In a healthy relationship, communication is a key component. What are some effective communication strategies that can help improve a relationship?

Ans: Dear Prakriti,

The first step to improving your relationship is putting in the effort, and I am glad to see you are doing so. A healthy relationship runs on proper communication and there are many ways to do it. For starters, while discussing something important with your partner, set aside all things that can take away your concentration from it; for instance, keep your phone at a distance, turn off the TV, etc.

Here are some more ideas:

• During a conflict (conflict is also communication) think before you speak. Don't randomly assign blames because that won't get the discussion anywhere productive, but rather heat it up further.
• Be clear about what you want to talk about; beating around the bush will lead to more confusion. If you want to convey something, be accurate and straightforward about it; it helps leave nothing to assumptions.
• I statements are better than you statements. For instance, "I feel sad when you speak to me in this tone" sounds much better and calmer than, "You always make me feel sad with your tone." It successfully steers the conversation from turning into a blame game.
• Say sorry and thank you when it's due.

Another important part of communication is paying attention and listening intently to what your partner has to say. We often speak our piece and barely lend an ear when it's the other person's turn. Make sure to hear them out for better communication. And don't just talk about negative feelings; communicate the positive ones too.

Hope this helps.

Best Wishes!

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Every long-term relationship goes through this phase. Don't overthink this. When you find yourselves getting into a fight, take a pause and give each other some space. For instance, if you see that a phone conversation is slowly building up to a conflict, hang up for 15 to 30 minutes. Take some time to think- sometimes that is enough for us to realize that our partner is not really being unreasonable or their point isn't exactly wrong. It's easy for people to be defensive at the moment. This small pause can help calm things down and revisit the conversation with a more problem-solving mindset.

Hope this helps.

Ans: Hello mam. I hope you are doing well.
Mam, conflicts or arguments do happen in every relationship. They never get stop even after decades of marriage. When two individuals with different opinions on things live together they may have conflicts or rather diffrence of opinion. The problem is not in this, problem starts when we start over reacting to the problem.
With age our patience decreases and we feel that spark is gone somewhere. Partners should react in an opposite way. If one is in anger then other should understand and keep patience instead of arguing. Try this mantra and things will soon be back on track.
Never hesitate to say sorry and thank you. Acknowledge your partner's even small tasks for you. I hope this solves your problem.
Take care
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