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Nayagam P

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Career Counsellor - Answered on Nov 11, 2024

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He has a postgraduate degree in human resources from Bhartiya Vidya Bhavan, Delhi, a postgraduate diploma in labour law from Madras University, a postgraduate diploma in school counselling from Symbiosis, Pune, and a certification in child psychology from Counsel India.
He has also completed his master’s degree in career counselling from ICCC-Mindler and Counsel, India.
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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 20, 2024Hindi
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Hello Sir/Ma’am, I needed some genuine advice for getting a grab on my career. I am currently working as an 'Accountant' in a CA firm. Since passing my school, I wanted to become a Chartered Accountant. I pursued this course jn tje year 2018 along side my graduation in B.com (Hons.) . I cleared the CA Foundation exam November 2018 attempt but I have been struggling to clear CA Intermediate exams since the year 2019. Meanwhile, I completed my MBA (Finance) from distance and got a job in a CA firm but the salary is not promising. As I started to prepare for my CA exams again, I took a leave for 3 months from my office for the upcoming CA Inter exams in January 2025. Now the problem is that while I was focusing on my exam preparation, I had to urgently attend a crucial personal matter. This was regarding my marriage. I had to introduce my family to my boyfriend's. Since my boyfriend os much older, his.parents want me to get married to him.as soon as possible. Me , my boyfriend and my family however handled this situation and asked his parents to wait until January 2025. Ever since then I am not able to focus on my studies as I used to. I know the situation is difficult but it is my dream to become a CA. Could you please help me to bring back my focus ?

Ans: Your scenario is complicated since you must balance CA preparation, career obligations, and marriage obligations. This planned strategy will help you recover focus and advance toward becoming a Chartered Accountant:

1) Change Your Mindset. Accept that life disruptions arise and your focus may wander during personal struggles. Remember that you can recover. Reclaim Your Purpose: Recall why getting a CA is important for your career. 2) Make a Flexible Study Plan. Adjust your study regimen to maximize time given your exam and personal obligations. 3) 12) Focus Methods
Pomodoro Method: Focused 25-minute sessions with 5-minute breaks.
Visualization: Imagine passing CA Inter and pursuing your dream.
4) Daily Study Goals: Break concepts into manageable parts. Set aside 3–4 hours for dedicated study daily. 5) Focus on Weaknesses: Study subjects you've difficulty with. Practice with prior papers and simulated examinations to simulate the real exam. 6) Utilize Support: Talk to your family and boyfriend about your problems. Their understanding and support can reduce emotional stress.
7) Mentors and Study Groups: Attend a CA study group or hire a mentor for help and accountability.
8) If possible try to avail the services of professional coaching or counseling to manage your stress and focus. 9) Address Distractions. Define limits: Inform both families of your study regimen and exam relevance. Digital detox: Limit social media and other digital distractions that lower productivity.
10) Mental Health and Self-Care. Physical Health: Exercise and a balanced diet improve attention.
Mental Health: Meditation and mindfulness reduce anxiety and improve focus.
11) Post-Exam Plans: After January 2025 tests, assess Career Growth: Passing the examinations will boost your career opportunities. Alternatively, you might retake the exam or pursue other finance qualifications. Have Plan B & Plan C also.
12) Planning Marriage: Make sure both families support your marriage timeline and job goals.

With careful planning and support, CA preparation, work, and personal life can be balanced. Focus on each day and remember that long-term ambitions are worth the short-term sacrifices.

All the BEST for Your Prosperous Future.

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