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Child and Parenting Counsellor - Answered on Jun 23, 2023

Dr Aarti Bakshi is a psychologist licensed by the Rehabilitation Council of India.
A school counsellor, she has worked for 15 years with young adults.
She has two PhD degrees -- developmental psychology from Global Institute of Healthcare Management and clinical psychology from Singhania University.
She is on the CBSE panel for counsellors and special educators. She collaborates with SAAR Education to help children develop life skills.
She has authored SEL (social emotional learning) journals for Grades 1-8.... more
Srikanth Question by Srikanth on Jun 05, 2023Hindi
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Dear Sir, my son is a 16 yrs old he has autistic features, we have enrolled him into a special resedential school, he is studying their since last 20 months. He has shown little improvement however we have found out that he is just a trainable child at scale of 4 out of 10 the challenge is inspite of spending 20 months in the school he is still missing his parents, however we manage to visit the school once in three months to ensure he does not miss us. As parents we want to give him as much help as possible to make him independent. Not sure what else can be done to improve or fasten his, learning to make him independent child, need your expert advise here.

Ans: A school working with students will work at the pace of your child adapting and always keeping in mind his needs. All children miss their parents and that’s fine. Sending him communication by emails, telephones, audible messages are options in between your visits to keep in touch with your son. Skills are built over months, you could contact the school for his IEP and skill development plans. You can always give your inputs and trust the educators who are professionals to do best for your child.
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Dear Doc., My Son falls under handicapped category. he is good in studies and intelligent. Has a postgraduate degree. because of his problem, he likes to stay aloof and stay at home, may be because of his hearing and speech problem. doesn't like to go out and any one visiting us. He is not using his intelligence in concrete work/ manner. Any kind of screen is his best time pass and remains irritated and angry. how to counsel him is our problem, because the moment we try to discuss about his progress, going to job etc. he disengages himself and goes away. please advise.
Ans: It sounds like your son may be struggling with some social and emotional challenges related to his hearing and speech problem, and it's understandable that this could impact his ability to communicate and socialize with others. As a psychologist, I would recommend the following suggestions to help counsel your son:

Validate his feelings: Let your son know that you understand that it can be difficult for him to navigate social situations with his hearing and speech challenges. Validate his feelings and reassure him that he is not alone in feeling this way.

Encourage social interaction: While your son may be comfortable at home, it's important to encourage him to interact with others outside of the home as well. This could be through community events, volunteering, or joining social groups for individuals with similar challenges. Gradually exposing him to new situations can help him build confidence and develop new skills.

Focus on strengths and interests: Encourage your son to pursue his interests and strengths, whether it's in academics, music, or any other area. This can help him develop a sense of purpose and fulfillment.

Explore therapy options: Counseling or therapy can be an effective way for your son to work through his challenges and develop coping strategies. Consider exploring therapy options, such as speech therapy, social skills training, or cognitive-behavioral therapy, which can be tailored to meet his specific needs.

Use positive reinforcement: When your son makes progress, offer positive reinforcement and encouragement. Celebrate his accomplishments, even if they are small, to help build his confidence and motivation.

Remember, counseling and support is a process that takes time, patience, and persistence. Be sure to approach your son with empathy and understanding, and work together to develop a plan that supports his well-being and personal growth.

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My son is of 19 years old, is mildly autistic, has a bit slow comprehension of instructions given to him. lives in his own world , and left schooling due to bad academic grasp. very docile in nature. Can u advise on any life grooming path/procedure for him...
Ans: Dear Dipentu,

Thank you for writing in

Few aspects to look at
Identify your son's strengths and weaknesses and encourage him to explore that aligns with his abilities and interests
Life skill development and prioritizing on life skills like self-care- money management, learning to write his name and signature, organizing his room, etc. This will make him independent as he grows older.
Social skills development can opt for group activities/ therapy, and encourage him to take part in social activities, where he gets an opportunity to interact with others.
Have a personalized education plan -look for professionals who can tailor the education to his unique needs and goals.
Therapeutic Support- Consider enrolling your son in therapy or counseling with the experts to address any emotional, behavioral, or social challenges if any. Such therapy sessions help the individual in building self-confidence, coping skills, and resilience.
Have a fixed, structured, and supportive environment- Provide clear instructions, visual supports, and consistent routines to help your son navigate daily tasks and responsibilities. Plan the discipline around him. Have a schedule and tell him what he needs to follow. For example- Keep a watch in front of him with a timer and alarm and tell him you will do this X activity until the alarm rings. Give direct instructions to him. To say in big or multiple sentences. For example- Come Here, Sit here, Do this, etc.
Exercises- there are certain exercises you can make him do that will help him to do better. You can find these exercises on Youtube or look for professional experts.
Importantly be patient, supportive, persistent, and positive in guiding him and making him a confident individual.

