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How can a 17-year-old girl overcome social media and YouTube addiction to focus on her 12th board exams?

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Question by Zaira on Mar 04, 2025Hindi

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hello sir i am 17 year old girl i was a topper in class 10th after that i took dummy schooling plus online coaching in my 11th and 12th grade to prepare for neet but then i ruined my life completely by getting into social media and youtube addiction in 11th 1 used to spend 11hrs daily on social media my mental health was ruining i was having constant guilt and anxiety and then in 12th i did continued this routine until october my mental health was completely disturbed i dont have any friends i cant focus on studies my attention span is very bad i cant concentrate on my studies. i feel very bad for my parents they have told me to focus on my board and now my screen time is 3-4 hrs .i am trying to quit social media i have deleted instagram i cant delete youtube because i have to study but i cant study because of procastination now my boards are going on and i have completely ruined myself i dont think that i will be able to score more than 75 % in 12th .i scored 92 % in 10th .i feel bad for my parents they have very high expectation . i am loosing my mind day by day i dont know what to do .i am filled with all the negative thoughts .i have tried quitting social media or say dopamine detox but i have failed many times 13 -17 times .i cant fulfill my own promise which i made to myself .what should i do now?

Ans: Hello Zaira
Start with some steps as follows
1. 45 mts study window & then 5/10 mts break
2. Keep your phone off/locked and kept away during these 45 mts
3. Check phone only during scheduled breaks
4. Make notes & study from there rather than directly from online resources
5. Keep company with one or two focused students in your circle & interact regularly regarding studies etc.
Every time you feel the urge of going back to old ways, remind yourself of your immediate "Life Goals". There will be ample time for everything else later in life.
Remember there is no substitute for "DISCIPLINE" & that is the only way to reach your goals.
All the Best !!

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Please help me, I am 20 years old. I pass out class 12th from Maharashtra board in 2022, I have been preparing for NEET exam from class 11th, 2 years I studied in Aakash Institute gave NEET after class 12th, my first attempt 289/720 (2022). After that I decided to take one year drop, so I went Kota studied in Allen Institute for one year, My father took a loan of 5 lakhs for me, but again I failed in second attempt 362/720(2023), came back home, enrolled in a private university for bsc biotech and along with it I again start preparing, now only 6 days left for exam & i have not touch my book since last 1 month, I studied hard for few months after second failure but then I quit studying I waste my time into relationship,porn, overthinking, masturbation etc. Now what I should do I know I will fail again in my third attempt but what I will do after that? Should I start prepare for UPSC? Should I do BBA ? Im totally confused about my future! ease someone help me should I take regular admission into some university? Should I do BA? Im totally fucked up, I have even tried to end my life so many times, I have even ran away to haridwar when I was in Kota ..but things dont happen according to me i always failed in anything I do...My friend now are in their third year they will complete their undergraduation & im here whining about my life.. even my parents have started to hate me..leave relatives...please guide me my mental health has been derailed by these exams...please help me ???? i dont jave even friends to whom i share my pain and from whom i should get guidance

Ans: Hello,
first of all, you need to calm down & settle down your negative thought process. At least you are clear & honest enough to admit your mistakes. That's the first step towards success.

Decide your goal & make a road map to achieve it. Follow it diligently & avoid distractions that come along the journey. If you are unable to control your negative thoughts seek professional counseling. All the best.

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Sir I belong to Pilibhit district of UP. I was an average kind of child till my class 10(85-92%).But in class 11 I chose to go for coaching to prepare for iitjee in kota. The atmosphere there was highly competitive,And I saw lot of brilliant minds there due to which I got into inferiority complex, with that my spirit and confidence went very low accompanied by home sickness and I severly got ill for a month. My syllabus was ruined and everything gone bad. I decided to continue my dummy school there and came back to my place and joined an online platform. But due to lot of distractions and OCD I finally failed in class 12. From 91 in 10th to failing 12th I have covered a long way down. Now I am having suicidal thoughts please guide me for my future sir??

Ans: Dear Friend,

Think about your parents, relatives & friends who are very affectionate over you. NEVER think of committing Suicide Dear.

To avoid negative thinking and negative about you, please change your lifestyle and start doing yoga / meditation daily. Your mind will feel better and relaxed.

Also please stop thinking that if you do not join IITs / NITs, you won’t have future. Nothing like that. There are a lac of Students who have been successful both in India & Abroad, without joining IITs / NITs

Simple solutions for you to be successful in your career.

1) Prepare for your 12th Board and appear again with full concentration / focus. You will definitely score good marks.
2) Prepare for some entrance exams for getting admission into any good college (in & around UP). No need to prepare separately for each entrance exam for BTech. Syllabus will be more or less same.
3) Appear for 3-4 State entrance exams of UP / Delhi. Ignore JEE.
4) Shortlist 10 top colleges of UP / Delhi. Choose the most suitable one after you get confirmed admissions from 3-4 colleges.

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