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Parthiban TR, a former professor, has been working in the fields of training and learning development for over 17 years.
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He has worked as a lecturer and professor at the Kuppam Engineering College, Kuppam; the NRI Group of Institutions in Bhopal; and the Bhopal Institute of Technology and Science in Bhopal.
Parthiban qualified for GATE in 2002, 2011 and 2013 and has been training aspirants to prepare for NEET-UG and IIT-JEE.
He holds a bachelor's degree in computer science and engineering from the Guru Ramdas Khalsa Institute of Technology College in Madhya Pradesh and a bachelor's degree in education, specialising in physics and mathematics, from the Sri Venkateswara University, Tirupati.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Jul 19, 2024Hindi
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As you said that I want to word hard, yes you are right but you have to concentrate on it, always befriend to everyone one you associated with, if you need any sort of help, kindly let me know anytime , I am always open to help as I can in connection with the growing attitude of the person like you. Ok thanks

Ans: Congrats.GBU.
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Time to make amends?

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Your portfolio has a good mix of midcap, multicap, small-cap, and sectoral funds.
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