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Mayank Chandel has over 18 years of experience coaching and training students for various exams like IIT-JEE, NEET-UG, SAT, CLAT, CA and CS.
Besides coaching students for entrance exams, he also guides Class 10 and 12 students about career options in engineering, medicine and the vocational sciences.
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Savendra Question by Savendra on Apr 20, 2024Hindi
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Hi Sir ! I am a parent and worry about my son's career, being an engineer have preferred that my Son should also follow career of Engg back ground. I have not imposed on him, but his preparation for JEE / Advance / other institution is not up to mark as per my observation / opinion, that why am worry about his career. He has not done good in JEE 1 exam of January 2024. Now what is option for him for better college and better institution. He was regular student of Allen Career Instt. but he has not achieved what he wants. pl advise best and suitable option for him.

Ans: Hello Savendra
since jee result is out if you can share ranks, category & state, we can work out the best available option for you.
Also I can guide to get admission some of the best institutes in the country.
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