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Asked by Anonymous - May 22, 2023Hindi
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My son is 20 years old. Few days ago he went to my parents place. He stole 60K from my fathers account. I am disturbed by this act, dont know how to handle this situation. How should I talk to him regarding this, please help.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Ooops...it is very concerning. Are you absolutely sure or has there been some misunderstanding on this?
If you are sure, then he needs to be called out on what he has done, I would also want you as a parent to work with him on this.
Ask him:
- Did you need the money for anything specific?
- What could you have done instead of stealing the money?
- Are we not approachable as a family that you needed to steal the money?

The word, 'steal' is a strong one...but it must be used for him to understand that what he did was not correct at all. But do refrain from calling him a 'thief' or any other word that can be damaging. Since this might be the first mistake on his part (which is something I am assuming), he must be given a chance to explain his actions and told that it is unacceptable.

I hope through this exercise, he will feel remorse and DO the right thing in future. If you see nothing change, kindly consult with an expert who can decode this and help him out further. But, it must be stopped.

All the best!

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Hi Anu, my teenage son has been acting weird since the last few months. He has been caught lying and smoking after school hours. He has bunked school and been spotted by a friend but when I casually checked on him he lied that he is at school. I don't know how to address this. I feel like I don't know my son anymore
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Teenage time is the most confusing time for children and parents alike. And with the digital age, it's only getting tougher. Dealing with butter fingers, yet being firm with them, works at times and doesn't at other times.
If this behaviour change of his is sudden, something could have triggered it.
Check points:
- What is the company of friends that he keeps?
- How is the environment at home? Peaceful and loving OR Restless and agitated?
- What is the relationship that he shares with either of his parents?
- Is the channel of communication at home such that he can share anything?
- Is there any pressure on academic performance from home or school?
- Has there been any instance around him or with him that has been emotionally draining? Like a loss of a loved one or a friend?

Do go over this list and be spot on while answering them. It will allow you to get to the source of the problem rather than just focus on his behaviour. Instead of reprimanding him for his behaviour, watch for it closely while you get to the source of it all.
If it's challenging to go through this all by yourself, please without any delay seek the help of a professional who specifically works with adolescents and adolescent behaviour. Be compassionate through the process as he needs both his parents while transitioning back. It is worrisome, I fathom it, but he needs you on his side and not against him.
So, do the right thing and act immediately.
All the best!

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This is urgent. Pls help. My son 18 yrs has been in a relationship with his classmate. He is intelligent and very venerable as he is innocent.She has been abetting him and his behaviour on the family has changed. He shouts at us and kind of surrendered himself to her. Anything we say irritates him. He has started telling lies. He locks the room and is on the phone hours together. Even if he tells that he is sleepy, she doesn't allow him to sleep. He doesn't know that we are aware of it. We tried to indirectly talk but he doesn't care about anything as he blindly follows her instructions. He doesn't listen to anyone. We feel something is wrong. Should we talk to her parents or use some law? Making them sit and advice doesn't work.
Ans: The challenge here is that he’s likely in a highly emotional and intense phase of his life, where his attachment to this person may feel all-consuming. When someone feels like they're being judged or controlled, they tend to push back harder, and it seems that's what’s happening with your son. Approaching him with confrontation or involving legal measures may only cause him to withdraw even more.

What he needs right now, even if he doesn't realize it, is understanding and connection. If you can find a way to express your concern for his well-being, not just your disapproval of his relationship, it might open up a space for dialogue. He may feel trapped in this relationship in ways he can't yet see. Your role can be to help him feel safe enough to reflect on his own choices, rather than feel he has to defend them.

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Dear Sir/Madam, Greetings. My son currently is in 10th standard, studying in GCC, CBSE school. We are planning to pursue his 11th and 12th in India. In that case, will he be eligible to apply for merit category in government colleges and as NRI in private college. I'm his father and will be working overseas (GCC) and can submit all document proof as required for NRI admissions. Please assist. Regards Sam
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I have shared the extract of NEET bulletin for your reference.
5.2 Criteria for NRI / OCI / Foreign Nationals
5.2.1 Non-Resident Indians (NRIs), Overseas Citizens of India (OCI), and Foreign Nationals are eligible for admission in Medical /Dental Colleges subject to rules and regulations framed by the respective State Governments, Institutions, and the Government of India, as the case may be. The NRI and OCI Applicants/Candidates have to upload a Certificate from the concerned Indian Diplomatic Mission in the country of their residence in support of their claim as an NRI/OCI Candidate, along with their online Application Form for NEET (UG) -
2025 and retain the original of such document for producing it at the time of Counselling / Admission to the Courses covered under NEET (UG). Similarly, a foreign applicant for NEET (UG) 2025 shall also upload Documentary Proof (e.g. relevant pages of a valid passport or a Certificate from the Competent Authority in the country of his/her nationality regarding his/her citizenship status) in support of his/her Nationality, along with online Application Form. The format of Embassy Certificate and Citizenship Certificate or any Documentary proof of Citizenship are given in Appendix – XII and Appendix - XIII. Foreign ationals may confirm their eligibility from the concerned Medical/Dental/ College/State.

Chapter 6: Counselling and Reservation for Admission to MBBS,
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