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Gouri Question by Gouri on Apr 03, 2023Hindi
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Is this relationship will work or i should close this here. I depressed being always act like a fellow i am really done what should I do

Ans: Dear Gouri,

I don't have access to the specific details of your relationship or your personal circumstances, but I can provide you with some general advice that may help you make a decision.

Firstly, it's important to take care of your mental health and well-being. If being in this relationship is causing you to feel depressed and constantly act like a fellow, it may be a sign that this relationship is not healthy for you. You deserve to be in a relationship where you feel happy, respected, and valued.

Secondly, it's important to communicate your feelings with your partner. Let them know how you are feeling and what you need from the relationship. This will give them the opportunity to understand your perspective and work towards finding a solution that works for both of you.

If after communicating with your partner, you find that the relationship is not meeting your needs, it may be time to consider ending it. It can be a difficult decision to make, but sometimes it is the best thing for both parties involved.

Ultimately, the decision to stay in or end a relationship is a personal one that depends on a variety of factors. It's important to take the time to reflect on what you want and need from a relationship and make a decision that is right for you.

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I am confused with my relationship. Im in relationship frm last 1 month . I met him via social media . Actually now a days i feel he is not serious with me . Im not getting the good vibes from him. Wht should i do now
Ans: Hello Priyanka.

It's understandable that you are feeling confused about your relationship, especially if you're not getting good vibes from your partner. Here are a few suggestions on what you can do:

Communicate your concerns: It's important to communicate with your partner and express your concerns. Talk about how you feel and ask them how they feel about the relationship. Honest communication can help clear up any misunderstandings or doubts you may have.

Evaluate the relationship: Take some time to reflect on your relationship and evaluate whether it's meeting your needs and expectations. If you feel like the relationship isn't fulfilling, it may be time to reconsider your options.

Take a step back: It's okay to take a step back and give yourself some space to think about the relationship. This can help you gain clarity and perspective on the situation.

Trust your instincts: If you feel like something isn't right, trust your instincts. Your intuition can often guide you towards making the right decision for yourself.

Remember, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness in any relationship. Don't hesitate to reach out to friends or a trusted confidante for support and advice.

PS. It's always advisable to do proper due diligence if things are virtual. You should know and figure out who your partner is in real life. We all know virtual world has its own drawbacks.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 28, 2024Hindi
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I am dealing with brkup its been 2 months its mutual because he is bhramin his parents will not allow intercaste and for me its not possible to settle in place where he lives . its almost 3-4 year of relationship from my age of 18 he was there with my i lost my father during corona he took care of me , he stayed by my side he is not upto the mark but still he is always there for me after that i leave that state where both we stayed and we did long distance for 2 years but now as he come to know his parents are way more strict he dont want to hurts his parents and even my reason that i have to compromise lot carrrer difference and all. As i lost my father at age of 18 i cry lot every one day gap during my relationship also i was so anxious , and some times due to family problems i always used to be disturbed and dont want to live sometimeslike sucidal thoughts and all but at the time of relationship i share all this to him and i feel okay and got back to my study as he motivates me little . but now after brkup i dont have any real friends , i cant talk to any one neither any person messeges me my depression is becoming more big now we are in no contact for some days but again we talk and again we are in no contact he feels like he is in guilt becos he hurted me and made me miserable also he dont think about any other relation ship whatever his parents will bring he will do but for me not that case becos we dont have nay guardian i have to in my own actually we are not that big for marriage but we thought of future more and brkup becos of i have to find some one right we are 21 also my campus placements are coming his neet pg is coming but my heart cries every day i feel choked , i cried , choked and hurt my head it happens often but i still think we can not talk becos how can we move on from some body we talk but my depression at peak level i msg him with bigtext with all that goin on my life. should we talk ? as their is no rush to find other person we have to first focus on career how can we set boundaries? though if i talk i mak eme feel someone i can talk and make me releif at the sam etime it hurts if i dont talk also its hurts more as i ahve no one to talk with . he insisted me that we can be friends i can see u like this he wants me to be happy he feel he did the sin to me. Pls tell what will be good for me how can i be little releif what should i should i talk treat or my depression how ?
Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am very sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is tough. I am also glad you found someone to share your pain with at that moment. Coming to your dilemma- whether you should be in touch with him- I understand that it is a great relief to talk to him, but that is momentary, isn't it? You cannot continue doing this if you two are broken up. Even though he is not planning to get married right away, the problem is that he will someday. Plus, more often than not, one person moves on faster than the other, and in your case, if it's him, it will hurt more. The right thing to do is sit and have a clear conversation. Discuss the possibility of getting back together. Ask what is in his mind and express what's in yours. But going in this circle will only hurt you more; maybe not today, but someday it will.

Now, coming to your depression, I would suggest sharing your pain with close friends but you mentioned you have none. That is not uncommon. Not all of us are blessed with it. In that case, I recommend seeing a professional therapist. There is absolutely no shame in it. Rather it will help you in sorting your feelings. Finally, you can take care of them without relying on your ex. I am sure you are doing a wonderful job in managing your depression but a professional counselor can help you come out of this in a more structured way. Please consider it. If you are not comfortable seeing someone in person, there are several counselors available online. Just try it once and see how that makes you feel.

Remember we all need help occasionally. You are amazing and you do not have to hold everything together alone.

Best Wishes.

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I am on 11th grade I have taken pcmb I don't know what my interest is! I have taken pw neet online but seeing the scams and reality of mbbs I feel trapped I don't know what I like and what I want to pursue recently I saw few videos regarding uceed exam for bachelor in design I feel I doing that but I have no proper coaching and I feel stuck and sad I am afraid to take a bad career decision how will I manage pcmb with neet prep and uceed what to do and if I prepare for uceed and not qualify it what other career am I left with I hate this system please please please help me how to find your interest and career option and not regret it
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It’s completely normal to feel lost in 11th grade with PCMB because it keeps many career paths open, but it can also feel overwhelming. First, pause and explore your interests through small steps, try free online design workshops, aptitude tests, or internships to see if design (UCEED) truly excites you. Don’t panic about NEET or MBBS scams; prepare only if you genuinely enjoy biology and the medical field. UCEED doesn’t require heavy coaching; self-practice, online resources, and creative sketching can be enough. If you don’t clear UCEED, your PCMB background still offers options like engineering, architecture, BSc, or even other design exams (NID, NIFT). Focus on experimenting and exploring instead of committing blindly; your clarity will come from trying different things, not from pressure. Remember, you’re not stuck; you just haven’t discovered what clicks with you yet. Always stay calm and relaxed. Don't think negatively all the time. Focus only on your studies and your goal. Success is possible. Scams have existed in the past, will continue, and will also persist in the future!


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