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Asked by Anonymous - May 19, 2024Hindi
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Hello Guru g, I am a merchant Navy professional, I have just married, But things in my family were not good before my marriage and after marriage the things are same , like fights of my mother with my grandmother, my father and mother fights, there is a toxic environment in my house, my time I have tried to neutralise the things but I can't change them it's in there basic nature, I don't want to live anymore with my parents, because in Village people all-around fill their minds with different things and they bing it to our house , because some people here can't see us growing, so I have decided that I will not live here, Then I left with two options either I move to city or go abroad, of I choose the first one then how would I convince my parents to go to city with them, what should I tell them so that they also didn't get hurt and allow me to take this step and also how can I find a good society because we are newly married couple and security is my main concern because I am very afraid of cities because there criminal activities are more than villages , and If I choose the 2nd option then I have to spend a lot of money but I wanted to do business in India because there is a lot of scope here and expenses to live a life is less here, so kindly help me take decision, I will be very thankful to you .

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
You don't prefer the 'toxicity'!
You are afraid of big cities as criminal activities are more than the cities!
Your parents may not move in to the city but you also find the environment they are in toxic!
You feel some people can't see you growing!
You don't prefer going abroad as you want to business in India!

Can you see how you have restricted yourself? This is called having a dream BUT clipping one's own wings. How can you make a decision when there are so many self-imposed constraints?
I suggest:
- Drop down all the options possible
- List down the pros and cons of each
- Choose the one that is financially viable
- Let your parents choose where they want to live

You have just started your family life; focus on what's best from a growth perspective...take decisions that help your marriage and career grow...And oh, you can choose to see the crime in the city OR you can choose to see opportunities...where is your focus?

All the best!
Anu Krishna
Mind Coach|NLP Trainer|Author
Drop in: www.unfear.io
Reach me: Facebook: anukrish07/ AND LinkedIn: anukrishna-joyofserving/

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Hello Anu, Hope you are doing good!! Background of Persons: I had arranged married since last once year. I already told them before proceeding that I want to continue my carrier and grow forward in the same city. Also, I want to leave in a joint family along with my parents. My spouse is working in government sector. She told me that my Job is transferrable and i am ok moving forward with you. I am working in MNC at good position and also supporting my family members in their business. Problem: My wife is forcing me to leave separately, shift to another city and start from scratch(zero) in different city having different cultural background. She is also working in government sector and not taking transfer to spouse(husband's) city. Even after explaining couple of times, she is resisting to re-allocate. I am ok if she does anything independently for earning in same city. Also, I will help her in getting the job in private sector in the same city. Also, I will get her employed in another sector through my contacts and preparing her. I am not dependent on her in terms of financial things. We are living separately due to work duties and spent time together for a week in every month or two month as per the adjustment from both of us. My spouse is not talking properly to me, threating me to get divorce. I already had financial and social liabilities on myself which my wife is aware about. I had not seen positive responses from her towards myself, my family and goals. I am ready to leave separately in the same city even if she earns or not. Question: It looks to high danger to me moving to different part of the country having different cultures starting from scratch based on assessments on different parameters. What is the better solution for this ?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Well, there isn't much that you can do!
It's possible that your spouse suddenly feels that she might lose more than she gains by any move that she makes. You possibly feel the same.
This only means that both of you have not considered what marriage is and could be. You are using marriage to bring out differences rather than build trust. It's a year and if both of you have not managed to stay true to bringing the best out of each other, I wonder what will make you do that!

Kindly set aside the childish squabbles and suggest to your wife that the two of you need to work on this. Threats may kindly be kept aside...it only widens the gap between the two of you. Bring the conversation to a place where you talk about what it is now and how the two of you want it to be independently to you AND then work on bringing it to WIN-WIN...

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Hi maam. I am a doctor and i am in relationship with a solider. We are very happy. But i told my family.. My family is not ready to accept him. As my both parents are lawyers and am doctor. My parents are very much concerned about there social status and want me leave this relationship anyhow for them and marry a guy of there choice. They have huge problem as he is normal solider not a officer ranked person. .... I tried to convice them. Alot.. But now both my parents started called me bad words and trap me like if i leave them and go they will suicide... Daily they calls me and tell that it will never happen. And if u leave ur parents for him they will commit suicide. Recently my dad is acting or actually he have i dont know... He does like a pyschotic person and told he feels like commiting suicides. He told because an doing lke this he feel pyachotic probome. Now he is on medication. And he is planning to do voluntart retirement as he is not able to work. He keep telling all this is because of my relationship and i want to marry my partner Both my mother and father is continuously telling no to my relationship and if i leave them they will suicide. They told me they don't care about how hard it will be for me to leave but somehow to leave amd save ur family I dont know. I am not able to leave my relationship Nor not able to makemy parents suffer I feel really frustrated
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Being lawyers and then behaving immaturely is something that shocks me. But well, emotions can have different shades, right?
I do not subscribe to emotional blackmail which is what your parents are subjecting you to.
Social status difference is something that parents do worry about for their children. It's an age-old conditioning and hard for them to change.
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Besides loving this person (soldier), what are those qualities in him that can actually put your parents' mind at ease?

This is what you must be thinking of as challenging their conditioning is going to be of no use. Instead, find out what can actually appeal to them about him. It's about addressing all their concerns so that they feel that their daughter will never face any difficulties in future. Parents do what they can for their children and stepping into marriage is a huge responsibility for them. So, shift their focus onto his good qualities etc. Let the boy also make his effort to bond with your family. It takes time and a lot of effort; do just that!

