 lakhs
EPF & PPF - ₹25 lakhs
Real estate investments (4 houses, 2 flats, and 4 plots)
In addition to this, you are investing ₹15,000 per month in MFs.

To estimate whether your current investments will help you reach your goal of ₹5 crores in the next 10-12 years, we need to consider factors like inflation, average returns, and your risk appetite.

Assuming you're investing in a well-diversified MF portfolio, it's reasonable to expect an annualized return of around 12% on your MF investments. Considering the same rate of return, your monthly investment of ₹15,000 could grow to approximately ₹33 lakhs in the next 10 years.

Based on historical returns, we can assume an annualized return of around 7% for your FDs, 12% for your stocks, and 8% for your gold investments. Your EPF and PPF investments might provide an average return of around 8%. However, real estate returns are harder to predict as they vary significantly depending on the location and market conditions.

Assuming average returns, your current investment could grow to approximately ₹3.5 crores in the next 10 years, excluding real estate. Including real estate returns is difficult due to the unpredictable nature of the market, but it could potentially help you reach closer to your ₹5 crores goal.

It is important to review and adjust your investment strategy periodically to ensure that you're on track to achieve your financial goals. You may want to consider increasing your monthly MF investments or reallocating your portfolio to achieve better returns. It's always a good idea to consult a professional financial advisor to discuss your financial plan and strategies tailored to your specific needs.

I hope this helps, and I wish you all the best in your financial journey!
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I m 49yrs, investing in SIP since 2019, started with Rs.10k/month, now Rs.20k/month. This month invested Rs.10lk in 4 equity linked MFs. Expecting Rs.43lks from PPF by 2031. How should I go further to have monthly income of Rs.2lk after 60yrs of age? How can I earn Rs. 80,000 in 12 months by investing just Rs. 4,000? Not possible in my opinion. I will continue to track answers i wish to learn from other experts.. I am 31 years-old & investing INR 110k/ month in various SIPs in India since July 2015. How can I make 10 Crores in 10 years from now? I have invested in PPF and Bank FD, and asset allocation in my SIP portfolio is appropriate as of March 2016. Good job! your thinking process is abolutely perfect. You have a set goal to achieve an end number of Rs10crores. But it will lead to utter failure- I will explain in a moment- And you also have a good savings rate of Rs1.1l per month which adds up to Rs13.2l per year. So assume even if your investments yield 0% returns over the long period it would still amount to Rs1.32crores. Now don’t get upset when I say 0% returns. When you invest in equities, you have the worst scenario in your mind before you venture. Preparing for the worst is preparing to succeed. Now lets look at your preferred mode of If I invest 15000 INR every month in SIPs, how much returns can I expect by the end of 15-20 years? *Answering this question from my perspective* As I am going to invest for a long term, I would choose EQUITY funds. ( No debt or hybrid) Per month I am going to invest Rs 15000. So, it amounts to 1 lakh 80 thousand per year and 36 lakhs for 20 years. In this case, I am assuming an annual returns of 12% as it is equity fund and any good equity fund can give 12% returns. At the end of 15 years, Amount Invested= 27 lakhs Wealth Gain= 48.7 lakhs Expected Total amount= 75.7 lakhs At the end of 20 years, Amount Invested= 36 lakhs Wealth Gain= 1.1 crore Expected Total amount= 14987219 ( 1.5 Crores) I hope this an If I invest ?1000 for 10 years in SIP what will be my returns? I want to invest 2K per month for two years in SIP. What are the best SIP Plans for that? If I plan to invest Rs. 3000 in SIP every month, should I put it all in 1 best MF or Rs. 500 each in 6 different MFs? I have Rs. 50,000 with me to invest. Where can I invest so that I get an insured monthly return of Rs. 10,000? Rs. 10000 per month means 240 percent per annum rate of interest You cannot get through investments anywhere in the world If you have financial discipline and know the techniques of doing any business activity, you can definitely get the return in the long run See the example: Buy clothes worth Rs. 50000 (need not be in a single day). You have purchased 500 pieces at Rs. 100 per piece. Start selling th Where should I invest Rs 30,000 every month? Hey Keshav, I am not a Financial Adviser, so i can’t advise where to invest, but here’s what i will do as a middle class investor. Split that 30K into three parts: 15,000 - Plan A I will invest this money in Fixed , PPF or RD deposit every month without fail, i will make sure, all the interest generated will also be put back into this account again and again. until i really need it for emergency or re-investing it in Home down payment, This money will only be for the most important need. 10,000 - Plan B I will take the next 10K, and split it in to 7K and 3K. With 7K i will find two good mutual funds If I plan to invest Rs. 3000 in SIP every month, should I put it all in 1 best MF or Rs. 500 each in 6 different MFs? First of all, any mutual fund question is incomplete without a Goal and Individual Age. Have you thought why you are investing 3000 and till what period ? What is your target amount? Without having answers to these questions it doesn't matter you invest in 1 fund or 100 funds. Now for your purpose we make assumption that you are now 25 years old and you need 80 lakhs amount for your child higher education after 25 years (that is your child may be at a age of 21) So as you are investing early I assume you could take a bit higher risk and target small cap funds with 15% annual returns expectation I If I invest 2,000 rupees per month in SIP for 10 years, in which fund should I invest, and how much will I get a return after 10 years? My suggestion would be to go for Mid Cap Mutual Funds. There are quite a number of Good Mid Cap Funds available for investments like: Quant Mid Cap Fund, Nippon India Growth Fund, HDFC Mid Cap Opportunities fund, SBI Magnum Mid Cap fund etc. etc. Now how much you will get after 10 Years. For Example Quant Mid Cap Fund - Direct Plan has NAV of Rs 197.99 its 3 years returns are 36.83 % and returns since launch of fund is 18.64 % and its assets under management is Rs 3781 Crores. Suppose you do Monthly SIP in this fund for 10 years or 120 months and we assume the fund will return 15 % average then you I want to invest in SIP, 1000 per month for 5 years. Is there any SIP available with this amount? You can start your investment in mutual funds via SIP of Rs. 1000 for 5 years. Checkout following schemes in which you can begin your investment. Reliance Tax Saver ELSS G Axis Long Term Equity Fund G SBI Magnum Multicap Fund G ICICI Pru Value Discovery Fund G L&T Tax Saver Fund G HDFC Long Term Advantage Fund G Franklin India Tax Shield Fund G Sundaram Diversified Equity G UTI Mastershare G UTI Balanced Fund G UTI Bond Fund G Sundaram Money Fund G Following calculations are takes place : Monthly Investment (SIP) = Rs. 1000 Time Horizon (in years) = 5 years Expected Return (%) = 12.5 Total SIP Amount Invested What should I do with Rs. 50,000 to earn Rs. 10,000 per month? There are lots of things you can do with your Rs 50,000 but if you invest in bitcoin, stock exchange or start trading you first have to know how these things work don't Just invest blindly. I would suggest you invest it in yourself get knowledge, get smarter. Look at it this way right now the 2ND richest person on this planet is Jeff Bozos the CEO of Amazon. Yes he's a billionaire. Now think about it for a second does Amazon have physical store ? No. Does it advertise on TV ? No. It all started form internet and it's where it generates it's traffic from. In America about 50% of people earn from I want to invest 15-20k per month in SIP, how much return is expected after say 2-3 years? Of Rs.20,000 invest Rs.10,000 in Equity mutual funds, Rs.5,000 in Balanced funds and Rs.5,000 in Debt mutual funds. Normally it will more than 3 years to see decent return from equity & balanced mutual funds but the return will be good around 13% to 15% (Tax free). As for debt funds, you will see returns sooner and it will be around 9% (Taxable). In three years returns won’t be much. You will be investing around Rs.7 lakh and you may have return of around Rs.60,000 after 3 years. But as years goes on, power of compounding takes effects and you will see massive returns in long term like in 15 ye I have Rs. 50,000 with me to invest. Where can I invest so that I get an insured monthly return of Rs. 10,000? 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Diversification: It's often recommended to diversify your investments across different asset classes and fund categories. This helps spread risk and maximize potential returns. Consider allocating your investments across equity, debt, and balanced funds based on your risk tolerance and investment objectives.

