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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Feb 12, 2024

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Asked by Anonymous - Dec 09, 2023Hindi

Relationship

I m not able retired but not tired best to control extra n useless thoughts/compulsive behaviour as compelled marital life n maintain Rourine which I lost after being retired but not tired with tegrets of unsuccessful personal n official life. ex HOD(Electrical)/Principal Govt.Polytechnic 4 SC Students

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Your question to me is very unclear and what I understand is that you are dealing with useless thoughts...The only way is to find something useful to do...something that is fulfilling and something that you can enjoy...
Retirement does not mean that you sit at home all day feeling sorry for yourself BUT utilize this time to do things that you could not do while in employment. Manage your time wisely and if your finances permit, travel...travel brings in new experiences and new stories to fill your life with.

All the best!

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Ans: You need to introspect more. You say that you cannot find fault in yourself for changing 18 jobs in 8 years? I think that there has to be something for such a thing to happen. Please do some soul searching and get to be more positive in your outlook and approach to life. Go to a counsellor who will guide you. Please do not sit at home and remain silent. All the best.

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Question by mahesh - Oct 11, 2023Hindi

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im 45 year old mere mind me negative thought bahut ate hai or overthinking bahut hai. mere man kisi kaam ko karne me nhi lagta hai , me apne kisi kaam me concentration nhi kar pa raha hu, plz iska koi solution dijiyga.

Ans: Dear Mahesh,
Negative thoughts kisi kaaran se hi aapke dimaag mein baith gaye hain. Inko agar hataane hain toh pehle woh kaaran ko hataana hoga. Is liye apne aap se poochiye: Kis wajah se mein yeh sab soch baitha hoon? Aise soch aane se pehle kya hua hai joh mujhe aise sochne pe majboor hota hoon...

Aisi soch ko door rakhne ke liye kuch sujhaav hain:
1. Koi physical activity ya exercise roz kiya kijiye (walk, gym, run)
2. Praanyaam karne se bhi bahut faayda hota hai
3. Dost ya kareebi pariwaar ke saath waqt bitaaiye
4. Apni zindagi mein joh accha hua hai ya ho raha hai, is baat ko aksar yaad aur zikr kijiye
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Yeh sirf sujhaav hain, baaki aapko mehnat zaroor karna padega ki yeh negative soch ko aap zyaada panaah na de. Jitna zyaada inko paalenge, utna hi aapko pareshaani hogi. Yeh dhyaan mein le aaiye ki positive ya acchi soch se aapka kya faayda ho sakta hai; maansik tanaav kam hone se aapka shareer bhi swasth hoga. Is baat ko hamesha yaad rakhiye.

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Ans: Dear Work,
Well if motivational gyaan helped all of us, there would be no sadness or anger or anxiety in any of us, right? All this material available in plenty, and it helps to make us aware of what can be done to improve oneself. But what is also required is to find the root cause of the stress and looping into things that add more stress.
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• Tenure: 5 years
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