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R P Yadav is the founder, chairman and managing director of Genius Consultants Limited, a 30-year-old human resources solutions company.
Over the years, he has been the recipient of numerous awards including the Lifetime Achievement Award from World HR Congress and HR Person Of The Year from Public Relations Council of India.
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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 11, 2024Hindi
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Good afternoon sir, Sir I am 32 year old and college dropout and I have literally lost everything in my life. But I am fed up with this life and want to change and bring stability. Sir kindly suggest me what to do and from where to start. I am willing to give my 100%

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
As you want to start again with 100 % dedication, please get into a job that will be your starting point.
Work consistently with full sincerity and dedication. Results are going to follow in the long run.
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Maam sir good morn.I m K.S .i am.the sole bread earner of my.family .i m 52 and do.not have a job. I m not a spend thrift but due to lot of loans i have taken for education etc i m totally stressed up. I.get depressed and do not have the motivation to move ahead in life. I want to clear up all my dues and i fight day in and day out to find a job but to.no success. Finance are getting.lesser.. I m on the verge of breakdown. Plz help.
Ans: Dear KS,
First things first. A lot of decisions have gone wrong. It cannot be erased, but certainly you must find a way of recovering from it.
Yes, it is highly disheartening, but once you decide that you want to be in a better place, you have to take certain actions to reach that better place.
So, time to quit being upset and taking firm actions on what to do next to get out of this situation that you are in.
Seek the help of someone within your family or friends circle who is strong with their finances and managing their monies well. Of course, they must be someone you trust as well. Share everything with them (you need the help, so kindly be truthful and honest with them).
Let them put together a plan of action that manages your existing financial resources and inbound channels and match that with all the payments and debts.
Allow them to 'advise' you as you need this strong advice right now. Discuss what's possible and what's not and they will come up with something that is close to perfect.
Once, you start with the first small baby step. things start to look up. Even clearing a small debt will take a load off your chest. So, get into that action mode NOW. And yes, do promise yourself that this situation is teaching you a lesson on how to be financially prudent and that you will learn from it.

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Asked by Anonymous - Oct 30, 2023Hindi
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I am 23 . Its 2 years that i finshed my college , i feel lost in life , No experience, i Worked in a startup. Now dont know whats next
Ans: I understand that you are feeling lost after finishing college and working in a startup for two years without any experience. It’s natural to feel this way, but there are many things you can do to find your path. Here are some suggestions:

Reflect on your interests and passions: Take some time to think about what you enjoy doing and what you’re passionate about. This can help you identify potential career paths that align with your interests.

Explore different career options: Research different career options that interest you and learn more about the skills and qualifications required for those roles. You can also consider taking online courses or attending workshops to develop new skills.

Network with professionals in your field: Reach out to professionals in your field of interest and ask them about their career paths. You can also ask for advice on how to get started in the industry.

Gain experience through internships or volunteering: Consider taking on internships or volunteering opportunities to gain experience and build your resume. This can also help you make connections in your field of interest.

Consider further education: If you’re interested in pursuing a specific career path that requires additional education, consider going back to school to gain the necessary qualifications.

Remember, it’s never too late to find your path. Take some time to reflect on your interests and passions, explore different career options, and gain experience through internships or volunteering.

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Hi Anu,Iam completely in to a bad a stage.I lost my job,my son is a disabled kid doesn't have money to run future completely in hell Been a banker for 19 years and not getting any jobs outside Please suggest what should be my next step
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I do hear you...
It is perhaps time to do something different. You have a wealth of experience of 19 years and it can be put to good use.
Independent consulting in Wealth management maybe something that you might want to consider. There are courses online that help you get initiated in this and using your Banking knowledge it maybe possible to consider this option.
Also, speak with your close circle of friends and family and take their advice as well. It will also help you to take strategic advice from someone in your field and who has also is updated with all the current happenings. Someone senior is what I suggest...
What you need is some direction which this expert in your field can offer...what else you need is some confidence, which you need to instil within yourself.

When something does not work, do something else for a different result...But giving up hope is the worst option...Push yourself to think different and ask:
What else can I do to make things work?
What can I do differently than before for things to align better for me?
How can I keep my state of mind upbeat even though things are not going well for me?

Asking useful questions can change the course of one's life...So keep at it please...

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Hi, Im a 23 year old mechanical engineering graduate, currently unemployed, I am feeling to do some progress everyday, but day after day, nothing changes, I cant figure out what to do with this life and feeling very much lost, Cant think properly on doing what changes my life?
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This information you have shared is not enough to understand what is that you are exactly wanting right now.
Let me see how I can help you. First of all extend your arm and pat yourself on the back for completing your engineering. You are a mechanical engineer!! Celebrate the fact and feel good about yourself.

I like the fact where you say "I am currently, unemployed", this can change soon, look out for opportunities, keep attending interviews, prepare well, ask for help, give it your best shot. Treat every failure as part of a learning process in becoming better next time. Surround yourself with positive and encouraging people.

Till you find a job, live life well on a day to day basis-
1. wake up early
2. exercise
3. eat well and sleep well
4. dress well at home too, don't be in your pyjamas, you should be in such a state that if someone asks you to come for an interview right away, you must be ready
5. beware of negative self talk... nip negative thoughts in the bud
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Hello Sir, My Salary is in range of 30k-35k per month. I work as Counselor for study abroad consultancy. My job profile includes counselling, content editing, grooming students for visa and other related paper work. As the job is close to my house, I really don't want to change my job. However with increasing inflation now there is a need to earn more money. Should I stick to counseling current job or should I look for remote job in content editing. I need to earn more money. Also if I do part time jobs will it be okay? Kindly advice
Ans: To manage finances while working, consider the following strategies. Stay in your current job and focus on improving skills for a higher salary. Talk about getting a raise by showcasing how you've helped students succeed and boosted the consultancy's reputation. Enhance your value by acquiring certifications in areas like international education consultancy, digital marketing, or advanced content editing. Consider remote counselling or mentoring opportunities. Set work-life boundaries to avoid burnout and maintain financial discipline. Consider freelancing or local counselling groups for part-time opportunities. Level up your skills to increase earning potential in your current consultancy. Also, fine-tune your LinkedIn Profile with Job Alerts for ABROAD EDUCATION COUNSELLOR Jobs. If affordable, go for one on one counselling/coaching with any reputed Career Coach having specialised knowledge in Job Search Strategies such as Vikram Anand or Sakshi Chandrasekar who can help you in searching for better job options & in fine-tuning your LinkedIn Profile.
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Hi i am 43 yrs old, working in a multination firm. Married with a kid who is 7. My relationship with my wife is not going good for some time now, the communication is only transactional. I dont know if she is seeing someone or not, but we feel detached from each other. Now i have developed some feelings at my work with a 24 yr old women, also she seems to be interested in me. But she is also trying to get back to her BF who is studying overseas. I am a bit lost here cause i am toyaly confused on wat to do?
Ans: Open communication with your wife can be incredibly valuable, even if it feels awkward or difficult. Sharing your feelings of detachment and asking her how she feels might provide clarity about where you both stand and whether there’s a willingness to work on rebuilding the connection. Counseling or therapy, either individually or as a couple, can also be a safe space to explore these issues further.

Regarding your feelings for the woman at work, it’s essential to approach this with caution. While the connection might feel exciting and fulfilling, it’s important to ask yourself whether pursuing it is truly in alignment with your values and long-term goals. She also appears to have unresolved feelings toward her boyfriend, which adds another layer of complexity. Relationships born from a place of emotional vulnerability often carry risks, and it’s worth reflecting on whether this is about genuine compatibility or an escape from current challenges.

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