Hope this helps.
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Ashwini Dasgupta
Author of Confidence Decoded. Is it a Skill or Attitude?

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Ans: I understand your concerns about your son's education and future, and I want to reassure you that enrolling him in a special school is a positive step. Although long term it must be inclusive education. It’s great that he is receiving the tailored support he needs. To further support his development, continue with a multi-disciplinary approach by working with physiotherapists, rehabilitation psychologists, and other specialists who can address both his physical and mental needs. Utilizing all available resources at his special school, including individualized education plans (IEPs) and therapies, will also be beneficial.

Additionally, obtaining a disability certificate can provide access to extra resources and support. Consider exploring National Trust schemes that may offer additional assistance and benefits. Joining a parent support group can also be incredibly valuable, providing you with emotional support and practical advice from others who are in similar situations.

Your dedication and patience are crucial, and every small achievement is a step forward. With continued support and the right resources, he can make significant progress. Don’t hesitate to reach out to his educators and therapists for personalized advice and assistance.

Wishing you and your son all the best.

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We are couple with 1 child. However, struggling with schools for my 11 year old who has autism, can talk and severe adhd. Schools are saying that they cannot enrol him yet due to behaviour and the fact that he wont listen to anyone and behave badly. He is smart in academics but likes to do things as he wishes creating issues. he struggles with peer communication and sitting in one place and will slouch and fall from the chair. Are there any options that we can look at. As his IQ is normal we feel he will struggle in a special school as well.
Ans: I understand how difficult and frustrating this situation must be for you as parents. Your child is bright and capable, but his challenges with behavior, attention, and sitting still are making school enrollment tough. Finding the right environment that supports both his academic strengths and his needs is essential. Inclusive schools with special education support or Montessori-style learning environments may offer a more flexible and understanding approach. Occupational therapy can help increase his sitting tolerance, posture, and focus, while behavioral therapy can support emotional regulation and social interactions. You might also consider discussing the option of a shadow teacher with school staff, as one-on-one assistance in a classroom can make a big difference. In case you don't get access to an occupational therapist, approach a physiotherapist with an understanding of Sensory Integration, as they can also help with improving his body awareness and tolerance for sitting. You are not alone in this journey, and with the right support, your child can thrive. I encourage you to connect with a special educator or developmental therapist to explore the best options for him. I request you to be strong and determined. for your son.

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Mutual Funds, Financial Planning Expert - Answered on Jun 16, 2025

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Dear Sir, Please find below my financial details. Kindly advice further for wealth creation. PPF 10 Lacs LIC Jeevan Anand 6 Lacs RD 2000 per month Fixed Deposit 3.75 Lacs SBI- Small Cap 4000 Per month ( for 3 Years) Axis Blue chip 3000 Per month ( For 3 Years) Canara Robeco Blue Chip 3000 Per month ( For 1 Year) Mirae Asset Blue chip 4000 per month for 3 years) Medical Insurance 5 Lacs Term Insurance 50 Lacs Home Loan 28 Lacs( started in april25). Paying 8K per month extra except EMI). Property is rent out. Regards Ankur Gupta
Ans: You have taken some good steps towards financial discipline. Your efforts to diversify across various instruments and maintain insurance coverage are appreciated. I will now evaluate your financial situation under different aspects, and guide you with actionable steps for wealth creation in a simple and clear manner.

Emergency Fund
You haven't mentioned a separate emergency fund.

Emergency fund is essential before investing.

It should be at least 6 months’ monthly expenses.

Include EMIs, insurance, household, and medical costs.

You can use a savings account or liquid fund for this.

Do not use fixed deposits or mutual funds for this.

Keep this fund easily accessible.

Life Insurance and Health Cover
Your term insurance of Rs 50 lakhs is a good start.

But it may be on the lower side.

Cover should be 15–20 times your annual income.

LIC Jeevan Anand is a traditional plan.

These plans give low returns and poor liquidity.

It mixes insurance with investment.

It is better to have pure insurance and invest separately.

You can surrender this LIC plan.

Reinvest proceeds in mutual funds via regular plans through CFP.

You have Rs 5 lakh medical insurance.

This is fine if employer also gives coverage.

If not, increase it to Rs 10–15 lakhs.

Add a top-up health plan for better coverage.

Health costs are rising fast every year.

Loan and Property
Your home loan of Rs 28 lakhs is manageable.

You are paying extra Rs 8000 per month, which is good.

