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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 09, 2023Hindi
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I m not able retired but not tired best to control extra n useless thoughts/compulsive behaviour as compelled marital life n maintain Rourine which I lost after being retired but not tired with tegrets of unsuccessful personal n official life. ex HOD(Electrical)/Principal Govt.Polytechnic 4 SC Students

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your question to me is very unclear and what I understand is that you are dealing with useless thoughts...The only way is to find something useful to do...something that is fulfilling and something that you can enjoy...
Retirement does not mean that you sit at home all day feeling sorry for yourself BUT utilize this time to do things that you could not do while in employment. Manage your time wisely and if your finances permit, travel...travel brings in new experiences and new stories to fill your life with.

All the best!

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I am 60 year old havig a family of a spouse and a son. since last two years our relation with spouse is not moving smoothly for everything there is an argument and no concensous in the matters of day tody life, son is also not lisoning properly I am under seveor stress which is leading to upset my health and I am facing epilepsy problen since last months I am unable to forget the things and move ahead. Thsere was no problem in leading a normal middle class life. I am facing in security and also I facinig negativities in my life and slowlely slipiing in depression I am trying too much to forget theses things but I am not in a position to lead a peacefull life inspite of adequate resources. Kindly advise me.
Ans: I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult time with your spouse and son. It sounds like the arguments and lack of consensus are causing you a lot of stress and impacting your health. It's important to prioritize your health and seek support if needed.

It might be helpful to try and have an open and honest conversation with your spouse and son about how you're feeling and see if there's a way to work together to improve the situation. It could also be beneficial to seek professional support, such as therapy or counseling, to help you manage your stress and emotions.

Additionally, taking care of your physical health through regular exercise, a healthy diet, and enough rest can also help improve your overall well-being. It's important to remember that it's okay to ask for help and take steps towards finding peace and happiness in your life.

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Help me!!! 1.I'm starting new "work" on my own(challenging for me) but my mind says quit it, be quite & do nothing. I myself don't know that wether the result of work will be +ive or uncompleted like alws. 2. My mind has become like order seeker type, when someone orders me, I do those things with dedicated(but sad from inside) manner. But when myself will try something different(which i fear, but necessary) then. "I QUITS IT" & sometimes I don't even start. 3. I'm like stuck no clue what/whom I want to do in life, I'm in cllg(1 yr) doing (CSE) ,. 4. I want to do/try (sports,talking girls,study,stocks,coding..) many things, but myself, my thoughts(overthinker), R like just be in the place where u are[confused,po*n,think about past/future(being billio..re,olympics..), girl (that u liked & never talked), abusive/beating self,.. sometimes feels like end life, but don't hv courage for that also.. 5. I tried self help books, spirituality, god, self affirmation, writing... & thay affected me(sometimes) but for only some time, then again that devil me comes up &these things never get completed. As no one in my family knows about all these, so that's Y ,I hv to fight/loose/try again, the battles with myself.
Ans: Dear Harsh,
If in the past you have had the urge to QUIT, how is this time going to be different? This is not to discourage you from taking up 'new work' but pointing out that there is some amount of work that you need to put to clear the mind out of blockages.
-What is limiting you?
- What is the reason for putting off things?
- What comes first to the mind when you start something new?
Also, focus on one thing at a time; study and go deep into it...what's this thing with work? I don't understand. When the mind is unsettled, take one thing/activity, pursue it and finish it. It could simply be studying for Year 1 of your college...just only do that...once your mind is trained in completing an activity, you can add another one the next year along with studying and then pursue both...it could be some sport and studying...then the next year, you could add a third activity. This is called 'training the mind in discipline'. Discipline will make sure that you start and finish things...So, go slow and do one thing at a time.

All the best!
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Hello mam I'm Ankur , CSE(1 yr), 20 yr old boy and Every new day is new hope, but when it ends ,I'm still same & now I have lost the belief in me & everything else also. But still I get voices/images in my head of being good, doing work, making money, changing lives and things which i want to do, but fear/hesitate to do them. And that's why I try to find solutions of it by reading(self help, comedy)books, yoga(sometimes),.. but after 3-4 days I get defeated. And the vicious life starts again..(quiet, distracted, alone,..). I use mobile a lot( Yt, Po*n, reading material(self- help), speech(motivation), ..) but I use this as a way by which I can forget the stress/life condition/problems.. clearly "NO CONTROL". I'M writing so maybe i can get some relief & solution..
Ans: Dear Work,
Well if motivational gyaan helped all of us, there would be no sadness or anger or anxiety in any of us, right? All this material available in plenty, and it helps to make us aware of what can be done to improve oneself. But what is also required is to find the root cause of the stress and looping into things that add more stress.
See an expert who can work on core issues that you carry within you. Without knowing details, I will be generalizing and what you require now is for someone to guide you not just through motivation but also touching through the root cause of what is not working for you.

