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Leadership, HR Expert - Answered on Apr 17, 2024

Shekhar Kumar is senior manager, talent acquisition, at the Shri Venkateshwara University in Gajraula, Uttar Pradesh. He has 18 years of expertise in the search and placement of executive leadership talent across various industries.
He has also mentored middle and senior management professionals for leadership positions and guided them in career development.
Shekhar has a bachelor's degree in business management from Magadh University, Bihar, and a master's degree in human resource management from Annamalai University, Tamil Nadu.... more
Asked by Anonymous - Apr 15, 2024Hindi
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Hello sir I am 28 years old female working as an HR from home along with preparing for my CS exective. I have cleared its group 1 in 5 yrs and now struggling to clear group 2 since last 2 years. Once i will clear then i have to study for CS professional examination totally unpredictable that how much time it will take to complete. At 30 family will start pressurize for getting married. And i am not joining any HR jobs onsite or not taking any onsite opportunities or growing in my career coz then i will deviate from my CS study. Totally in dilemma what should i do . Please guide sir Thanks

Ans: Thank you for sharing your dilemma to me. It sounds like you're facing a lot of pressure and uncertainty about your career, education, and personal life. Please assess your priorities and set realistic goals for your career and education. Consider the time and effort required to complete your CS executive and professional examinations, and develop a study plan that allows you to balance your studies with your other commitments. Develop effective time management strategies to prioritize your tasks and allocate sufficient time for studying, work, and personal activities. Break down your study goals into manageable tasks and set deadlines to stay on track with your progress.

It is better to have an open and honest conversation with your family about your career and education goals, as well as your timeline for completing your CS examinations. Discuss your concerns and the support you need to achieve your goals while addressing their expectations regarding marriage. Remember that it's okay to seek support and make adjustments to your plans as needed. Trust yourself, stay focused on your goals, and believe in your ability to overcome challenges and achieve success in your career and education endeavors. Best of luck! Feel free to contact me on Rediff Gurus if you require additional guidance or assistance.
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Ans: I have gone through your query and understand that you are at the Cross roads of Life.

It's at these times... When the going gets tough... The tough gets gong.
That's your strength.. A tough resilient young lady!
Kindly note you are doing an excellent job hence rewarded with better pay in your organization.. Obviously there's going to be jealousy..Be calm & Handle it with maturity.

Now I understand you are very committed selfless person. Who's contributing a lot to your family,... Wow in fact helping build your own new house. !

In regards to your contractual job, talk to your employer, let them know, that you would have to look for another job post December 2024 if there's no clear further commitment.

In regard to your marriage at 27 you aren't too old to find a like minded partner don't rush and regret, start the process through matrimonial apps.

I see you talk about your health, especially blood pressure, well that's because you are unduly stressed.
Add tender coconut water to your diet, talk to a proper Ayurvedic doctor..!

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DEAR, MA'AM YEAH DIR I DONT KNOW IF YOU ARE REPLAY ME OR NOT I TURN TO 25 THIS YEAR. I AM A ASPIRANT OF SSC CGL AND I HEARTINGLY WANT THIS I HAVE A CLEAR GOAL. ON WHICH I AM ALSO WORK IT BUT I STARTED LATE AND I THOUGHT MY AGE IS TOO MUCH I HAVE ALSO SO MUCH FINANCIAL OROBLEM. MY PARENT'S HEALTH AND ALSO MY HEALTH ARE WORST DAY BY DAY DUE TO ANXIETY . I AM NOT WILLING TO STUDY I GOT 113IN PRELIMS THIS YEAR IT WAS MY FIRST ATTEMPT BUT I CANT MOVE ON FROM THIS. WHAT DID I DO SO THAT I CAN AGAIN FOCUS ON MY STUDIES SO MUCH NEGATIVE THOUGHTS AND DESIRE GRAB ME I CAN'T CONTROL MYSELF????.
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You are 34! Maybe it's time to take decisions for yourself? And to actually be careful what will happen to his father is sadly a form of soft blackmail. What exactly does your boyfriend have to say about all of this? Does he have any thoughts on how to be married to you or is he going to wait until his father comes around? I would really want you to know what's going on in your boyfriend's mind. It will tell you a lot..

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As a mother you are only trying to protect your son. So, find what you can on this woman and yes, your son needs to be shown that he is just being played and is another one of her 'boys'. Maybe then he will come to his senses. In the meantime, as a family try to surround him with love and a lot of care. He is only experimenting outside by rebelling at home OR he could very well be searching for some validation and attention outside. Give that attention to him at home and that will help him circle right back.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 04, 2025Hindi
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I am a single 34 year old man from Delhi, i was always socially anxious and never had a girlfriend, i have worked on my social skills in the past few years and have a stable career thanks to a good pyschatrist who treated me for depression and anxiety and now its under control. I often feel the need of a partner in life but i feel that i don't deserve one because of my past and i cannot handle the responsibility of married life, this makes me feel that i should stay single and adapt to the single life. Another reason is that i earn well enough for myself but not enough to run a family. I feel that if i get married i must give my best to my partner, but i don't want to let her down. Currently i try to save half my salary every month because of this fear. Can you please let me know what i should do?
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Asked by Anonymous - Jan 31, 2025Hindi
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My child will be appearing for NEET UG 2025 for the fourth time. Each time his performance has been abysmal, which, I know, is going to be repeated this year too. We have already asked him to move ahead but he is adamant on appearing in NEET which is beyond his calibre. He doesn't have any idea what to do next, has never thought of a Plan B,C or D. Kindly guide as to how plan a career ahead for him. Is there any sort of psychoanalysis to know what is the right study option for him and where to get it done. I can't afford crores of rupees in pvt. medical colleges/abroad .I can take professional assisstance . Kindly give me contact number/ email ID. Thanks.
Ans: Hi Sir,

Don't worry. First, it's important to counsel him.

The health sector is a promising field, which is why I believe your son is so determined to appear for the NEET exam, even though this will be his fourth attempt. It’s natural for him to feel a bit worried. I think he needs to reflect on why he hasn't been able to succeed so far. It's crucial for him to analyze where the problems lie. For example, if he's struggling with chemistry, he should focus more on that subject, as well as the others he finds challenging.

He has a lot of homework to do, including taking mock tests and learning effective strategies rather than just simple ideas.

I have one question: Has he enrolled in any study or coaching center for NEET preparation? If so, it would be beneficial to discuss ways to improve his performance.
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