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Asked by Anonymous - Nov 26, 2023Hindi
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Dear sir, I am a widow of 44 yrs reputed officer and I am also working at a reputed post. I have a daughter also. 2 yrs back I gave a matrimoni adv on a online site for remarriage. I received a call from an Sr. Scientist. I was serious about this because he was a nice educated fellow and working as scientist, his case of divorce was in process, which he told that it is going to over soon. After around two months talk over the phone I liked the person and I met him. I liked him, later I invited him at my place as well as I also visited his place we came close to each other physically. Every thing was going fine he shared so many things about his family and wife as well as I also shared. Everything was going on fine suddenly he changed his nature and started avoiding and ignoring me. He told me that I will bring you my home nicely. Now we have fought. I am telling home to meet face to face. he is threatening me and me that if you will meet me and co e toy place will ruin you. Now he is running from me and telling go away and blocked me from all social media. He has used me and left me after wasting my two years. I am at a juncture of life that after my daughter I will be alone. Now after this cheating i have got so scared that not able to belive on any one. What should I do? Should I meet him once at his place? Should I tell all story to his father? I feel depression and anxiety. What should I do pl suggest.

Ans: Dear Anonymous,

I am sorry to hear about the issues you are facing. You certainly did not deserve it. I suggest you hold your head high and do not contact him again. If he has blocked you and is trying to cut you out of his life, that's his loss. You are missing nothing losing a man like that. Count your blessings that you did not end up committing to him and bringing your daughter into the equation. Look at the bright side; you dodged a bullet.

There are plenty of kind and genuine men who would be lucky to partner up with you. Do not give up on love. Take your time; heal from this. I am sure it isn't easy to get back into the dating field and, on top of everything, have an experience like this. But this is just one man; everyone is not the same. You will surely find someone much better and worthy. As for what to do with him- just leave. Do not try to contact and do not take him back if he tries to come back. You deserve more.

Best Wishes!

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Asked by Anonymous - Jun 19, 2024Hindi
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Hi sir, I am 34 year women with 2 girl kids. I m working in IT and I earn good amount of livelihood. Sir I hv been married for 6 years and after 1 year of marriage me and my husband understanding issue started where he wants to dominate on me in all senses including financial stuff. But I was okay n in 1 year my 1st daughter born then serious issue started I had rejoined job n discontinued giving all my salary to him. I started savings for my kid where he was nt happy he indirectly demanded my complete salary to be given to him as I did before issue start. Bt in 2020 as lockdown happened he moved to his village where It was very difficult for me to work bt demanded to come to his place. I denied and concentrate my career. So he left us 2 years he did call n check how is kid. Then again he came back 2022 with elders we moved to together to city and again asked money as my sal was increased if nt asked me to barrow 50-60lac as loan n give to him for property which he agreed to make it my name in his place. Bt I denied bc I couldn't trust him meanwhile 2nd daughter born. I came for mother place n he started doing backstabbing abt me n my family within relatives. When I asked he stopped coming visiting me n my daughter and he turn up for 2 baby also it's been year now. Sir my question is ..I m fed up of his behaviour n I dont trust him. As I hv two kids is it really difficult to live without him in this society. As many of my relatives are suggesting go and call ur him how can you live alone with 2 daughter. Sir pls guide me what should I do now ..I tolerate him all these years for kids and society. Now I m done n scared as will I be able to handle all alone. My parents are big support and now I m nt in condition where I go legally against him. Is my decision of living by myself with my daughters and parents is correct or wrong decision or I should go with him.
Ans: Your situation is indeed complex and emotionally taxing. It's important to approach this with both clarity and compassion for yourself and your daughters. Here are some steps and considerations to help you navigate this:

Self-Reflection and Clarity
Acknowledge Your Feelings: It’s essential to recognize your feelings of frustration, fear, and exhaustion. These emotions are valid and need to be addressed.
Define Your Priorities: What are your primary concerns? Your children’s well-being, your financial independence, your personal peace, and safety are likely at the top of this list.
Evaluating Your Relationship
Assess Trust and Respect: Trust and mutual respect are fundamental to any relationship. If these are missing, it is challenging to maintain a healthy partnership.
Past Behaviors as Indicators: Look at the past behavior of your husband. Consistent demands for money, lack of support, and absence during critical times can be telling signs of his priorities and commitment.
Support System
Lean on Your Parents: Having your parents’ support is a significant advantage. They can provide emotional, physical, and perhaps even financial support as you navigate this period.
Professional Help: Consider seeking counseling or support groups for single mothers. These resources can provide guidance, emotional support, and practical advice.
Societal Pressure
Redefine Norms: Society often has rigid expectations, but your well-being and that of your children come first. Living according to societal norms at the cost of your mental peace and safety is not sustainable.
Role Models: Look for examples of other women who have successfully managed similar situations. Their stories can offer inspiration and practical advice.
Legal and Financial Considerations
Know Your Rights: Even if you’re not in a position to take legal action now, it’s essential to be informed about your rights regarding child support and alimony.
Financial Independence: Continue to safeguard your financial independence. This will provide security and stability for you and your daughters.
Decision Making
Short-Term vs. Long-Term: Think about both immediate needs and long-term goals. What decision will bring peace and stability now, and what will be beneficial in the future?
Children’s Well-Being: Consider the environment your children will grow up in. A peaceful, loving environment, even if it’s without their father, might be more beneficial than a toxic, conflict-ridden one.
Practical Steps
Document Everything: Keep records of communications and financial transactions. This documentation can be crucial if you decide to pursue legal action in the future.
Plan for Independence: Create a plan for your independent living situation, including budgeting, childcare, and career progression.
Final Thoughts
Choosing to live independently with your daughters is a courageous and often necessary step for many women in similar situations. Trust in your strength and the support of your parents. It’s important to remember that living a life of peace and dignity, even if it means being a single parent, is a powerful and positive example for your children.

You are not alone in this journey. Seek the support you need, trust your instincts, and prioritize your and your children’s well-being above all.

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Asked by Anonymous - Jul 10, 2024Hindi
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Hi mam, I was in a relationship with a guy for 3 months he was uneducated but I’m a S.E. Initially everything was fine but later he started like u should not talk with other boys you should not go there you should not wear this kind of dress, I’m your husband so you should listen to me whatever I say u should do that like he started. Then he started mentally abused with so many bad words nd he slapped me twice. So I decided I don’t want to be in this relationship so I said him. Then he kept some fellows to follow me to check wat I’m doing where I’m going to get all these details. And then he said I will show both of our to your family, I will kill you like this he started. Now it is almost 2 year I’m leading my life but sometimes he will call me he will threaten me I don’t know what to do how to overcome this I can’t tell to my family I’m depressed can u please tell me what I have to do
Ans: Dear Anonymous,
Are you married? Because he said that he is your husband...I am confused...

Anyway, NO, he has no business controlling you this way...Emotional and Physical Abuse is a strict NO NO...
Tell your family and do that NOW!!!!!!!
This man seems to be acting in a violent manner and your safety should be more of a concern...it was 2 slaps, then after that? When you did not protest for that, he simply has got the message that violence is okay with you...
No, it's not okay, right? And that's why you wrote on this platform...

Do the right thing for yourself...Protect yourself from this person first! Threats of killing you did not set off alarm bells? Why are you still letting him off so easy? This is NOT love...he is just a familiar person to you.
Familiarity does not mean Safety!!!!!! (Read this again)...

Involve your family and let him know that you are not alone; he will stop his threats knowing that you will respond to the rubbish he is subjecting you to! Speak with your family...

All the best!
Dear Anonymous,
No, Age is not so important in a marriage; but if it isn't, then why did you hide the fact of your real age? You have givem it that importance enough to hide it, yeah?
And any relationship based on lies or a hidden fact can cause damages...
The only way that I can see is work with the Counselor and appeal to your husband as well. Tell him that your child needs the love of both parents. Hear what he has to say...and yes, he is bound to bring up the age factor over and over again...it is something that he feels cheated with...so, respect it...Like I said, Apologize like you really mean it...

And oh, why are you so bothered about how he will treat other women in his life? Just focus on your life and your marriage...

All the best!
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investing 10 lakhs in Mutual Funds: what fund option should I consider for 3 Years?
Ans: Investing for three years requires balancing returns and safety. Your choice should depend on risk tolerance, taxation, and liquidity needs.