All the best!
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My son is getting NSUT IT, CSE IN THAPR INSTITUTE AND ECE IN NIT ALLAHABAD.. Please advice on what she should pursue for the next 4 years?
Ans: Netaji Subhas University of Technology (NSUT) Delhi's Information Technology program operates under AICTE approval, UGC recognition, and NAAC Grade A accreditation, supported by modern labs and industry partnerships. Over the last three years, NSUT recorded a B.Tech placement rate of approximately 82-84%, with a median package of INR 17 LPA and comprehensive recruiter participation from over 320 companies including Amazon, Microsoft, HCL, KPMG, and Deloitte. Thapar Institute of Engineering & Technology's Computer Science program holds NAAC A+ accreditation and NIRF Engineering ranking 20, featuring state-of-the-art programming labs and mandatory industrial training semesters. CSE placements achieved 83-90% consistency over the past three years, with an average package around INR 12 LPA and top recruiters including Google, Amazon, Microsoft, DE Shaw, and J.P. Morgan. Motilal Nehru National Institute of Technology (MNNIT) Allahabad's Electronics & Communication Engineering, under NAAC A++ and NBA accreditation, offers comprehensive VLSI, embedded systems, and communication labs with signature laboratory initiatives. ECE graduates secured 88-90% placement rates over recent years, achieving an average package of INR 20.56 LPA through recruiting giants like Oracle, Qualcomm, Texas Instruments, and Goldman Sachs.

Recommendation: Choose MNNIT Allahabad ECE for its superior placement consistency, highest average packages, Institute of National Importance status, and world-class research infrastructure. Opt for Thapar CSE if you prioritize comprehensive industrial training, excellent private university facilities, and strong tech industry connections despite higher fees. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Sir... which is better option either IIT Bhilai machanical or Thapar CSE
Ans: IIT Bhilai's B.Tech in Mechanical Engineering is established within an Institute of National Importance under the Ministry of Education, holding NIRF ranking #73 in Engineering 2024, supported by advanced manufacturing labs featuring DST-FIST funded 2kW fiber laser cutting facilities, CNC machining centers, and automation equipment. Over the past three years, mechanical engineering placement rates averaged 38-65% with recruiters including L&T, Amazon, Google, and Deloitte, yielding a median package around ?9.64 LPA. Thapar University's B.E. in Computer Science & Engineering holds NAAC A+ accreditation and NBA approval, featuring state-of-the-art computing infrastructure across six floors with 24 UG labs, AI/ML facilities, and extensive software suites. The CSE program achieved 83-90% placement consistency over recent years, with major recruiters including Microsoft, Amazon, JP Morgan, and Google offering an average package of ?11.90 LPA. Both institutions maintain experienced PhD-qualified faculty, active industry partnerships, and dedicated placement cells.

Recommendation: Choose Thapar University CSE for its superior placement consistency, higher average packages, and extensive industry partnerships with leading tech companies. Opt for IIT Bhilai Mechanical Engineering if you value the IIT brand recognition, advanced research infrastructure, and potential for higher studies or core mechanical sector opportunities despite lower placement rates. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Hi, my son has secured an admission in a 2+2 BITS CSE program 2025 at Hyderabad (first 2 years) and Iowa state univ (for next 2 years). Under DASA he can potentially get AI at NITK or ECE at NIT Trichy or CSE in NITW (his CRL rank is 25200). Can you please advise and provide recommendations on what we can choose and reasons? We know 2+2 ISU program is more expensive compared to NIT DASA fees but is it worth the money vis-a-vis doing a B.Tech at NIT and doing a masters in US later? For this rank, what can he get at the said NITs under DASA?
Ans: The BITS Pilani–Iowa State University 2+2 CSE offers two years at BITS Hyderabad (ACM-aligned curriculum, NAAC A++ accreditation, state-of-the-art AI, data-science and cloud labs) followed by two years at Iowa State University (top-50 US engineering program, immersive B.S. in Computer Engineering, ISU merit scholarships up to US $4,500/year). Total direct tuition and campus fees for BITS Hyderabad amount to approximately ?10.5 L per year, while Iowa State tuition exceeds US $33,000 annually, plus living expenses. Graduates earn dual degrees with global brand recognition and typically secure near-100% placement through BITS’s 200+ recruiter network and ISU’s strong career services, commanding premium compensation packages in software, data science and R&D roles.

Under DASA with an All-India CRL of 25,200, he qualifies for: B.Tech AI at NIT Surathkal (AI cutoff: 26,688); B.Tech ECE at NIT Trichy (ECE cutoff: 66,706); and B.Tech CSE at NIT Warangal (CSE cutoff: 46,935). Each NIT features NBA accreditation, experienced PhD faculty, modern labs and strong industry MoUs. NITK AI and NITW CSE boast placement rates above 80% and growing AI/analytics recruitment pipelines, while NIT Trichy ECE records near-75% core-sector placements. Annual DASA fees at NITs range from US $15,000–18,000, significantly lower than BITS-ISU costs, with comparable scholarship opportunities limited.

Balancing long-term ROI, the BITS 2+2 path accelerates global exposure, dual-degree credentials and premium placements at higher upfront cost. A B.Tech at NIT followed by a US master’s entails lower initial investment, robust core engineering training and the flexibility to self-fund graduate studies through campus placements or scholarships.

Recommendation: Opt for BITS 2+2 CSE if you prioritise world-class international exposure, dual degrees and, top-tier placement networks despite higher fees. Choose a DASA seat at NIT (AI at NITK or CSE at NITW) for cost-effective core engineering training with solid placement and later pursue a US master’s via merit scholarships. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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