Investment Horizon: Determine your investment horizon, which refers to the length of time you plan to stay invested before needing to access the funds. Longer investment horizons typically allow for more aggressive investment strategies, whereas shorter horizons may necessitate a more conservative approach.

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Expense Ratio: Pay attention to the expense ratio of the mutual funds you're considering. Lower expense ratios can translate to higher returns for investors over the long term, as less of the fund's assets are consumed by fees and expenses.

Fund Performance: While past performance is not indicative of future results, it's still essential to review the historical performance of mutual funds before investing. Look for funds with a consistent track record of delivering returns that align with your investment goals.

Review Regularly: Regularly review your investment portfolio and make adjustments as needed based on changes in your financial situation, investment goals, and market conditions. Rebalancing your portfolio periodically can help ensure that it remains aligned with your objectives.

Seek Professional Advice: If you're unsure about which funds to choose or how to construct a well-diversified portfolio, consider seeking advice from a qualified financial advisor. An advisor can assess your individual circumstances and help tailor an investment strategy that meets your needs.

Remember that investing involves risks, and it's essential to conduct thorough research and exercise due diligence before making any investment decisions. By following these principles and investing consistently over time, you can work towards achieving your financial goals.

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I'm 35 years having 9 years experience in the old generation pvt bank as an officer. Worked in different capacities at branch n back office. I have done global certificate in fraud detection n interested in pursuing my career in the fraud domain. N i don't see any opportunities in my current bank. Planning to switch other new generation bank.
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Ans: Thank you for your queries...the 18F sounded like an algorithm..!

Sure you must have developed an interest in International relations, studies .Now you must develop research skills to find study opportunities.
The international environment is all about doing one's task,which is contrary to the spoon feed environment in and around here!