Key Factors to Consider
A three-year horizon is short for equity investments.
Volatility in equities can impact returns if markets decline near redemption.
Debt funds provide stability but may have lower returns than equity funds.
Hybrid funds balance risk and returns better than pure equity or debt funds.
Taxation on mutual funds should be considered before making a choice.
Investment Options Based on Risk Profile
For Conservative Investors
Capital safety is a priority for conservative investors.
Debt mutual funds are suitable due to lower risk.
Short-duration and corporate bond funds offer better returns than fixed deposits.
Dynamic bond funds can work if comfortable with some interest rate risk.
Returns may be lower, but capital protection is higher.
For Moderate Investors
A mix of debt and equity is ideal.
Hybrid funds help balance stability and growth.
Aggressive hybrid funds invest around 65% in equity and 35% in debt.
Conservative hybrid funds invest more in debt and less in equity.
These funds can generate better returns than pure debt funds.
For Aggressive Investors
Equity funds can provide higher returns but come with risk.
Large-cap or flexi-cap funds are better than mid-cap or small-cap for three years.
Equity savings funds reduce risk by holding debt and arbitrage components.
Investors should be ready for short-term volatility in equity investments.
A systematic withdrawal plan (SWP) after three years can help manage risks.
Mutual Fund Taxation for 3-Year Investment
Equity fund LTCG above Rs. 1.25 lakh is taxed at 12.5%.
Equity STCG is taxed at 20%.
Debt funds are taxed as per the investor’s income tax slab.
Hybrid funds taxation depends on their equity component.
Investors in high tax brackets may prefer equity-oriented funds for tax efficiency.
Regular Funds vs Direct Funds
Regular funds provide Certified Financial Planner (CFP) support and expert guidance.
Direct funds may appear cheaper but lack personalized financial advice.
Market conditions change, and professional guidance helps navigate investments.
Investors often make emotional decisions, which a CFP helps avoid.
Long-term returns may be higher with proper advisory support.
Actively Managed Funds vs Index Funds
Actively managed funds aim to beat market returns.
Fund managers adjust portfolios based on market conditions.
Index funds simply follow market indices and lack flexibility.
Actively managed funds can protect during market downturns.
A three-year horizon does not favor passive investing due to short-term volatility.
When to Choose a Systematic Investment Plan (SIP)
A lump sum investment is ideal when markets are low.
SIP helps reduce risk in volatile markets.
If investing in equity or hybrid funds, staggered investment through SIP can help.
Debt funds are better suited for lump sum investments.
SWP can be used for gradual withdrawal after three years.
Liquidity and Exit Strategy
Some funds have exit loads if redeemed before a certain period.
Hybrid and debt funds often have lower exit loads than equity funds.
Ensure liquidity by choosing funds with flexible redemption options.
Plan redemptions at least 3-6 months before the end of the investment period.
Final Insights
Debt funds are safer for conservative investors.
Hybrid funds offer a balance of risk and reward.
Equity funds suit aggressive investors but require risk tolerance.
Mutual fund taxation should be considered before investing.
Regular funds with CFP guidance provide better long-term benefits.
Would you like help in selecting specific categories within these options?

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Hi Team, I have been investing 5percent of my sip in Nasdaq but now unable to do sip. Could you please let me know whichother mf house are accepting sip for global investment
Ans: It seems you were investing in Nasdaq through a mutual fund SIP but are now unable to continue. You are looking for mutual fund houses that still accept SIPs for global investments.

There are multiple factors to consider before continuing with global investments.

Understanding Restrictions on Global SIPs
Many mutual funds had to pause fresh investments in international schemes.
This was due to regulatory restrictions on overseas investment limits.
Some fund houses have reopened investments, but availability changes frequently.
The acceptance of SIPs depends on whether they have room within the limits.
Mutual Fund Houses Offering Global Investments
Some Indian fund houses continue to accept SIPs for international funds.
They may invest in US markets, European markets, or emerging economies.
Some focus on technology stocks, while others cover broader sectors.
The availability of SIPs can change based on fund house policies.
You should check with the fund house or an expert before investing.
Should You Continue Global Investments?
The US market has given strong returns in the long term.
However, global investing comes with risks like currency fluctuations.
The rupee’s movement against the dollar impacts your returns.
The US market is expensive compared to Indian equities.
Diversification is good, but overexposure to a single market is risky.
Actively Managed Funds vs Index Funds
Many global funds track indices like Nasdaq or S&P 500.
Index funds may seem cost-effective, but they lack flexibility.
Actively managed global funds adjust portfolios based on market conditions.
Professional fund managers help manage risks in different economies.
Actively managed funds can outperform during market downturns.
Evaluating Your Investment Strategy
If you were investing 5% in Nasdaq, consider how it fits your overall plan.
Stopping SIPs should not disrupt your long-term goals.
If you cannot continue, ensure other investments balance your portfolio.
Look for options that align with your risk appetite and investment horizon.
Taxation of Global Mutual Funds
Global equity funds are taxed like debt funds.
There is no benefit of lower taxation like domestic equity funds.
Gains are taxed based on your income tax slab.
If you hold for more than three years, taxation remains the same.
Keep tax efficiency in mind while choosing investment options.
What Should You Do Next?
Check with mutual fund houses about SIP availability in global schemes.
If SIP is unavailable, you can still invest through lump sum when the window opens.
Consider balancing global and Indian investments for better diversification.
Review your financial plan to ensure your goals stay on track.
Finally
Investing in global markets can be beneficial, but not without risks.
Active management is preferable over index-based global funds.
Ensure you are aware of taxation before investing.
Focus on a diversified portfolio instead of chasing one market.
Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

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I HAVE RECIEVED A SUM OF RS 10 LACS FROM FRIEND TO PURCHASE A HOUSE - HE HAS STATED I CAN RETURN MONEY AFTER MY DAUGHTER IS EARNING ENOUGH MONEY TO REPAY . I HAVE NOT BEEN FILING RETURNS SINCE I DONT HAVE TAXABLE INCOME . SHOULD I FILE I T RETURN FOR THIS AMOUNT - UNDER WHICH HEAD OF INCOME WILL I HAVE TO SHOW - SHOULD I MENTION IT AS GIFT OR LOAN
Ans: You have received Rs. 10 lakh from a friend for purchasing a house. The friend has stated that you can return it when your daughter starts earning. Since you have not been filing tax returns, let’s assess whether you should file a return and how to declare this amount.

