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Asked by Anonymous - May 16, 2023Hindi
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My wife is having illegit sexual relationship with another guy. I am in different town and she is in different city. I came to know she is having sexual relationship with another person. As a man what shall i do. Please guide

Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Have a frank chat about this with your wife.
As much as you hear her side of the story, you need have the space to state yours and how this situation is making you feel. Hear her out too...
Decide for yourself what you want in your marriage now. If you are unprepared to accept this, state it to her clearly and ask her if she is willing to let the other relationship go and come back into the marriage; of course depends on whether you want that or not.
That is why before knowing what to do, you need to ask yourself: What is it that I want? What to do will follow once you know what you want.

All the best!

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