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Bunny Question by Bunny on Mar 30, 2025
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My husband is beating me and he don't care about me and my children and harassed me I want divorce but he was not accepting we made love marriage and we not have marriage certificate and pics of marriage

Ans: Dear Bunny,
If you are able to hire a lawyer to take your case, please do so... If not, take the help of any NGO in your area that deals with domestic violence. They will help you take the case to the police and do the needful.

All the best!
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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jan 27, 2023

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मैम, मेरी शादी को 13 साल हो गए हैं और यह प्रेम विवाह था। हमारे 2 बच्चे हैं. मेरे पति कम सपोर्टिव हैं. मैं उसकी मदद के बिना अपने बच्चों, अपने काम, घर की देखभाल करती हूं। यहां तक ​​कि जब मैं काम करता हूं तो वह चाय बनाने या खाना पकाने में मदद करने की जहमत नहीं उठाता। वह गुस्सा हो जाता था और अंतरंगता के लिए शारीरिक शोषण करता था। पिछले कुछ सालों से वह बहुत शराब पीने लगा था और बाहर लड़ाई-झगड़ा करता था। उसके खिलाफ 2 पुलिस मामले थे। मैं किसी के करीब आ गया. मैंने अपने पति से कहा कि मैं अलग होना चाहती हूं, लेकिन इसके बजाय वह दुर्व्यवहार करने लगे। मैं उससे प्यार नहीं करता. मुझे लगता है कि मैं उसकी सेक्स स्लेव हूं बस उसकी इच्छा पूरी कर रही हूं, अगर मैं ऐसा नहीं करूंगी तो वह झगड़ा करेगा, खाना बंद कर देगा और मुझे मानसिक रूप से परेशान करेगा। मुझे क्या करना चाहिए?
Ans: प्रिय,
यदि कोई प्रिय मित्र आपके पास यही समस्या लेकर आता तो आप उसे क्या सुझाव देते?
क्या आपने उससे ऐसे व्यक्ति के साथ बने रहने के लिए कहा होगा जो अविवेकी है?
क्या आपने उसे यह सुझाव नहीं दिया होगा कि उसे युगल चिकित्सा में जाने की आवश्यकता हो सकती है?
निश्चित रूप से, यथास्थिति कोई ऐसी चीज़ नहीं है जिसकी सलाह आपने उसे दी होगी, खासकर तब जब वह किसी ऐसे व्यक्ति के साथ हो जिसके खिलाफ दो पुलिस मामले हों!
आप एक ऐसे व्यक्ति के साथ काम कर रहे हैं जिसके व्यवहार में व्यापक बदलाव आया है। क्या आपने पहले ये लाल झंडे नहीं देखे थे? अतीत को कुरेदने का कोई मतलब नहीं...
उसे उसके नखरों के आगे झुकने और सेक्स के लिए झुकने की कोई जरूरत नहीं है। वह इसका उपयोग आपको 'वश में' करने और आपको नम्र बनाने के लिए कर रहा है।
उससे बात करने के लिए परिवार के किसी मजबूत व्यक्ति की मदद लें...
अपना आत्मविश्वास वापस पाने के लिए कुछ दिनों/हफ़्तों के लिए बाहर जाएँ... अगर यह संभव नहीं है, तो एक अलग कमरे में सोएँ... अगर वह आपको सेक्स के लिए परेशान करता है, तो उसकी आँखों में मजबूती से देखें और 'नहीं' कहें...
स्पीड डायल पर किसी प्रिय मित्र/परिवार के सदस्य को रखें...
आपके बच्चों का कल्याण आप पर निर्भर है; इसलिए उनकी सुरक्षा के लिए, आपको पहले अपना ख्याल रखना होगा!
आप नम्र नहीं हैं, वही करें जो आपने अपने मित्र को सलाह दी होगी।
शुभकामनाएं!

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 16, 2024

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नमस्ते। मैं 50 साल की शादीशुदा महिला हूँ। मेरे पति का विवाहेतर संबंध है और पिछले 2 सालों से वह मुझे तलाक देने की धमकी दे रहा है। मैं आर्थिक रूप से उस पर निर्भर हूँ और अपनी बेटी की पढ़ाई के लिए भी उस पर निर्भर हूँ। मेरी बेटी 12वीं में कंप्यूटर साइंस में है। मेरा आत्ममुग्ध पति मुझे बहुत प्रताड़ित करता है। मैं उससे छुटकारा पाना चाहती हूँ। कृपया मदद करें
Ans: प्रिय सिउली,
किसी वकील से बात करें जो आपको अलगाव की प्रक्रिया के बारे में मार्गदर्शन करेगा; साथ ही वह यह ध्यान में रखते हुए नियम और शर्तें तैयार करेगा कि आप आर्थिक रूप से अपने पति पर निर्भर हैं और वह आपका और आपकी बेटी का भरण-पोषण कैसे करेगा।
इस सब के दौरान मजबूत बनें और धीरे-धीरे अपने बारे में सोचना शुरू करें और सोचें कि आप अकेले कैसे जीवन व्यतीत करेंगी।

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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jan 13, 2025

Asked by Anonymous - Jan 13, 2025
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Hi sir I don't know from where to start but it happened in this way ,I was from a reserved family with orthodox thinking.so I did love marriage in other caste (we were classes friends)after 17 years I am realising that my husband wants to dominate me ,he talk to me in bad way,he shouts on me ,he let me work but he ask money whenever he needs n pay me nothing. He trigger me in small thing, give me taunt n his mother n sister supports me .I am living in my mother in law house n I have two sons .This mental harassment is increasing day-by-day. He never paid for any of my expense.I m scared what to do to leave him n live my life or to live with him n ignore .what society will say .what to do I don't know. Feeling trapped pl suggest me what to do?
Ans: it's important to recognize that your well-being and safety, both emotional and physical, are paramount. No one deserves to be treated with disrespect or to live in an environment where they feel demeaned or controlled. The constant shouting, taunting, and lack of financial support are serious issues that should not be ignored, as they can significantly impact your mental health and sense of self-worth.

Your feelings of being trapped are compounded by societal expectations and the fear of judgment. However, it’s crucial to remember that society’s opinions should not dictate your happiness or well-being. Living in a situation where you’re constantly subjected to mental harassment can have long-term detrimental effects on your mental health and overall quality of life. It’s natural to fear what others might say, but your peace of mind and the well-being of your children should take precedence.

The support of your mother-in-law and sister-in-law is a positive aspect, but it seems that your husband’s behavior continues to be a source of distress. It’s essential to have a candid conversation with them about your feelings and explore whether they can help mediate or influence change in his behavior. However, if his actions persist and there’s no willingness on his part to change or seek help, you might need to seriously consider your options.

If you’re contemplating leaving, it’s important to plan carefully. This might include seeking legal advice to understand your rights, especially concerning your children and financial support. You could also consider reaching out to a counselor or support group for emotional guidance, as they can provide you with the strength and clarity to make decisions that are best for you and your sons.

Ultimately, the decision to stay or leave is deeply personal and should be made based on what you believe will bring you the most peace and stability. It’s not an easy choice, and it requires a lot of courage and self-reflection. Remember, prioritizing your well-being and creating a healthy environment for yourself and your children is not selfish—it’s necessary. Whatever path you choose, know that you have the right to seek happiness and to live a life free from harassment and control.

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