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Pravin Question by Pravin on Mar 21, 2024Hindi
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Sir, my daughter is 14 years old, brilliant, sharp mind and has a good educational background but now she is trapped in an affair. As a parent, we had tried to dig out the matter but she has not disclosed it and hiding everything. Please suggest what we have to do so her mind can change & she can come back on the right track and focus on her SSC study. We are facing lots of stress due to such a matter.

Ans: I understand what you are going through, an affair below the legal age, needs to be carefully understood.

It's important to find out the other person in the relationship with discretion ,as you say she's hiding everything, but actually it's hidden from you. Slowly and steadily find her friend's keep a close watch on the situation! Don't take it lightly and let it manifest.

She's looking for love and affection outside at a very impressionable age, is there a situation in the house that's causing it.

I understand the stress you are going through but don't panic,handle the situation with maturity.

It's important to involve other stake holder's in this relationship, is the other partner an adult or a juvenile too!?

Once you know what's the truth, you will be able to solve the problem yourself or with proper professional help... Don't hesitate to approach the school counselor.. Remember handle the girl child with love,don't admonish her tackle the situation with tact and guile with lots of love.

Is it possible to move the girl out of the city to a different place... Start it like a surprise holiday..keep it an absolute surprise.. to prevent itinerary leak..! See if you can do it with a clear action plan!

If the other partner in the affair is an adult,its a POSCO non-bailable offence....... must and should approach the VANITA SAHYA VANI they are a women's welfare wing in every city's Police Commissioner Office. .

Finally.. remember it's you and the child.. Play videos,show photos how she was born & brought up.. Relive every day every moment.. Melt her down.. Win back her confidence.. It's your child.. Get her back.. Love Respect Confidence.. You will get her back!
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I'm sorry to hear about the situation you're facing with your daughter. It's understandable to feel helpless and unsure about what to do next.

First and foremost, it's important to remember that your daughter is an adult, and ultimately, it's her decision on what choices she makes. However, as her parents, you can still offer support and guidance to help her make the best decisions for her well-being.

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It's important to maintain open communication with your daughter and let her know that you're there for her, no matter what. Try to avoid blaming or shaming her for her choices, as this can further isolate her from seeking help. Instead, express your concern and offer to assist her in finding a solution that works for her.

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Hi Anu, I am a father of recently turned 13 daughter. We had the most amazing relationship. She was my pet and I would go to any extent to meet her demands. She is not good in studies as compared to my elder son. Still we never pressurised her. Suddenly her school called us to inform that she was on social media and have had an affair..she also kissed the boy. We are shocked ..while we expect hormonal changes and attraction at this stage but kissing and bragging about it is something which is bothering us. We had a call chat with her she admitted everything but had no guilt or shyness. She is known to drop tear but during the conversation she was adamantly confident and giving us examples of othe girls. My wife has been caching her since two years on how things are and how girls should be careful but seems she is just nodding and still doing same thing. I am not only shocked but also concerned that she might repeat it again as she neither felt or said sorry about it but also was completely apologetic ..what should we do?
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'Call chat'?
Why not an 'in-person' chat? Is she away in a hostel or boarding school? If YES, kindly drop everything and be with her.
Surely, she's seeking attention from the other gender like any other teen at this age but what alarms me is the fact that she is callous in her attitude towards the entire episode. Defending her stance only means that she is in unwanted company and is justifying her behaviour as 'fitting in with peers'.
Handle this with butter fingers; give some-take some...yelling and complaining and trying to make her feel guilty is only going to make her repeat her behaviour so that she proves you right...
Spend quality time with her filling it with love, attention and support which is what she is perhaps seeking outside. This can be helped by seeking a professional who has experience handling adolescent behavioural challenges. Surely, this is her way of fitting in and experimenting but something that is also filling in an inadequacy. I cannot be sure of this, but just sharing from my experience of handling adolescents. So, first drop everything and be with her. Give her even more love that will tell her that her parents will be with her no matter what! Yeah, long lectures don't work at that age...SIGH...
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I have a daughter of 22 years old who has completed her degree in event management .but it looks she is not happy with her course. some time back my husband health was critical . She had entered into bad friends for a year where she couldn't complete her final year exam but she lied to us.when I kept on asking her .what she used to do in free time and she never worked she has told us so much lie now we are grappling with the situation in this period she started to smoke .Now even if she finds job.she will lie to us .iam really scared to send her abroad for studies.she will not attend the classes.. Whether we should get her married ,or find a job or study .As mother iam worried about her future iam at 60 and my husband health is not permitting take decision. But she smokes now also .when I tell her don't do it.you are a girl not a boy we have to get you married. Should we keep low at this time or should we advice her she is not a child anymore How do we go about this problem.please give us solutions .we love our daughter so much that her life should be settled before we die
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As hard as it may sound, let her take a break from whatever she is doing to figure out what exactly she wants to do in life and with her life.
Clearly, she seems to be disturbed with something that is going on...it could also be that she is worried for her father and youngsters have strange ways of coping which could also include smoking. How will marriage help when she is unsettled in her mind?
Take one step at a time...focus on your husband's health and involve her slowly into home related stuff and also helping you out. She needs a shift of focus into something that is healthy and also surrounded by love which can only be home.
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Dear Sir/Madam, I am currently a 1st year UG student studying engineering in Sairam Engineering College, But there the lack of exposure and strict academics feels so rigid and I don't like it that. It's like they don't gaf about skills but just wants us to memorize things and score a good CGPA, the only skill they want is you to memorize things and pass, there's even special class for students who don't perform well in academics and it is compulsory for them to attend or else the student and his/her parents needs to face authorities who lashes out. My question is when did engineering became something that requires good academics instead of actual learning and skill set. In sairam they provides us a coding platform in which we need to gain the required points for each semester which is ridiculous cuz most of the students here just look at the solution to code instead of actual debugging. I am passionate about engineering so I want to learn and experiment things instead of just memorizing, so I actually consider dropping out and I want to give jee a try and maybe viteee , srmjeee But i heard some people say SRM may provide exposure but not that good in placements. I may not be excellent at studies but my marks are decent. So gimme some insights about SRM and recommend me other colleges/universities which are good at exposure
Ans: First — your frustration is valid

What you are experiencing at Sairam is not engineering, it is rote-based credential production.

“When did engineering become memorizing instead of learning?”

Sadly, this shift happened decades ago in most Tier-3 private colleges in India.

About “coding platforms & points” – your observation is sharp

You are absolutely right:

Mandatory coding points → students copy solutions

Copying ≠ learning

Debugging & thinking are missing

This is pseudo-skill education — it looks modern but produces shallow engineers.

The fact that you noticed this in 1st year already puts you ahead of 80% students.

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Although VIT/SRM is better than Sairam Engineering College, but you may face the same problem. You will not face this type of problem only in some top IITs, but getting seat in those IITs will be difficult.
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???? Strategy:

Stay enrolled (degree security)

Reduce emotional investment in college rules

Use:

GitHub

Open-source projects

Hackathons

Internships (remote)

Hardware / software self-projects

This way:

College = formality

Learning = self-driven

Risk = minimal

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