This helps reduce interest and tenure.

Since property is rented out, income supports EMI.

But do not rely on rental for wealth creation.

Real estate gives poor liquidity and high maintenance.

Instead, increase allocation to financial assets.

You can continue prepaying loan if no better options available.

But balance between loan repayment and investment is key.

Fixed Deposit and Recurring Deposit
You have Rs 3.75 lakhs in fixed deposit.

You invest Rs 2000 per month in RD.

These are very low-yield products after tax.

Returns may not beat inflation.

Use these only for short-term goals.

For long term, prefer mutual funds.

Shift RD to a Systematic Investment Plan (SIP) in equity funds.

Keep FD only as part of emergency fund or short-term goals.

PPF – Public Provident Fund
Your PPF balance of Rs 10 lakhs is very good.

It is safe and tax-free.

It gives fixed returns and supports retirement.

Continue PPF for long term stability.

Avoid using this for mid-term goals.

But don’t depend only on PPF for retirement.

It gives lower returns than equity in long run.

Use it as a supporting instrument, not the main one.

Mutual Fund Investments
Your SIPs in multiple funds show good intent.

Monthly SIPs total Rs 14,000.

You are investing in both large cap and small cap.

SIPs are a smart way to build wealth.

Here are a few suggestions:

You are investing in four equity mutual funds.

Three are large cap or blue chip. One is small cap.

Do not invest in too many similar funds.

Large cap funds usually move in same pattern.

This leads to over-diversification with no added benefit.

Instead, choose one or two quality diversified funds.

Keep small cap fund for long term only.

Small caps are risky and volatile in short term.

Do not choose index funds.
They simply copy the market index.
They do not manage risk during market falls.
Actively managed funds are better in Indian market.
Fund managers pick quality stocks and reduce downside.
Active funds give better returns if selected with care.

Also, avoid direct mutual fund plans.
They may look cheaper, but come without proper guidance.
Many investors make emotional decisions in direct plans.
They miss rebalancing and portfolio correction.
Invest through regular plans via MFD who is also a CFP.
You get proper advice, reviews, and rebalancing support.
Good advice helps you avoid costly mistakes.

Investment Strategy – Next Steps
You can now structure your financial plan like this:

Short-Term Goals (0–3 years)

Keep emergency fund of at least 6 months’ expenses.

Use liquid fund or FD for upcoming expenses.

Do not invest this amount in equity mutual funds.

Medium-Term Goals (3–7 years)

Use hybrid mutual funds or balanced advantage funds.

These reduce risk with equity and debt mix.

You can invest some of the FD here.

Long-Term Goals (7+ years)

Use equity mutual funds – large, flexi-cap, small cap.

Do SIPs regularly and increase yearly if income rises.

Stick with long term. Don’t stop during market fall.

Tax Planning and Returns
PPF is already helping in 80C tax saving.

LIC also helps but with low return. Better to surrender it.

SIPs in equity mutual funds are tax-efficient.

New tax rule for mutual funds is now different:

Equity LTCG above Rs 1.25 lakhs is taxed at 12.5%.

Short-term gains are taxed at 20%.

Debt fund gains taxed as per income slab.

Avoid FD as main investment. It gives fully taxable return.

Mutual funds are better after tax adjustment.

Retirement Planning
You are doing some investments but not enough for retirement.

You must plan retirement early for compounding.

PPF is safe but not enough. Use equity mutual funds more.

Estimate your future needs with a financial expert.

Invest with clear goal and timeline.

Child’s Education or Other Goals
You have not mentioned children or specific goals.

Start planning even if child is small.

Education inflation is very high.

Use SIPs in mutual funds for such goals.

Key Action Plan for You
Create emergency fund first. Use FD or liquid fund.

Surrender LIC Jeevan Anand. Invest money in mutual funds.

Stop RD. Start SIP of same amount in balanced mutual fund.

Continue SIPs. Reduce to 2–3 quality funds only.

Invest only through regular plans with CFP-led MFD.

Don’t choose direct plans or index funds.

Keep paying extra to home loan. But balance with investments.

Increase term insurance to at least Rs 1 crore.

Increase health cover with top-up plan.

Track all investments and goals annually.

Finally
You have started well. Your savings habit is good.
You are investing regularly and taking insurance protection.
But your portfolio needs better structure and focus.
Avoid mixing insurance and investment.
Avoid low return products for long term goals.
Use equity funds more through regular plans with CFP support.
Stick to plan for 10–15 years for wealth creation.
Do not panic during market falls. Stay invested.
Rebalance portfolio yearly with professional help.

Best Regards,
K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,
Chief Financial Planner,
www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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