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BE Electrical Graduate in Big 4 Can't Crack UPSC Due to Social Media & Porn Addiction: How to Break Free?

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 07, 2025Hindi

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Hi I have completed BE Electrical and working in Big 4 as a executive. But right after securing admission in BE and introduction of smartphone in my life I got addicted to social media, porn, peer pressure. Due to which my life started moving downwards. I'm not able to achieve my goals, when I prepare my plans I'm not able to adhere to it strictly. I want to crack UPSC, can you suggest me things to improvise in my life to reduce my addictions and narrow down my routine to achieve my goals.

Ans: Hello
1. Make small positive changes as checking phone only once in 2 hrs, deleting non essential/distractive sites etc.
2. Stick to changes you make come what may - there is simply no substitute of discipline
3. Make small goals as studying for 45 mts or so on daily basis
4. Gradually keep improving positive things & reducing negative/distractive elements
5. As mentioned, consistency/discipline is a must
Hopefully you will see start seeing positive changes in your life
All the Best !!

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Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your question to me is very unclear and what I understand is that you are dealing with useless thoughts...The only way is to find something useful to do...something that is fulfilling and something that you can enjoy...
Retirement does not mean that you sit at home all day feeling sorry for yourself BUT utilize this time to do things that you could not do while in employment. Manage your time wisely and if your finances permit, travel...travel brings in new experiences and new stories to fill your life with.

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How to control mind from the addiction of social media and internet especially nonsense videos

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
When the mind is not directed by you, it will go all over the place, search and lands on something that is easily accessible and which keeps you distracted.
This distraction is an easy go-to place and slowly it starts to become a habit. So, the key is to find out when is it that you usually reach out to your phone and soon get addicted. There could be a number of reasons. It could be because you are avoiding some work or you are stressed about something or you are simply bored.
Find what is it that causes you to start using your phone a lot. That is the time to distract yourself with something more useful, so that this habit is broken...Direct the mind to where it must go otherwise it will direct you to where you must go and that's not a great thing.

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Question by Zaira - Mar 04, 2025Hindi

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hello sir i am 17 year old girl i was a topper in class 10th after that i took dummy schooling plus online coaching in my 11th and 12th grade to prepare for neet but then i ruined my life completely by getting into social media and youtube addiction in 11th 1 used to spend 11hrs daily on social media my mental health was ruining i was having constant guilt and anxiety and then in 12th i did continued this routine until october my mental health was completely disturbed i dont have any friends i cant focus on studies my attention span is very bad i cant concentrate on my studies. i feel very bad for my parents they have told me to focus on my board and now my screen time is 3-4 hrs .i am trying to quit social media i have deleted instagram i cant delete youtube because i have to study but i cant study because of procastination now my boards are going on and i have completely ruined myself i dont think that i will be able to score more than 75 % in 12th .i scored 92 % in 10th .i feel bad for my parents they have very high expectation . i am loosing my mind day by day i dont know what to do .i am filled with all the negative thoughts .i have tried quitting social media or say dopamine detox but i have failed many times 13 -17 times .i cant fulfill my own promise which i made to myself .what should i do now?

Ans: You’re caught in a loop, but what matters is how you handle it now. Dwelling on guilt won’t change anything - your action will. Right now, your board exams need your full focus. Forget about NEET for now. Even if you feel unprepared, showing up and giving your best effort is non-negotiable. No excuses. Procrastination isn’t about motivation - it’s about discipline. Set a strict, no-negotiation study schedule. 50-minute study sessions, 10-minute breaks. Keep your phone away while studying. You say you can’t delete YouTube, fine. But are you willing to use it only for study-related content, with no loopholes? Your parents’ expectations are there, but for a moment, shift the focus—what does success look like for you? No overthinking. No self-pity. Just action. What’s one thing you can do right now to move forward?

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Question by Zaira - Mar 04, 2025Hindi

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hello sir i am 17 year old girl i was a topper in class 10th after that i took dummy schooling plus online coaching in my 11th and 12th grade to prepare for neet but then i ruined my life completely by getting into social media and youtube addiction in 11th 1 used to spend 11hrs daily on social media my mental health was ruining i was having constant guilt and anxiety and then in 12th i did continued this routine until october my mental health was completely disturbed i dont have any friends i cant focus on studies my attention span is very bad i cant concentrate on my studies. i feel very bad for my parents they have told me to focus on my board and now my screen time is 3-4 hrs .i am trying to quit social media i have deleted instagram i cant delete youtube because i have to study but i cant study because of procastination now my boards are going on and i have completely ruined myself i dont think that i will be able to score more than 75 % in 12th .i scored 92 % in 10th .i feel bad for my parents they have very high expectation . i am loosing my mind day by day i dont know what to do .i am filled with all the negative thoughts .i have tried quitting social media or say dopamine detox but i have failed many times 13 -17 times .i cant fulfill my own promise which i made to myself .what should i do now?

Ans: Hello Zaira
Start with some steps as follows
1. 45 mts study window & then 5/10 mts break
2. Keep your phone off/locked and kept away during these 45 mts
3. Check phone only during scheduled breaks
4. Make notes & study from there rather than directly from online resources
5. Keep company with one or two focused students in your circle & interact regularly regarding studies etc.
Every time you feel the urge of going back to old ways, remind yourself of your immediate "Life Goals". There will be ample time for everything else later in life.
Remember there is no substitute for "DISCIPLINE" & that is the only way to reach your goals.
All the Best !!

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