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Relationships Expert, Mind Coach - Answered on Jun 10, 2023

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Ashok Question by Ashok on Jun 06, 2023Hindi
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Why am I, double minded, confuse, unable to focus and with lack of energy?

Ans: Dear Ashok,
With lack of purpose comes lack of focus.
Whatever you set as a goal must have a clear purpose otherwise it will just be mere execution of day-to-day tasks.
To rewire your brain on this, start with the smallest of tasks; brushing of teeth. Become aware of WHY you brush your teeth today and everyday. The answer will keep motivating you to perform the same task more consciously and in full awareness. Without this awareness, it's a robotic way of performing tasks.
Do this to the next small task of the day and so on...
Slowly, apply it to other bigger tasks in work as well...you will start to notice a subtle change in the way you do things.
Other ways to get back focus are: meditation, yoga, exercise, music and more...
You should see changes slowly but surely...

All the best!

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Dear ma'am, I am going through a tough mental state right now. I do not know what state is this. It may be fear, lack of confidence or anything else. On 25th November 2019 I underwent surgery for anal fissure and piles. It took a long time to heal as I was suffering from constipation even after surgery. Every morning i would have a trauma like situation before going to bathroom. My stool would be hard enough to pass with blood both before and after surgery. I generally get nervous after seeing blood. In the meantime surgery has been healed. Even today I have constipation. I suffered from rhinitis like situation after surgery by consuming fruits and curd to make stool soft. feel difficulty in breathing With these medical conditions I developed a mental condition at which i always feel sick myself. No mood or energy to do anything. Fearing for life. When I wake up in midnight it gets very tough again to sleep. I sweat a lot. There is so much negative thought in my mind at night. I feel heavy in my head. I fear every sound I hear which disturbs and terrifies me. I consulted a psychiatrist 7 days ago; he told me that it is fear and lack of confidence. He has given me medicines to overcome fear. Kindly suggest ma'am at which state I am and help me. I am actually obsessed with my health and my life. Every moment I feel I would die. Nervousness grips me. I have lost weight of around 18 kg post surgery.
Ans: Dear BS, I can only imagine what you are going through and I truly hope that you feel better soon.

Fear is what can increase your physical symptoms and you will feel ill. Which is what is happening to you!

All the sounds and thoughts are a result of overworking the mind with your health and fearing the worst.

But do ask yourself: What if I have actually recovered? 

It will be good to know when this problem exactly began; what triggered it. If there is an event or a situation that caused it, then you know you might have to work on that.

Sometimes, fear makes children’s stool hard too and as doctors treat constipation, it is also necessary not to keep being fearful of it.

I know the surgery might have made it worse in the mind which is why I suggest start waking up every morning by believing that your surgery has worked and that you are fully recovered.

The simple belief instilled in your mind can work wonders by positively influencing your body to support your whole health. Also, calm the mind with meditation and exercises to keep the body supple and healthy.

To keep the stools soft, eat a lot of food that high roughage content. Slowly, you will see your mood and energy come back and feel a lot better.

All in all, believe that you are healing. Wishing you a wonderful health.

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Asked by Anonymous - Feb 23, 2023Hindi
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I am 60 year old havig a family of a spouse and a son. since last two years our relation with spouse is not moving smoothly for everything there is an argument and no concensous in the matters of day tody life, son is also not lisoning properly I am under seveor stress which is leading to upset my health and I am facing epilepsy problen since last months I am unable to forget the things and move ahead. Thsere was no problem in leading a normal middle class life. I am facing in security and also I facinig negativities in my life and slowlely slipiing in depression I am trying too much to forget theses things but I am not in a position to lead a peacefull life inspite of adequate resources. Kindly advise me.
Ans: I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult time with your spouse and son. It sounds like the arguments and lack of consensus are causing you a lot of stress and impacting your health. It's important to prioritize your health and seek support if needed.

It might be helpful to try and have an open and honest conversation with your spouse and son about how you're feeling and see if there's a way to work together to improve the situation. It could also be beneficial to seek professional support, such as therapy or counseling, to help you manage your stress and emotions.

