Stuck in India's High-Stress Work Culture: Should I Move to the US for a Similar Salary?

Ans: Hi Parry,

Thank you for writing in.

First of all, it's important that you should know the intention, what is the purpose. If the purpose is to move to US for kids for their future and betterment, then you have already made the decision of settling in US.
Secondly on the Parents- Here as you are currently feeling not sure about the job, I can suggest that you spend some time in the current role in US and see how you are progressing on the job front. Once you are sure and it's moving as per your expectations then you may think of calling your parents to US. Considering the age, you may not want them to travel and come out of their comfort zone and stay in US especially when you are in doubt.
Or
You can start hunting for a job in India from US and then move back India. Moving back to India with no job with proper planning will not help sustain for long.
Secondly, if you want to start your business please jot down the pros and cons (importantly if you are the only earning member in the house). You need to do the market intel of your business and see how lucrative it will be especially knowing the recession has hit where most of them are considering downsizing. Also, it is equally true to set a business can take months to years. You need to ask q's to yourself if you will be able to sustain that long (consider the number of family members, expenses, education etc) or will you have to use the savings. You will have to do a deep logical thinking on all of these aspects. You can start the business as a side hustle and work building it along with your job. This way you are financially stable, and you get the time to build your own business for future.
I can understand you might be emotionally drained or frustrated but know that this is temporary. This will fade off. For now, focus on one thing at a time and have patience. Think practically.

Hope this helps. All the best.

To Your Success. Be You. Be Confident.
Ashwini Dasgupta
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Ans: That's an excellent decision you have made. I'm so proud of your decision to support your parents and family. India definitely has a significantly better lifestyle in terms of domestic help, family and in-person social engagements.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You don't prefer the 'toxicity'!
You are afraid of big cities as criminal activities are more than the cities!
Your parents may not move in to the city but you also find the environment they are in toxic!
You feel some people can't see you growing!
You don't prefer going abroad as you want to business in India!

Can you see how you have restricted yourself? This is called having a dream BUT clipping one's own wings. How can you make a decision when there are so many self-imposed constraints?
I suggest:
- Drop down all the options possible
- List down the pros and cons of each
- Choose the one that is financially viable
- Let your parents choose where they want to live

You have just started your family life; focus on what's best from a growth perspective...take decisions that help your marriage and career grow...And oh, you can choose to see the crime in the city OR you can choose to see opportunities...where is your focus?

All the best!
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Ans: Your situation is complex, and it’s admirable that you’re balancing your family’s needs with your career considerations. This is a pivotal decision that affects not only your professional life but also your emotional well-being. Your mother’s health and being there for your family during such a critical time are legitimate priorities. If you feel your presence in India is more important than continuing in a job where you lack challenges or growth opportunities, it’s natural to prioritize your family. While leaving a stable job is a big decision, your family’s needs and your personal fulfillment are crucial. I believe if your mother’s health requires immediate attention, being present for her and your family will bring emotional satisfaction that outweighs professional considerations and if your company cannot accommodate your request to return to India, resigning and focusing on starting a business could be a viable path. You have the expertise, reputation, and network to make it work. However, before making the leap, begin researching and outlining your business ideas now, even while still in your current role. This preparation will provide you with clarity and confidence should you decide to resign. Remember, this is a decision to make with careful thought, not haste. Focus on what aligns with your values and priorities to ensure you find peace and purpose in your choice.