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Kookigirl Question by Kookigirl on May 13, 2025
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Hi mam My bf warning me after our breakup he have my vedios and photo is leaked dont blame him.. What should i do and i don't want to invove my family into this..

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am really sorry you are going through such a tough time. What your ex is doing is emotional abuse and threatening to leak someone’s private pictures without their consent is also a criminal offense. I am assuming you do not want to involve your family in this matter yet– in that case, you must learn how to protect yourself. First of all, keep evidence of the threats he is making- screenshots, call records, etc. Second, let him know that in India, this is a criminal offense and you are ready to go all out if he decides to leak anything without your consent. You can also either report to cyber crime confidentially or at the very least, tell him that you are considering doing the same. Next, make sure to sever all ties. In most cases, these are empty threats to keep people under control. If he can’t contact you, he can’t threaten you. Lastly, consider informing someone you trust. And most importantly, do not ever think you are helpless. You might fear involving family, but in your worst times, family is the biggest pillar of strength. If things go too far, consider informing your family as well.

Hope these help.

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हे मैम कृपया मेरी मदद करें। मेरा पूर्व प्रेमी मुझे यह कहकर ब्लैकमेल कर रहा है कि वह हमारी तस्वीरें मेरे पिताजी को दिखाएगा और मेरे पिताजी को फोन करके हमारे बारे में सब कुछ बता देगा। मेरे पिताजी बहुत सख्त हैं. वह मुझे कभी नहीं छोड़ेगा, मैं बहुत डरी हुई हूं, क्या करूं??
Ans: प्रिय नेहा,
जब ब्लैकमेलिंग की बात आती है, तो मेरा सुझाव है कि कृपया अपने पिता को भी इसमें शामिल करें। वह जानते हैं कि अपनी बेटी की सुरक्षा कैसे करनी है और वह ऐसा करेंगे।' लेकिन अगर आप सहज महसूस नहीं करते हैं या आप अजीब महसूस करते हैं, तो परिवार के किसी ऐसे सदस्य पर भरोसा करें जो इस 'रेंगने वाले' से निपटने के लिए पर्याप्त बूढ़ा हो, जो निश्चित रूप से इस सब से छुटकारा पाता है। यदि वह कम उम्र का है, तो उसके अंदर कुछ समझदारी जगाने के लिए उसके माता-पिता को शामिल करना होगा और यदि वह वयस्क है, तो पुलिस उसे चेतावनी देकर उसकी जगह पर रख सकती है।
डरना मत। इस तरह के ढोंगी कमजोर होते हैं और बस उन लड़कियों को अपना शिकार बनाते हैं जो उनके दबाव में बिखर जाती हैं। साहसपूर्वक मोर्चा संभालें...इसके अलावा, कभी भी अकेले में उससे बात न करें या उससे अकेले न मिलें। अपने सभी टेक्स्ट संदेशों का रिकॉर्ड रखें और भविष्य में किसी भी ध्वनि वार्तालाप को रिकॉर्ड करें। यह उसे बार-बार पीछे धकेलने में मदद करेगा: डरो मत... अपने भीतर की शक्ति महसूस करना उस तक पहुंच जाएगा और वह जल्दबाजी करने से पहले सोचेगा... कृपया जल्द से जल्द परिवार के किसी बड़े सदस्य को शामिल करें...

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 09, 2024English
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हैलो...कृपया मेरी मदद करें...मैं 4 साल तक किसी के साथ थी। मैंने सबकुछ बर्दाश्त किया। गाली-गलौज, थप्पड़...घरेलू हिंसा और दुर्व्यवहार सब कुछ था...और इन सबके बाद मैंने उससे कह दिया कि मैं अब उसके साथ नहीं रहना चाहती...और 2-3 महीने बाद मैं किसी और के साथ थी...उसके साथ सब कुछ खत्म हो गया...और अब वह आ रहा है और कह रहा है कि वह हमारे निजी चित्र मेरे माता-पिता को दिखाएगा...अब मुझे क्या करना चाहिए...कृपया सुझाव दें...मेरे माता-पिता बहुत सख्त हैं...
Ans: प्रिय अनाम,
वास्तव में अपने माता-पिता को शामिल करने का समय आ गया है। वे बहुत सख्त हो सकते हैं लेकिन वे आपके माता-पिता हैं और ब्लैकमेल की इस स्थिति से निपटने में आपकी मदद कर पाएंगे। इसे बहुत सावधानी से और डर के साथ नहीं निपटा जाना चाहिए और इसके लिए किसी बड़े व्यक्ति की आवश्यकता होगी जो तर्कसंगत रूप से सोच सके कि पुलिस के पास अभी जाना है या बाद में। कृपया अपने माता-पिता को जल्द से जल्द शामिल करें।

