I had my birthday last week and I wanted to give treat to my department. I even informed them about the same. They disrespectfully got their tiffins that day. I have been treated as per their mood. What should I do?

Ans:

Hi Rushilesh.

The best advice is ‘Ignore Them’.

It is human tendency to be jealous and that's what your colleagues are feeling.

Since they can't compete with you on skills, they are using these unethical means to distract you.

Remain focused on your job and don't let your good performance slip.

Keep your manager in the loop about the office politics so that s/he can back you if things get worse.

Ans: Dear Sir/ Madam,

Few aspects to look at-

Acknowledge the facts and emotions
Keep it professional
Put your head down and focus on your performance
Focus on networking
Look for a mentor and seek guidance
Understand and navigate the culture of the organization.

Focus on the aspects that can be controlled. Put your energy around the same. You can not control all the aspects at work. The choice is with you. The more you focus on the aspect (in this case favoritism) it will only drain you emotionally. I am sure you must be experiencing the current situation. Hence focus on what you can control which is your work, your performance, and your growth.

Hope this helps. All the best
To Your Success
Thanks and Regards
Ashwini Dasgupta
Author of Confidence Decoded. Is it a Skill or Attitude?

Ans: Addressing workplace challenges requires a balanced and professional approach. In your case, where colleagues infringe upon your privacy and engage in unprofessional behavior, it's essential to address the issue constructively.

Firstly, consider initiating a direct conversation with the individuals involved. Calmly but assertively communicate your boundaries regarding privacy, emphasizing the importance of mutual respect in the workplace environment. Such a dialogue may lead to a better understanding and resolution of the matter.

Should the behavior persist despite your attempts at direct communication, it may be prudent to escalate the issue through appropriate channels within the company. This could entail discussing the situation with your immediate supervisor or the human resources department, providing factual accounts of the instances where your privacy was compromised.

While navigating these challenges, remain focused on maintaining your professionalism and dedicating yourself to your work. Demonstrating diligence and commitment to your responsibilities will not only bolster your reputation but also serve as a testament to your character amidst any unwarranted criticism or ridicule.

Furthermore, seeking support from trusted confidants or mentors can provide valuable insights and guidance on managing such workplace dynamics. Remember to prioritize your well-being and maintain a proactive approach towards addressing any workplace conflicts, ensuring a conducive and respectful working environment for all employees involved.

Ans: Dear Sir/Madam,

I understand how frustrating and disappointment it can be. I am hoping the below steps should help you -

Stay clam and focused.
Schedule a meeting with your supervisor and have a detailed discussion and express your desire to understand the perspective and ask for feedbacks where you can work on.
Maintain your professionalism
Negotiate appropriately- if you truly believe that you deserve the increment based on your performance and hard work then present your case appropriately and with supportive evidences.
Consider the next steps basis your discussion and evaluate the options available.

Hope this helps and all the best

To Your Success
Thanks and Regards
Ashwini Dasgupta
Author of Confidence Decoded. Is it a Skill or Attitude?