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Md Question by Md on Apr 12, 2024Hindi
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I'm a Mechanical engineer I have passed in 2017 till now I'm unemployed ... I have gave almost 100of competitive exams but failed .... My parents are getting older day by day but still I cannot did something for them .... But I thought to quit my life .... I'm frustrated.. if someone have any advice please give

Ans: Thank you for reaching out to me on Rediff Gurus. I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a difficult time. It's completely understandable to feel frustrated and overwhelmed when facing challenges like unemployment and the pressure of family responsibilities. However, I want to assure you that there is still hope and support available, and suicide is never the answer. Here are a few things to consider for yourself. First of all you should know that it is not your fault that you're facing difficulties in finding employment. The job market is incredibly competitive, and many factors beyond your control can influence hiring decisions hence try to be kind to yourself and recognize that setbacks are a natural part of life.

Please consider broadening your job search to go beyond government jobs to include different industries or roles that may utilize your mechanical engineering skills in unique ways. Networking with professionals in your field and attending job fairs can also help you discover new opportunities. Kindly break down your goals into smaller, manageable steps. Instead of focusing solely on finding a job, consider setting goals related to gaining new skills, volunteering, or pursuing further education. Celebrate each small achievement along the way.

If you're still struggling with feelings of depression or hopelessness, consider seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor. They can provide personalized support and strategies to help you cope with difficult emotions and develop a plan for moving forward. You can also talk to someone you trust, whether it's a family member, friend, or mental health professional near you. They can provide emotional support, guidance, and perspective.

Always remember that difficult times won't last forever, and there are always opportunities for growth and change. Stay hopeful and keep reminding yourself that things can get better with time and persistence. You're not alone in your struggles, and there are people who care about you like your parents, and they need you. Please don't hesitate to reach out for support, whether it's from loved ones, a mental health professional, or a helpline. You deserve to find happiness and fulfillment in your life, and there are resources available to help you get there. Feel free to contact me on Rediff Gurus if you need further assistance or help.
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Hi, Im a 23 year old mechanical engineering graduate, currently unemployed, I am feeling to do some progress everyday, but day after day, nothing changes, I cant figure out what to do with this life and feeling very much lost, Cant think properly on doing what changes my life?
Ans: Hello!!

This information you have shared is not enough to understand what is that you are exactly wanting right now.
Let me see how I can help you. First of all extend your arm and pat yourself on the back for completing your engineering. You are a mechanical engineer!! Celebrate the fact and feel good about yourself.

I like the fact where you say "I am currently, unemployed", this can change soon, look out for opportunities, keep attending interviews, prepare well, ask for help, give it your best shot. Treat every failure as part of a learning process in becoming better next time. Surround yourself with positive and encouraging people.

Till you find a job, live life well on a day to day basis-
1. wake up early
2. exercise
3. eat well and sleep well
4. dress well at home too, don't be in your pyjamas, you should be in such a state that if someone asks you to come for an interview right away, you must be ready
5. beware of negative self talk... nip negative thoughts in the bud
6. looking for a job is your full time job, keep looking
7. be helpful around the house if you are living with your parents
8. till you find a job keep learning and building on your skills
9. volunteer to teach and help the less fortunate lot
10. do not sit idle, keep your body and mind active

Constantly invest in activities that ensure your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well being!! Have rituals that focus on these four pillars of your life!

Blessings and all the very best!!

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 20, 2024Hindi
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Hello Sir/Ma'am I'm facing problems regarding money and career related. However I'm working I'm earning but I not able set a goal, and day by day I'm becoming older, family responsibilities can't be handled because of salary issues. What to do, when I was in 12th standard my sister advised me to choose engineering line, she gave me wrong advise now I'm suffering and she is also working earning well n good she is getting high package but I'm. I think my problem is I'm not able to set a goal. Please suggest me, guide me.
Ans: Hi!!

Can I begin by saying, "stop blaming anyone for your circumstances". Your sister advised you for your own good. Engineering is a good degree to have. If you are not happy with doing technical work then see if you can add an MBA or some other skills to increase your chances of earning more. Life is all about taking decisions on a minute to minute basis. Take the right decisions now, let's leave the past behind, thinking about it has no meaning now.
... will you promise me not to indulge in the three c's- don't COMPLAIN, CRITICIZE and CONDEMN!!
Let's look forward now ...
I always believe in putting everything that overwhelms me on paper... then it starts looking doable and simpler!
So that's your first task, put everything on paper( make a goal book, write everything in it), your desires, your dreams, your goals and a everyday to-do list.
The goals should be in every aspect of your life....
1. Financial Goal
2. Career Goal- what other skills do you need to earn the money you need and move ahead in your career
3. Relationships Goal, the quality of your life is based on the quality of your relationships
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I don't know how good is your relationship with your sister, you say she is doing well, can you ask for her help, without blaming? Ask for help and learn from her. I am sure blood is always thicker and she will help you.

Life is never a straight line, there will always be an up and a down!

Keep up your spirits, everyday is a new day, don't blame yourself, don't blame others. be kind to yourself and be kind to others.

Everyday, take one step towards your goals, move forward... and as regards to ageing, believe me age is just a number, you are as young as you think!!

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I understand how difficult it is to let go of a relationship you have built from scratch, but is it really how you want to continue? It really seems to be going nowhere. His parents are already in bad health and he married someone else for their happiness. Does it seem like he will be able to leave her? So many people’s happiness and lives depend on this one decision. I think it’s about time you and your BF have a clear conversation about the same. If he can’t give a proper timeline, please try to understand his situation. But also make sure he understands yours and maybe rethink this equation. It really isn’t healthy. You deserve a love you can have wholly, and not just in pieces, and in the shadows.

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