Sir, my daughter is 14 years old, brilliant, sharp mind and has a good educational background but now she is trapped in an affair. As a parent, we had tried to dig out the matter but she has not disclosed it and hiding everything. Please suggest what we have to do so her mind can change & she can come back on the right track and focus on her SSC study. We are facing lots of stress due to such a matter.

Ans: I understand what you are going through, an affair below the legal age, needs to be carefully understood.

It's important to find out the other person in the relationship with discretion ,as you say she's hiding everything, but actually it's hidden from you. Slowly and steadily find her friend's keep a close watch on the situation! Don't take it lightly and let it manifest.

She's looking for love and affection outside at a very impressionable age, is there a situation in the house that's causing it.

I understand the stress you are going through but don't panic,handle the situation with maturity.

It's important to involve other stake holder's in this relationship, is the other partner an adult or a juvenile too!?

Once you know what's the truth, you will be able to solve the problem yourself or with proper professional help... Don't hesitate to approach the school counselor.. Remember handle the girl child with love,don't admonish her tackle the situation with tact and guile with lots of love.

Is it possible to move the girl out of the city to a different place... Start it like a surprise holiday..keep it an absolute surprise.. to prevent itinerary leak..! See if you can do it with a clear action plan!

If the other partner in the affair is an adult,its a POSCO non-bailable offence....... must and should approach the VANITA SAHYA VANI they are a women's welfare wing in every city's Police Commissioner Office. .

Finally.. remember it's you and the child.. Play videos,show photos how she was born & brought up.. Relive every day every moment.. Melt her down.. Win back her confidence.. It's your child.. Get her back.. Love Respect Confidence.. You will get her back!