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1. Abhi se ek trusted platform join karo.
2. Ek fixed timetable banao aur usko strictly follow karo.
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I am 35 and I just had a baby last year. I have never joined a gym but now i have gained 14 kilos. My body still doesn't feel like mine, and I don’t want to rush into heavy workouts. When is it actually safe to start postnatal yoga for weight loss? I had a c-sec delivery.
Ans: First, please don’t rush or feel pressured. Your body has gone through a big change. It needs time, care, and patience—especially after a C-section.

When to start postnatal yoga?
After a C-section, usually 8–12 weeks rest is needed before starting gentle yoga. But this is not the same for everyone. You must take doctor’s approval first before starting.

Even after approval, don’t jump into weight loss yoga immediately.

Start in stages:

1. First stage (very gentle)
Deep breathing, simple hand and leg movements, relaxation. This helps healing and reduces stress.

2. Second stage
Pelvic floor strengthening and mild core activation. This is very important after delivery.

3. Third stage (gradual weight loss)
Slow Surya Namaskar, Bhujangasana, Setu Bandhasana, and gentle twists. This will slowly reduce weight and tone the body.

Remember, your goal is not just weight loss. It is to rebuild strength, hormones, and energy.

Also, lack of sleep and stress can slow weight loss. So be kind to yourself.

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You will feel like yourself again—slowly and naturally.

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Asked by Anonymous - Apr 14, 2026Hindi
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My teenage son is stuck with his phone playing games and chatting on some app. He is in class 9 and struggling with focus, screen addiction, and mood swings. Can you suggest some yoga or mindfulness techniques to improve concentration, emotional stability, and sleep? I have tried cutting his screen time but he stopped talking to me. What should I do?
Ans: I understand your concern. At this age, forcing or cutting suddenly can create distance. Your son is not “wrong” — he is just stuck in a habit loop. First, rebuild connection, then slowly guide change.

What should you do first?
Talk to him calmly, not as a parent correcting him, but as a friend listening. Avoid blaming. Ask simple questions like, “Are you feeling stressed?” or “Is something bothering you?” When he feels understood, he will open up.

Now, introduce yoga and mindfulness gently:

Start with 5 minutes only – don’t force long sessions.
Deep breathing (Anulom Vilom) – improves focus and calms mind.
Bhramari (humming breath) – reduces anger and mood swings.
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Trataka (candle gazing) – improves concentration.
Short meditation before sleep – helps better sleep.

Make it a family activity, not a punishment. Even 10 minutes together builds bonding.

Also, don’t remove phone completely. Instead, create small limits and replace with engaging activities like sports or music.

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Asked by Anonymous - Mar 31, 2026Hindi
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I wake up every morning with extreme pain in my heels. I can't put my foot down for a very long time. I am 41. I am not diabetic. Can you suggest some remedy or yoga exercises I can do?
Ans: Morning heel pain like you described is very common. It is often due to stiffness in the foot muscles after long rest (sometimes called plantar fascia tightness).

Don’t worry—yoga and simple care can help. But you must be gentle.

First, before getting out of bed:
Move your feet slowly. Point toes up and down, rotate ankles. This reduces sudden pain when you step down.

Yoga practices you can do:

1. Ankle rotation – 10 times each side, very slow.
2. Toe stretch – sit and gently pull toes towards you.
3. Tadasana (standing) – improves weight balance on feet.
4. Vajrasana (if comfortable) – improves circulation in legs.
5. Calf stretch (wall support) – reduces heel strain.
6. Pavanamuktasana (lying) – improves blood flow and relaxation.

Simple daily care:
Use warm water soaking for feet. Avoid walking barefoot on hard floor. Wear soft, supportive footwear.

Very important: do not ignore pain and don’t do strong poses suddenly. Wrong practice can increase strain.

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With the right guidance and regular practice, pain can reduce slowly.

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I'm a working mother battling extreme anxiety. I visited a therapist who suggested meditation and journaling to express my feelings. But it is not helping, I am not able to calm down and sit quietly to meditate. What should I do?
Ans: I understand what you are going through. When anxiety is high, sitting quietly for meditation can feel very difficult. Please don’t force yourself to “sit still and calm down.” It can increase frustration.

Start with movement before meditation.

Your body is restless, so first release that tension:

1. Gentle movements (5–10 minutes)
Neck rolls, shoulder rotations, slow walking. This helps the body settle.

2. Breathing practice
Try deep belly breathing. Inhale slowly, exhale longer than inhale. No pressure to be perfect. Just breathe.

3. Bhramari (humming breath)
Close eyes, gently hum. The vibration naturally calms the mind.

4. Short guided relaxation
Lie down in Shavasana. No effort. Just listen to your breath. Even 3–5 minutes is enough.

Meditation does not always mean “sitting silently.” For you, it can begin with breathing and relaxation. Slowly, your mind will become ready.

Also, journaling may feel heavy sometimes. Instead, write just one line: “What am I feeling right now?” Keep it simple.

Most important, please don’t handle this alone. Anxiety needs gentle, step-by-step guidance. A trained yoga and meditation coach can support you personally and safely.

You are not alone in this journey. With the right approach, calmness will come.

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