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Asked by Anonymous - Sep 29, 2024
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Hi mam please help me. My ex boyfriend nd i were in a long distance relationship. He lives in canada nd we used to vc but one day that vc turned out something else as you can understand he told me that he'll not take any screenshot or screen record anything but he still did that and now after breakup he's sending me those screenshots nd screen recording ???? nd telling me that he'll not share with anyone but i still don't trust him now ???? what should i do .. due to this pressure I'm simply going down day by day
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I understand that it is a difficult situation for you. I would suggest a few ways you can protect yourself-
If you think he will not share the pictures unless provoked, do not engage with him any further. Avoid responding and try not to give him control over the situation.

Keep screenshots of his messages where he discusses the pictures. In case he starts threatening you, you can let him know that you are not afraid to approach the authorities with valid proof against him. This way, you will have control over the situation.

Let him know that in both India and Canada, distributing images without consent is illegal.

Speak to your trusted friends and family members. Remember, as scared as you might be, you can always share things with your parents. They would be more worried about your mental health and safety than be disappointed over the matter. Understand that you can always reach out to them, especially when you have your back against the wall.

After you have gathered all the evidence you need to prove that he has been harassing you with non-consented pictures, block him. Engaging with him will allow this person to manipulate you or make him believe he has the upper hand.

Lastly, don't be afraid. He might think he is doing this out of love, but he is, essentially, a bully. Do not give him the power to play with your mental peace.

Hope everything works out soon.

Best Wishes.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 19, 2025
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Why do men ghost after sex? I met this amazing guy on Hinge. He was 27, well-mannered, and worked in a data firm in Mumbai. We spoke daily for three months and had amazing chemistry. From music to food, we discussed everything under the sun. We went on a couple of dates to get to know each other. When we got comfortable, we got intimate and eventually had consensual s** at his friend's house party. One week after we got intimate, he just vanished. No replies, no calls. It was my first time, so I kept wondering if I had done something wrong to upset him. My friend says it could be post-intimacy guilt. But I feel embarrassed, ashamed. I can't shake off the shame. Did I move too fast? Is this how dating works now? How can I go back to feeling normal again?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
I am really sorry you are going through this. What happened is just as confusing as it is hurtful. Let’s get one thing straight, you did nothing wrong. You are not at fault here. Nothing you could’ve done or said should or could cause this reaction.
Coming to your first question, it is very difficult to answer it without generalizing all men. But some of the most reasons for this could be:
He got what he wanted. It sounds crass but in most cases, this is the truth. He had no intentions of being more than just that.
He might be avoiding responsibility. He didn’t want more, and the mature thing would have been to sit down and have that discussion with you. But, maturity isn’t easy and he chose the easy route, that is to ghost. His decision to disappear is a reflection of his nature, not yours.
Coming to what your friend said, it could be that too, but the chances are slim. Some men do feel overwhelmed but disappearing for over a week is a stretch. Again, it’s his unreadiness to feel so many emotions, not yours.
Now, I want to gently nudge you towards one thing: you said you feel ashamed. Shame creeps in when you hold yourself accountable for someone else’s actions. And also due to societal prejudice. Keep both aside, and you have nothing to be ashamed of. Did you move too fast? To be honest, there is no fast or slow in these things. There’s no set timeline. You did what you felt was right in the moment. And you were ready to step up, but he went MIA. The entire unfortunate turnout is not because of your pace but his lack of respect. Even if he comes up with a good enough reason for this disappearing act, I still want you to remember that not even for a second, you had anything to create this situation.


I hope this helps.

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