Additionally, taking care of your physical health through regular exercise, a healthy diet, and enough rest can also help improve your overall well-being. It's important to remember that it's okay to ask for help and take steps towards finding peace and happiness in your life.

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Sir , My son has got admission in M.tech & Phd both in Aerospace Engineering at BIT MERSA, M.tech computational Mechanics at Mahendra Ecole Hyderabad , M.Tech ( UAV) at DIAT( DEFENCE INSTITUTE OF ADVANCED TECHNOLOGY) PUNE. Have deposited fees at all institutions. Please suggest which one to choose.
Ans: Based on your son's interest, long-term goals & the insight provided here, he can choose the most suitable option he has: Among your four confirmed admits, each program excels across accreditation, faculty strength, infrastructure, placement outcomes, and student support yet differs in research orientation, industry alignment, and career trajectory. BIT Mesra’s Aerospace PhD offers Institute Research Fellowships of ?25 000/month (first two years) rising to ?28 000/month, NBA-accredited labs in propulsion and aerodynamics, and ISRO/DRDO–funded projects under PhD?qualified mentors, positioning graduates for academic and R&D leadership with over 90% PhD placement into premier research agencies. Its two-year M.Tech. stream similarly benefits from NIRF #48 ranking, NAAC accreditation, ?11.57 LPA average M.Tech placement, and robust departmental infrastructure. DIAT Pune’s M.Tech (UAV) is NAAC-‘A’–graded NIRF #63, with a focused UAV curriculum initiated in 2016, state-of-the-art remote-sensing and avionics labs, and 89% PG placement averaging ?19.5–20 LPA, driven by DRDO, GE Aerospace, L&T and private drone firms, plus strong DRDO campus recruitment and internships. Mahindra University’s M.Tech in Computational Mechanics, NAAC A++–accredited, offers a 15-student cohort, industry-co-designed simulations and FEM/CFD labs under École Centrale faculty, and a ?9.1 LPA average placement with peaks up to ?38 LPA, emphasizing practical internships and live projects through its Indo-French partnership. Student support at all three includes dedicated placement cells, technical clubs, and mentorship; BIT and DIAT add government?sector tie-ups, while Mahindra leverages global industry networks.

Recommendation: For a research?driven career and leadership roles in space R&D, pursue the PhD at BIT Mesra; for a defense-aligned UAV specialization with top placements and DRDO engagement, choose DIAT Pune’s M.Tech (UAV); if you prefer industry-oriented computational modeling in a global academic setting, opt for Mahindra University’s M.Tech in Computational Mechanics; M.Tech at BIT is best if you later decide to pivot to government research or pursue a PhD there. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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Sir, Is Integrated Msc(Mathematics & Computing) in OUTR,Bhubaneswar good for career perspective.
Ans: Dillip, Odisha University of Technology and Research's Integrated M.Sc. in Mathematics & Computing is a five-year UGC-approved and AICTE-recognized program accredited by NAAC-A grade, offering a unique blend of mathematical modeling, computational methods, and software development skills. The School of Basic Sciences & Humanities houses Ph.D.-qualified faculty engaged in interdisciplinary research projects, supported by modern computing labs and mathematical modeling facilities. OUTR holds NIRF ranking of 201-300 in engineering category and has achieved NBA accreditation for select programs, ensuring quality education standards. The program's placement cell has recorded an overall placement rate of 82-90% for recent batches with an average package of ?6.03 LPA, and Mathematics & Computing graduates specifically secured positions at TCS, Deloitte, Accenture, and similar firms in roles spanning data analysis, software development, and quantitative research. Student support systems include dedicated training cells, technical clubs, coding workshops, and comprehensive career guidance that prepare graduates for diverse roles in IT, finance, research, and emerging fields like artificial intelligence and data science.

Recommendation: Considering OUTR's solid institutional credentials, interdisciplinary curriculum, modern infrastructure, consistent placement performance, and comprehensive student support systems, pursuing the Integrated M.Sc. Mathematics & Computing at OUTR provides excellent career prospects in high-growth sectors like data science, software engineering, and quantitative finance, aligning well with India's expanding demand for mathematically skilled professionals. All the BEST for a Prosperous Future!

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