secret to a happy marriage

Ans: Dear D,
Trust, love, setting effective boundaries and deep communication make a healthy marriage.

Ans: Dear Sunder,

There are different variables to building a good relationship.

Here are a few:

• Having trust in your partner and being trustworthy is crucial in any healthy relationship.
• Communication, precisely open and productive, is mandatory to have a happy relationship.
• Take out individual time to get to know yourself and your needs. Once you know them, you can voice them to your partner allowing them to understand how to love you the right way.
• Do not seek to control your partner. Your relationship does not entitle you to tell your partner what to do and how to live their life.
• Fight fair; you can't avoid conflicts but you can avoid them from getting ugly. Even arguments can be productive.
• Say your sorrys and thank yous when due.

Falling in love is easy but staying in love takes effort.

Best wishes!

Ans: Dear Anil,
You cannot make someone happy unless they choose to be happy.
Nevertheless a few things within marriage can help:
1. Be a very active listener when your wife is speaking with you
2. Do not carry-over arguments to the next day
3. Spend time doing activities together
4. If you have children, connect together as a family
5. Have conversations where you ask about her dreams/goals
6. Laugh a lot together
7. Take regular vacations
8. Practice non-sexual intimacy
9. Offer to help with chores around the house
10. Compliment her often
and lastly,
11. Be a friend than a mere partner/spouse

All the best!

Ans: Hello.
I can understand your worry.
It’s important to remember that celebrities are humans like the rest of us and face their own problem. At the same time, do also remember that many celebrities have marriages that have lasted decades and continue to flourish.
As a couple, you can build a strong, lasting relationship through effort and commitment. While guaranteeing a marriage's longevity is impossible, there are certainly qualities and actions that contribute to healthier relationships.
1. Strong communication:
Be open and honest. Share your thoughts, feelings and needs with your partner and ask them to share with you as well.
Be respectful and empathetic when you listen to their perspective. Don’t interrupt. Don’t judge.
2. Healthy conflict resolution
Learn to disagree respectfully and constructively.
You may have read/heard this before but it is important that you remember this. During these kinds of conversations in particular, avoid blame, personal attacks and bringing up past issues. Seek solutions together rather than trying to ‘win’ arguments.
3. Be kind, be respectful. Appreciate what you partner does
Treat each other with kindness.
Acknowledge and appreciate each other's contributions to the relationship and express gratitude regularly.
Respect individual differences and boundaries. Allow space for each other's individual interests and pursuits.
Support each other's goals and dreams. Be each other's cheerleaders and encourage personal growth.
4. Quality time and intimacy:
Make time for each other as a couple doing something you both enjoy. This time does not include daily routines and responsibilities.
Nurture physical intimacy in ways that feel comfortable and fulfilling for both partners.
Maintain emotional intimacy by sharing experiences, vulnerabilities and dreams.
Try your best understand your partner’s emotional needs.
5. Shared values and goals
Have open and honest conversations about your core values and long-term goals.
Work together towards achieving shared goals and dreams. Support each other's individual goals as well, even if they differ slightly.
Be adaptable and willing to grow together. Life experiences and individual needs may change over time, so be prepared to adjust and support each other's evolution.
6. Professional help
Seek professional help from a therapist or counsellor if you're facing challenges in communication, conflict resolution or other areas of your relationship.
Therapy can provide a safe space to explore issues and develop healthier communication and coping skills.
Remember, every relationship is unique and what works for one couple might not work for another. The key is to nurture your relationship, communicate openly and honestly and be willing to adapt and grow together.
It's also important to acknowledge that, even with best efforts, challenges may arise and sometimes relationships end. If you find yourself struggling, remember that seeking professional help or ending a relationship that is no longer healthy can be positive steps towards personal growth and future happiness.