Resp. Ma'm, I am 53 years old. I have created my own identity in the field of sales & marketing. I am working with a US company for almost 20 years. Recently I am moved to the US headquarters in a new role. I am making adequate arrangements for my old age parents with 24x7 care at home and moving to the US with family for the future of my kids. However, I have realized my role is quite inferior. And it seems they want to observe my performance and keep me light weighted in the beginning to easily settle down. I think of my parents in such situation and feel like, quitting and moving back to India. What should I do? Keep patience? Or start my own business in India, which is a bright spot in the world economy? Kindly advise.
Ans: Hi Parry,
Thank you for writing in.
First of all, it's important that you should know the intention, what is the purpose. If the purpose is to move to US for kids for their future and betterment, then you have already made the decision of settling in US.
Secondly on the Parents- Here as you are currently feeling not sure about the job, I can suggest that you spend some time in the current role in US and see how you are progressing on the job front. Once you are sure and it's moving as per your expectations then you may think of calling your parents to US. Considering the age, you may not want them to travel and come out of their comfort zone and stay in US especially when you are in doubt.
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You can start hunting for a job in India from US and then move back India. Moving back to India with no job with proper planning will not help sustain for long.
Secondly, if you want to start your business please jot down the pros and cons (importantly if you are the only earning member in the house). You need to do the market intel of your business and see how lucrative it will be especially knowing the recession has hit where most of them are considering downsizing. Also, it is equally true to set a business can take months to years. You need to ask q's to yourself if you will be able to sustain that long (consider the number of family members, expenses, education etc) or will you have to use the savings. You will have to do a deep logical thinking on all of these aspects. You can start the business as a side hustle and work building it along with your job. This way you are financially stable, and you get the time to build your own business for future.
I can understand you might be emotionally drained or frustrated but know that this is temporary. This will fade off. For now, focus on one thing at a time and have patience. Think practically.
Hope this helps. All the best.
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