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BE Electrical Graduate in Big 4 Can't Crack UPSC Due to Social Media & Porn Addiction: How to Break Free?

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 07, 2025Hindi
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Hi I have completed BE Electrical and working in Big 4 as a executive. But right after securing admission in BE and introduction of smartphone in my life I got addicted to social media, porn, peer pressure. Due to which my life started moving downwards. I'm not able to achieve my goals, when I prepare my plans I'm not able to adhere to it strictly. I want to crack UPSC, can you suggest me things to improvise in my life to reduce my addictions and narrow down my routine to achieve my goals.

Ans: Hello
1. Make small positive changes as checking phone only once in 2 hrs, deleting non essential/distractive sites etc.
2. Stick to changes you make come what may - there is simply no substitute of discipline
3. Make small goals as studying for 45 mts or so on daily basis
4. Gradually keep improving positive things & reducing negative/distractive elements
5. As mentioned, consistency/discipline is a must
Hopefully you will see start seeing positive changes in your life
All the Best !!
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Start with some steps as follows
1. 45 mts study window & then 5/10 mts break
2. Keep your phone off/locked and kept away during these 45 mts
3. Check phone only during scheduled breaks
4. Make notes & study from there rather than directly from online resources
5. Keep company with one or two focused students in your circle & interact regularly regarding studies etc.
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Remember there is no substitute for "DISCIPLINE" & that is the only way to reach your goals.
All the Best !!

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Your daughter can consider BITS MSc in Mathematics if she has a strong interest in math. BITS placement records show over 70% placement rates in roles like Data Science, Analytics, Quant, and Finance for this program. Additionally, BITS allows MSc Maths students to switch to certain BE programs after the first year, based on meeting criteria such as minimum CGPA—but this is not guaranteed.

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