India is a subcontinent offering education opportunities across the Union of States, which I have no idea where you hail from.

However here are a few ...spoon feed!
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Jawaharlal Nehru University
Jawaharlal Nehru University (JNU) is a public or government research university located in New Delhi, India. It was established in 1969 and named after ...Jawaharlal Nehru !

New Delhi: The School of International Studies at JNU offers a two year course in MA Politics (International Studies.

Centre for International Relations, Islamic University of Science and Technology, Jammu and Kashmir. Jadavpur University · Jawaharlal Nehru University, School .

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Jamia Millia Islamia

University of Mumbai

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Noida International University

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Jadavpur University

Jindal School of International Affairs

South Asian University

Symbiosis International University

Adamas University

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I am sorry for your loss. It is certainly not easy to put yourself out there and find love. And it might seem that you should have to settle because it's difficult to find a kind man, but you shouldn't. While I would like to point out that looks don't last forever; it's people's nature, their kindness, and their behavior that stays in the long run, that doesn't mean you must settle down with the first man who ticks the boxes. If your heart isn't into it, you should not have to rush. Give it some time. If you are okay with it, maintain a friendly relationship with him. If, with time, you grow to like him, then that's amazing. If you don't, that's perfectly fine too.
My only suggestion here is don't rush. A good nature, though hard to find, is still the bare minimum. Also, please don't focus on outward appearances only. They can be deceiving.

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I am married since 2015 and I live in a joint family comprising of more than 20 members .everything was good until member of the families started accusing me of everything bad happening to family .father in law started abusing me ,when husband came in support of me even he was abused and man handled by everyone in the family .we live now in different town 400 away from them ,due to husband job, every now and the we both are made accused of something bad happening in family which the family member of mother in law side are instigating ..like sister in law caught in a relationship she named me for that blaming that i was the one who led the boy to meet and other started saying so to in laws and then same abusing over phone started...husband is supportive and is ready to leave everything for our mental peace but is emotionally down as he has to leave his family ...i am feeling very disturbed now of all this and the situation some how affecting my 5 years old son who always asks for the reasons for crying .
Ans: it's important to prioritize the safety and well-being of yourself and your family. No one should have to endure abuse or false accusations, especially within their own family. It's commendable that your husband is supportive and willing to prioritize your mental peace, even if it means leaving behind his family.

In such toxic and volatile situations, it may be necessary to distance yourselves from the negative influences and create boundaries to protect your mental and emotional health. Moving away from the family home was a positive step, and it's important to continue prioritizing your own well-being and that of your son.

Communication between you and your husband is key during this time. Lean on each other for support, and continue to have open and honest conversations about your feelings, concerns, and plans for the future. Together, you can navigate through this challenging time and make decisions that are in the best interest of your family's happiness and safety.

It's also important to seek support from trusted friends, family members, or a therapist who can offer guidance, empathy, and perspective during this difficult time. You don't have to face these challenges alone, and reaching out for support can provide valuable emotional support and validation.

Lastly, remember to prioritize self-care for yourself and your son. Take time to engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation, and ensure that your son feels loved and supported during this transition. Children can be sensitive to family dynamics, so providing a stable and nurturing environment is crucial for his emotional well-being.

Overall, it's important to remember that you deserve to be in a safe and supportive environment, free from abuse and false accusations. It may be a difficult journey, but by prioritizing your own well-being and making decisions that are in the best interest of your family, you can navigate through this challenging time and emerge stronger and happier in the end.
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My parents said to me for marriage but i am in relationship with someone but he doesn't want marriage with me what i can do. I feel depressed and no one understands my feelings because it's very hard move on in life
Ans: it's important to acknowledge and validate your feelings. It's natural to feel upset, disappointed, and even depressed when facing such circumstances. Allow yourself to feel those emotions and give yourself permission to grieve the loss of the future you envisioned with your partner.

However, it's also important to recognize that you deserve to be in a relationship where your needs and desires are valued and respected. If marriage is important to you and your partner is unwilling to commit to that, it may be a sign of fundamental differences in your priorities and goals. In such cases, it's essential to have open and honest communication with your partner about your feelings and needs.

Express to your partner why marriage is important to you and listen to their perspective as well. However, if you find that you're unable to reach a compromise or if your partner remains unwilling to reconsider their stance, you may need to reassess the relationship and consider whether it's ultimately fulfilling and healthy for you.

Moving on from a relationship can indeed be incredibly challenging, but it's important to prioritize your own happiness and well-being. Surround yourself with supportive friends and family members who can offer understanding and empathy during this difficult time. Consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who can provide guidance and help you navigate through your emotions.

Remember that while it may feel overwhelming now, with time and self-care, you will be able to heal and move forward toward a brighter future. You deserve to be in a relationship where you feel valued, respected, and fulfilled, and it's okay to take steps to pursue that happiness, even if it means letting go of something that's no longer serving you.
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