Hello sir , I got married just before COVID in 2020. Because of COVID I didn't planned baby. In 2021 I started to plan a baby and after few months ( 8 months) in 2022 August my wife get's pregnant. We were very happy but after 8 weeks miscarriage happened and we both were totally disturbed for few months. Now we again started to plan a baby, My mind is always in stress that for first time it took 8 months and now it's already 3 months. Shall I go to doc for semen Analysis or shall I wait. I am 38 and my wife is 33. We both are fit and don't have any disease or any other medical issues. Please help me.

Ans: "I think the compelling reason to have a second child should be to complete your family and provide a sibling for your existing child. At age 38, it is important to be under supervision and undergo appropriate genetic investigations to determine the possibility of abnormalities in the baby. Once these investigations are complete and everything is normal, you can proceed with the pregnancy.

Your reasons for having a baby, such as not being able to find a good maid, fear of tampering, or your daughter's education, don't seem very logical. Instead, it is important to economize your funds and channel them appropriately to be able to generate resources for both your children."

Ans: Hello. It is true that with increased maternal age chances of birth defects in the child are higher, however, we now have very good methods of checking for these defects early on and taking preventive action one way or another. If both of you are desirous of another child, I would say it is quite safe to try in the next 2-3 years also. All the best!

Ans: 8 months is not a very long time and most likely you will conceive naturally. However, it is a good idea to see a fertility specialist or a OBGYN once and get evaluated to ensure you are not missing anything which will need attention later. There is no need to jump to fertility procedures but being aware that everything is normal would be very reassuring and encourage you try naturally in a more stress free way. All the best!

Ans: Try to share your concern with your wife that how her behaviour ( knowing everything since beginning and not sharing with you) has effected you and your trust in the relation try to be more understanding rather then putting allegations on her and then explain her how this decision can impact life of you both including your child try to convenience your wife to talk to your brother in law and his wife about considering other options like surrogacy or adoption for harmony in the family. try talking to her on terms i mentioned above

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