Is Filing an ITR Necessary?
You don’t have taxable income, so filing is usually not required.
However, Rs. 10 lakh in your account can attract scrutiny.
To avoid future issues, filing an ITR is advisable.
It helps maintain transparency with the tax department.
How to Declare This Amount?
This is not a gift because a gift from a friend is taxable if above Rs. 50,000.
It is best to treat this as a loan.
Loans from friends do not attract tax but should be documented.
Declaring It Under the Right Income Head
A personal loan is not income, so it does not fall under "Income from Other Sources."
It is not taxable, but should be disclosed as "Loan Taken" in the balance sheet section of ITR.
If interest is paid on the loan, that interest will be taxable for the lender.
Steps to Ensure No Future Tax Issues
Keep a written agreement mentioning the loan terms.
The agreement should mention that repayment will be made after your daughter starts earning.
Ideally, the friend should transfer funds through a bank and not in cash.
If the tax department questions the transaction, you can show this agreement.
Final Insights
Filing an ITR is recommended for clarity.
Declare the amount as a loan, not a gift.
Maintain proper documentation to avoid future issues.
Ensure transactions happen through a bank for transparency.


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K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 02, 2025Hindi
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I am an employee. My company pays my rent amount to my house owners account. the amount is 9000. but my house rent is 4900 and I asked to return the remaining amount to return to me. My house owner is a senior citizen and has 5 houses. remaining houses pay rent in cash. He said I get taxed on the amount so I am deducting the tax amount. I feel he is cheating me in the name of tax. please help me in this issue.
Ans: Your house owner is deducting tax from the extra rent you asked him to return. It is important to assess whether this is a fair deduction or if he is keeping a part of your money unfairly.

Understanding Taxation on Rental Income
Your house owner is a senior citizen and has five rental properties.
He receives rent from other tenants in cash, which may not be reported as income.
The rent he receives from you is directly deposited into his bank account. This means it is officially recorded.
He may be liable to pay tax on this recorded income.
Why Is He Deducting Tax?
If he is filing income tax returns properly, he should pay tax on total rental income.
The tax he pays depends on his total income, including all rental earnings.
If he has no other income, rental income is taxed as per his slab.
If his total taxable income exceeds the exemption limit, tax is applicable.
Assessing If He Is Cheating You
Your employer is paying Rs 9,000 rent, but your actual rent is Rs 4,900.
The extra Rs 4,100 should be returned to you in full.
He is deducting a tax amount before refunding, which raises concerns.
The tax rate he claims to deduct should be verified.
If he is keeping a significant portion, he may be misusing tax as a reason.
Steps to Verify the Tax Deduction
Ask him to provide a written explanation of the tax deduction.
Request a receipt or breakdown of how much tax he is paying on rental income.
Check his income tax return (if he agrees) to see if he is genuinely paying tax.
If he is hesitant, he may be deducting more than required.
What Can You Do?
Ask your employer to pay only Rs 4,900 directly to him instead of Rs 9,000.
If the employer insists on paying Rs 9,000, ask for an official agreement with the owner.
Clarify in the agreement that extra rent paid will be refunded without deductions.
If he refuses, inform him that you will consult a tax expert.
You can also ask him to show proof of tax paid on the deducted amount.
Handling This in a Legal Way
There is no rule that allows a landlord to deduct tax from refunded rent.
Rental income tax is the landlord’s responsibility, not yours.
He should pay tax on his total income, not on your refund.
If he is deducting an unusually high amount, it is unfair.
Alternative Options
Consider renting a different house where the rent payment process is straightforward.
If your employer allows, request them to revise the rent agreement.
Check if your company can provide a direct reimbursement to you instead.
Final Insights
Your landlord is responsible for paying tax on his rental income.
He cannot deduct tax from the amount he is refunding to you.
If he insists on deducting tax, ask for proof and clarification.
If he refuses to return the full extra amount, he may be misusing tax as an excuse.
You can take steps to ensure you receive the rightful refund.
Best Regards,

K. Ramalingam, MBA, CFP,

Chief Financial Planner,

www.holisticinvestment.in
https://www.youtube.com/@HolisticInvestment

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